My Child(ren) Is Not My Investment

Honestly, nakakataba ng puso makabasa ng article at mindset na ganito. Not every parent lalo dito sa Pinas na magsasabing hindi retirement plan ang anak nila. Like its great joy if they let their children pay back but not totally for a lifetime na dapat puro anak na nila bahala at kapag nahirapan ibigay ang amount eh susumbatan na ng kung ano ano. Hayy I'm just glad that some parents already made a difference of cutting that bad culture.

sana in the next generation, hindi na ganyan yung mindset ng ibang parents na mostly ginawang investment yung mga anak nila

I hope I can have that kind of freedom but when my parents gets old, nobody will take care of them. I don't want them to be left out dying in their bed... They took care of me with all they can so I will do the same thing😁

That's correct... we chose to have children

I am the youngest in the fam, but I am glad that my parents didn't inculcate that kind of mindset to all of my siblings. They even rarely ask for anything from my siblings. As they would just say, they'll be waiting to those who would want to give them something. Hehe

Naalala ko nung nag aaral palang ako ng college..palaging sinusumbat sa akin ng nanay ko yung nga gastos nila sa pag papaaral sa akin...partida, scholar akp hanggang 4th year college..

It's parent's obligation diba na bigyan ng magandang kinabukasan ang mga anak (kung saan ang makakaya)...kaya naisip ko nun, anak ba ang tingin sa akin ng nanay ko?...don't get me wrong, naalala ko lang nung mabasa ko yung article mo sis..

It's the same here, my friend. I detest hearing parents say "After all I have done for you." Most people see their children as investment that should yield dividends for them forgetting that these children have a life to live as well and choices to make. Whatever a child does for the parents should be out of the child's free will not because that child is obligated to. We have heaped so much responsibilities on children while depriving them of life. It's not fair at all.

Ateee. Sorry in advance, napindot ko 'yung downvote. Aigooo~ pero okay naman na siguro? Hehe.

Anyways~ same to u, Ate. Our parents didn't obliged me to do this and that like help them out ba especially financially. But, I can see and feel na kailangan nila 'yung tulong ko that's why i decided to take part with some of our needs. Though, di naman sa lahat but since mas may kinikita kasi ako is minsan nadadagdagan yung gastos na I need fo shoulder. And, there's this one thing that I adore them lalo na si Mama. They didn't see me as an investment kasi kung oo, siguro ako na pumapasan ng lahat. Glad that that's not what is happening now. Mas gusto pa din nila na may kinikita sila to support our need but sadly, nagbabago na si Papa. Parang ayaw nang magtrabaho since nagkasakit s'ya before. Nakaka-stress lang din isipin na para bang lumaki agad ulo n'ya pero pinipilit na lang namin intindihin to avoid conflicts.

Tama! we should not dictate them

Luckily, hindi ganyan ang parents ko. Hinahayaan nila kaming magkakapatid sa kung anong gusto namin gawin, ang sa kanila lang ay ang pinatapos kami ng pag-aaral nasa sa amin na daw kung tutulong kami sa kanila. Kaya never kaming na pressure sa kanila, sa mga Marites na kapitbahay lang talaga. 😂

This is the same thing most African parents think and believe. They just see children as an investment therefore they wait earnestly for the returns in the future. it was never the child's idea or plan for him to be born therefore parents should not make them feel indebted to them.

Let's break this toxic culture. Yung ginagawang investment yung mga anak. Bakit parang kailangan amg suffer ng mga bata ng dahil lang iniluwal sila? Most of the kids nowadays sacrifice their dreams para karagahin lahat ng obligasyon na hindi naman sa kanila in the first place. Di dapat inuobliga yung mga anak na magbigay. Dapat kusa nila itong ginaagwa.

Sad reality of life, may mga gnyan parents talaga na parang utang na loob pa ng anak na pinalaki sila at pinag aral may mga anak din naman na after all the sacrifices ng magulang eh binalewala na lang din nila. So dapat eh wag din namn natin kalimutan un mga parents natin pero wag naman umabot sa point na wala ng natira sa sarili mo. Like you mentioned here you cannot live in oeace knowing na your first family is struggling. Dapat ganun ang mga anak.

I was also writing an article about this topic haha. Guess I have to delete that draft tomorrow. I agree with everything you said and it is nice to see parents who think like you.

Yan din palagi sinasabi ni papa samin. Hindi nyo ginusto na isilang sa Mundo..

I hope this would be all the mindset of all people. As a child its hard to deal everything especially when you feel already the pressure of our parents as well as the surroundings. Our parents has a vital role in making their child not to get pressure by the society because everyone has its own timeline.

Sana all same mindset.. Dati nga sinabi ko kela mama na kung pwdblng pumili ng parents, d ko sla pipiliin kc hndi marunong mag family planning at kmi nag susuffer.. Lol.. Although they don't take us as investments, as a responsible child, I want to pay them back.. It's not their choice.. But my own.. Coz I don't want to see them suffering.. Especially that they are getting older..

Same sis. My child is not an investment. Same with you I and my partner are doing our best to give our child's needs and we're planning for his better future.

What comes around goes around. Some parents set high standards to their children and they're suffocating them to do this and that. Some parents can't blame why their children want to stay away from them because in the first place, they're showing them about this utang na loob to be paid of. I am just glad my parent's were not like that. The reason why I want to support them and take care of them because they cared and love me unconditionally. Parents who loves their children unconditionally without looking for return were surely be taken care of by their children than those parents who raise their child because they want something from them.

Family is a choice. Some people can't have children due to health issues. They adopt orphans as their children. Parents must take responsibility for raising their children.

You are a responsible mom by doing your daughter a favor of securing your retirement plan and saving up for her future. It would be nice to see children reaching for their dreams without worrying if their parents at home has something to eat or meds to take. I think we should stop romanticizing this Filipino culture. If we are already caught at it, if we are already here and our parents needs support from us, we should support them. But let us make sure that our kids won't have to do the same.