Should there be: "a third party?"
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Today's blog.
I saw a movie this night, left to me, I'd say; "the movie was just quite absurd." I completely saw no sense in what it was all about. But I actually did like what the moral was trying to spit out.
What was this movie all about?
A girl had two friends, her friends were single and she was the opposite. The married girl had some self inflicted problems in her marriage.
The problems were: her inability to clean the house and inability to cook for her husband, she felt it wasn't her duty to do so (atleast that's what she was told by her mother) her hubby kept nagging all the time, the house was always looking so unkempt and untidy. She hardly ever cooked for him. He kept complaining and she on the other hand; felt he was too overbearing and annoying. She would go; crying and complaining about her marriage issues with her two single friends. Luckily for her; they weren't hypocrites, they always told her the truth.
One of the friend's was a bit blunt with her words, whilst the other was still somewhat tactful, this always pissed married girl off. She was never pleased with the truth that came out of the mouth of the friend who was blunt.
To wrap it all up.
They had a conversation one day and this married lady told her blunt friend; to be her husband's wife for 72hours, just so her friend would understand that it's her husband that's at fault and not her. The two single friends were taken aback at first, it was indeed a very deadly game. This married lady said there were no rules attached, which meant the blunt, single friend would sleep with 'her' husband, clean the house and perform all other wifely duties. Just to prove that 'her' husband was the one with the problem and not her.
I was pained with the way the film ended though, I was actually expecting the single, blunt friend and the married friend's husband to later get married.
That's why I said the movie was quite absurd.
Like how can you tell your friend to be your husband's wife for 72hours just to prove a ridiculous point?
Who does that?
Anyways...
One thing I picked from that movie; was:
The married girl was so free; confiding in her friends about her marital issues.
The hubby was also free; confiding with his best friend about what he was going through in his marriage.
In these scenarios, these people are called "third parties."
According to experts, a third party is a person or group besides the couple, involved in a situation, especially a dispute. He or she can be either of the couplesโ family members, friends, co-workers or neighbours.
In that movie, thank goodness those friends were nice friends, but it's not in all cases. Friends like that are actually rare to find and that's the truth.
Picture this: Your friends are single, you're married and every little disagreement you have with your hubby, you run to their aid and start blurting out.
Not all friends would be nice enough to tell you the truth, some would proudly add fuel to the fire, just to make it hotter for you, and you'll see reasons in their ideas, only because it aligns with the lies you're telling yourself.
Should there be a third party in a relationship/marriage?
After some findings, I read different opinions from different people concerning this matter.
Some said:
Third parties are very good in a relationship/marriage, that before a man or a woman gets married, they should look out for a person, probably an elderly person that commands respect, someone both parties fear and would listen to.
So that; should incase any disagreement arises, the wife or the husband can quickly go; seeking the aid of the third party and the third party would be able to settle such disagreements.
Others said:
Having a third-party in ones home Is completely wrong, especially because most third parties these days offer wrong advices, the risk is that; some third parties might also be going through alot in their homes, so having to discuss your own marital issues with them is like finding solution in a sea of problems.
My own opinion:
Having a third party to me is wrong, all marriages have their ups and downs, disagreements would surely arise, couples should just learn how to settle it by either sitting eachother down and having a mature discussion on resolving the conflict between eachother.
Involving a third party, be it one's father, mother, friend, relatives, pastor... Is a no, for me.
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My dear friend, the story of this movie was interesting, and I think it was an exaggeration that this girl asked her friend to be her husband's wife for 72 hours. I totally agree with you, the couple should be able to solve their own problems, and a third party with the wrong advice may make the situation worse between the couple.