Fix That Attitude.

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This is not a break from the series and I feel a bit disappointed which is why I had to write this. You can take this as part 3 of the series on Life Is About Helping but this time around, I am focusing on another aspect of this help.

You can read about the other part of the series below:

Life Is About Balance.

Life Is About Living, I.

Life Is About Living, II.

Life Is About Mercy.

Life Is About Teaching.

Life Is About Listening.

Life Is About Helping.

Life Is About Helping, II.

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Some need our help and some might never get help from others unless they fix their attitude. Attitude is everything but most people focus on getting help rather than helping themselves first by fixing their attitude. It's shameful when you can't even help yourself and you expect others to help you first. If you have ever given a proposal to anyone soliciting funds, the first thing they would ask you is, how much funds have you gotten? They would ask you that to be sure you are willing to invest your own money first before asking for help. If you can't help yourself at least, it would be hard for others to help you.

What birthed this, you might ask? This morning, we had free clothing distribution to do just around my Church area. I was excited because I always want to be a part of anything that involves helping people. It delights me to see others happy and that's why I would always give myself to it. We set out early this morning and it was the barracks we went to. We targetted the Police Barracks so we can reach out to their wives and children.

Most of them complain about poor pay and unhealthy standard of living so we thought helping them with clothing items would ease things up for them. They were more than 200 in number and we wanted them to pick 4 clothing items each. We were not ready for what was about to come next. It was shocking to me, to say the least.

We already took our time to arrange the clothes so they would be easy to identify. The ones for women, the ones for children, the native attires and even the ones for men and the shoes were put separately. We even rented chairs for them to sit down so they won't bother hanging around. We spoke with them for a while and after that, we explained to them how the distribution would go. At least 5 people at once would go round, pick 4 clothing items and like that, till we would exhaust the numbers.

The moment we asked 5 to come out for their pick, every one of them stood up, rushed the tables, and carted away with whatever their hands were able to fill and grab. I stood aloof in shock disbelief because I can't believe some people could act so barbaric out of greed and with disorderliness. I saw a woman grab most of the babies' clothes as they filled her whole grip and most people did the same too.

The problem we have in this world isn't just because of lack or poverty mentality but it's due to selfishness and greed. We always want to have everything without considering others. Even when we have an abundance of things and there is no scarcity in the world, with humans' greed and selfishness, we would create artificial scarcity for ourselves.

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We seem to be quick to point accusing fingers at our leaders yet we absolve ourselves of the little evils we do in our corner. We seem to always find fault with the so-called leaders forgetting that they started just as we have seen today in the distribution center. The worst part is that, when we also attain that leadership position, we would do worse than them if we are already acting this way for now. Most people don't need help until they help themselves.

Imagine someone who suffers from gluttony or wastes money. No matter the amount of food or money you give to such a person, that person would always be in need or want because the major problem hasn't been addressed and we are just fueling that person's weakness. It's shameful but we all need to do better and it starts with fixing our attitudes.

I was so disappointed and angry that I said I would never visit that same place again to gift them anything. Some people were genuinely in need, yet, due to the greed of some others, they were denied. There were people with babies who wouldn't even dare rush the table, they just stood there, helpless and my heart aches for them because they have been robbed of what was meant to go round. It's disheartening, to say the least.

When we don't change our attitude, no matter how much abundance of things we were given, it can never be enough because greed is powerful and if not tamed, it would consume anyone and affect those around that person. Imagine, someone picking just the right leg of a shoe while another picked the left one. How would they see each other to trade? How will that single pair benefit them? There are some that I am sure would to and sell those clothing items because they picked what they don't even need. That's one thing with greed, it messes you up and you end up taking what you don't even need.

I wouldn't say I regret going there today but I would say it opened my eyes to the root of the problem the world is facing. Indeed, if we care enough and share enough, the world would have enough because this world already have enough of what we need but it's just that it's not designed to satisfy human greed. Our problem in this world is greed and selfishness and if we don't address it, NOTHING would change.

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Very astute observations Olasquare, it is extremely unfortunate that there are many people that are animalistic in that regard, but I would disagree about the statement that "most" are greedy; I think that the majority are good decent people running around, for the most part they are more low key and don't do stupid stuff that causes them to stand out. This post was obtained through Dreemport.

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2 years ago

I totally understand you but our exposure determines our experiences. I've had cases where most people act greedy which shapes my understanding of that and I agree..it's relative.

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2 years ago

Just like students who would complain of not getting souvenirs whereas, some have collected more than one they ought to receive, everyone is running after their selfishness while others do not get what should have gone round. It is a bad attitude to say and it need to be fixed.

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2 years ago

Exactly... It's shameful I must say.

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2 years ago

Not only money is the root of all evil, greed and selfishness Is also a part of it... People don't know that selfishness do turn most human into what they are not supposed to be coz they always think only for them self and they don't consider the well-being of other...

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2 years ago

This is absolutely true. Most people are consumed with greed and selfishness.

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2 years ago

We should always remember that we are ready for each other, but we have to be good minded people so that we can present ourselves in a beautiful society. As good people we can develop our humanity. That is what we should do for the good of others. We humans can do everything we need, so we have to do our best so that others are better, others are better. If we can get closer to each other, we can comfort and feel our own minds.

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2 years ago

Thank you so much for this.

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2 years ago

This reminds me of the time we went to the Smokey Mountain (large landfill) here in the Philippines to reach out to the people who were living near the landfill. They were all desperate for the help, the gifts, and foods we had given them and we encountered the same greediness. With that experience, our mission team decided to just teach people how to do things so they can benefit from it someday instead of waiting for help.

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2 years ago

I think that's a good approach we would also explore. Thanks a lot for this.

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2 years ago

Greediness is affecting the world in a larger way and if it's not tamed, everyone wouldn't be satisfied with whatever they have,those people were too greedy and didn't even listen to the instruction but went ahead to pick up anything their hand could touch, it's so sad greediness is taking over the world, hoping people would stop been greedy.

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2 years ago

It was really sad and disheartening.

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2 years ago

Most people call it “sharing the national cake” whereby they take advantage packed more than enough, it's hard to keep things in order like this and I am sure some people have come before your team went there, maybe it wasn't enough to go round then, that's why they decided not to move as they were told.

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2 years ago

They saw how much those clothes were but they are just naturally greedy. It was enough to go round each person with 4 clothing items or more. It was really shameful.

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2 years ago

This is very interesting to discuss because things like this are a fact that often happens. maybe if you make it a question why people often do things like that put others first but don't see the life we ​​experience or we often talk about other people's shortcomings without seeing our own shortcomings. This happens because the human brain has a strong urge when it receives suggestions from the surrounding environment about good and bad.. why can't we see our existence because of the lack or no suggestions we receive.. maybe what will happen is when we receive replies from other people and they speak directly to us..then at that moment the brain receives something and we will feel it.

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2 years ago

I guess they are brain dead and can't think of others.

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2 years ago

haha.... your comment is funny too, friend. yes maybe it's true that their brains are dead so there is no thought for anything else so everything happens in confusion.

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2 years ago

Hahaha. Thank you, my friend.

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2 years ago

Aw, policemen are not paid well in your country? Just curious. I can somehow relate with what happened with your supposed relief goods distribution. It happened here in our place few months ago. Due to pandemic, some well off people in our place decided to join the " community pantry". It was free for everyone, The rule was, just get what you need, but don't be greedy. However, the facilitator of that community pantry was shocked when some ladies from squatters area even bought an eco bag and get all the goods. They brought with them even the tray of eggs. It became a trending topic. I don't know actually get why some people are so greedy, Maybe it was because of what they had been through in life? Maybe they was deprive of it?

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2 years ago

They get paid well but compared to these greedy politicians and inflation, we might say never enough and it also depends on their ranks.

Wow... Just imagine that. What should have been enough to go round, some selected few chose to keep it to themselves. This is wickedness with total disregard for consequences.

There is no excuse for such behaviour. It's a complete character flaw.

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2 years ago

Oh same here Ola, same here. Yes salaries were based on ranks and sometimes you won't get easily promoted if you don'have a "back up". It always happened during the lockdown here and even during calamities relief nor any assistance where not always distributed well . Some politicians won't give assistance to those people whom they know not on their sides. That's how greedy they are. Perhaps next time you need to ask assistance for local officials in order to control the crowd. By the way, since I always read articles about your country here I asked google about life at Nigeria.

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2 years ago

We usually use uniformed men to control the crowd but we felt since we are in Police Barracks they would know better and do better. How wrong we were. It was shameful.

Politicians are the same everywhere. It's sad.

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2 years ago

Yeah, I agree with you though there are some great politicians but only few of them.

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2 years ago

Very few.

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2 years ago

Wow..... Exactly what is affecting the world, greediness, not wanting others to benefit while we enjoy everything, so disheartening

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2 years ago

I was so disappointed I won't lie.

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2 years ago

Bad day for you. But as you said, it taught you a lesson.

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2 years ago

Really a mixed day; torn between doing good and watching selfishness and greed.

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2 years ago

One of my professors in college always reminds me about having an attitude, he said that we should always fix our attitude and behavior towards people, even when we are not that talented and smart a good attitude and behavior can make us rise above. Sometimes we should be selfless and understanding on things.

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2 years ago

Selfless...that's the key word there.

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2 years ago

It is unfortunate the situation that you yourself could observe. It is a reality that harms us daily, selfishness in people is a negative attitude because we only think of our benefit, without taking into account that there are more people in need. Greetings!

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2 years ago

Exactly...they didn't take into consideration others in need. It's sad.

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2 years ago

I have experienced this brazen show of greed many times around me when you try to help those in need. You can't help but wonder if it was the other way round, will the same people you are helping care enough to help others. .. I think the problem of we country is foundational and not leadership problem.

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2 years ago

It's foundational, I agree because when these people get to a position of leadership, they would do worse.

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2 years ago

Most people that blame the leaders will not do better but worse when they get there. I can imagine how disappointed you must have felt when the rush began and realised how ungrateful these people are with their display of immaturity and greediness. I would have given up at that point and decided these people do not deserve anything good.

It's a combination of poverty mentality and greed, thus causing scarcity for others by taking everything within their reach without an orderly approach. Reasons God sometimes neglects certain people and makes them suffer- he probably has seen how they will act, hence allow them remain in poverty as he has seen the greed in their heart,

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2 years ago

God bless you for this, Kris. Spot on.

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2 years ago

Hmmm i stand with you . I am really glad and enjoying your series on life I definitely announced you as one of the best writer here because I have got alot of motivations from your topic back to business . Attitude really speaks more about us . It is the body of our thinking and behavior. Once we learn how to adapt good attitude we will definitely be a role model

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2 years ago

Thank you so much brother and I deeply appreciate your kind words too. God bless your heart. I hope we can all do better as humans.

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2 years ago

Thanks so much sir

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2 years ago

🤗🤗🤗

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