How I Found The Right One
Since Valentines day is approaching let's talk about how I found the right guy for me. If you aren't interested, JUST SKIP READING this lmao. I may be busy all the time but I'll spare an hour to tell you how I found the right guy, he is not perfect not like someone you read in romance books or in fairy tales as he has flaws and imperfections so do I.
Finding the right person for you is not that easy, for a single lady it takes a lot of testing a man before she can finally say “he's the right one.” It's not even easy to determine if the person is the right one for us but time and circumstances can tell wether we are with the right person or not.
How do you know when the person is right for you?
Well, it's simple. Someone who can brings out the best in you, who supports you not just financially but morally. Moral support can't be bought by money, only a person who cares for you dearly will give you that.
Someone who supports you in shaping your character to be the best version of yourself without abandoning you at your worst.
Someone who cares about your general welfare, physical, emotional and mental well being.
Someone who brings you closer to God instead of dragging down your faith or influencing you to be bad, if you are Christian by beliefs.
There's a lot of things to know if the guy is the right one for you or a red flag but those I've mentioned are the basics but most important.
How did I find the right guy for me?
I have a strong character like my life was a scripted story living like a lead female role in any romantic comedy stories you've read or watched. I am bold and fearless.
I've been involved with many guys, like I've kissed 23 men before I've settled on 24th. I am not ashamed to tell you that because that's how I've know who is the best and who are the worst. I don't know if there will be 25th coming HAHAHA! Kidding!
That's how I've screened out men, if they are the right one or not, not really by kissing them though. Please if you are “marupok” don't ever copy me or else you'll end up getting pregnant early or getting dump.
So here's how I tricked men..
I was a drunken master back then - My alcohol tolerance back then was very high. I can drink until morning without getting drunk, not unless if someone put drugs or whatever. I've tried it before someone put “vitsen” in my drink and I went black out, good thing the universe never let me harmed.
By just knowing I'm a hard drinker a guy would think I'm a wasted woman. That my hymen wasn't intact anymore. So I let them think the way they wanted, I played along.
As a party goer on my younger days, that's the reason why I've met a lot of guys. In the bar or anywhere we hang out. I'm not a demure type of girl, so I'll go with the flow if some guy shows interest with me. I party, enjoy and kissed whoever I like. Call me slut, I don't care.
So out of 23 men I've kissed I've settled on 24th because among them he was different.
When a guy is aggressive and do things beyond kissing even we just meet recently, I am automatically turned off. I can't blame them as well because they think I'm an easy bitch. Just to stop them from wanting to do their thing I've had a lot of alibi's like “Hey man, I really wanted to make out with you but so sorry I've had my period today.” Who likes to make out with a bleeding woman? LOL. That's how I saved myself, sometimes if I go partying I really wore napkins, double my cycling before putting on a pants so nobody will have an easy way undressing me. I still have time to kick their balls before they can undress me lmao.
The 24th guy is different, as he showed respect on me despite knowing I'm a party goer and hard drinker.
I told them I'm not virgin anymore - some guys who are not into you likes to know if you are virgin or not. If you told them you are not they have this thinking that you are an easy woman and is not preserve so they'll take advantage on you.
So I told them I am not virgin anymore and who would have really believe I am when I look like a wasted woman that goes party anywhere and anytime? Then they've shown their true colors and I'll be like, NEXT.
Some of them even tried to make me drunk just to score on me but mentally I guarded myself even if I am tipsy I know how to say no and shut those d*ck heads!
I've let them see the worst side of me- Some woman doesn't want to show their flaws in the beginning to avoid guys being turned off, while I on the contrary show the worst side of me on early stage of dating. It's my way of testing if the guy really cares about me or not. If they only want to score on me or care about my well being. I'll show them the broken side of me and I've tested who really cares.
That's how I've known who are the best among them, the 24th guy which is my Fiancee now, the father of my child and I am in a relationship with for 10 years running 11 this April passed all my tricks.
He was different among them, he respect me and didn't after my body. He afters my soul. That's where my walls had breakdown and fall for a guy for the first time.
I don't fall in love with a guy easily, I don't trust men that much especially if I can see their intentions to me is not genuine.
The 24th guy showed all the things I've mentioned above on how to know if the person if the right one for you or not.
I am a living proof of DON'T JUDGE THE BOOK BY IT'S COVER. Not everyone who dances in the bar are slut or bitches some of them are just camouflaging and everyone has it's story. Read before you jump into conclusion.
I am a tricky person, I do camouflage depending on my environment.
So that's how I found the right person for me, someone who breaks the thick wall I've built to protect myself.
I became warmer when he came into my life, I was alive back then but feels like I'm dead as I was emotionless. I don't care about people and I don't fvckin care about their opinions.
In my messy world the 24th was the one who survived in penetrating the walls I've built.
Why did I acted that way? Simple. To know who will take advantage of me and who are not. I don't trust people as well due to my experiences in life. My father abandoned me, so I don't trust men as I believe they only after s*x and the 23 of them prove it.
For girls out there, never let your walls down unless you've seen the guy's pure intention. Protect yourself and your heart at all cost, only you can do that. Only then you'll avoid getting hurt and getting dump by an opportunist men. Never let the man play with you, you play with them instead.
It's all in the past, I was once a devil. Now I've turned into an angel lmao!
Byeeeee!
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Date Published: February 5, 2022
Hahaha you're the best! You're one of those girls I only read in pocketbooks. It's definitely one way of finding out who's the one. I'm happy for you indeed and definitely understand why you're like that since you also came from a broken family.