When I became a Mother
8th of July 2021
"The best gift for me that comes to my life and changes my perspectives in life as well is my child." My child is now the source of my motivation, happiness and of course the one that fades away my worries every time I felt it.
All of us knew, especially the mothers out there that giving birth is really crucial to us woman. The fact that we are facing in between life and death when we gave birth and it is really not a joke for us. But, of course it's always a blessing for us especially if we able to surpass that moment and for sure it draws a smile in our faces when we see and hear our baby's first cry. I must say, the fulfilling moment for us women.
**We all start in the beginning just like to become a mother.** A first hand mother is not really easy since there are many adjustments we may encountered along the way. As my experience, since I'm also a first hand mother or shall I say a neophyte mother since we all start that way, my year as a mother is full of adjustments and a lot of changes from what I usually did before when I'm not yet facing the stage of motherhood. It's has really a big difference, we may be more responsible in everything we do if we became a mother.
So, I'm gonna share the things I encountered and experienced as a first time mom and how it also changes my routines and my life in general.
**Physical changes**
Well, this kind of changes were I guess the first that is visible of course because it changes in our physical appearance. When we gave birth we can hardly recognized our body because of some changes in it. All mother's knows this one. *(Am I right, mother's out there? )* But of course some of the changes were just temporary and will just diminished after few months and some also remains.
Just want to site some changes:
**Breast**
*Since, as mother we tried to provide the best milk for our kids and that's why we do breastfeeding. Through that expect that there are changes in the sizes of our breast while we're on the time of breastfeeding and after we separate our kids for it.*
**Our body and weight**
*When we had the baby in our womb of course there were also changes in our body sizes and our weight. Then after we gave birth and a few months after giving birth or even a year changes were visible as well.*
*In my case, when I'm still pregnant my weight loses from more or less 70kilos to 60-67kilos. So, meaning I somehow loss weight during my pregnancy. And then for now, my weight before which is 70kilos came back, to be exact I'm 76.5kilos now.* ***(Hahaha you've read it right, malusog itong nanay ninyo. Lol,)***
*Also, there were changes in the body figure if before we had the coca-cola body then it's never the same after pregnancy. But of course I'm not saying all mother's had this changes because there are also mother's that really maintained their body figure after they gave birth. Well, I salute you all for that, I don't know how did you do that.*
Emotions
Few days, weeks, months and even a year we had this so called postpartum depression that we need to surpass after giving birth. In this stage, our hormonal levels arises which copes up with the demand of motherhood. That's why we felt anxious, more weepy, easily get irritated, we even think negatively and the worst their is to think some suicidal things.
In my experience, I must say my emotions changes a lot unlike before. Now, I get easily irritated even in just simple things. My emotions somehow worsen than before. But, the important thing there is that I now knows how to control my emotions. Before, a month after giving birth I really struggled a lot on dealing my emotions because I just even cried without a reason, thoughts of some negative things. That's why this stage also is hard for us women and we must tried not to go along with this emotional state for a long time since this leads us to the worst stage of postpartum depression.
Hours of sleep and the time of getting up in the morning
When I became a mother, my hours of sleep changes along with the time of waking up in the morning.
Let's admit that when we are in our teenage years, sleeping and getting up late were our routine. In my case, I gets up very late before, I get up 9AM and sometimes 10AM already and even more than that. I don't know, before it is really a good feeling if we gets up late.
But when I started to have a kid, my routine like that before changes. Now, I usually woke up early at 4AM to 5AM to do some chores and prepares for meals if my partner has other things to also in the morning because most of the time he's the one preparing our breakfast.
**All of that are just some of the changes we had after we gave birth and if we already became a mother. We're more responsible of our actions as well.**
Final Thoughts
Becoming a mother is a fulfilling moment of every woman's life. It makes us more responsible as what I've said and of course it made us matured on many things as well as made our thoughts on things matured. Then, if we become a mother we are not already the center of our own universe but our son's and daughters had already that position.
*Now, how about you? Are you ready to embrace the changes of becoming a mother and be part of the motherhood stage?*
*Let me hear your thoughts as well. Feel free to comment it down.*
~the end
Happy reading!
@Janz
Again and again, my deepest thanks to all my sponsors and of course to those all who upvoted my articles starting from my first published articles.
Goal: HODL 1bch before this year ends
7th of July 2021
Am I the only who wish to HODL even at least 1bch before this year ends? Well, I think most of us here especially those newbies that really wanted to HODL that amount and I am really frustrated I must say that hopefully before this year 2021 ends I can already able to have 1bch in my wallet.
**First and foremost**, due to this pandemic that we are facing right now we really tried to search sites, apps that gives us at least a passive income that somehow we can able to earn while at home. And honestly, I joined a lot of chatbots, sites and installed a lot of applications that pays real money but all of them were unsuccessful and I've been scammed so many times as well. **Then, here comes noise cash and read.cash that pays us crypto and that is bch.** This two platforms were the only platforms that gives me much income in bch value and I must say I found the right sites to worked on and lend my time for it since this two are truly paying and I am not scammed by it unlike before. So, just so thankful for this two platforms and all the personalities behind this said community.
When I first joined read.cash, what's in my mind was just to earn and then withdraws the earnings since I still don't have knowledge about how crypto works especially how bch works and if is it really worth hodling such crypto like bch.
But when I started to be curious about the world of crypto and when I searched about the founder of the bch community which is sir @MarcDeMesel to know how does bch works since this man also shares his knowledge about the crypto world and if it's really worth holding in the future. Thanks to sir Marc that in his videos and articles here in this platform I then realized that I really need to start holding or HODL as what most users called it here a bch since it was said that it will gives brighter future to those holding it. And I also believed that if I HODL bch, someday it will change my life from not so blessed in terms of wealthiest to somehow lessen or even fades away the problem on financial thing especially that I had my family that needs me and my son also needs me. Also one thing is, I'm really inspired to also HODL bch because of some successful users here in this platform like @Jane @Eybyoung @bmjc98 and a lot more. These mentioned users are just some of the users that I followed here and being inspired by their achievements in this bch community.
But I have this question in mind, if can I be able to HODL such amount. I guess I'm just doubtful if I can really able to met my goal and that is to HODL 1bch this year until December.
**Why do I have that question in my mind tho?**
Well, I am aware that it is really easy for us newbies to be able to have that amount in just few months because of the random rewarder unlike the old read.cash system that users can only gain upvotes from co-users also and the random rewarder wasn't present before unlike now. And yes that's really true, it is really easy for us to have 1bch in just few months. Just like my friend *(gurlaloo)* @Zhyne06 who already is a 1bch holder in just 3 months if I'm not mistaken and I think she's also almost near to have 2bch in her wallet. *(Am I right, gurl?)*
But for me in my case since I'd came back late than my friend since I also stopped publishing articles for I guess a month and just came back active here just last month I only have .02plus of bch in my wallet. It's 6,000+ pesos now in the current value of bch.
As you can see, I already hold .2bch and that is for my HODL and the other .02bch is for my son's 2nd birthday this coming December.
BUT, as what I've said that I have doubt if I can able reach my goal before this 2021 ends. Why? Because I'm afraid I can withdraw it since my salary from my online teaching isn't really enough for me to sustain the needs of 1 year old son since I only able to have 3,000pesos or $60 every cut-off of the month and sometimes less than that. Then, knowing the fact that inflation rate as of now we're so high and my salary isn't enough for me to be able to give all the needs of my son. That's why I sometimes withdrawn my bch if I really don't have a choice where in fact I already withdrawn 5,000pesos in total or that's 100USD from my bch wallet because of such reason. So, I would have already more or less .4bch as of now if I didn't withdrawn the said amount.
Thankful also that my partner did gardening. Somehow we have other source of income aside from my line teaching salary. That is also the reason that I able to HODL 0.2bch for now.
**Hopefully, I won't be able to withdraw se amount from my bch wallet so that I will be able to reach my goal before this year ends and that is to HODL 1bch.**
Final Thoughts
I really dreamt to be successful in the future and also be successful in the crypto world that's why I really set a goal for me to be able to make that dream come true. **That goal is to HODL at least 1bch for this year.**
Because as what I've shared in my previous article entitled **Dreams without Goals are just Dreams** I really believed that dreams comes when we set our goals**. And now, I am really working hard for it to reach that dreams by being active in this platform and by publishing articles.** https://read.cash/@Janz/dreams-without-goals-are-just-dreams-2bba3821
How about you? Do you believed that setting goals is the way that we can able to reach our dreams?
*(Feel free to comment down your thoughts readers.)*
~the end
Happy reading!
@Janz
It's Okay to Cry: Disadvantages
6th of July 2021
One week ago, I wrote about what are the benefits when you cry and some reflections and realizations about it. If you haven’t read that article then you can check it through this link 👇
https://read.cash/@Janz/its-okay-to-cry-8c708912
Then, one of the comment in that article said that because of so many benefits that we can gain in crying he then likes to just cry and cry. It was actually my newest virtual friend @Leymar012201 who commented it.
Hey there @Leymar012201, with your comment I then able to think an idea on what to write. Hehe Thanks to you.
In that said article, I highlighted there the benefits when we cry. But of course, I also highlighted there that when we cry let’s make sure to get up and then keep moving forward and never let the tears drowned us.
*We all knew that life is full of positivity and at the same time negativity. Positive and negative are always present in our life. Right? Because, not all the time we felt happy, not all the time were on top, not all the time were lucky since life is a like a wheel of fortune when we experienced all the positivity or the happiness, the contentment in life before all of that we knew we’ve also experienced the negativities or the downfalls in life. Just like in our ecosystem, to make it balance positive and negative structures must be present in the system because if not there will be an imbalance in our ecosystem and that is not already good.*
**Same as in crying, if it brought a lot of benefits or advantages then expect also that it has disadvantages that is also not good for us.**
When I again searched it’s disadvantages I bumped again into the **Medical News Today Website** which ***Jenny Fletcher*** wrote an article about “**Causes of headaches after crying.”**
You may checked her full article here. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324933
So, I’m just gonna highlights some important details in Jenny Fletcher’s article.
**Headaches**
So, why headaches? Why is it after crying we felt headaches?
Based on my experienced before, when there was a time that I really cried a lot and cried hardly then after my crying I really felt my heads aching.
***Well, in the said article of Jenny Fletcher she discusses why we experienced headaches after crying.***
*It is said that, crying and the type of headaches it can cause are the body’s response to sadness and sadness triggers our stress which cause the body to release hormones such as cortisol.*
**What is cortisol by the way?**
*Cortisol is a naturally-occurring steroid hormone that plays a key role in the body's stress response (Scott, 2021)* *Source* https://www.verywellmind.com/cortisol-and-stress-how-to-stay-healthy-3145080
*The said hormones stimulates neurotransmitter to the brain which causes the physical reactions like crying, headaches and runny noses.*
**In the article of Jenny Fletcher again, she states also the three types of headaches that may triggered when crying hardly.**
**Tension headaches**
*Tension headaches occur when muscles in the head tighten. They can also cause some pain and discomfort in the neck and shoulders, as these muscles may tighten as well.* ***(This again taken in the same article.)***
**Sinus headaches**
*Since the eyes, nose, ears and throat are connected internally. Therefore, when tears comes out from the eyes it tend to back the sinuses. If tears and mucus build up, they can cause pressure. A sinus headache occurs as a result of this pressure.* ***(This again taken in the same article.)***
**Have you experienced this one?**
**Then last is Migraine headaches**
Does anyone here experienced migraine headaches?
Well, this kind of headaches also can be triggered when we cried hardly.
*It is said that migraine headaches were very intense, pounding headaches. These usually occurs on one side of the head. A person who had this type of headaches may also experienced vomiting, nausea, light and sound sensitivity.* ***(Again taken from the same article.)***
**(Again, you can checked here the full article of Jenny Fletcher, 2019)**
**👇👇👇**
**Source** https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324933#migraine-headaches
Final Thoughts
One more time, as what I’ve said if something gives a lot of benefits in us it also had it’s negative effects towards us. Just like when we are crying.
If crying has beneficial effects in our health especially in our emotional state then it also had bad effects to us if we were already crying hard and been repeated it many times. That way, it will not already benefits our health. Because, I’ve mentioned above it’s negative effects to us. So, to avoid such mentioned headaches then we must or should also avoid crying hardly.
It’s okay to cry but make sure to also knows it’s limits.
~the end
Happy reading!
@Janz
To all my upvoters and of course to my lovely sponsors. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you . May more blessing showered us all.
Dreams without Goals are just Dreams
5th of July 2021
Do you believe that dreaming without goals are just merely dreams? This is just like saying something without an actions still nothing will happen. It should be **actions speak louder than words.** This is just the same in dreaming. If we dream on something then let us make sure to set goals for it, so that we could able to reach that dreams.
I’m not really into browsing my Fb newsfeeds. I just browse something to look to. But, yesterday when I’m looking some online jobs on Facebook I’ve seen the video of Mr. Denzel Washington who talks about dreams and he said **“Dreams without goals, are just dreams and they ultimately fuel disappointments.”** The said video was shared by the host Kuya Kim Atienza since I followed him on fb that’s why his shared post were seen in my newsfeed.
***With that video I made an idea in what to write also. That’s why I’m sharing it here with you all.***
*The speech of Mr.Washington in that said video talks about dreaming. He said that we should not be afraid to go outside the box. We should not be afraid to be fail. We should not be afraid to dream big. Then he highlighted that dreaming must have goals because if just purely dream on something that we wanted in the future without setting goals then that said dream will remain as a dream and that can somehow fuel some disappointments in life.*
With the said statement of Mr. Washington, I able to reflect it in my self. Because I knew all of us have dreams in life. All of us may dream big or some just dream on simple things. But the question there is that, have you set goals for that dreams of yours? Because I really believed that goals is the stepping stone towards reaching our dreams. Every dream we had must have a set goals because if not, dreams will surely remains as is. Then as what Mr. Denzel said, if it’s only a dream without goals it will be one of the source of disappointments. Pf course, since you haven’t or we haven’t set goals for that dreams then we cannot able to make that dream come true and this is exactly disappointing in our part. More so, a disappointment to our family as well.
Now, I’m gonna share some of my dreams here and how did I set goals in it.
**I dreamt to be a successful individual**
*All of us for sure dreamt to be successful. Who would have not dreamt of it right?*
*Since, I and my family belongs in a low class of living where we just can eat 3 times a day most of the times without a viand and if we have no rice we just have the root crops in our table. But, even like that were very happy. But also this somehow one of the main reasons that I dreamt to be successful, I want our family to at least experience a life that financial thing is no longer a problem.*
*So, how did I set my goals to be successful. Of course,* ***first is to finish my studies*** *and yes I already able to reach that goal. I finished my studies and already a degree holder and a professional teacher.*
*Next goal, to have a regular job which also I’m on my way on that.*
*Then, I knew with that goals I will able to meet my dream to be successful. With being persevere, hardworking and never lose hopes then of course along with patience.*
**I dreamt to HODL 1BCH before this year ends**
*I remember one time when* @Eybyoung *once replied me in the comment I guess if I’m not mistaken. She told me not to look into the amount accumulated because it will gets me demotivated once I don’t get any upvotes from other users and to the bot specifically. Instead, I will set goal for me to keep motivated.*
*That time was the start of my goal and that is to accumulate 1bch before this year ends. With this goal of mine, honestly I’m really motivated to be active here all the time and be able to write more articles even though sometimes I’m wasn’t visited by Rusty. Because I have goals and that is to earn 1bch, I still hold onto it and never lose hopes as well.*
Now, with experienced too I must say having goals in life is more relevant than just having a dream alone. Actually, I still have lots of dreams in life and I'll just highlights that two I've stated above.
If we dream bigger, then we should set goals of what are those things that will make our dreams come true.
**For my readers,** please don’t be afraid to dream bigger as long as you knew how to set goals in every dream you had in you life. Dreams with goals definitely a success for you. Then, **DREAMS WILL SURELY COME TRUE.**
***(Just drop your comments below, if I’m wrong about my thoughts then I’ll be happy to learn from you all.)***
~the end
Have a great day.
Happy reading!
@Janz
To the upvoters of my previous article, **Harvest Day: Eggplant from our Garden** @Cineholic **@Jane** @Ruffa @Bloghound @jamesmichelea, Again, thank you for were also one of the reasons why I keep being motivated. Along with all my sponsors too. https://read.cash/@Janz/harvest-day-eggplant-from-our-garden-cec6530f
Harvest Day: Eggplant from our Garden
4th of July 2021
Actually, this article was supposed to be published yesterday night but because I was so tired and when I lay down after my classes to make this article I just found out myself sleeping and not able to published this article yesterday. So, since it's never too late though, so I'm gonna share this now. This is just actually my day yesterday, so I'm just gonna blog for today because I still don't have ideas what quality article I should write. For the meantime, I'm just gonna share what I did yesterday.
Woke up at 6:00AM
*I can usually woke up at 5:00AM or sometimes 4:00AM because my son really woke up early. Yesterday, it's 6AM since my son woke up that time too.* ***(He woke up that time rarely because his woke up time were always at 4AM-5AM)*** *When I woke up, my partner also did since his the one whose preparing for my son's milk in a bottle. Because we let our son drank hid milk when he gets up and also our son were looking for a milk every time he woke up. What I did was to prepare our breakfast and I just cooked scrambled egg and fried a dried fish.*
At 8:00AM, Harvest time (THE HIGHLIGHTS)
*I've been sharing here that we had am eggplant garden and yesterday we did our* ***7th harvest*** *of it. You can check my article about our gardening* *here.* https://read.cash/@Janz/gardening-this-pandemic-is-essential-40ffba16
*My partner was the one who did the harvest because I also need to attend to my son's bath time. After, my son's bath I took him to our garden and roam around there while my partner was harvesting. Were so blessed again because in our 7th harvest were able to have 11kilos of it. Actually, our harvest may up to 15kilos but since there are eggplants that has worms in it therefore we just able to have 11kilos. Thankful again, since we already have a buyer of our eggplants every time we do the harvest so we don't need to roam around and posts it on sale to Facebook. Our buyer were selling goods in the market also, and last time we've delivered 4kilos to her and then after that she said that she will again buy our eggplants in our next harvest and that was yesterday. We delivered all of the 11kilos to our buyer. Then, this upcoming Tuesday we will again harvest our eggplants. Hopefully it will be more than 11kilos already.*
*Honestly, I'm thankful that my partner did the gardening because this helps a lot in our daily needs especially the needs of our son. Since, my service fee in my online teaching were not enough. I need to pay our electric bill, I need to send money to my family also, I need to buy our son's milk because his not already a breastfeed to me and that's why I need to buy him formula milk. Also, other things like the needs of personal hygiene. So, my service fee weren't enough though. With the help of our eggplants were able to sustain it since we did the harvest in every 3 days. A big help to us already as neophyte parents. Another is of course the help of this platform read.cash. If we really don't other options, I withdraw some of my earnings here. That's why forever grateful to* @Zhyne06 *for introducing me here, at least I could have the back up in times of financial shortage.*
We cooked veggies as our lunch viand
*After we delivered the eggplants, since we had almost 3kilos of eggplants left because it has worms in it, what we did is to chopped it or cut it in small pieces and removes the part that has worms. I also bought squash, ladies fingers or "okra" and then we made a "ginataang gulay".*
*Then, together with a fried dried fish or "tuyo" in tagalog term.*
Washing of clothes
*After, lunch I'm not yet finished with my works because after eating I then washed our clothes even though it's raining heavily yesterday I still washed our clothes. I'm just using the washing machine though so it's not that tiring unlike by hands. At least I could able to hang our clothes, even though it's raining it's still dry after 2 days being hang.*
I'm done and able to relax at almost 4PM yesterday. Then after an hour, I then take a bath since I still have to attend my classes at 5:30PM and beyond.
This article was already a blogging type of article lol, I don't have nothing to write at all so I just shares this one. Hopefully, you'll enjoy reading this nonsense article. haha lol
Final Thoughts
**Everyday was another day of blogging.** Yes, blogging because by sharing what we did in a day it's already blogging. But of course, for it's deepest value. Everyday in our life is a blessing. Why? Of course, we can still able to do the things we wanted either expected or unexpected ones. Just like yesterday, I made myself very productive since I've done and finished a lot of things and the most happiest and fulfilling part there is that we able to have harvest 11kilos of our eggplants and sold it all.
That's why my closing statement is **"LET'S BE THANKFUL FOR EVERYDAY IS A NEW DAY FOR US"**. With that new day that was given to us we can still able to correct mistakes we've done, be thankful of all the blessings and of course another day of happiness if only we choose happiness. But, who would have not choose happiness, right? All of us wanted it. **To be happy.**
Have a great day ahead my readers.
**Happy reading!**
~the end
@Janz
Just want to thanks here my upvoters especially to my latest article entitled **July: Hopefully the start of something new** **@Jane** @Ruffa @Bloghound and @OfficialGamboaLikeUsThank you all as always you keep me motivated especially in times that Rusty doesn't visits me. God Bless you all! https://read.cash/@Janz/july-hopefully-the-start-of-something-new-67059b0c
July: Hopefully the start of something new
July 3, 2021
We always aimed for the better. Right? Everyday we strive hard to make our days productive as we can. Everyday were always a blessing for us, a new day to start something new and a new day to continue what we have started. Of course, that’s all for the betterment of ourselves, our family and our future.
This month **JULY**, I really felt that this will be the start of something new for me, my lil’ family and to my future. **It is said that, let’s attracts only positivity in order for us to also attracts the positive things in life.** And I believed this month would be the start of my dream. A dream to be hired and be part of the RQA (Registered Qualified Applicant). I’m just being positive on this things and hoping for it since I’m badly needed it for now. I had many dreams for my family, my own lil’ fam and of course for myself too. And hoping for this since I believed this would be the start that I can able to step on the top of the ladder.
**Yesterday, JULY 2** is the deadline of all the pertinent papers that needs to be submitted for the DepEd Ranking here in my province. Well, I must say today were somehow tiring because we are just being noticed for the documents to be submitted in a limited time only and of course we need to edit our papers, we need to print some necessary documents and need to get our PDS (personal data sheet) notarized. Since, we are given until 2pm today to pass the documents.
Actually, Thursday evening after I’m done with my teaching I already started editing my papers but since I’m very sleepy and that was already 11pm and I hardly seen the letters in the keyboard so, I stopped editing it and planned to just woke up 4am to continue but I was able to woke up 6am already. So, my plan to leave at 7:30am for me to print all the documents in a computer shop weren’t done accordingly since I able to leave the house at exactly 9am.
**What’s so funny today is that,** at around 11am there was a power outage or a brownout and that time were printing the documents. So, that was almost 12noon when the electricity came back. Then after were done printing, we go directly to the law office for the notary but we weren’t able to see the attorney since he left already and it is said that the attorney were just come back at evening. So, I and my friend thought that we can’t able to let our PDS be notarized and can’t also able to pass our papers before 2pm today. But still we tried to ask someone in the municipal hall if there is another person who can able to notarized a documents.
And, yes the Mayor can. So, we waited again for 1 hour for the Mayor since she still had a meeting and were waiting it to be done. Then, at exactly 1:45pm we able to submit our papers to the designated school. **Still, we able to passed it on time despite circumstances we’ve encountered.**
Now, I am hoping or we the applicants actually are hoping that we can able to meet the passing points for ranking and may the documents we’ve passed today helped us to be on the list of RQA. That’s why, hopefully this month JULY will be our stepping stone my stepping stone and will be the start of something new for me too. **Something new, from the thought of seeing myself already teaching in DepEd (Department of Education) after being called for an item. Hopefully soon.**
That is why , while waiting for the ranking result, aside from my passive income here in read.cash I’m also doing online teaching for me to at least earn and can provide the needs of my son. For this platform read.cash, I'm very thankful that I was being introduced here because at least I was able to earn and this is very helpful to me. By just writing some random articles, I was able to make money passively.
Final Thoughts
"Everything has the right place and time."I always believed that what you aimed for the future will be happening and will be realized if and only if we strive harder for it, we persevere, we never lose hopes and we must be patience. Because, in the end if were doing all of the things that make our goals come true then, for sure it will be realized. What we need to do is to wait for the perfect time but of course do the actions for it to be realized as well.
Start of something new....
Well, if we think we need to do something else then we should start it today. For me, this something new is when my name will be listed in the Registered Qualified Applicants.
**In God's will, hopefully**.
~end
Happy reading!
@Janz
To my sponsors, Thank you as always. Also, to the upvoters of my previous article. My deepest thanks to all of you.
Penalty: The thing that I tried to avoid
*I've been sharing here that I worked as an online teacher where I taught foreign students on how to speak English and learn English especially to Chinese students. You can check my article on that too* *here**.* https://read.cash/@Janz/teacher-being-a-transformer-a5c84726
**ESL Company or English as a Second Language Company,** is the the company that offers an online teaching job or opportunity. Every ESL company had their rules and regulations of course for both the tutors and the students. Every ESL company had also their rules regarding **PENALTIES.** There are companies that have lower penalties and there are those high penalties. Some also, don't have penalties. **And this penalties, this is the thing that I really tried to avoid while doing online teaching.**
Now I am going to share here the Penalty System of my ESL company that I worked for three months already.
Well, I must say based on my experienced that my company right now has the very strict policy in terms of penalties because their penalties were almost 2 times there hourly rate or base rate. Imagine that, if you've got a penalty then you need to teach three students for you to be able to compensate the deduction. So, it's quite stressful and it really felt hurt every time I got penalized because of some circumstances that I didn't intend to.
**Late for shift clock-in**
*In the tutor client app, all tutors must or should clock in 10-30 minutes before the first class starts. Example in my case, I opened my slot during weekdays starting at 5:30PM, so that's my first class. Therefore, 5:00PM - 5:20PM is my range time to clock in because if I clock in 5:21PM beyond then I will be penalized with 5% of my hourly rate for every minute that I am late. I experienced this for three months 3 time already. So, just better not to clock in if already late to avoid penalty but the consequence also is I will not be able to gain a teaching points.*
**Late for class**
*Here, if ever the tutors will be late also in entering the class we will also be penalized with 2% of tutor's hourly rate for every minute of being late. That is why tutors were required to enter the class 1-2 minutes before the class starts. So, what I always did is that, I enter the room 5 minutes before the class time starts. This is also advantage, because what if I cannot able to enter the classroom immediately. So, I still have time to fixed of whatever it is.*
**Leave class early**
*So, as what I've said the duration of each class is 25 minutes. If we tutors leaves early, like for example if we leave the class ahead of time then we will be again penalized with 2% of our hourly rate for every minute we miss. So, in this case, we must not leave early in the class to avoid such penalty.*
**Cancellations**
*Cancelling booked slots will lead to penalty but cancelling unbooked slots is just fine because it has no penalties. In this case, if a tutor cancelled a booked slots an hour or just 30 minutes before the booked slot the deduction were much more bigger than cancelling it 72 hours before it’s time.*
*Last May 8, I did cancel all my booked slots that time due to power outage since I don’t have back up like I don’t have generator though and also my partner’s cellphone that time were also “lowbat”. So, that’s why I can’t able to make my class with a cellphone. I had no choice but to cancel all of it since if I’m not going to cancel so I’ll be tagged absent and all of my open slots for the following days will be closed. Since, I have six booked slots that day so that means I’ll be having 6 absents and that all will be tagged penalties. So, 6 penalties I will expect for a warning letter. Therefore, it’s better for me to cancel it instead. I’ll just suffers the deductions only.*
**Absence**
*This is the worst part. Why? Because if you’ll be absent as what I’ve said it goes to penalty of course and it’s penalty were 3 times bigger than the hourly rate. So, that’s the sad part. Another, if the tutor will be absent aside form salary deductions, our teaching points will also got deducted and all open slots for the following week will be closed. And if, the tutor will have consecutive absence within a month the Tutor Manager will sent us warning letter. Three warning letters will automatically terminates our contract. So, that’s why I really avoided this kind of penalty but because of such unintended circumstances like power outage, I can’t able to enter their classrooms because I don’t know it their system issue but even like that I’ll be penalized if I can’t able to do some screenshots as proofs.*
*Then, just recently I got penalized again because I slept and not knowing that it’s time for my class and I just able to woke very late. So when I checked the system, voila penalty were already visible. I felt so asleep because I was too tired and my head’s aching also. So what I did is that I lay down but I don’t intend to sleep though because I knew I still have class but this eyes of mine were not really cooperating and I slept.*
*Sad thing in here is that, aside from salary deduction and teaching points deduction I got a warning letter because my TM (Tutor Manager) were also so strict, she even made her own rules aside from the rule of the company so it’s very stressful when I got penalty since the TM also were not considerate, whatever I did explanations she won’t consider it and if I have queries about another things I will not get responded but if I got penalized her fingers can easily and automatically works fine and even sends me warning letter right away****. (I so hate her, lol)***
*Let’s get back to the topic. So, that’s it I’ve been penalized and received a warning letter form my inconsiderate TM. So, I already have two warning letters though that means if I got another one I’ll be terminated already. The first warning letter I got, it’s 2 months ago I guess and that wasn’t my intentions to be absent it’s because of power outage, their system error like I can’t able to enter their room and every time I enter the room my pc also lagged so I can’t able to take screenshots for it. Of course, again* ***PENALTY****.*
Closing Thoughts
So, whatever I did to avoid penalties there were always time that I can’t avoid it and what really bothers me a lot when I got penalized is that when I got the penalty that I felt not really worth for me or it’s very unacceptable because it was not my intentions to be absent though it’s all because of their system error even though I had stable connection and they never considers whatever explanations I made. It’s okay if I got penalized because I feel asleep because it’s my fault already but what if not right? That was really unfulfilling for me. Then just to avoid penalties, I even used phone if I can’t their rooms through my pc and if brownout or there’s a power outage I just used my phone too, a power bank for my wifi and the other phone for a flashlight for not to be able to get penalized. But, the as what I’ve said there were times that everything will not also cooperating. That’s really sad for me.
But despite everything of course move on from penalties and keep going. Also, start seeking for another ESL company haha lol.
~end
**Have a great day ahead, my readers.**
@Janz
Apology Without Change is just Manipulation
Apology? Sorry? I will not do it again. Promise, it won't happen again. I swear, I'll change. Just forgive me, please. Give me another chance, and I will never hurt you again.
**Hey people,** are you sure about the statements above deserves a second chances. I mean are you sure that they really mean what they say. If they're really serious when they say **"I'm sorry, I really am"** and **"I will not do it again".** Just give another chance and I will do better for you. **Now, I just want to ask,** have you heard all of this things? How was it? I mean, when you tried to give another chance, how was it? Are they really changing? Do they really mean their sorry, their apology?
Well, ***SORRY or APOLOGY ;*** these are the words that we utter when we did a mistakes. Of course we will apologize to someone for what we did wrong for us to still able to reconcile with them. These are also the words that we wanted to hear when someone did a mistake to us. We wanted to hear their apologies, their sorry for what they have done wrong which made us angry, cry, and hurt our feelings. Most of the times, if we hear them apologizing our hearts melts which may lead us to give them a second chance. Of course, because we cherished that person the most and we loved them. That's why we are willing to give a second chances to them.
*When I was browsing my Facebook, I've seen this thought from one of the posts* ***"Apology without change is just manipulation".*** *It was really intriguing for me that's why I read the said post three times and I was able to get an idea on what article to write. Therefore, I'm sharing with you my thoughts about this statement because in my opinion I definitely agreed to this. So, I'm gonna share in this article why I agreed on this thought.*
***You can also leave a comment about your own opinion of this thought. If this is true for you or not. Justifiable for you or not. If you'd experienced this in your life.***
**We are all humans and we are sinners. We made a mistakes.** There's nothing perfect in this world. All are imperfect. But if we made a mistakes, I guess it's really our responsibility to asked for forgiveness. We seek for forgiveness, we apologized from what we did because that's the best way to do if we still want to be forgiven by someone whom we've done wrong. If we still want that our relationship with them become better one more time. ***But the question there is that,*** what if that someone who asked sorry, that someone who apologize because he does wrong things or unnecessary things that made your heart aches still made the same mistakes without you knowing and you've given him/her a second chance. ***What do you call with that? Isn't it manipulation already.*** I mean without your knowledge, you were being cheated one more time with the same mistake by the person who asked sorry for you and promised to change himself/herself for your relationship to still keep going and also promised to not do the same mistake again and then it turns out like he/she were eating what he/she were saying.
**For me, it's like a sort of manipulation already. Why I said so?**
If we are asking forgiveness and if we are really sorry for what we've done wrong to someone, then we must make sure that we really and truly mean it. ***Because, SORRY or APOLOGY are not like a toy that if were done playing it we will just set it aside and find another type of toy.*** If we really mean our sorry and apology then we should and must change right? We must change for the betterment of the relationship we had to someone. Another is, if we mean our sorry the we must take full responsibility of our actions and to make sure that we are going to make the same mistake again and again. In other words, let's not make ourselves be foolish and let's us not fool someone whose giving us second chances and giving us the chance to change ourselves. Because we also knew that **once TRUST gets broken it is really hard to put the pieces together.** It takes time. So, when another chances were given to us then we must not time be wasted one more time. ***(Tell me if I'm wrong with this thought in the comment section. I'll be glad to learn from you)***
Final Thoughts
So, if we do a mistake and if you do a mistake then let's accept that we've done wrong and will asked forgiveness for that. Then of course we must also rectify that or to make that right. If we can't able to make that right or if we can't rectify our mistakes then just don't apologized or just don't say sorry because **we all have no right to manipulate someone's heart.**
~end
Happy reading!
@Janz
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Dream Big and Make it Happen
We always dreamt for the best. Who would have dream for the worst right? I guess a lunatic would. We have different dreams in life. We had also different perspectives in life. We dream big and also we dream just to have simple life.
We dreamt to become a professional in whatever that field we wanted. We dreamt to have a beautiful house. We dreamt to have a business that will be known to all. We dreamt to own a car. We dreamt to be happy all the time and will not even feel pains and sadness. We dreamt to have a lovely family. We dreamt to be financially stable.
We have lots of dreams in life but we are not only dreaming for ourselves. We also dreamt for our family, our loved ones, our kids if we already had. Our dream is limitless, it has no end though.
But we only have one same shared dream and that is to become successful in life. Am I right? To be happy despites any worries.
There is a thought that says which I really believed in it. It goes like this, ***If you dream big then dream to have a luxurious car if you cannot able to have that, then have a motorcycle, then if still not able to have the motorcycle then at least you can have a bike.*** The thought here is that, dreaming big is a way for us to achieved our simplest dream in life. With that, we can still able to live life we wanted and be happy. But of course, we will try our best to reach whatever is our biggest dream.
Now, here's the question.
**HOW TO MAKE IT HAPPEN? HOW TO MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE? WHAT TO DO AND WHAT ARE NOT TO DO TO MAKE IT HAPPEN?**
In life, we cannot avoid that while we are chasing our dreams there are lots of barriers that we can encounter along the way. A lot of people were also trying their best to pulls us down for us not be able to reach the top. So, what we need to do is to surpass all of that and make our dreams happen. How? THEN....
BE HARDWORKING
The very step is to be hardworking. If we don't have this kind attitude then how can we able to reach our goals in life if we are just going sit and wait for a miracle. So, if we wanted to be on top of our set goals then we must get up and work for it. Work hard to be exact. Hard work, starts it with yourself. Then, to our education. If we don't have the hard work for our education then we cannot able to finished it and have a degree on what field we wanted. Since, I believed education is also one of the way in achieving our dreams in life.
PERSEVERANCE
If we also don't have the persistency in doing something then how can we also able to reach our dreams. Be persevere enough even in times of difficulties, failures and any other circumstances that may come our way while reaching out dreams. We must also have this perseverance for us to still keep going despite every challenges that we may encounter.
POSITIVE MIND
Being a positive thinker is also one of the attitude to have for us to also be on top. Because if we think positively then it will radiates the positive thoughts that we had. Right? Because if we stay positive in life then for sure it will make a difference for us and within us. I really agreed on what Buddha said, ***"What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create."*** So, if we always think positivity even though in times of hardships then it will surely attracts in us and radiates within us.
FAITHFULNESS
Believing in ourselves that we can do whatever we wanted to do for us to make our dreams come true is also a positive side that we must have. If we have faith that we can able to achieved on something then being hardworking, to persevere and to have positive mind will just go all along. Therefore, this is the most important factor for me. Believed in ourselves and of course in accordance of our faith to God. Since, we cannot do all of this without the guidance of our Almighty. In the end, it's always a matter of believing to ourselves and most importantly to have faith in God in whatever we do.
This way for sure we can make our dreams come true.
Final Thoughts
I knew that all of us are doing many things in chasing our dreams in life. But we just make sure that we must not ruins others life for us to be on top. Like we must not do such evil things just to be on the first lane. We must not let our insecurities in life be the reason to not be able to make our dreams happen. Instead, let's help other in reaching our dreams in life.
~end
Happy reading !
Feel free to leave a comment about you thoughts in this article :)
@Janz
Never Waste Your Time proving your Value
**Have you experienced to always tried your best beyond your capability just to prove on something?** The feeling of being pressured because of the people that surrounds you and that has high expectations on you. Spending your whole time proving to someone that you are good enough and that you aren't weak.
The big question there is that, **Are you happy of what you're doing? Are you happy proving yourself to someone that you are good enough, that you are intelligent enough, that you can be on top all the time and that your worthy enough for them.**
When I was on my elementary days until my high school days , I always accelerate in the class. I always had medal at the end of the school year. I've been always sent to some District Contest for some Math challenges as representative of my school. In other words, I was an achiever back then. Therefore, in that days I always had this pressure in me every end of school year. I've been pressured to make sure that my name will always be on the lists of honors because I knew that my parents already expects me to be on that lists and also our neighborhood also expected me to excel all the time since they've always seen me as achiever. That is why, what I did back then is to always proved them that I will always be an achiever up until college. My mind were set into the thought that I will always have to prove something to them because I knew if I can't they had something to say especially the neighborhood who had always something to say even though your already doing good enough still they will push you to your limits and said something not pleasing to hear. I don't really know what's wrong with them doing that way.
I just remembered one time, our neighbor told me that she already knew that I will also graduate as Cum Laude in college because I became the Valedictorian in High School. Well, with that I was being pressured though. I am pressured because what if I will not be able to become a Cum Laude as what she said then she must say something not good to me already just like I wasn't able to become what she expected me to achieved because I already had a boyfriend, a kind of thing like that.
But then, what made me realized is when my father told me that **I don't have something to prove to them as their parents because what they only want is for me to finished a degree even though I will not be able to graduate with color as long as I finished it and hold a degree it was really fulfilling for them.**
With what my father said, the feeling of pressure from others statements were somehow vanished because I thought why would I make myself pressure because of what others said to me where in fact my own family didn't pressure me anyway. So, what I did is of course to finished my college and graduate with a Bachelor's degree. With that I made my parents happy and proud at the same time.
Another thing is that, when I was taking the LET (Licensure Examination for Teachers) I was again felt pressured. Pressured again because my neighborhood expects me to pass the LET because they said ahhh I was smart they knew I can able to pass it. Of course, I knew what my capability is and I also knew that I haven't focused on reviewing for that said exam. So again, I had this in my mind that what if I can't pass the exam they will again look some reasons, negative reasons to be exact of why I didn't make it. Luckily, I able to passed the LET. So, I did expect that my neighborhood would have nothing to say.
But, since I'm pregnant while taking the exam. There is this one neighborhood that said, *"I able to passed the exam because I'm pregnant that time, she said it's because of the baby that brought me luck to pass the said exam."* **Really**? **What the h*ck?**
This is the time that I realized things.
Never waste your time proving you value.
I realized that whatever you do, even your doing good and even your proving them wrong still people had something wrong to say to you. They will always find reasons to say negative on you. So, why are you wasting your time proving them that your valuable enough and that your worthy enough. Right? So, stop it now. Well, it's okay to prove them wrong for them also to realized things if and only they will. Also to let them see that what they said were not right. But, doing it your whole life I guess it's not good also because in the first place we will not be happy with that kind of life. Like to always prove ourselves to them.
So, again **PROVING OURSELVES TO ANYONE THAT WERE WORTHY AND VALUABLE ENOUGH IS JUST A WASTE OF TIME.** It's a waste of time especially to those people that had nothing to do but to criticized us.
**I'm really thinking right now,** Why are they doing that, like to criticized and to always pulls us down instead of helping us make better and lifting us up. Why? What the h*ll is wrong with this kind of people? Do you have idea?
***Feel free to comment down your thoughts :)***
Happy reading!
@Janz
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Make Today A Productive Day
Another day, and another productive day. Well, not all my days were productive, but most are. Every day is a challenge and every day is a blessing day for us since were still given a chance to make our day productive.
`In this article, I just wanna share how productive my day today with my little family. Well, every day we tried our best to make it productive because it is very fulfilling in our part if we able to make productive day.`
I shared in here that my partner were planting eggplants, gardening in the midst of pandemic. Gardening became essential especially this time we had right now. You can checked my article about this too **Gardening this pandemic is Essential** **.** https://read.cash/@Janz/gardening-this-pandemic-is-essential-40ffba16
Then, today we had already our 4th harvest of eggplants. In our first and 2nd harvest we only had 4 kilos of eggplants. In the third harvest, it became 6 kilos and today in our 4th harvest we able to have 9 kilos of eggplants. All of it were sold out starting from our first harvest to 4th which is today. In the first place, we really decided to do gardening because we wanted to sell our harvest for us to have penny of course because we had a kid that really needs our financial support and as parents we tried our best to give to the best as we can the needs of our son.
I am very happy especially my partner because our harvest were increasing from it's number of kilos from 4kls to 9kls today which means we able to make our eggplants healthier since it produces more and more.
For today with our 9kls of eggplants, we able to sell 2 1/2 kls to @Zhyne06 , @fredyzza07 and to @ThisisGrace21. (***Thank you for the three of you.)*** Then after that, we thought that we cannot able to sell the remaining eggplants. So, what I did was posting it on Facebook hoping for a buyer and yes after an hour of posting someone from the market bought our remaining eggplants that was 6kls in all since I set aside the 1kl because I'm planning to cooked it as our lunch viand.
**Then, another perks of the day**. Of course, we also cooked and made a viand out of our eggplants. I cooked a ***fried crispy eggplant sticks*** *(I just named that way because it looks like it, lol) a*nd dip it in a *"****Mang Tomas Sauce" .*** Then we also fry an eggplant. So, we had a heavy lunch for today. *haha (lol)* And made an appetizer out from ***"ginamos"*** *(that's what we called it in Bisaya and I don't know what's it's English term or Tagalog term).*
In just a simple thing, we can able to make our day productive. We just only need to appreciate everything what we had for every day living. HAPPINESS, if we can be happy everyday then we already made our day productive.
According to Coaching Positive Performance Blog site, a **PRODUCTIVE DAY** is not about getting everything done and getting a lot done but instead it's about getting the most important tasks done.
Full details, checked here: https://www.coachingpositiveperformance.com/productive-day/
So, now I'm going to share in here the article of ***Katrina Bushko*** about How to be productive at home and make everyday a productive day.
In Katrina Bushko's article, she enumerates some tips on how to be productive.
CREATE A GOOD MORNING ROUTINE
Of course in creating a good morning routine we must have to eat a healthy breakfast and had some exercises or does some household chores.
PRIORITIZE
Sometimes we can't able to make our day more productive because we don't know where to start. So, it's better for us to figure out things on what are those that your going to prioritized and those are not and made it happen within that day.
FOCUSED ON ONE THING AT A TIME
I knew, we able to do multi-tasking but if we really need to ensure on making things done at a time so, we should be focused on the important things that need to be done in a day.
TAKE BREAKS
Of course, it is also not good for us if we force ourselves to the limit. We might be able to have an unproductive results because of some pressures in it. So, take breaks, relax and take a deep breathe.
MANAGE YOUR TIME EFFECTIVELY
Managing our time is sometimes hard to do because of some disturbances or nuisances around us that will get us distracted from our focus. But, if we able to manage our time effectively, then we can able to achieved what we wanted to finished in a day.
Lastly, CELEBRATE AND REFLECT
The most important thing, after every accomplishments we should make sure to take time celebrating on what we accomplished no matter how we able to execute our productive day. This is to reward ourselves to do more and to still keep doing great works and be productive again and again everyday. Reflects from the things we've done if there's a need to improved or developed from ourselves.
**To read the full article of Katrina Bushko, you may checked through this link** https://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/6-simple-ways-have-more-productive-day.html
Closing Thoughts
**It's always depends in us on how we able to defined our productivity.** But if we really aims to be productive everyday then we must learn how to be focused on one thing at a time, actually the most important thing which needs to be done at a time. **APPRECIATION and HAPPINESS**, one of the things that makes our day productive. Appreciating the things we had accomplished and what we only had, then happiness will go along the way if we appreciates everything.
Since, according to Shawn Achor **"Happiness inspires Productivity" .**
Happy reading!!!
@Janz
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It’s Okay To Cry
We all humans. As humans we felt the pain. The questions is, how do you react with that pain you felt? Do you cry loudly or do you prefer to just cry in silent? Do you cry to someone or you just going to pretend that your okay in front of someone?
CRYING, it is the shedding of tears due to emotional pain, anger, happiness and whatever it is that triggers you from crying.
When I was browsing yesterday in my Facebook newsfeed I’ve seen a quote which leads me to write this article. The quote is this one, ***“It’s okay to cry and express your feelings. What is not fine is you pretend to be okay but in reality you’re not. (Fr.Fiel Pareja)”***
After I read the said quote, I did asked myself. Is there benefits that we can gain from crying? Because based from experience crying can only gave us more heartaches and somehow emotional stress. Since, I was curious so I did a research about it and yes I found out that there are many good things that crying may benefits both our health and mind.
**In my research, I found out 8 benefits of crying. This is based on what** *****Lana Burgess (2017)***** **wrote on the Medical News Today.**
**In Burgess Lana’s article,** she stated that researchers have found that crying can be beneficial to the following.
• Has a soothing effect
Self-soothing may happen when people regulates their own emotions, calm themselves and reduces their own distress. Further study explained that crying helps activate PNS (parasympathetic nervous system) which able people to relax.
• Gets support from others
By crying, aside from self-soothing it also provides support from others. This is known as interpersonal or social benefit.
• Helps to relieve pain
It is said that shedding emotional tears releases oxytocin and endorphins. The chemicals help people feel good and ease both physical and emotional pain. This way crying reduces pain and promotes a sense of well being.
• Enhances moods
Crying may help lift people’s spirits and make them feel better. As well as relieving pain, oxytocin and endorphins can help improve mood.
• Releases toxins and relieves stress
When humans cry in response to stress, their tears contain a number of stress hormones and other chemicals.
Researchers believe that crying could reduce the levels of these chemicals in the body, which could, in turn, reduce stress.
• Aids sleep
A small study in 2015 found that crying can help babies sleep better. Whether crying has the same sleep-enhancing effect on adults is yet to be researched.
However, it follows that the calming, mood-enhancing, and pain-relieving effects of crying above may help a person fall asleep more easily.
• Fights bacteria
Crying helps to kill bacteria and keep the eyes clean as tears contain a fluid called lysozyme. Further study states that lysozyme had such powerful antimicrobial properties that it could even help to reduce risks presented by bioterror agents, such as anthrax.
• Improves vision
Basal tears, which are released every time a person blinks, help to keep the eyes moist and prevent mucous membranes from drying out. This may helps in improving vision.
Again, all this 8 benefits of crying were written by Lana Burgess (2017) in the Medical News Today. You may checked the full details of Lana Burgess article through this link 👉 https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/319631#benefits-of-crying
Final Thoughts
After I did that research, **I realized that it is really okay to cry** because aside from it’s benefits that I mentioned above it also helps us feel fine and express ourselves in s way what we wanted to. We should always remember that ***tears are words that heart can’t express.***
As what Taylor Swift once said, **“If somebody hurts you, it’s okay to cry a river but always remember to build a bridge and get over it.”**
***Based from my experience,*** I always chose not to cry loudly when I was being scolded my tears were just shedding but I don’t even utter a sound which is really not good for me because it will just hinders me from expressing myself and my emotions and it is not good in my health too. My mom would always told me before to cry loudly but I insisted not and to tell you honestly if we are just going to cry inside and let our tears sheds without having any sound of crying, it is really hard to breathe properly. I experienced this before, I hardly breathe when I did this instead of crying loudly. That is I realized it really not good for our health too.
**Therefore, it’s really fine for us to cry loudly too it will make us more better afterwards.**
**Another thing is that,** it is really okay for us to cry as hard as we want to until we felt relieved but we should make sure that we will never cry again for the same reason. It’s something like a lesson for us too. Cry hard now, after that try your best to get up and refocus again and life must keep going.
~end
Happy reading everyone :)
@Janz
Questions out of Negative Thoughts
These all started when we were just kids specifically toddlers. We began to be curious on many things. Like how this and that things differs from each other, why they look like that, why they act that way. As kids, we made lots of experiments out of curiosities. We tend to be confused on many things like we called all animals with four legs as dogs or cats because that’s what our parents told us, so if we see a dog then we called a cat as a dog because what we thought of an animal with four legs are dogs. Questions started to arise when we were just toddlers.
**Confusion starts, Curiosity begins and Questions were started to build in our minds.**
Questions ? ? ?
Well, these are the things that will sometimes ruins our minds especially if we had the hardship in seeking it’s answers. These are the things that made us curious on something. The things that will came up in our mind out of disappointments in life.
I knew all of us, had our different kinds of questions depending on what are the things that made us curious. A questions that are made out of confusions and a questions which are due to our negative thoughts.
Questions out of negative thoughts...
Since we are just human being, I think it’s already part of our nature as human to think negatively especially if we are experiencing downfalls in life. When we are in times of troubles and in times of hardships. We tried to be positive at all times, we tried to radiates and seeks positivity despite our downfalls but still we can’t deny that there were always a time, a single time that we thought negatively and even our mind creates questions of why we felt, suffer and experienced terrible things in life.
Why me of all people?
When I experienced the worst part of my life, I always asked myself ***WHY ME OF ALL PEOPLE SUFFERS THIS WAY?*** I know that this type of question were out of my negative thoughts. A question that is bombarded with negativities. Maybe you’d wonder why? Well, I’m not saying that what I experienced is the worst for others because I also knew we had different stories and different definitions of what are the worst that happens to us, so do I.
I already shares in here my experienced when I had allergy attacks. For me, every time this allergy attacks me I really felt the pain, the itch, can’t breathe properly, high fever, headache, LBM, and most worst is stomach ache which causes me to vomit every single minute. Due to vomiting, sometimes I get dehydrated. I’ve been admitted to the hospital a lot of times because of this especially when I can hardly breathe already. That is why every time I had this attack, I always asked **why me?** I’m not rich though, my parents cannot afford my medications every time I had this attack so **why me?**
Another part of my life which I considered it as the worst part in my 23rd of existence in this world is when I was being diagnosed to have bipolar stage 1 but before that happens I've been attacked first by my allergy, so imagine the pain here I mentioned it above. Then after I recovered from that said attack, within that week I again had fever, high fever actually. I suffer fever for one week, then after that since I'm already dehydrated and can't totally get up my parents decided to see a doctor and again I was admitted for one week in the hospital because of dengue. Since, that time I was in my 3rd year in college, of course I was very eager to get back to school. So, after 2 days of being discharged from the hospital I already get back to school because I knew that I'm already left behind from all the subjects. I got discharged Monday, then on Wednesday I already get back to school. So, I only had one day of rest after being admitted to the hospital for one week. So, when I get back school of course many paper works that I must done within that week because I was already beyond the deadline. Of course, I got busy of that paper works not knowing that most of the times I skip eating meals. Sometimes I just go to sleep with an empty stomach and goes to school in the morning without eating breakfast were in fact I must not doin this way because I just recovered from dengue.
Therefore, with that style I had in that week. Saturday on the same week, I broke down. Early in the morning of that day, I just woke up crying so hard then at I guess that was 7:00am I already started to be out of mind as in I've been like crazy. I can't control talking, so I talked and talked nonsense that time. So, within that day my parents immediately went to the nearest hospital that has a psychiatric clinic but it was 3 hours of ride from our home. So, it's quite far. When I get their, I was being diagnose to have bipolar stage 1, and according to my Psychiatrist that time my normal IQ became triple which leads to the abnormalities of my left brain if I'm not mistaken. I suffered that for one day, as in whole Saturday and that week was really the worst week I had in my existence.
**That is why after all of that, I again asked myself, Why am I suffering all of this? What did I do wrong to experienced all of this?**
This kind of experienced I had leads me to question that way and I the worst part there is I even question God on the things that happens to me.
Because of what our experiences and all the hardships we encountered, we tend to QUESTION ourselves, our existence and even God for all of it were in fact it is not the right thing to do.
When, I started to realized things and reflects from it I learned that it is not right to questioned to anyone even ourselves because first and foremost we are living in the world full of challenges and we must be ready for all of that, we must bare with that. Instead, we should try our best to look for what is it's positive side why all this things happen to us, maybe because God wanted us to be tough and be ready in everything that may still happens to us.
Thinking positively is one way that we can't able to create and formulates some questions out of our negative thoughts.
It's normal for us to have lots of questions because we are just humans, but what is not normal there is when our questions were being formulated because of our negative thoughts. It will just only ruins our positive thinking and our life.
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So, this will be my entry to @JonicaBradley prompt #5 about **QUESTIONS.** Since, I can relate to the said prompt so I tried to make an article for it. Thank you so much for this prompt, I was able to express my thoughts by writing this article.
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Blissful day with the Great Fathers in my Life
How lucky and thankful are you with your father?
I am asking this because we all knew that not all are lucky with their fathers. Why? It’s because there are those who aren’t responsible as a father. There are those who abandoned their children. There are those who never supported and gives the needs of their children. In other words, ***an irresponsible father.***
**I was in the point of my life that I was so lucky, thankful and blessed that I had a great father and also able to meet a person whom serves as the father of my kids.**
The first great FATHER in my Life
My one and only Father
I knew that my father wasn’t perfect. We all humans though and were not perfect. But I’m very thankful that I had a father like him. My father were very responsible. He will do everything for us to be able to eat 3 times a day. He did a lot of works. A work of a farmer since my father is a farmer. There were no such day that my father stays at home unless otherwise he’s really ill. All of the time, my father goes to mountain or ***“bukid”*** and if he doesn’t have work at the mountain he goes driving his tricycle roaming around the street finding passengers for him to still able to brought food for us .
I remember one time my father told me that all he wanted for us his kids is for him to see us successful in life and not to be like him that works some heavy works because doesn’t able to go college and had a degree. From what he said, I really tried to study hard for me to had a degree and yes I know I make him proud of that because I am already a professional teacher.
Then, because my father were so hardworking just recently my mother chatted me that my father got sick because even though his one eye were operated due to cataract he still goes to mountain to work and driving tricycle roaming the street under the heat of the sun even though his still restricted by the doctor to exposed his eyes into so much heat and even he had fever according to my mom he still goes to work because according to my father who will does the work when there is no one there to do it for him since my siblings were also not there to help him.
That really hurts me because I somehow felt guilty, I could have able to help my father financially but because of this pandemic I still don’t have regular work and my application to teach in DepEd is still on process for now. That is why I’m really hoping that I can be able to pass the application so that I can already help my father because my father is already old for some heavy works.
**My father were really is one of the great father I had and I will always cherished him up until the end.**
Next great father that I met in my Life
My loving partner *(bengot)*
I was grateful with him too because his really hands on with our son. He does the job that supposedly my job and that is to took care of our kid. He is the one who looked for my son every time I got busy of my online works. He’s the one who will fed our son and take him to bath. He’s the one who get up to prepare milk for our son. In the evening, he’s also the one who will let our kid go to sleep. In other words, I am very thankful that he’s a responsible father. I told to quit his vices which is smoking for our son and he really did and it’s almost a year that he never did smoking and I was happy for that too. He even said to me, that he won’t let my son see him doing that because he also don’t want that our son will engaged into vices that’s why as early as he can he will stop it. For that, **I was proud of my partner as a father.**
Another thing is that, he’s also the one who prepares our food. He’s the one who cooked instead of me.
That is why I am very thankful that I able to find someone just like my father whose very responsible. Even though we argued sometimes for some misunderstanding but still at the end of the day we able to fixed and talked about it. I’m just so happy to have him in my life.
Closing Thoughts
Even were lucky or not, thankful or not, blessed or not to have a responsible FATHER. Still, we must cherished them because they still give us the chance to exists in this world and able to see the beauty of nature and be challenged by many circumstances brought us with this world we lived in.
If you think you weren’t lucky enough with your father, then just hold on from the thought that **PEOPLE CHANGE so as your father.**
HAPPY FATHER’s DAY ! ! !
Well, it’s never too late to greet since everyday is father’s day :)
***Happy reading everyone.***
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When I thought it’s Love
In our teenage years, we cannot deny the fact that we had experienced the so called **“puppy love”** right? I think most of us had this stage in our life were we able to meet someone whom we think we felt the true feeling of love but when we became matured and reminisced this things we just realized that it was just a mere love or just a puppy love as what we called it. Sometimes when we reminisced this past, we just smiled at it from the thought that we became crazy of it a little bit were in fact it’s unnecessary to do and feel. But still, we must say that this kind of experienced we had before made us more stronger, more aware and more matured on things like that.
So, I’m just going to reminisced some of my memories before when I had experienced this so called “puppy love” feeling.
When I was in high school, I am really focused on my studies were in fact I had a classmate before that always wanted me to be her girlfriend that time but I just ignored it. ***(charrr gandang-ganda sa sarili lol)***
I ignored it because that time my mind was only set to graduate first in high school before anything else like having a boyfriend. Also, it wasn’t really in my mind that kind of things before because what I’m up to is to finished my studies in high school without having that boyfriend thing.
But, this so called ***"puppy love"*** started when I finished high school. Still, I'm a teenager that time and I was just 17 years old when I get involved into relationship with a guy whose 2 years older than me. I entered this said relationship from the thought of curiosity and of course I already graduated high school. But our relationship is not open or legal to my parents because my parents were strict at me that time and they don't want me to engaged in that thing because I'm just 17 years old. So, in other words my relationship with this guy is just between the two of us. Then since, we are just in the same place or *barrio* we able to meet secretly in some places or area in our barrio to talked on some nonsense thing.
Since I really wanted to have someone to know about our relationship before and I'm not really open to my parents also because I'm afraid that they will just scold me. So, my grandmother was the one who only knew about us because I told my grandmother that I'm in a relationship with this guy. With that, I was being advised with my grandma about love things and then I was thankful that time that she understands me and supports me at least that somehow made me happy. My grandma allow us to talked in her house, so we always meet at my grandma's house but when we talked my grandma is there talking with us too. So, it's the three of us talking. But, there was a time that my father without my knowledge already knows about us and he finds timing that he can actually capture us both. Then, that one night my father really caught us in my grandma's house while were talking. Of course my father's reaction that time were angry and he let me go home. When I got home my father confiscate my phone and he did broke it because he thought that it's because of texting or chatting through cellphone triggers me to enter in a relationship. My parents were really strict at me that time when it comes to that, and I still didn't listen to them.
When I was in my 1st year of college, my parents thought that I already left my boyfriend that time but I really did not left my boyfriend instead he let me borrowed his phone for us to still communicate through chats and texting. So, our kind of relationship lasts for almost 2 years, a 2 year secret relationship. Until one day, my boyfriend decided to go to Manila for work. That time when we had this long distance relationship (LDR) our relationship also got shady. I don't felt anything when he left and one time we argued on something and that made me a chance to left him. I don't know, I just felt that I don't have any sparks on him like they said fell out of love. But, that time I don't even sure if I really felt the love, all I felt is just to have someone to talked to intimately and nothing more. Also, what triggers me to finally left him is that I also found out that I was just being played by him too. I don't if it's true, because that was what my mother told me before.
This was the end of my fantasies before when I was a teenager. Actually, when he came back from Manila he still tried to approach me. But I didn't really feel anything for him already. That was the time I realized that, it's not LOVE at all. **WHEN I THOUGHT IT'S LOVE, BUT IT'S NOT. INSTEAD A FANTASY OF MIND.**
**LOVE** is a very special feeling that we can render to someone and get to someone. What I learned is that, when LOVE comes to you, the real Love and not the puppy love. This will surely change our perspective in life. Just like when I met my partner now, at first I though again that it's not love but at the end I realized that it is really the love that I want to give to him and of course I also felt it for the first with him. I find a genuine love that never sees my flaws instead accepting me for who I am and what I am.
Lastly, I must conclude that TRUE LOVE is truly unexpected but it will come to you in a perfect place and time. Never rush on love that you weren't sure of to avoid regrets in the end. Be patient. Then, when it comes, it will come. So, never let that love to just pass you by.
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Two Kinds of people in the World
Have you tried to asked yourself about what are the two kinds of people in this world?
Well, 4 days ago I had an interview from one of the ESL company that I’m applying for. Because I’m planning to shift from another ESL company that provides a stress-free environment for the tutors. Stress free from the thought of having such very responsive and considerable tutor support since in my current ESL company they don’t have that. Also, my service fee from my current ESL company is not really enough for me to be able to support my son’s needs daily and to my family as well. That is why I needed to find another company that somehow offers much higher salary than my current one.
During interview, of course there were lots of questions being asked because they are going to tests your grammars and confidence in talking using English language. Since, as online tutor we are going to teach English language to foreign students so it is necessary for a company to look for how fluent we are in speaking the said language. In the last part of the interview, this question that was being asked to me caught my attention. It was ***“What are the two kinds of people in this world?”***
Well, I was kind of shocked by that question because I wasn’t expecting it. This question is somewhat like a *“pageant question”*. But anyway they are not going to look on how quality your answer is but they just look into how will I deliver my answer confidently and of course with proper grammars.
So, what are those two kinds of people in this world?
My answer to this question during my interview was **“Two kinds of people in this world are those who lift us up and those who pulled us down.”**
Then, since I’m really curious about the question though it is subjective. I searched for it in google and I’ve seen the thoughts of ***Daniel H. Pink*** about this question.
Now, I’m going reflect on some of the thoughts of Daniel Pink.
**TWO KINDS OF PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD:**
Those who make your life easier and those who make it harder.
This kind of people were visible nowadays. Each of us, we have these kind of people that we considers as our stepping stone in reaching our goals since they were the one who helps us to be inspired and be motivated in life and not to lose hopes despite problems. But we can’t also deny the fact that there were also people around us that will tried their best to pulled us down. These are those people that will tend to discouraged us to do better in life for us not to be able to reach the top of the ladder. So, somewhat my answer during the interview is something like this, a people that lift us up to be on top of our goals and those that tried to pulled us down for us not to reach it.
Those who give and those who take.
These are also the kind of people that are present in our society. We had these people that shares what they had to others especially those people that had enough in life. They give to those who needed it and they shared to those who wanted it. These are those the **givers**.
Then their beneficiaries are those the so called **takers**. They said that, those who gives can sleep well at night and those who takes will also have a smile on their faces. But, this thing must be vice versa because it’s not also good if we are just going to take and take and never gives or shared on what we had. So, therefore it’s a matter of process. A give and take process and vice versa itself.
Those who lasts and those who fades.
In our life, we can’t avoid people that are coming and be part of our lives and those who come and then in the end just chose to go. Those are the people that who comes and go. Sometimes, we met people that we cherished the most and we even had this intimate feelings with them but then they just fades away like a bubble. But there were also those people that comes in our lives that chose to stay with us until the end. **Our family,** those are people that stays with us, people that will lasts. So, we should cherished those people that chooses to be with us till’ the end than cherishing people that will just leave us on the air and just fades away.
These are just some of the thoughts that I can somehow share and reflects in this article, because I found myself to be one of that kind of people.
Closing Thoughts
For me, I’d rather give if only I had enough. I’d rather make people’s lives easier rather that making it worse. I will surely be their source of inspiration and motivation for them to grow and able to reach their dreams in life and not the other way around. I’d rather chose to stay than to just fades away. Stay, in the sense that both environment were not toxic because if ever staying each other but both of you had felt that you had already a toxic relationship then better chose to stay away and just fades like a bubble.
Now, to my readers,
WHICH ARE YOU?
Feel free to comment down your thoughts, I’ll be happy to communicate with you all. Happy reading!!!
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Learning to be a Good Reader
This article were being inspired by the latest published article of @Eunoia which is about reading. After, I read his article I found of a topic to write which also reflects of who I am and I also remembered some of my experiences in reading. So, I wanted to share it in this article.
**When I was in my elementary days** I’m not really fond of reading. I’m just going to read if needed. **Even when I enter high school,** I’m not really into reading. Where in fact I’m so amazed to those classmates of mine that loves reading books. They even carried always a book and read it in their spare time. They even go to the library to read books. But, me I don’t think so. All I remember is that, I only read books if necessary like if there will be an upcoming exams and if it required us to read.
**Then, when I’m in my college years** I was only into reading during the time that we had the subject research because we need to seek some related literatures that will support our research study. That is why, I was into reading that time. Of course, because if I don’t read I will not know if what articles will support our research.
Also, **when I had my review as preparation for LET (Licensure Examination for Teachers)** I was also into reading that time. But, what’s funny is that I only reads my reviewers when it was already a month before the exam and within that one month I only focused reviewing and reading for only 2-3weeks I guess because when I started to read I just felt tired and go to sleep instead. I remembered that my boyfriend is the one who always reminds me to read my reviewers that time because my exam is nearly approaching. I just even nod at him and say yes but the truth is I’m not reading it at all. I just sleep instead. I don’t know why? Maybe that time I always felt sleepy when I attempted to read because that time I was also pregnant. Maybe that was the reason. So, in other words I took my exam unprepared. Unprepared, the fact that I didn’t read all my reviewers that time. But still, I was thankful also because I able to passed the LET.
**To be honest,** during my exam I really felt nervous the fact that I knew in myself that I’m totally not prepared for it. I even regretted during my exams because I found out that most of the questions that appeared especially in my major subject where mostly found in my reviewers and in my notes. But, what can I do I wasn’t reading it. So, what I did is only to answer those questions that I somehow remembered solving and the other questions that I hardly remembered I just did guessing. It’s like *“pintot-pintot”* strategy or the power of C. **By this time, I able to realized that reading is really important.**
Learning to be a good reader.
Well, **READING** alone without any comprehensions, realizations and reflections of what you read is not an assurance of becoming a good reader. A good reader, reads not only by the mind but by heart as well. There is always a need to deeply interpret better what you read for you to be able understands the thoughts or the message of the writers. ***Also, a good reader makes you become a good writer as well.*** This is what @Eunoia pointed out in his article which is really true and I 100% agreed to that. That is why I’ve been reflecting that one and able to write this article.
**When I joined in this platform read.cash and be part of this community.** I started learning how to be a good reader since I am not really a good reader in the first place. Well, I can read though but be a good reader I don’t think so. I can attest that because I knew I’m not that good at writing, I even don’t know what topic to write. I always had this so called “writer’s block”. In other words, it’s hard for me to write it really needs time for me to be able to composed an article. Then, my grammars also is not good as well.
**Therefore**, for us to be a good writer it always starts in reading. Read and read and not just reading it alone but also read it by heart and that way we can able to comprehend and understand the thoughts of the writers. Another thing that I also learned here in read.cash is that, reading other’s articles really helped a lot. It helps from the fact that by reading other writer’s articles we can also able to create our own idea in what article or topic should we write here. Just like what I did now. After, I read the article of @Eunoia I also able to write this article because his article gives me ideas on what to write.
With that, being part of this community read.cash helps me a lot to become a good reader and I knew that eventually I will become a good writer as well. So, it’s always a matter of reading by the heart and everything in writing will just follows accordingly.
***This is my opinion for it. Now, tell me what’s yours?***
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When I wasted your Love
I said that I'm not gonna make an article for today in order to relax my mind as well. But I thought of an article to write because this heart of mine pushes me to create an article. It's something like I can't sleep well tonight if I can't even make an article for a day.
So, here it is. Since my mind and heart pushes me to write, so I'm gonna write an article but this article is just a product of my imagination and I will grab the opportunity since my imagination flies right now and it really created a story. Now, I will share in this article what my imagination is all about.
The power of imagination.
I am a college student particularly an education student. I must say that I'm somehow known in our university because I am good singer in our campus.
I known this man. He's cool and when I first saw this man I must admit that I like him. To found out that we will be seeing each other everyday because he's my co-dormmate. I really liked him and I wanted to get his attention. What I did is that I always asked if he's done eating and I tried to be friend with him. Then, I was happy because he also talks to me, he even shares to me his life experiences and I found out that he was just in a state of moving on from his long time girlfriend. Because, I liked him I grabbed the opportunity of his loneliness. I made myself the scapegoat of his sadness or shall I say I made him happy. I even sing a song for him while I'm playing the guitar, I talked to him everyday as if were very closed. In other words, I'm a trying hard girl who wanted to get his attention.
So, it's been 2 months that I've been doing that but then he's still not courting me. Well, of course I expected that because I felt he's also enjoying my company even though I know he's still not over with her ex. So, one time when we had a party in our dormitory of course we drank alcohols. I sat beside him but he's just ignoring my presence even I tried to get his attention. Until, such time he stood up.
***M:*** *Where are you going? (my voice were cracking already because I'm already drank)*
***H:*** *I will go to my room, I'm sleepy. I'm going to sleep now. (Then he goes to his room)*
What I did is that, after an hour. I follow him in his room. Of course no one noticed me because they're all were busy also. Yes, he's already asleep. Because of my eagerness to become his girlfriend I did things that can trigger him as a man. ***(You know what I mean)*** Of course, man has weakness and he really go with the flow. He kissed me back and I was happy with. But, suddenly I was shocked of what he did. He left me and he goes out the room. I felt ashamed of myself. I don't know what to do if I can still be able to talked to him again because I felt ***"tanga"*** that time.
Week later after that incident...
Yes, it’s a week that we don’t talked. A week that we not even dare to look each other in the eye. I admit I’m totally ashamed of what I did to him. But to tell you, there’s nothing happened to us though but the fact that I did such things that isn’t decent as a girl, it’s really a shameful one. But, after that week he talked to me already.
*H: Heyyy... How are you?*
*M: I’m good and you?*
*This conversation is so awkward as in very awkward, I even don’t know what to say.*
*H: About what happen, let’s just forget that one it was just driven because of alcohol. I know you’re drunk that time and I also.*
*M: (I don’t what to say in here, I just nod at him instead)*
After that convo, we started to talked each other until such time that we find ourselves mutual for each other. Yes, he never courted me though but I feel his care for me and then our feelings were mutual. One time he confronted me that what if we try to be like girlfriend and boyfriend. When he said that, of course I agreed because you knew at the first place that I liked him so why not right?? *(aggressive tayo ehh lol)*
**Fast forward**
We’ve been together for almost 2 years but while we stayed together longer our relationship also became dull. It is because of me. I must say that I am a girl that loves to party. I party there and there and I knew in myself that he doesn’t like it but I still do and sometimes I’m not telling him about my parties just to avoid quarrels. But not knowing that he knows all about it. He confronted me and of course he’s angry to me because of that. But then he tried to understands me ad give me a chance. So, I stop for going out for parties because I don’t want him to get angry at me.
Then one time, it was a vacation time. He and his family flew to Manila because they need to attend a wedding of their relatives. That was one month that were far apart. In this month I again did things he doesn’t like. I go on parties again with my friends without letting him know. I even left my phone at home when I’m going out for him not to be able to contact me if ever. Then, there was this happening that I and my friends were having a party and there was this guy who always sat beside me, talked to me. Then when I get drunk, I know in myself that I’m wild when I get drunk then in that party I’ve cheated my boyfriend in a way that I sleep with another guy. The guy that who always sat beside me. Yes, I really did that. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, why I did that.
When my boyfriend got from Manila of course we met each other. I never told him that I cheated him while his in Manila. Who would right? But, I was shocked that he knows about it. He confronted me about that in a calm way. I myself was really shocked, why did he knew it. Of course, what would I do but to tell him the truth. Yes, I told him the truth about that and I was shocked that he just hugged me tightly while I’m crying and then he told me not to do that again because if ever, he will never give me another chance. With that, I was kind of happy because he still chooses me despite the fact that I’m cheating him.
So, we stayed together for one month after that. But then one happening again that triggers him to totally left me is when he knew that I still goes on parties.
***Because of that he really told me that he need to left me because he wanted now to respect himself.***
With that I now being left behind by the man who truly value and loves me. The man that who always gave me chances despite all that I did to him. The man that tried to understand me in everything I did. Now, **I wasted the love that he gave me.** I’m totally a jerk.
I realized everything when the time he left me. Yes, I’m hoping and reaching to him after that and still asked chances and told him that I will changed for him but it’s already too late for me. He told me that he can never give me a chance again because he wanted to respect himself and he don’t want to waste his time for me anymore. Also he told me that he already gave me many chances but I just wasted all of that and now he’s not going to risks for another chance for me. Then what hurts me a lot is when he said that he found a girl that will value his love and he will never waste that.
With what he said to me, I really burst to tears because he’s really true with all what he said. I’m really a jerk who never values the love he gave me. Now, what I can do is regret. I even did lots of experiments for him to come back to me but I failed. He still chooses that girl over me.
Now, he’s already happy with that girl and what I knew is that they already had a child. Then, as for me I’m still in the process of moving on even though it’s been almost 3 years after he left me.
Regret is what I really felt up until now.
***Disclaimer:*** All of this were just a product of my imaginations. haha
So for my reader out there, hopefully you’ll get some lessons from this imaginative mind of mine. Happy reading!!!
***(feel free to comment down you thoughts about this)***
@Janz
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Good morning writers 😊
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When I encountered a student being scolded in front of Me
**Being an online teacher is not that easy** from the fact that we are working at night up until 12 midnight. I mentioned this in one of my previous articles that as of now I'm working or teaching online to Chinese students both kids and adults while I'm waiting for my application process to be hired in DepEd *(Department of Education)*.
Since, I can't sleep well if I can't publish today an article that is why I will shared to you my experience tonight while I had my class.
***Students are unique.*** They have differences and different attitudes while in class. For me as teacher, it is really a challenged for me on how will I cater all those individualities of the students in my class. A challenged for me, on what strategies I may used just to make learning effective and to be able to catch the student's attention as well especially those zero to three level of students.
I already been encountering many types of students starting when I was still doing my **OJT** *(on the job training)* or the practice teaching of the education students before they can graduate college up until I worked in a private school and then now while I'm working or teaching online.
Well, teaching online has a big difference while doing actual teaching. In actual teaching, of course my students were just Filipinos and I knew our culture and how do we behave and that was easy for me to handle their attitudes in some way. But teaching online, you are teaching foreign students especially in my case I'm teaching Chinese students and language barrier is number one hindrance for me to deliver fluently my lessons. Yes, you can speak English and they can understand also basic English but when were talking about kids, those beginners these is really hard to do because if they can't understand your English then you need to translate that into their language for them to know what your talking about.
***So, there's really a big difference.*** But, since teachers must be versatile at all times so we make strategies on how we can able to inculcate knowledge to our students.
**Now for my experience today while I'm having my class**, I had this student who always booked my class for almost a month now. He was 7 years old. Well, I can say that this student were a fast learner since he can answered correctly the questions that are given in every lessons. But this student, starting from the time he booked my class he already gave me headache every time we had a class up until now. Well, he participates though but my only problem to him is that he will be out of focused and he stops from participating in class up until the class will end. Of course as a teacher, every time we had a class I always figured out his likes for me to used it in my class in order for him to engaged my class up until the end. I did many things, I used props, visual aids (a colorful one), I'm always giving him rewards either a virtual rewards and physical rewards just for me to catch his attention and to feel the praised that I gave him even though his not listening and participating. I did sang a song in my class. There is one time that he were doing good up until the end of the class, of course I was amazed because he's already participating well but to find out he was just doing that way because his mother were there beside him. In other words, he's afraid of his mother. Then the next day, he's mother wasn't there beside him so as usual he's not participating again.
I don't really of what's the problem. I even asked myself if, **"Am I an effective teacher?" Why can't I catch his attention? Am I not teaching him well?** And I've read some feedbacks of other teachers to him, I found out that we had the same problem with this student. That is why, I said to myself that it's not a teacher factor but a student factor because I already did everything in my case and then how come?
Then today, at 6PM were my class with this student started. He entered the room late for already 2 minutes. Then, he had a sad face while entering the classroom. Of course I greeted him *"ni hao"* or *"hello"* and asked him if he's okay because I've seen in his face that he's not. I also asked him if what's wrong why is it he's sad. He's not responding to me, I smiled at him and let him smile too but he's really not talking anything. He just looked at me with his sad face. Then, his mother came and I was shocked because he was being hit by his mother and that he cried loudly then suddenly the student left the room.
Then I waited until the student came back after 5 minutes. I don't what his mother did to him after he left the room. I was kind of shocked because I wasn't expected that his mother would do that and in front of me, the teacher of his kid. Because, we Filipinos as long as we can control ourselves we won't hit our kid especially in front of a teacher since it is not good to see.
So, the kid came back the room with a teary eye and his mother still continues to scolds him while his trying to participates in my class. I really don't know what to do, all I did is to continue with my class and tried to calm the student. I even helped him answered the activities so that he won't be scolded with his mother if he can't answer the questions. I was kind of sad for that fact because I felt the child were being pressured that time. He really tried not to cry while in class because his mother will hit him again. I really felt hurt with my 6PM class with this student because I wasn't expecting the action of the mother in disciplining his kid.
With this experience I had today, I've been wondering maybe this student were really being pressured to do well in class and if he can't meet his mother's expectation of him he will be scolded. That is why he's not doing well in my class because he gets pressured. Also, realizing some things that every student had also their behind stories of why they're not participating well in the class and not doing well in the class. Then, as a teacher I realized that, touching students hearts is very important not just to feed them the knowledge they needed to know but also to checked on them if they're emotionally fine. For that, we can be able to assess them on their needs emotionally and of course to let them engaged in the class as well.
Closing Thoughts
**As a teacher,** this is what I learned from my experienced today. If we encounter a student that causes us headaches, why not try to touch the heart of the students and asked them pains, weaknesses and strengths and then teaches them with full of passion and patience. Then, probably we can be part of the students life and journey and the student also will never forget us. Since, beautiful experienced of the students with their teachers remains in their heart and for sure you will never be forgotten.
**How about you? Do you have bad experienced with your parents while your teacher is in front of you?**
***(feel free to comment down your thoughts)***
Hopefully, I imparted some insights to all of you. Happy reading!!!
@Janz
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Everyday a Blessing Day
**Do we own our life?** This is the question that comes in my mind when I’m about to write this article.
I reflected that question before I continued writing and thought of many things. Well, after reflected it I knew in myself not even me all of us knew that we don’t own this life that we had now. We’ve just borrowed this life from our creator “God”. He just gave us the will to take care of this life physically, emotionally and most of all spiritually. We also knew that anytime of the day, wherever we are and whatever we do, our creator may get this life that we borrowed from Him.
***That is why the question is,***
**ARE YOU READY FOR THAT? ARE YOU READY TO SURRENDER YOUR BORROWED LIFE TO GOD?**
**Everyday in our life is a blessing.** Every time we able to woke up in the morning is truly a blessing. A blessing from the fact that we still able to see the rays of the sun that reflects our window, we still able to hear the birds chirping, we still able to see the beauty of nature, we still able to breath fresh air, we still able to see ourselves in front of the mirror, we still able to do what we wanted to be productive in a day, we still able see our family and loved ones smiling and mostly we can still able to see our sons and daughters be successful in their lives. That is why we should and must be thankful to God that we still able to wake up everyday because we still have the chance to do and see all of this things in this world. We must be lucky for that everyday.
As a mother, I must admit that I’m not yet ready for any circumstances that may happen in my life. I’m not yet ready to surrender my life to Him.
NOT READY because,
I’m not yet able to give the best for my son. My son is only one year old. I still want him to give the life that is worth for him. The best and worth life for him is that I still want to see my son be successful in what his chosen field is. I still want to be at my son’s side when he got married. I still want to see my grandsons and granddaughters. Sort of this things that I still want to see before I will fully surrender my life. Also, I still want to give the best life for my family as well because my dream for them is to at least made my family happy especially my parents to experience the better life like as if they won’t struggle anymore to seek for their own finances, something like that. That is why, I’m not yet ready for it. But, we also knew that we can’t able to see the future and we can’t avoid things that may happen to us because I always believed that God had always a reason for everything and life is truly unpredictable.
Therefore, since we can’t predict on what will happen in the future. Every morning that we still able to wake up and we still given a chance to live longer, what we can do is to be thankful for it every day because **everyday is a blessing day** for us. That is why, we must live life to the fullest, as happy as we wanted to be. Since, ***HAPPINESS***, is what matters to us a lot. We must not spread negativities to the people around us, let’s not be toxic for them, let’s not be the burden to our society instead let’s be a role model to all for us also to be able to contribute towards the betterment of our society. In other words, let make ourselves be the good citizen in this country that we live in and even to the world.
Let’s not waste our life into nonsense things and wrongdoings because for you to know **we only live once** and we also don’t know when our lives ended because only God knows of that.
**That is why, since we still given the opportunity to live then we make our life be the blessing for all and not the the other way around.**
Hopefully you’d get some insights from this. Happy reading!!!
@Janz
**Lead image source:** taken from google
A words to ponder: What can you say to sir Marc?
I’m gonna write this article now. Actually, this title were already in my drafts for couple of days already because I was thinking on what to write about this man knowing that I’m not yet that knowledgeable about the contributions of this man in the crypto world. Also, I’m afraid and ashamed if ever sir Marc can read this and I may not be able to meet his expectations and also the expectations of other writers here in read.cash.
When @whitney123 published an article about her thoughts on sir @MarcDeMesel and how he contributed a lot in the crypto world and helped many people who also aims to accumulate cryptos in the last statement of her article entitled, "**Sir Marc De Mesel as an Eye Opener to All: Legend of Crypto****".** She said, **What can you say about sir Marc?** https://read.cash/@whitney123/sir-marc-de-mesel-as-an-eye-opener-to-all-legend-of-crypto-c53abc78
Her last statement challenged me also to write an article about what I know and what I can say to this man who is the **Legend of Crypto** as what @whitney123 called him. And yes, I must say he really is a **LEGEND**.
***So why did I put this in my drafts for couple of days?***
It’s because after I’ve read Whitney’s article and was being challenged, I researched first about who is this @MarcDeMesel and how does he brought greater impact towards some people who admires and looked up for him especially those who receives tips from him and to the crypto world.
When I joined read.cash and noise cash, I never knew that there were people behind this platforms who contributed a lot and who helped users earn a lot too. When I did my research, I found out that sir Marc was ranked as the number one tipper here in read.cash along with the tippers next to him like @CryptoMax @Ellie @Pantera @ErdoganTalk and a lot more whom I must say contributes a lot in this community and helped a lot of writers and users to this platforms.
Knowing that, I started to be curious about sir Marc because for you to know I’ve been a user in this platform for 3 months now but I was just active in this platform just recently I guess it’s 2 weeks ago when I started to be active here again because I was really motivated by my friend @Zhyne06 in her earnings when she continues to be active here. Of course I’ll admit that I’m here because of money, to earn and accumulate bch for my son’s needs also at least I could earn here little by little. But, while I’m enjoying here, I met lots of generous people and heard a lot about the name **MARC DE MESEL** which is very famous here, of course I wanted to know him either because I’m part of this community now.
That is why after I bumped into Whitney’s article, I found that sir Marc had changed a lot of lives here in read.cash and in noise cash as well especially to @whitney123 itself. He helped a lot of users who does hard works and also those who contributed to become BCH a successful crypto.
For me, to find more information about sir Marc and to know more about him I did a researched about him and when I did that I was bumped into the article of @ralak wherein he featured there in one of his article entitled **Interview of Marc De Mesel "The Magnanimous"** https://read.cash/@ralak/interview-of-marc-de-mesel-the-magnanimous-98201816
In that article of @ralak , I found out many things of who really sir Marc is and I was so amazed by that because as a newbie here of course I wanted to know also who are those people behind this community and sir Marc was one of that people behind this platform read.cash.
So, in this article I want to share what I found out about sir Marc. Well, I knew most users here knows this man especially those old users already. Therefore, this is for those newbies here that wanted to know about how generous this man is and as one who gave funds for the BCH community.
**For the newbies here in read.cash, here it is:** *(this info here that I want to share is what I’ve read in the article of* @ralak *as what I’ve mentioned above, well you can checked it your own too)*
Marc De Mesel: *(highlighting some of the things about him)*
one who funds for the BCH Community specifically this read.cash and the top supporter of the said platform along with the noise cash too
investor in the cryptocurrencies and stocks
a youtuber as well (you can checked him in Youtube through this link 👉 https://youtube.com/c/MarcDeMesel123
he grew up in Belgium, Europe specifically the northern part of Belgium called Flanders
he's being inspired by many ***(I'm already one of them too)*** but sir Marc was being inspired by some of the big entrepreneurs like Bill Gates, Elon Musk etc, and to some of the philosophers, liberal thinkers and economists ***(you may checked the full details of this in the article of Ralak as what I've mentioned above)***
he is an aspiring father too
In that interview also which was featured in Ralak's article, sir Marc was being asked about what advice can he gave to those people in the third countries which made bitcoin cash as a medium of payment to be successful in the crypto community. Then sir Marc answered this way, ***"To be successful in crypto world it is simple, but hard to do. Just save your coins, they will likely go up a lot in value, however most sell them long before that to cover bills of all kind. Try to have more coins over time by offering valuable things to people and asking a competitive price for it. You can be active in many cryptos as marketer or coder or build a business on top of the coin, or write for it on read.cash. Careful for the many scams, and learn how to secure your coins safely, as it is the wild west of the internet with many idiocy and thefts happening."***
With that, I realized and became more motivated to somehow do my best and to keep me going in reaching goals in life like to save more bch for the future because we don't know bch will hikes a bigger value and with it may somehow in some way changes our lives. Sir Marc is right, it's simple to think and say that but it's definitely hard. For me, it's hard to save your accumulated coins by writing articles here in read.cash and by posting random stuffs in noise cash because I had a son that needs me financially for his daily needs and yet I don't have that regular or stable job. That is why sometimes I can get and withdraw my bch because of that, so it's hard for me to save it. But as long as I can, I will save more of it and hold it in case the value of bch will goes higher and that would be much better.
**Closing Thoughts**
I must say that I'm very thankful that I was being introduced to this platform by @Zhyne06 and because of that I've encountered lots of articles and learned a lot from it. Then, with the article of @whitney123 , I've known the most generous man in the crypto world specially to the BCH community. With that also, I became more motivated to help in the success of bch by helping also other users here to learned something from my articles and be able to give upvotes to some random users here in read.cash.
To sir @MarcDeMesel, my infinite thanks to you since you've helped me to somehow understands the world of cryptos. @whitney123 called you the L**EGEND OF CRYPTO** and @ralak called you **THE MAGNANIMOUS.**
Now, allow me to call you "**THE MAGNIFICENT HERO OF THE CRYPTO WORLD."**
It's your turn now, what title can you give to sir Marc based on what you know about him?
***(You are free to comment down it here. )***
Hopefully to my readers, I somehow imparted knowledge to all of you. Happy reading!!!
@Janz
Special thanks to the upvoters of my previous article entitled **Playful Destiny (Mapaglarong Tadhana)** @wrabbiter @CryptoMax @Ruffa . My heartfelt thanks to all of you. https://read.cash/@Janz/playful-destiny-mapaglarong-tadhana-9aa14336
***Lead image source:*** *taken from one of the videos of sir Marc in youtube*
Playful Destiny (Mapaglarong Tadhana)
In this article, I just wanted to share a story of a girl specifically a mother which really moved me so much and ends up with some reflections and realizations that life brought us.
Last Saturday, this story entitled "Miracle inside the Prison" which is narrated and being portrayed in the **MAGPAKAILANMAN** show of GMA 7 TV network were really moved me into tears. Why? because after seeing this story of a girl I realized lot of things in life knowing also that this said story is not fictional it was really happening to someone's life.
To start with, I'm going to narrate first the story for you also to understand why is it I'm saying of a "Playful Destiny" or in tagalog "Mapaglarong Tadhana"
***The story is all about a loving daughter who became a victim of abuse as she was a sex worker inside the prison with her mind solely set on earning money for her family.***
This girl in the story is a single mom wherein she got pregnant at her early age but the father of his child betrayed her also and left her with another girl. That is why this is girl also were being blamed by her older sister about their state of living as if she was the reason why they suffers that way. When their house and their small business which the "karinderya" burnt out their lives or the lives of her family became miserable and someone should earn money from them since her father also has a condition and cannot do some works. When someone invited her to have some work, she automatically grabbed that opportunity not knowing that it was to become a prostitute inside the prison. When she knew about it, she had no other options to get out in tat situation because she was already being threatened. Of course, she doesn't want that her family will get hurt, so she continues that kind of work. While being the sex worker inside the prison, she also became the eye of the guy she worked for. She serves as the eye outside the prison in the illegal business of that guy. She can't do anything about it because as I've said she was being threatened and her family's lives were at risks at the same time her life too. Yes, she was able to support her family financially especially her son. This worked of hers just stop when the wife of the guy he worked for inside the prison which is the "Mayor" caught them and that serves as her scapegoat from that kind of work.
But being the prostitute inside the prison really brought her to a bigger problem because she got pregnant and when her family knows about her work and that she's pregnant with her second baby, she was being humiliated by her own family especially her older sister. By that, she was being treated coldly by her family until such time that she gave birth already. She again decided to work, and that work is to go abroad in UAE because she was being recruited to become a saleslady in a mall at UAE. Again, she grabbed that opportunity and we she git to the UAE, her worked is not to become a saleslady in a mall but again to become a prostitute abroad for the second time. In other words, she was again scammed by the recruiter. She were being sold to be a prostitute in UAE and she can't escape again in that work because her passport and visa were being hold by the manager. So, she continues that way not telling her family that she failed again and that she was again a loser. she tried to get out again in that situation and foe her to be able to get out in that, she must pay the manager with the amount that the manager paid to her recruiter. So, she able to get out in that situation but she was already overstaying in UAE because her passport and visa is not with her. So she just continue her life abroad because of she had a family that needs her financially. She was able to get another work their as janitress in the mall but she was already an illegal immigrant there, if the Arab Police will know that she will definitely goes to prison because of overstaying.
While working as janitress in a mall, he meet a guy who is a very rich Arab guy which owns the mall the she worked for. That guy likes her and dated her until the guy offers her to be his wife. And, yes she agreed to be married with that guy. The guy were very kind and respectful and is willing to be married with her. When she her landlady about that marriage, ***(the landlady were Filipino)*** she was being reported already with the Arab police and because of that she was being caught and she never saw again the guy that wants to marry her. Therefore, that luck of her to be marry by a kind, respectful and rich Arab guy were not realized because of that Filipino landlady that reported her to the police. After that, she was being departed again to the Philippines with the help of the embassy. That was the time that her family knows of her work in abroad. Again she was being scolded, and heard hurtful words coming from her family. That time she explains everything and told her parents about her unlucky life that she doesn't want it to happen to her but destiny brought her to that kind of situations and she can't do anything about it because she was being threatened and has no power to escape from it. After that confession of hers, she felt free and that her family already understand her from everything she did in her life which is not really her intentions to do so.
***Actually, there were still lots of happening in her life but I will just highlight this part that I narrate to all of you because this is where my realizations in life being focused.***
**REALIZATIONS...**
After I watched the story of this girl, I'm really ashamed of myself questioning of why life is unfair where in fact my experienced shall I say is much way better than of this girl. I didn't experienced to be sexually abused because of a particular situation that you can't get out. I didn't experienced to be betrayed, I didn't experienced to be humiliated by my own family. Then, why would I question myself that I was unlucky knowing that there are someone that are very unlucky than me which risking lives to be able to provide something to their loved ones, battling to survive. But rather I realized that I'm so lucky because I didn't experienced what this girl experienced. If ever I was in her situation probably I'm not still breathing now.
Another thing that I realized is that, we should not judge those people who engaged into prostitutions because we don't know what the story behind of why they did that kind of work where in fact there are lots of decent work in this world and why they still chooses to be in that situation. We don't know each other stories. ***That's why let's avoid to be more judgmental because in the first place we are not a Judge, only Judge can do judgements (kidding aside).*** Well my point is, let's just spread kindness to everyone for us also to help our community be at peace and not to become the negative source of energy that will explodes the whole society we currently lived in.
Again, let's be thankful that we are not experiencing such worst situation like the girl in the story. Let's not judge those who were into that kind of situations because we don't know their stories as well. **Instead, let's spread positivity to the people around us. That would be of great help towards peacefulness of our society.**
Hopefully, I imparted again a lesson, reflections, realizations to all of you.
Happy reading!!!
@Janz
I would like to mention again those persons who upvoted my article **Learning to Write is Learning to Think** @wrabbiter @Bjorn @Mictorrani @Caroline17 @kingofreview @Ruffa @Eunoia @bmjc98@Jane ***THANK YOU AGAIN FOR YOU HELPED ME TO BE MORE MOTIVATED TO WRITE.*** https://read.cash/@Janz/learning-to-write-is-learning-to-think-08701980
Also, to all my sponsors especially to my new added sponsor today @Jane **Thank you so much. God Bless all of you!!!**
Another sponsorship added in my list... Yeyyy thank yo sis @Jane for the support.
Highly appreciated.
Learning to Write is Learning to Think
Have you encounter the feeling that you wanted to write an article but you don't know what to write? You wanted to learn writing an article but you don't know how to start? The feeling that you already had in your mind the title of an article but still you don't know how to start writing it. Well, in my case I always felt this way. They said it's called the "writer's block".
In the article that @Jane had shared in this platform about the writer's block. She shares different tips on how to somewhat unblock the so called "writer's block". Her article really were very informative especially to those beginners like me who also suffers from "writer's block" thing.
One thing that I realized after reading Jane's article is that, **writing is a matter of learning what and how to write at the same time learning to think.** Not just thinking alone but thinking critically. In that case, if we surpassed the hardship of thinking how to write and thinking what to write then probably we could write an articles easily. If we really wanted to create an article that can catch the reader's attention then it's always a matter of **WRITING, THINKING and LEARNING.** These three were very relevant and correlated to each other because if we only write without thinking what to write that can give some sort of beneficial learning and lessons to the readers then were not learning at all. ***Were just writing some sorts of nonsense articles.*** If we really wanted to write an article, we must make sure that we can give some insights to the readers, some motivational thoughts, some lessons that they can gain from our articles and at least the readers can somehow relates and reflects from our articles. We must always make sure that the readers, after reading our articles they may somehow leave a smile on their faces or somehow they will get some realizations from it.
***In other words,*** if we are writing an article we make sure that not only us can learned from it but also the readers itself. At least we are helping them in some way, helping them learn from our experiences, thoughts, realizations and other things that may helped them improved also their writings and to help them think also what to write.
All of this things that I said is what my learnings while reading and exploring to some articles here in this platform just like the articles of @Eybyoung @bmjc98 @Jane @Ruffa @JonicaBradley @CryptoMax @Macronald and a lot more. I guess most of the writers here were publishing an articles that gives benefits to its readers. I'm not yet seeing or being bumped into a nonsense articles because most of what I've encountered here were truly benefits the readers like me. These are the things that I'm thankful of while joining this read.cash platform and being part of this platform because I already started to love writing and I always learn something new from here. **That is why, I really tried my best to write an articles that can also benefits to my readers because I knew in myself that I'm still on the process of learning what and how to write and at the same time learning to think.** Also, I'm not even sure of my grammars either so I'm still improving it at least I can write an articles that somehow grammatically correct also. I'm not into a perfect article but at least I could published a good articles here in read.cash.
**"I write because I don't know what I think until I read what I say."**
I've seen this quote in google, and this really states that writing is learning and thinking is learning as well. Both writing and thinking is a process of learning that writers should and must have. It's always a process and eventually we will learn from it and that will help us to be a good writers here in read.cash.
WRITE, THINK and LEARN.
Hopefully you've understand what my point is in this article. Happy reading!!!
@Janz
My infinite thanks again to some users who upvoted my previous articles @Ruffa @Cineholic @kingofreview @dziefem @Eunoia @Eybyoung. More powers to all of you and thank you thank you.
You may also checked my previous articles:
~ **You are just Demotivated not Lazy** https://read.cash/@Janz/you-are-just-demotivated-not-lazy-27abb9e3
~ ****Health is Wealth: Priorities**** https://read.cash/@Janz/health-is-wealth-priorities-5982cf82
~ ****Losing Parents: Grief and Loss**** https://read.cash/@Janz/losing-parents-grief-and-loss-2ac48239
~ ****When I thought I'm Lost**** https://read.cash/@Janz/when-i-thought-im-lost-eb832b43
You are just Demotivated not Lazy
Have you felt being demotivated in doing something? Like you were being tired in achieving things because you weren't able to be treated the same way like others. The feeling that you wanted to stop from doing on something. The feeling that you weren't good enough. The feeling that you were such a loser and your less important than others. **As if you were very tired and lazy in creating something but to think that you weren't lazy, you were just DEMOTIVATED.**
**Demotivation,** I must say is I guess the worst feeling ever knowing that you will feel as if you have no direction at all. You don't know what to do, where to go and where to start. It's kind of hard for us to feel this way, being demotivated.
I just want to expressed my experienced on this just recently because I was kind of demotivated in some things.
4 days ago, I published an article here in read.cash but wasn't seen by the bot or the bot doesn't like it I don't know the reason actually. Then I published again, I did published 3 articles recently but all of it wasn't visited by the bot. Because of that I really felt demotivated and I even questioned myself if what's wrong with my articles why is it not upvoted by the bot. I'm not saying that I'm really good at writing because I knew I'm not, also I'm not even sure if my articles had no grammatical errors since I'm not that best writer though. I'm just aspiring myself to write because of course I wanted to accumulate or earn bch. I'm a hypocrite if I will say that I'm not into money, because I did my best to write article here for money. Because all of us needs it, I don't think no one needs money today specially we are facing this pandemic of course we will find different ways to earn and grab opportunities if there is even just your earning a little amount. That is why when I knew this platform, I really tried to write articles even if I knew in myself that I'm not a good writer. **I can write, yes that's a fact.** But, I cannot assure myself and to the readers that I wrote a perfect articles which has no grammatical errors.
***Getting back with the thoughts....***
Yes, I did published 3 articles recently and all of them where not upvoted by the bot. I really felt sad and hurt especially when I seen others that are being upvoted with bigger amount. I must say, I compares my articles to others which is not the right thing to do since it just helps me felt more demotivated. Since, I was very attached with my articles, I lend my time and effort in writing all of those and then it wasn't tipped by the bot that's the reason that I almost quit publishing articles. I'm totally demotivated. One thing also that I realized is that, I lose motivation in writing because my goal was only to earn and not to enjoy writing. My bestfriend told me, @Zhyne06 if I will quit. I said, "NO". Yes, I said that but the truth is I almost do it, to quit because I also felt tired and lazy writing knowing my articles wasn't upvoted by the bot. But, when said don't quit because there are many cases and lots of users here in read.cash that also experienced what I also experienced and even some of them experienced more worst than me. Then they've just continue writing until they already earned big now. I was somehow enlightened.
Then, I've also seen and read the article of @Eybyoung about **Reasons Why We Are Losing Interest In Writing And How To Avoid It****.** https://read.cash/@Eybyoung/reasons-why-we-are-losing-interest-in-writing-and-how-to-avoid-it-771fb729
I was really moved by this article of hers, since this serves us my eye opener on the negative thoughts that I had in my mind. I fully understood everything and I promise to myself that I will never quit and never stops writing here in read.cash. I was just being blinded my negative things like being here in read.cash to just earn money where in facts there are lots benefits that we can gained here such us meetinf new friends, you can express your opinions, thoughts and experiences here without any judgements by anyone, also you gained knowledge from the different users through their articles. These are just some of the benefits that I can have here in this platform. Aside from that, after I've read the article of @Eybyoung I also learned something. That is to set a goal, like to earn 1bch for me not to get demotivated and also to avoid comparing my articles to others, to not expect an upvotes from the bot for me not to get hurt and not to lose hopes.
In addition, I will never quit because I also admires those people that keeps upvoting my articles even if the bot wasn't upvoting it. Like to @Eunoia that is always keeping me stay here because he's loyal also in upvoting my articles.
That is why, feeling demotivated? Not already but instead inspired more and motivated more.
**The feels of quitting and to stop publishing articles??? It's still a NO NO.** But, instead I will posts more articles here in read.cash whatever comes to my mind and to somehow gives some inspirations to others too.
"I'm not LAZY, I was just demotivated."
Hopefully you've somehow learn a lesson or insights from this article. Happy reading!!!
@Janz
**You may also checked my previous articles:**
~ **Health is Wealth: Priorities** https://read.cash/@Janz/health-is-wealth-priorities-5982cf82
~ ****Losing Parents: Grief and Loss**** https://read.cash/@Janz/losing-parents-grief-and-loss-2ac48239
~ ****When I thought I'm Lost**** https://read.cash/@Janz/when-i-thought-im-lost-eb832b43
~ ****The Impact of Social Medias nowadays...**** https://read.cash/@Janz/the-impact-of-social-medias-nowadays-62c64af5
~ ****A Warrior Baby**** https://read.cash/@Janz/a-warrior-baby-006c7474
~ ****The Reality Behind an Online Teacher**** https://read.cash/@Janz/the-reality-behind-an-online-teacher-8739cc45
~ ****I hide my Pain with a Smile**** https://read.cash/@Janz/i-hide-my-pain-with-a-smile-4104ca32
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