Listening.
I am still on this Life's series and you can catch up with the other posts I've made on this Life's series, for you to fully understand each topic but still, each post is self-explanatory.
Today, I would be talking about "Life Is About Listening."
How often do you listen to others? Do you always want to speak, get your message across without paying attention to what others are saying? Do you read between the lines and listen even to their silence? Human nature always wants to speak because we have this desire to always be right and be heard. We want others to listen to us but we won't take as much energy to listen to them. It's more frustrating when you are talking and the other person is always interjecting your words. That is the point you need to know the other person is doing the power tussle thing; they would rather desire to be right than to be wrong.
Most people don't even listen in silence because the voices in their heads are so loud. They always want to speak, forgetting that you can pass your message across, even in silence. There is a time to speak and there is a time to listen. Maybe when we listen more, we can learn to be better rather than trying to force our opinions on others because we want to be heard.
Never hold anyone by the shirt to be heard and the moment you get to that point, you had better hold your tongue than them. Most people think there is wisdom in the multitude of words but sadly, that's not the case. You might be famous and that doesn't make you relevant just as you might be cute which doesn't necessarily make you funny. Just because you speak Latin doesn't mean you know how to speak, so because you always speak doesn't mean there is wisdom in all that you say, so, learn to take a step back and listen more.
There is a big difference between humility and low self-esteem and being humble means you are not thinking of yourself more than you ought to while low self-esteem means you are thinking of yourself lesser than you ought to. To listen is a sign of humility because those who listen have a better chance of learning more than those who just want to speak. The more we listen, the more we can be humbled when we open our hearts to understand and learn and the faster we take the lessons to heart.
Listening is a very rare trait and that's why we have more speakers than listeners. I have said many times that most people don't necessarily need money or our help per se, they just needed someone to listen to them. There is this relief and comfort that comes with it when we know others are listening to us to get a load off our chest and not because we just want to be right...but to be heard which comes with having the right attitude to things.
If you want to win the heart of anyone, make them go the extra mile for you, learn to listen to them. I understand that we are all different and we have those who simply just want to lord things over you by forcing you to listen. To that kind of person, the art of listening would lose its purpose. Listening is for those who are not forceful - so naturally, we listen more to those who go about stating their case without attacking the person but addressing the situation.
It's natural for people to feel they are being overlooked because no one is listening to them. We all want to feel relevant and have that sense of worth. Our hearts naturally draw near to those who are willing to give us a listening ear but it has to be both ways too because that is the way of life; we listen and others listen to us as well.
Life is about listening; to others and being listened to. Good listeners, tend to hear more than what's being said. They tend to understand issues more even though most people want to talk, believing you don't understand the depth of the matter. We don't have to always talk and nature is always speaking to us as well. There is beauty in listening to the chirping of the birds, taking advice, listening to the voice of reason and even the cry of a baby as it raises your mind to urgency. Oh! I love sweet whispers too because it goes deep into your heart and it's only for your ears. Try and listen to the sound of the wind too then you will understand both sides of life; fear and delight.
Listening makes us think clearly because it has never been and should never be about being right but accurately judging the situation. I have spoken about the need for balance some days back and that's why we need to strike a balance between speaking and listening. Listening is good, speaking is necessary too but we need to find the right balance as we can't always talk and sometimes we can't always listen too, especially when what's being said is of no value to us. We have to listen to filter while also speaking to address.
It takes a lot of courage for others to speak to us and that's why we need to learn to listen. We don't have to always agree to what's being said but we should respect the right of everyone to speak.
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Everyone wants to talk, no one is ready to listen. If everyone is claiming to be right, who then is wrong? These things sucks.
Listening is a very rare trait. We should learn to listen more and talk less. Cause listeners tend to understand things better and hear dipper.