Things Someone Told Me That I'd Never Forget
We live in a world where everybody has a say in whatever we do. People will give their opinion and view on things and your decisions. And admit it or not, they do these things even if you do not want them to interfere in your life. They can affect us at some point.
Sadly, some people lose it because of the impact of words they hear from other people. In my experience, I heard so many harsh words from others. In this piece, let me share the worst and hurtful things someone told me I would never forget and always remember for the rest of my life.
"You will get pregnant at a young age."
I had my first boyfriend at a young age, and I am guilty as charged. By doing it, all I received were discouraging words, especially from my relatives. And I will never forget when they said I would get pregnant at a young age. I did not talk back. They did not hear me fight back and complain. All I did was prove them wrong. And look at me now, in my 20s yet still not getting pregnant. The funny thing is, it's their children who got pregnant early. It is not that I am laughing at them now, but I hope they learned their lesson.
Do not blabber things when you are not so sure it'll happen. And do not wish consequences to someone if you do not know what they are capable of doing. Even if I had my first boyfriend at a young age, I knew what I was doing. But they judged me quickly. Remembering it now, I still smile at them genuinely. And it is also my way of showing them that I am still enjoying my life.
"She is so near to getting married."
Since I am already in my 20s, I have heard many things about getting married or having a husband. My boyfriend and I were open to each other's families. He often visits me, especially when asking him to help me with my laundry or when I need him to accompany me somewhere. People around us have a say about it again.
I heard from my sister-in-law that someone from our neighborhood mentioned that it looks like I am so near to getting married and having a husband. It is because they often see my boyfriend coming over to our house. But wait, at least he is the one visiting me and not vice versa. Isn't it better compared to when I am the one going to my boyfriend's house?
"Maybe she won't graduate to college."
Sadly, this one's from my mother's siblings. I do not know why it became a Filipino culture where family members attacked one another. When my Mama told me about it, I did not forget it until now. Sadly, the judgment came from people related to me, but I am not shocked. I know that they are watching me and waiting for my downfall, just like what happened to their children.
Their kids failed to make them proud, so they want me to do it to my parents too. But no, I will not give them the satisfaction of seeing me fall. I will graduate from college and show them that their assumptions are wrong. I will provide them with proof that I will do better than their children.
“Marami ka pang kakaining bigas.”
(Translation: You still have a lot of rice to eat.)
(Meaning: You still have a long way to go.)
I know that my Filipino readers here will understand the sentence's meaning. That is the answer I received from a relative abroad. Also, she is my Aunt who's living a good life. I told her that I would study and work hard to give my parents a good life. And this is what I got.
I took it as an insult because instead of motivating me, she made me feel I was still nothing. I know that she does not want to encourage me but to make me think that we are nothing compared to them, that we are still below them. I will never forget what she told me. And once I succeed, I will be thankful to her because I would not strive harder if she did not provoke me.
I don't know if you have already received and heard these things too. Maybe you have listened to a lot worse. Perhaps many people wish you your downfall. You do not need to answer them or fight back.
Remember everything that they are telling you. Please take note of the insults and turn them into fuel to get you to success. Make sure that you will not lose hope and prove them wrong.
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These are very insensitive words and I do wonder what people gain from saying them. It's things like these that leads to depression, but luckily you have a strong heart and you were able to move pass those words