@Janz
Never Waste Your Time proving your Value
**Have you experienced to always tried your best beyond your capability just to prove on something?** The feeling of being pressured because of the people that surrounds you and that has high expectations on you. Spending your whole time proving to someone that you are good enough and that you aren't weak. The big question there is that, **Are you happy of what you're doing? Are you happy proving yourself to someone that you are good enough, that you are intelligent enough, that you can be on top all the time and that your worthy enough for them.** When I was on my elementary days until my high school days , I always accelerate in the class. I always had medal at the end of the school year. I've been always sent to some District Contest for some Math challenges as representative of my school. In other words, I was an achiever back then. Therefore, in that days I always had this pressure in me every end of school year. I've been pressured to make sure that my name will always be on the lists of honors because I knew that my parents already expects me to be on that lists and also our neighborhood also expected me to excel all the time since they've always seen me as achiever. That is why, what I did back then is to always proved them that I will always be an achiever up until college. My mind were set into the thought that I will always have to prove something to them because I knew if I can't they had something to say especially the neighborhood who had always something to say even though your already doing good enough still they will push you to your limits and said something not pleasing to hear. I don't really know what's wrong with them doing that way. I just remembered one time, our neighbor told me that she already knew that I will also graduate as Cum Laude in college because I became the Valedictorian in High School. Well, with that I was being pressured though. I am pressured because what if I will not be able to become a Cum Laude as what she said then she must say something not good to me already just like I wasn't able to become what she expected me to achieved because I already had a boyfriend, a kind of thing like that. But then, what made me realized is when my father told me that **I don't have something to prove to them as their parents because what they only want is for me to finished a degree even though I will not be able to graduate with color as long as I finished it and hold a degree it was really fulfilling for them.** With what my father said, the feeling of pressure from others statements were somehow vanished because I thought why would I make myself pressure because of what others said to me where in fact my own family didn't pressure me anyway. So, what I did is of course to finished my college and graduate with a Bachelor's degree. With that I made my parents happy and proud at the same time. Another thing is that, when I was taking the LET (Licensure Examination for Teachers) I was again felt pressured. Pressured again because my neighborhood expects me to pass the LET because they said ahhh I was smart they knew I can able to pass it. Of course, I knew what my capability is and I also knew that I haven't focused on reviewing for that said exam. So again, I had this in my mind that what if I can't pass the exam they will again look some reasons, negative reasons to be exact of why I didn't make it. Luckily, I able to passed the LET. So, I did expect that my neighborhood would have nothing to say. But, since I'm pregnant while taking the exam. There is this one neighborhood that said, *"I able to passed the exam because I'm pregnant that time, she said it's because of the baby that brought me luck to pass the said exam."* **Really**? **What the h*ck?** This is the time that I realized things. Never waste your time proving you value. I realized that whatever you do, even your doing good and even your proving them wrong still people had something wrong to say to you. They will always find reasons to say negative on you. So, why are you wasting your time proving them that your valuable enough and that your worthy enough. Right? So, stop it now. Well, it's okay to prove them wrong for them also to realized things if and only they will. Also to let them see that what they said were not right. But, doing it your whole life I guess it's not good also because in the first place we will not be happy with that kind of life. Like to always prove ourselves to them.
So, again **PROVING OURSELVES TO ANYONE THAT WERE WORTHY AND VALUABLE ENOUGH IS JUST A WASTE OF TIME.** It's a waste of time especially to those people that had nothing to do but to criticized us. **I'm really thinking right now,** Why are they doing that, like to criticized and to always pulls us down instead of helping us make better and lifting us up. Why? What the h*ll is wrong with this kind of people? Do you have idea? ***Feel free to comment down your thoughts :)*** Happy reading! @Janz I just want to thank again the upvoters of my previous article entitled **Make Today A Productive Day** **@Jane** @TengoLoTodo @Bloghound @Cineholic and of course @TheRandomRewarder. Thank you Thank you so much from bottom of my heart. You were one of the reasons that I keep on writing here. God Bless! https://read.cash/@Janz/make-today-a-productive-day-a41e1863
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Labad, unsay labot sa bata sa sulod. Bugtok jud ng mga taw na ingana ba. Mga inggitera sanglit way maabot. Pa bright unta pud sila. Di bitaw, joke ra hahaha.
hahaha maka pungot bitaw gurl, baw naunsa ang kalibutan hahaha
Baw , kalibutan japon daghan lng feeling perfect haha. Pero ada urui, focus tas naay salig nato bisan d nato kailangan e prove atung kaugalingon.
mao jud gurl, duhhh oroy ba ana nila, ang improtante atong ginikanan wa ta gi pressure
Excited lage silas sweldon nato gurl na milyon kada buwan hahaha
hahahaha, mga inggetera ra lage na sila ahahaha
The people who trust us never need us to prove and the people who don't trust us will never accept whatever we do. So just stop proving them thay your are good to them.
Exactly, those people that has always insecurities in every success we had has always something wrong to say...
It's very astounding how little some of the most awesome people think of themselves. As much as I used to like to be "liked" by everyone, I'm finally at a point where it's truly not necessary! If people don't compliment you, compliment yourself. Good afternoon, sis!
Exactly sis, important thing is that we don't need their approval anyway, we don't need their compliments as well as long as were doing the right thing and working hard to be successful with just ignoring their negative thoughts to us... By the way good afternoon too sis :)
Well some people want to tend to appear smarter even if that requires you bringing down the esteem of others, and this is bad, if you can't encourage me or bring constructive criticism to help me move forward, then just be silent. Great article dear.
Yes thank you for appreciating my article. I don't really know of what's wrong with this people why are they choosing to make others lives miserable in some way. Why are they not just shutting down their mouth when they had nothing good to say.
Very well said, miss. In my age right now, I'm starting to ignore what people think of my capacity. I just let them think what they want to think.
yes that’s the best thing to do for us to be happy too
Korek!
I also questioned the same thing when people are dragging me down especially my relatives .but a certain event change everything and from that moment , I became real and stand up on my own , fighting for what I believe and proving them wrong , I just let my achievements shuts their talkative mouth.
That was really sad knowing that the one who tried to pull you down are your relatives instead of helping you reach your dreams and they’re doing that.
Oo nga po ampangit po diba .Iisang dugo ang nananalaytay sa amin tas ganun. Nakahakbang lang ng isa pakiramdam nila antaas taas na nila tas ikaw inaapak apakan ka nalang. Pero hinahayaan ko nlaang wala naman po ako mapapala sa kanila.
Naku hirap niyan, imbis support sana ang makukuha ehhh mangungutya. Tama ginawa mo prove them wrong to shut their mouth pero not your whole life na your doing that kasi nakaka pagod yan, kaya tama rin hayaan mo nalang wala naman silang mapapala ikaw yung may mapapala kasi naging inspirasyon mo tuloy to work harder.
Opo