Warning Signs of Complacency, III.

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This is the third part of the topic mentioned above. I was unable to squeeze it into two parts post so I decided to make it into three parts and this is the last one. You can read the first and second parts here:

Warning Signs of Complacency.

Warning Signs of Complacency, II.

3. You are not seeking to take advantage of new opportunities.

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When you keep watching opportunities pass you by, then you are getting complacent. It's easier for us to think that certain opportunities would always come but most opportunities won't always come back and that's why they are called opportunities. This is why I admire Galenkp on Hive. He left his old job for a new one. He left the familiar to uncharted waters. It's easier for us to stay with the known rather than seek new opportunities and if care is not taken, staying with the familiar can somehow get us complacent.

Sometimes you need new challenges to keep you on your toes. Just as we sometimes say that we need trouble to drive us to our knees even though God would have preferred for us to constantly be on our knees and not only when we are in trouble. It's the same with life, we shouldn't wait for challenges to strike before we push ourselves further. When you are not seeking new opportunities and holding on to just the one you have without alternatives, it's obvious that you are getting complacent.

It's easier to get complacent. Today's achievement is tomorrow's mediocrity. No one should tell you that you need to keep reading or that you need to study or move your life forward before you see the need to. We sometimes wait for others to tell us what we need to do and when we get to that point, that means we are being complacent. You don't have to be a secondary character in your life's story. You need to sharpen your sensitivity to know when you need to do certain things - when you need to act. No one prepares for war during the war but you have to prepare for war during a time of relative peace. No one has to remind you to eat when you are hungry, isn't it? No one needs to tell you to sleep when you are tired, isn't that true? Why should you wait to be told when to seek new opportunities? Until you lose the one you are holding on to? It might be too late.

4. You are not building, maintaining or growing your contacts which is the currency of growth.

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Relationships are indicators of the currency of growth. You haven't grown if all you have is still the same old contacts you've had years ago. Your new contacts should make your old contacts uncomfortable...in a good way. It's a sign that you are growing when they are trying to catch up with who you are evolving to be which would encourage them to also step out of their comfort zone. You know you are growing when everything that is on your head is not on people's minds and what you used to think was funny is no longer funny. There is a shift in the way you think and see things. When you stop being predictable, you are growing.

Everyone doesn't have to like you. You are not supposed to fit into everyone's schedule and when you attract those who challenge your thinking to be better, you leave the norm behind. Stop gunning down who you are so that you can fit into where you just left. Identify relationships that are not making you better, tilt towards the ones that are helping your life and be open to enlarging your circle of influence rather than holding on to blind loyalty that doesn't serve any purpose in your life.

5. You don't risk being wrong. You don't risk sharing your opinion or your ideas.

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You know you are getting complacent when you don't want to risk being wrong, so you keep your opinion or idea to yourself. They say that discussion is the exchange of ideas while an argument is a display of foolishness. When you are wrong, you can learn but when you don't share your opinion on a matter, how would you learn or improve others?

Fear has got so many people locked in that they stopped having an opinion. Have an opinion and stop playing it safe. You don't have to be right but your act of boldness to share can make you learn. You cannot be a leader and not take risks or get on people's nerves. Stop crying that people hate you because they are supposed to hate you. It's part of the requirement in life to drive you to your best. There are those God sends to your life to get on your nerves...to push you away from mediocrity. They are your stimulators and that's how you have to see them.

We keep learning in life and if you always want to be right rather than to be wrong, you are on a slippery road to the land of complacency where you feel you have nothing to learn from others and it's a matter of time before you would be left behind.

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Is true, new opportunities give us more duties that makes us rationale and as a reason to push harder in life.

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2 years ago

Interesting! These are so true and I like how you gave in-depth explanation about them.

The one about sharing opinion is so true. I have realized that the more we get expressive (even when we may not entirely be right), the more we also build our self-esteem.

Those who always wait to be 100% right before speaking up will end up waiting to be 101% sure when they are 100% sure. Haha.

Thanks for sharing this on DreemPort.

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2 years ago

Exactly...it builds self confidence and also gives clarity which most people don't understand. It's better to always gain insight.

I'm so glad to have you here. Thank you.

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2 years ago

No wonder the Wise said "the opportunity missed is hardly regained", we can't harness opportunities unto ourselves if we aren't ready to face the challenges preceding them. Yoruba says: eni t'óbá maa je eyin inú àpáta kin wo enu aaké. As matured people who know the left from the right, we aren't needed to be told before we earnestly pursue opportunities and obtain them, irrespective of the difficulties we might face there.

Personally, i don't like forcing people to stay in my life. There's a principle i work by, if what I'm doing is good, pleasant before God, and my conscience is clean, but the person seems not to like me. Good! He or she can have his/her way out. The only relationship that is acceptable is the one that will helpfully advance us and not the one that is not adding value to us, thereby causing us unnecessary self-satisfaction and complacency

Thanks for this article sir, i learnt from the beginning to the end.

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2 years ago

I am always happy to read from you and your deep understanding of things too. Indeed, as long as my conscience is clear, I'm not bothered at all. Value adding relationship should be the key.

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2 years ago

Indeed my perspective have changed. although I knew this before but I find it quite hard to implement it, now I'm hearing it again from wise man " There are people God send your way to get on your nerve, to make you more motivated to get ahead of them....." Maybe I'm just an emotional person and most times forget about this valuable life hack

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2 years ago

I totally understand that it's harder for emotional people but it's what should be developed else it would wear you down. It won't be easy but see every opportunity as a way to grow albeit unpleasant.

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2 years ago

There is always a lot to learn from other people. That's why I like to ask a lot of questions, and it doesn't matter who you are.

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2 years ago

That's the best way to go...ask as much as you can so you can learn as fast as you can. No one has the monopoly of knowledge.

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2 years ago

We should ask as much as we can for exchange of ideas. When we didn't take risk we surely not able to get something new. In faer of Compliance we didn't take any risk. So no risk no growth for me. Thank you for three episode with single motive for us.

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2 years ago

I totally understand your point. When we are complacent, it means we are not ready to take risks and without risks, we won't grow. Thanks a lot for that.

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2 years ago

O You got my point. Thanks brother, let us do our maximum efforts to understand each other.

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2 years ago

Exactly and I enjoyed it too. Thank you and have a great week ahead.

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2 years ago

You're right, everyone have their own right of living and we should not be waiting for others to tell us when we need to look for a new opportunity, we don't have to take an excuses before we eat, sleep or do the necessary things we ought to do.

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2 years ago

A lot of people wait to be told everything which means they are not serious about their growth, hence, complacency.

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2 years ago

If people are still operating on such aspect, that is definitely bad..

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2 years ago

Absolutely bad, my friend.

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2 years ago

Complacency is very dangerous to growth. You think you've made it and then slow down instead to keep on grinding. We must keep on working hard till we can no more.

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2 years ago

Exactly...that moment one slows down, others take over and keeping up becomes twice as hard.

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2 years ago

Does complacency have alot to do with our life. I agree making a non sense argument results to non sense outcome also. Nice part again ola

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2 years ago

Yes, it has a lot to do with our lives because people who keep being complacent won't grow at the rate they should.

Thank you so much.

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2 years ago

Complacency is not an option. This just reminded me of my first attempt at JAMB. It was a very good one but the post UTME was a disaster, it couldn't lead me to the promise land and I knew deep down inside of me that it was complacency as a result of being a high scorer in jamb that resulted in the low putme Score. I didn't relent though, I kept on fighting. Gave it another try and didn't repeat the same mistake again. Once beaten twice shy.

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2 years ago

I love this. That's the lesson we can learn when we open up our mind to learn. Complacency would make someone miss out and for those with another chance to make it right, they should take it. I'm happy you shared your story. Thanks a lot.

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2 years ago

This is a wholesome content sir. Maybe it's because I get scared of being wrong that's why I keep things to myself. Like you said, I can't always be right no matter how much I seek to polish whatever contribution I intend to convey. Thank you for this sir.

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2 years ago

Yes, I noticed most people fall into this hole. We need to accept that we cannot always be right...and in that, we would learn new things and new ways.

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2 years ago

You are right dear friend, nobody can be always right because human would do mistakes in life that is normal. And after attempting wrong then correcting self and doing the right is the wise option with experience.

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2 years ago

That's right because that is how we can grow. We can't know it all and we can't always be right. In making mistakes we learn.

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2 years ago

Nice one sir, i actually do that thing where I'm scared of being wrong instead I don't air my opinions, i should really stop that

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2 years ago

Yes, you should really stop it because it means you will be limited to the things you know which isn't helpful.

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2 years ago

True , the fear of not to be wrong or perhaps failure has stop some people for even trying to see if they can, cause they don’t want to be shamed by others.

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2 years ago

That's true. There shouldn't be shame in learning because what we know can no longer be taken from us.

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2 years ago

I just have to comment on the needing new challenges part. It's easy for one to feel contend and at ease when they feel like they have solved it all but when there is a new difficulty it's normal to step up and want to solve it. This has happened to me multiple times.

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2 years ago

Yes, that's when complacency steps in when we don't have the nudge to step into uncharted waters.

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2 years ago

Everyone should make allowance for mistakes. No one is perfect, so we should be open to accept our mistakes

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Yes, in making mistakes that's where we learn. When we learn we get better and when we get better we do better.

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2 years ago

We must identify connections that are not beneficial to our lives and seek out those that are. We must not force ourselves to be loved by others; rather, we must recognize our own value in life.

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2 years ago

Exactly. When we recognize our own value we won't give discount or accept just anyone into our lives.

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2 years ago

Yes! We can’t make everyone happy, we can’t fit in the frames of everyone else. We must not suppress our needs and dreams just to make others happy. We can’t make everyone happy, we will only make fool of ourselves while trying to do that. By the way sir I just subscribed you on noise cash😁

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2 years ago

I always enjoy your contributions and I am glad to have you here and there. Thanks a lot dear. It means a lot.

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2 years ago

You are always welcome sir!

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2 years ago

🤗🤗🤗 I wish you another night with no war.

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2 years ago

So kind of you sir😄 Thankyou

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2 years ago

It is true. When you see opportunities but are afraid of giving them a chance yet you expect success. It is and complacency

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2 years ago

That's right...we are complacent when we allow opportunities to pass us by when we should be taking them.

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