Surface Pressure

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February 6, 2022

Home...Family...

A home is a place where we could find real happiness, where we could be safe, and where we could feel being appreciated, accepted, and loved regardless of who we are by the people we called family.

But what if your family is putting burdens on your shoulders, giving constant expectations that put you under pressure, or worse, will ostracize you just because you are different from the rest of the family, and you are considered weak and useless? Just because you can't create a miracle, you'll be considered powerless, and would never be good enough for them.

How would you feel then? Would you still consider them as a family? And what if you learn that you are the reason why your family is at risk? Would you go or stay and prove that you aren't an outcast and powerless? That you can create a miracle in your own little way.

Those were the questions that came to mind after watching ENCANTO...

An exceptional movie that teaches us so many lessons about a family that everyone, especially children must learn. And truly recommendable to everyone and worth watching.

Aside from the lessons that could be learned from this movie, the songs also resonate with our lives. Let's discuss some of them later on.

I love the main character, Mirabel Madrigal. A cheerful, loving, and kind member of the Madrigal family blessed with magical gifts. Unfortunately, among all the members, only Mirabel doesn't have magical power. Unbeknownst to many, she's been struggling to fit in with their family and not genuinely happy inside their own home because of being different from others.

And she's just being in denial which we could see in the first part of the movie. And that's the very first lesson I learned from Encanto. I found this meme online and I really laugh at this part of the movie where the girl said that Maribel's gift is being in denial.

Image from: https://www.buzzfeed.com/amphtml/pablovaldivia/disney-encanto-teaser-trailer

Undeniably, there are times in our life that we thought we are okay, or we know we are not, but we tend to act okay in front of other people, especially if we have a family with high expectations, or a vulnerable mother just so she won't worry about us.

However, we should learn to speak out, and do not be in denial. Because only the truth could set us free.

It's not only Mirabel who's in denial here, but even the strong like rock Luisa, the beautiful and as perfect as flowers Isabela, even the high-spirited Abuela is also in denial. But as the story goes on in the movie, things started to unfold and only revealed their vulnerability. But this only shows that we are all vulnerable regardless of the power and abilities we have. Because we are only human.

Image from: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.billboard.com/music/lyrics/surface-pressure-lyrics-encanto-jessica-darrow-1235024302/amp/

The eldest of the sisters and strong like rock Luisa for instance. She can move mountains, houses, churches, a bunch of donkeys, and do what people ask her to do. But does anyone ask how she truly feels? I could somehow relate to what Luisa truly feels. As the eldest of the family, Luisa's character only implies how many families put burdens on the eldest siblings.

The song Luisa sang entitled Surface Pressure resonates with me and other elder siblings here too. There's a line where Luisa said,

She never complained about how heavy and tedious her tasks are. Because if she does, she feels like she would be useless. Even the strongest is also vulnerable, gets tired, and feels pressured.

Another part that made me emotional was,

*sigh* Any elder sibling and breadwinner could resonate with this song so much and feel the pressure and weight of burdens on Luisa's shoulders. As much as possible, we always wanted to meet our parents' expectations just so they get disappointed with us.

We, who stand for our family never asked to do such a thing. But as responsible children, we tend to carry the burdens and absorb them as our own. Because if not, we feel useless. And because if not, others would suffer more unfortunate circumstances. So instead of allowing them to suffer, we would handle the burdens, absorb the pressure, be strong, so we won't break.

But hey, we are only human so we would break at any time. We get tired so we also need relaxation. And just like anyone, we also need some joy.

What I want to say is, let's not pretend we are strong even though we are vulnerable. Let's not pretend we are okay if deep inside we are breaking. Let's not absorb all the pressure if we can call a family to help us carry some of the burdens to make the weight lighter.

Besides, that's how a family should act, help each other to carry all the burdens and not just put on one shoulder.

And I'm talking as if I could make it. But I'm just like Luisa, I would absorb the pressure and remain strong so I won't break.

This is just the first part of this Encanto series of lessons. Pardon me for cutting this article, but it will take longer to read if I will put them all in one content.

See you at the next part.

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We are in denial because facing the reality hurts.

"Pretty sure I'm worthless, if I can't be of service." This boils down to our feelings and emotions. Oftentimes, we do what we are expected to do because we feel that we are only valued and important because of the things that we do best. If not, the family cannot benefit from us.

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2 years ago

Watched the interesting movie (Encanto) in a cinema last year,it was fun . Nice article jane . Love in the family , should be an unconditional one .

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2 years ago

Dilo pa napapanood ito madams pero dami ko ng nababasa ma magamda daw. Mga ganitonf movie ang magandang panooring ee with those lessons. I'll try this too one of this days.

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2 years ago

Worth watching madam

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2 years ago

I have not watched it, although I have seen many people mention it. Is it a sad film, as I do not do sad. I want to be entertained not made to feel sad.

I am the eldest too and have to be strong 24/7. But bollocks to it, show your emotion when you want to, you are human Jane not a robot!

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2 years ago

I know. . but hard sometimes to speak up to them..

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2 years ago

I have seen the movie and I would say y one of the lessons I got from it is that laying unnecessary pressure on anyone will not only make them less functional than they should be, but it may kill their dreams and make them feel insecure in the family.

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2 years ago

Indeed

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2 years ago

Sometimes faking it does not make it. It's okay to give up once in a while and break every now and then for those are the things that make us stronger.

I have yet to watch this movie.

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2 years ago

Tao lng kc tyo. Napapagod dn

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2 years ago

it is a blessing to be with the family. It is not difficult to carry the burden of the family on our shoulders if we strengthen ourselves. It would be better if we carried the load together. A family means a body. Sorry, I haven't seen this movie

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2 years ago

You should watch it

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2 years ago

I will definitely watch it

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2 years ago

One should not be of a low esteem even if one is different from others.

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2 years ago

Wow the series is so imparting but I haven't watch it before but I think I have benefit alot from your writing, been the first or been the only one that your family are looking up on to you will definitely faces heavy burden be as it may there's no support from no way else and all the fellowing siblings are all bepending on you I believe such person would get tired and worn-out with much loads.

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2 years ago

I can't stop watching this movie over and over again... There are pressure everywhere but how you handle them matters the most. 👌

Peace

OkanlaDavid

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2 years ago

I am not into movies but my officemate told me he cried after watching this. As he can somehow relate to the main character. Sometimes it's hard if the family knowd you are strong jane, cause nobody will ask if how are you😒

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2 years ago

Naiyak dn ako dto 😢

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2 years ago

Luisa is my favorite character in the movie because I could relate to her somehow, sometimes people will see me strong they see me doing stuffs like it was just a piece of cake but it wasn't, and it's hard for me because I was just pretending to be tough although I'm too weak and too soft inside, I just don't want to burden them and see me as a weak one.

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2 years ago

Diko pa napanuod yung Encanto ate. Pero sabi nila maganda daw yon. But base sa mga explanations nyo at kung pano nyo idescribe yung movie sa life. I think lahat ng characters yung role nila eh maihahalintulad sa buhay natin.

Namangha ako doon sa sinabi mo na,

However, we should learn to speak out, and do not be in denial. Because only the truth could set us free.

Ayan talaga mahirap saken eh. Haha kaya siguro dipadin ako maka kawala kasi diko nilalabas yung totoong nararamdaman ko dito sa bahay na to.

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2 years ago

Same 😢

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2 years ago

Hadn't watched it yet pa, Ate. Siguro one of this days while doing tons of activities, hehe. Pero from your article and sa mga nagkalat na spoilers sa FB at noise.cash dati, I am aware na it's about family and some associated conflicts.

Super relate 'dun kay Luisa. Hirap maging eldest pero ang fulfilling kapag may naiaambag pero paano nga kaya kapag wala tayong magawa hano? Powerless ba, ano kayang magiging treatment sa'ten? Well, kahit supportive and loving naman ang family is di pa din maiiwasan 'tong tanong na 'to. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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2 years ago

Ganun na nga . lalo na kung need tlga help ng family

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2 years ago

That's the sad reality in most of the Asian families. Good thing, in Encanto, they apologized at the end for putting all the pressure. Can't blame Abuela really for she was also traumatized with what happened to her when her partner died. Indeed, asking for help, telling that you can't do it on your own takes a lot of courage. It's not easy but slowly, it can be done.

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2 years ago

Never watched the movie,pero ung lagi kang ok, ganun ako, hanggang ngaun sa family ko, pero its my choice din naman ayoko mag-alala sila sa akin lalo na mother ko

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2 years ago

OK, now I really need to watch Encanto. So many lessons to be learnt here

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2 years ago

That sounds interesting to watch sis. And true, it is not wrong to show your real emotion. The right people will come to you regardless how vulnerable you seem.

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2 years ago

Panoorin mo sis. Mganda

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2 years ago

I'll check sis, bookmark ko muna hehe

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2 years ago

🥺🥺🥺 I felt it sis. I am the eldest too same with my partner. The pressure is really much. 🤧though I am still greatful coz my parents understand my situation but still I felt useless if I won't able to give them their needs.

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2 years ago

Same 😢😢.. Life hurts haha

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2 years ago

It´s not easy being the eldest because family would look up to you. The breadwinner are trying but it´s an heavy task on them but as true family, they need to be supported too so the burden doesn´t look more heavier on them. When they keep hoarding the pressure, they will break down.

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2 years ago

I haven't watched yet the Encanto movie, but after I read this it triggers to watched it immediately. hehe, Maybe I'll be watching it after I'm done here on read.cash, hehe

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2 years ago

I always pretend that I'm strong to others but when my family's around, I'm such a cry baby.

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2 years ago

Agreed Engcanto has a deep meaning, I understand how people see the power of strength, yet in reality it will be gone as years pass. The what if, her strength will be useless? Is what people look at her still the same? Ofcourse not. Another Disney with a great lessons.

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2 years ago

Tama.. Pro d tlga maiiwasan yan

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2 years ago

Yeah families appreciates, they show love and support but you still need someone that would call you by the first name, placing different expectations ahead of you. In family members could do that

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2 years ago

This movie touches the soul and helps us to revive some old memories. Loved the characters and the lessons from it. Hey, have you watched Coco?

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2 years ago

Yup.. This movie reminds me of Coco 😁

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2 years ago

Agree miss Jane. Sometimes we act like we're okay in front of other people lalo na sa family natin, lalo na din pag grabe yung expectations nila even mabigat na satin pero pinili parin natin gawin. Sobrang nakakapressure yung ganun kaya minsan maging strong din tayo na to tell them the truth para less burden at magkaroon ka ng freedom sa sarili mo.

Tama dapat magtulungan ang pamilya sa mga challenges, struggles burdens na kinakaharap bawat isa. Hindi yung minsan walang care sa isa't isa at minsan meron pang selfishness na nangyayari.

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2 years ago

Hndi kya ng iilan lng..dapat lahat tumulong

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2 years ago

Yes miss Jane tama. Sana lahat ganun. Yung lahat tutulong.

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2 years ago

I totally agree with you because only one place in the World where you find comfort zone and nothing other You're motivational quotes and great word really amazing and very impressive

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2 years ago

in fact it often runs in families. can't be helped because it's something rational. why someone can be cornered because this is the expectations in family members have differences. both attitude and action. Family members who work continuously will become like kings because of their great gifts while other family members who just sit are always ostracized. it is a small example that we really have to judge from the ability of someone who is different.

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2 years ago

There is always someone considered different in evey family..sometimes, that makes us feel like not part of the fam

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2 years ago

I quoted some stuff from Encanto as well in a previous article! Has catchy music

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2 years ago

Oh you watched it.. Good movie for your kids 😁

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2 years ago

I always pretend that I'm ok and no one hurt but in reality, I'm the weakest member of family ho just don't wanna be burden on anyone

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2 years ago

Anyone don't want to be a burden..

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2 years ago

The weight on first borns shoulders is not easy, they are parents at young age

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2 years ago

Indeed.. And too hard to unload

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2 years ago

I already watched the movie, there are so many life lessons that we can learn from it.

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2 years ago

Gonna watch it tonight n tho exam coming up. You've given spoilers, ain't you? Tbh honest i ignores some of phrase but this movie will blow my mind

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2 years ago

What makes up a family is helping each other in times of need, when the burdens are much we can call on our family to help us with some, I'll be on the lookout for the next part and also check out the video of learning some lessons too from it.

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2 years ago

You should watch the movie

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2 years ago

I can connect with Luisa with my sister. But I can connect with the lyrics that sometimes if I can't help, I can be useless to their eyes, even if the is just for one time. Like I'm not counting with the help I did for them but if one te I can't be off help, I feel so useless.

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2 years ago

Then act as a family member so you won't feel useless

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2 years ago