Dating and Academics.
A lot of people, especially students feel a relationship isn't for them. Some even think they can't combine both but I beg to differ. Well, this approach might not be one size fits all because as individuals, we should know ourselves better to know what works for us and what won't work for us. Some people get easily distracted and would never want to have anything to do with relationships of any kind and that's okay. Know yourself, that's the keyword.
Have you ever had a situation where you are writing an exam the next day and there was this complicated part you were trying to get over but as you were racking your head, a text message just came into your phone and it reads "I miss you. I wish you success tomorrow." How would that make you feel like a lady or guy in love? Confess hahaha... You would smile and it might be a fresh of breath air to some which would encourage them but to some, it might be a distraction and they won't be able to read anything again as they keep reading that text over and over again instead of the textbook.
Your academics and your relationship are both important and they both require your attention and seriousness. Who wouldn't want to have things going smoothly for them - having the best of grades while being in love with someone you love and who loves you back? If you are the type that needs to figure out how to balance both, then maybe you might find one or two things to learn from this.
This is life and a lot of things about life would want to get your attention. Things would drag you left and right but having the understanding of how to manage situations would put you at an advantage and that's what we need in life; to be in control of things while going after our goals.
Schedule:
This is the first thing I would recommend for anyone who wants to balance their academics with their relationship life. You need to plan out your schedule and be intentional about it. Allocate time for the things you need to do, starting with your lectures, assignments, eating time and a time with your partner. Put your partner in your schedule but you have to be committed to this schedule because it is easier to forget it when you get distracted with the butterflies in your tummy. Making time for your books as well as your partner would be appreciated by both.
What do you want to do during the day? Factor your partner into that equation. The truth is those who truly matter to you and those you matter to, creating a bit of time for them should not be a problem. Most people hide under being busy SOMETIMES when they are trying to avoid you. It's never about the length of time you spend with each other but about the quality of time you share together.
Most people say they are spending time together and when they are with each other, they pull out their phones and text others or play games. How do you even bond together? This problem might be an issue when the only thing both people share together is just bedmatics, nothing deeper... No daily chats, no sharing of gifts or even encouraging words.
Your love life shouldn't be a distraction for your education because if you and your partner are on the same page, with the same ambition to do something worthwhile in this life, then you both have all the time ahead of you after that important phase of education is over. Yes, work-life would be there but at least you would have each other to come back to. Your education is a strong basis except your line isn't about education and that's totally fine. Not everyone would go through that line.
When you are with your partner too, don't let your studies hinder your time together except there are things you needed help with regarding your studies and he or she can help you with it. This is why having a schedule is important so you can balance both sides without distractions.
Do It Together:
If you are in the same institution with your partner, then try to study together but pick an open space. It's more tricky when you are both in the same room, enclosed within the walls, distractions are bound to happen and you will end up spending more time loving up than you should for studying.
It helps easy bonding and of course, helping each other in areas of weakness when you both study together. I once shared a post a few days ago where I said that most people don't find time to bond together and all they do is "bedmatics" which makes it harder for them to know the tiny details about each other.
It's like killing one bird with two stones when you study together because it means you are both spending time together as well as prioritizing your academics. It's never a crime to do both but as I have said, understand what works best for you.
...to be continued...
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For those not focused, dating can affect their academic work. But if able to plan and strike a balance, they can run both. Hahaha. I dated while in school, I still graduated with good grade and got married to the same guy. None suffered. 😂. Besides an understanding mate will help you succeed in your academics, not distract you with shows, night parties and all that are not worth it