Should there be: "a third party?"

My dear friend, the story of this movie was interesting, and I think it was an exaggeration that this girl asked her friend to be her husband's wife for 72 hours. I totally agree with you, the couple should be able to solve their own problems, and a third party with the wrong advice may make the situation worse between the couple.

In my opinion the marital relationship is the relationship of person that's why the third should not interfer no matter whoever he be. Either girl friends or boy friend

If everyone is like me ehn,even while we court I will never talk about my boyfriend to anyone not even my family 😂,so I will marry I will now start such rubbish act. I hate to tell people something I know is peculiar to my life because no advise you give is good to me. Even within my family they know me so well that if my sister offend me I will tell her not reporting her to anyone and likewise me,I hate to be reported to anyone because I see it as third party

Well, I think there's no escaping having a "third party", eventually. There have been so many cases where any one of married couples, decides to go out of their way to seek advice from the ones they respect. It could be their parents, grandparents, close friends, or any religious leader. Or, in some special cases where one side of the involved party - usually the wife, is being maltreated, or abused; they tend to want to leave everything to God as opposed to them using their common sense. (But, that's not what we're dealing with here!). :)

I feel that when the going gets rough, and nothing seems to work in the marriage it is advisable to draw from the wisdom of the people who've treaded that path. It's all about wisdom, really. About who needs to apply the right wisdom to carefully handle the matter, and sometimes that can also mean seeking help - counsel, in order to save his/her marriage. (That's if they are willing to let things take a turn for the better).

To me, I still believe a third party should be allowed. Why do I say this? Anyone allowed to settle misunderstanding in a relationship is a third party and that can be a marriage or relationship counselor who you can run to for help and they are willing to help you by not disclosing your secret to anyone except they take permission from you. Confidentiality is part of the rules of a counselor though.

Also, having a third party in your relationship should be done wisely because there are those who are ready to destroy your home and one needs to watch out and be careful.

It's really a matter of luck to have such a friend. There are no such good friends now.

I agree with you too. If there is a third person in the life after marriage, there is a breakdown in the relationship between husband and wife. Relationships get stronger when they solve all the problems themselves without leaving a third person

To me third party is a big NO for me except it's a case of elderly person...but still NO. For the examples of agemates, it's very are to see people that are considerate with good conscience not to hard fuel to the burning fire.

To the courting or mere Relationship saga; this I've seen and I've been a part of so many of them giving strick advices. There's one lady that usually runs to me whenever there's problem in her relationship and I don't fail to tell her the whole truth, I've told he to quit several time but I can't blame her...love is blind. The Relationship is terrible, her guy has access to her social handles and any unfamiliar "Hi" she collect beating

I agree with your point of view involvement of 3rd parties is harmful in some delicate situations just like marriage issues

Is there anyway you can be in a marriage without having a third party? I don't think that's possible. The person may be your friend, your parents or even your pastor. Either ways you still need someone that you can voice out to when things gets out of hand.

This discussion here is well-timed, Miss Ella. Many couples are in this frightful situation and I am saddened by the thought of it. It may not be relatable to me because I am single myself, and maybe my take on this won't matter as I only will be hypothetically speak on this.

This marital issue should be privately handled by the involved couple themselves. They need to thread it if they intend to save their marriage. But, when things go beyond the manageable, they need interventions. The wisdom coming from those who stood the test and most importantly, the divine intervention.

It is not like what you think as most of new married people don't want to involve their parents in their private life but the parents themselves are asking people that could know something about your relationship like friends of husband or friends of wife by saying they only want to be assured that everything is fine and there they hear what we didn't expect them to hear about our life.

Oh I think there should be no third party. Problems should be solved by the couple themselves. Involving anyone either a family member or a friend cannot solve the issues but can make the situation more tough... btw article was outstanding and you have highlighted a very major issue of the society and one must discuss it.

Third parties are risky but I think we sometimes need them. That's why we need to choose carefully, it could be a marriage counselor and not a friend jealous of you and your husband without your knowledge waiting to pounce on your husband when you least expect it😂😂

I believe couples should d mature enough to settle their issues on their own. You need not involve a third-party. If you want say something, say it to your partner.

Having a third party in marriage maybe good for you especially if the third party is an elderly person. I believe even if the third party's marriage isn't perfect, the person may have some valuable advice to offer. Btw, I checked @VinceCharlie, your new sponsor. I really liked his content and subed. Thank you.

Why resort to that when you can hire a maid to do all the chores?

All the issues between you and your partner will have it's privacy, I mean I do not want to talked about my husband infront of my friends especially when we had a misunderstanding, but I do not want my bestfriend to be my husbands wife for just 72 hours haha that's quite an absurd one..

couples issues can be quite sensitive and one had to blthread carefully vwhrn giving marital advice as it is believed that they understoof each other more than others. Third party advice should always be either from the parents of the couples or a religious leader..... It's quite unfair to always cheat from one side without hearing from both sides. That's why a respectable figure is needed to bring both sides together

I agree with you. Couples ( husband and wife) are the one's who's responsible to eachother and specially to their relationship. Both of them must settle their misunderstanding by their own, as sometimes asking the suggestions from the third parties wouldn't help for their relationship. If both of them can't resolve their issues, the relationship has no chance to work well.

Hmm i think it depends on the third party mean what kind of person he/she is or the nature of that person if that person is sincere with us then there is a chance that we get a good advice or suggestion from 3rd party and also I completely agree with your point of view as there are some issues that need to be sorted out without the interfere of other's, I'm going for 50, 50% on both(lol)

I think there should be third person but a mature and sensible one if you add third party like her friend you just ruin your relationship.

You can be really close to some people that you can tell them almost anything. Perhaps sh needed someone to talk to and only her friends were available

I sincerely learnt a lot from this article. My view on this is that having a third party is wrong. Sometimes it triggers the matter and cause more havoc.