October 31, 2021
It is funny sometimes, yet annoying to be asked by relatives "when are you planning to get married?" My mind always goes blank 🙄 and unable to respond to their questions right away. And a few months ago, I wrote an article about a message from my boss where she also impelled me to get hitched. And my answer was, "I don't have a plan for that yet."
Why do people always ask me about the matter even though they already know the situation I am into? Do they want to provoke or insult me? Or maybe encouragement, lol.
My deactivated Facebook account has been activated a few days ago as I was curious about Facebook's latest news on rebranding its name and changing it to Meta.
But instead of checking the news, I got hooked by the post of my cousin who just graduated from University. She dropped a bombshell and I couldn't believe that another young cousin of mine is going to tie the knot with her partner.
Just last year, a young cousin of mine had walked down the aisle with her long-time seaman boyfriend and they settled under the same roof. Even my gay cousin surprised me and I was struck dumb when I found out that he'd impregnated his girlfriend. And another young cousin got pregnant as well.
I was like, "wth is going on in the world of young people? Are they in a rush?" Or maybe, I'm just being left behind 🤦♀️. I am the oldest (ouch!) among my female cousins in our village but they already are getting married and having children, while I remain still behind my wall and have no plan to break it to get hitched.
Well, I just don't want to marry in haste and repent at leisure later. Besides, I have no partner at all, lol.
After sending my congratulatory message to her, I deactivated my account shortly, lol. That's probably the best thing to do.
Young people nowadays are truly different compared to previous generations. They are being saturated by technology. Social media and the internet have impacted their lives in different ways. And just like what @HappyBoy said in his article I will choose now, they are learning more things on the internet than they learn from their parents and teachers.
When they saw their colleagues excelling from the path they have chosen, they would perceive the environment as competitive and would wish to have the same life too. They tend to envy the achievements of others. Although being competitive is an advantage in this fast-paced generation, it sometimes impacts teens' minds negatively. That feeling of being outcasted or left out once they failed to achieve their goals. Some would belittle their own selves and would see themselves as tiny and others are giant. And some would end up going in the wrong direction due to successive failures.
Everything they see online triggers change in their brain and the way they perceive the world or ways to gain things. And the decision of getting married at an early stage has been influenced by technology as well because of the life status they are seeing online. Even the dramas they are watching where the main male and female characters had happy endings also impacted their minds.
Those scenes would change their minds and they would think, "I want to have a happy family too and find my perfect match."
Moreover, the sexual videos circulating online would trigger their curiosity to try a sinful thing at an early stage. And that's how premarital s*x appears.
A seventeen-year-old cousin of mine for example got pregnant when her S. curiosity put her on fire after being invited by her boyfriend to have Netflix and chill. They didn't go binge-watching but the other way around, lol. And she has been dumped right away when his boyfriend found out that she has a bun in the oven. And that gave her a dismal life.
It seemed so easy for some to hop into the fire without getting burnt. While others are just too cautious and don't want to try playing the fire no matter how strong their relationships with their partners are. Only a few are true with their oaths that that intimate thing would only happen after they tie the knot with their partners. And a young lady should stick to it and at least, give respect to herself. Unfortunately, there are only a few cases of that nowadays due to the advent of technology and its negative impact on young people's lives.
And the new generation is just too hostile and influential that even an innocent and demure one can change and go wild in just one snap. I wasn't expecting my cousin to play the fire with someone else as I found her careful and wholesome. And it was a bolt in the blue that she suddenly changed and dived into a black hole where it's too hard to hop out.
Some would prefer not to marry yet at a young age as they want to enjoy their lives first, travel to their dream places, and experience things they want to. Because for them, tying the knot with someone might hinder them from pursuing their dreams and the careers they want to achieve. Some would pursue education like taking a Master's Degree or other courses, some would upgrade their skills in their field of expertise before saying "I Do" to their partner. While some wouldn't mind marrying at all despite having a strong relationship with their partners.
However, some would prefer to marry at a young age once they found their perfect match because of this main reason, they want to grow and build their lives together, and they would later build their dream house and perfect family together.
I am not against early marriage as I can see some advantages for doing so. But that is only acceptable if both sides agree to have it, and not just by accident. Because just like what I mentioned above, we don't want to marry in haste and repent at leisure later. This sacred decision should be planned well and lay all the foundations before having it to achieve a healthy marriage. Because it's not the same as eating hot food, that once it burns your tongue, you can simply spit it out. However in marriage, once you untie the knot, the damage has been done, and sometimes tough to recover the losses, especially for the affected children. The emotional pain is too painful to handle.
As for premarital sex, many have tackled the issue here like @Eunoia and @Ellehcim and shared their POVs. It is something unavoidable nowadays, especially that the young generation is much too aggressive and have a great interest in trying new things. It isn't a sin as well and should be taken into account. However, we can't control the minds of others to stop them from discriminating the byproducts of premarital sex. So even if it is not a sin, in the eyes of others, it is.
So for young people out there, before you play the fire, think of the consequences well. Because it might get you burnt.
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Me? I am on my 20's na kung saan ang dami ko na ding kakilala na may mga family na. Habang ako? Eto, aral aral muna tapos grind-grind. Ganun, haha. Pero saka na 'yang kasal-kasal na 'yan. 'Di pa ready wallet ko for other expenses noh. Like you, Ate, jowa nga wala ako eh. Dadating din tayo jan, in no time. Hanap muna tayo 'nung tutulong sa atin sa mga expenses tapos 'yung goal-centered din. 😉