Normalize Asking Favors Nicely
I know that the phrase "no man is an island" became a trite, but the thought of it will always remain. Some people may still be holding onto this saying, especially those who think they cannot work things out alone.
And admit it or not, there are moments in our lives that we needed someone, whether through their moral support, financial assistance, or we had to listen to their suggestions. Also, we should not forget the small things and favors we asked from them. Until now, the cycle continues.
But one of the main problems we face nowadays is the way people ask for favors.
Throughout the years of my existence, I met different people. Since I loved pleasing everyone before, I got to be asked for favors – small or big. It was when I realized that people have different ways of requesting for something. But on behalf of that, we should normalize asking favors nicely and in a good way.
I met people who ask favors in a direct-to-the-point way.
They will not say flowery words to you before requesting for something. According to them, they do not want to sugar-coat their true intention in talking or visiting you. They avoid getting labeled as "only shows kindness & sweetness when they need something", so they end up just being direct to the point.
There are some who start the conversation with a "How are you?"
Some of my friends who also asked favors from me tend to ask me how my life's going. They try to begin by communicating with me before finally telling me what they want. I can notice someone who's going to ask for a favor, especially if the person only messaged me randomly.
And yes, there are people who want to sound superior, or that you should not say "NO" to them whenever they ask for favors from you.
It is the kind of person I feel annoyed with. To be honest, most of them are my relatives. They feel like they are superior and they can intimidate me, so I cannot refuse them. I used to be afraid to decline requests from older people before, but I just realized that it's not about being intimidated or afraid to say "no." I should look at their way of asking favors from me.
I am not a selfish person. I have this mindset that whenever I can give, I will. But what I hate is people trying to force me to give something even though I already said I have nothing to hand over. It is not my obligation to offer everything I have, and I hope people would learn to ask favors nicely.
I admit, there are times when I can do the favor but I choose to decline, especially when the person's way of requesting offended me.
And no, I will not apologize for doing that and I will still do the same thing every time, until people would learn the importance of speaking and asking favors nicely. I don't need to hear the "please" word, but all I want to read & hear is being sincere and asking in a pleasant manner.
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Article # : <306> Category : <Personal Blogs> Author : <charmingcherry08> Posting Date : <August 19, 2022>
Most of the time, I am the one who asks favor kaya guilty ako jan hehehe pero I ask favors nicely naman and I make sure na hindi busy yung tao.