Love me when i live, not when I die...

There's a popular saying in my language that says that " People are Enemies while alive, Friends at death". When I go to a deceased's place and see people cry. I discover that some of them there might have done their best to salvage the situation, while some persons there who I'm sure were not even in Talking terms with the deceased would also be crying.

Like if there's anything you have to do for me, do it now that I'm still alive, not when I'm dead. What's the usefulness of the beautiful coffin, when that money would have saved and extended his life span by 10 yrs or more. Why didn't they build the church while he was still alive? They had to begin the building project when he's dead. It's not right in any sense but those are the characteristics of humans, we shouldn't expect anything less

It seems this is a Nigerians kinda mentality, I dunnot know much, but I think it is. This is one thing I hear of at least twice in two months. I think I should attribute it to the fact that people here like ceremonies, they don't care whether they go bankrupt or not, all they want is to celebrate, even things that aren't worth celebrating. May the Almighty help us

Sometimes people what we need have their excuse for not helping us this time it could be familial case or anything that couldn't be discussed in public.

I don't have any other remark but to express my dejected heart for the pastor's life. He did everything he could, but the members didn't come to his aid not until he died with a shattered and disappointed heart.

This is a very sad reality Ella. One quote says you're only loved twice in your lifetime, the day you're born and the day you die.

Our world is full of these stories. We need to understand people before when they are buried inside of earth. We should understand by their feelings. It is natural here world know your worth after when you have died.

People are fond of doing this thing. They like to lavish money on the dead who may have suffered while alive. I wonder if they have no shame at all...

Nigerians are very fond of this, you see someone who didn't care for his or her parents throwing lavish party at their funeral.

Or someone passing through medical issue not being supported but when the person passes away then they stretch forth their hands to the dead person relative.

This story has given a deep meaning because indeed almost everyone also applies the same pattern in essence everyone will regret it in the end and they will think of someone who has left by doing his last message.

This is the sad reality of today's world.. People only pretend to care when the person is no more. It's all for show off. Even if they promise to take care of the late man kids, they would only so it for a sort while and when no one is looking again. They'd drop them.

LoL. So, another pastor will now pastor the church they built or na the man ghost. That's not an honour to the man.

Your title of that article I use most of the time with my family and friends. Because Lover should love in live not after die.

That's true sis, it so sad when some people start to show that they care, when someone is already gone, but the moment they still alive they even think about them. A very sad reality😞

Most of the time it happened, I was always curious why people attend when they died, but when someone stays alive and ill, no one was there.. that was so sad.. 😩

It was such a heartbreaking moment, but I think it is the reality. People only sees your worth when you die. People start telling stories about you and how good you are, but they forgot to do it when you are still alive. Such a sad reality.

This is indeed a great lesson ,, the poem makes me remember some memories with my grandmother ... Good topic sis

Ang lungkot naman nun,,,pero totoo naman talaga maraming tao ang my ganyang pag uugali,,

And this has become a norm in this world, we keep hearing this hard to adjust 😭. This example you gave, I've witnessed it I'm different occasions, massive and talk of the Town kind of burial but it was hunger that killed the deceased 🤦

Imagine someone that died of hunger, there was enough food in his burial, the truth is that people just like showing up when the person is gone and they will want to show off what they got by taking charge of almost everything in the burial.

This is what Laycon said in one of his songs that he wants to smell his roses while he is alive. We need to value people and cherish them while they are alive and not when they are dead and can no longer feel their worth. That's bad of humans cos they are fond of that, they can borrow you money to drink and be useless but can't borrow you money to go to school and learn.

It is sad but it is the world we live in today .. i once saw a quote that said “ at a man’s funeral there was a lot of food and drinks to eat but guess what the man died of hunger”

Every person wants to be loved while living, and to be helped when he asks for help. But unfortunately people are bad. They realize the value of something after it dies.

Best song for this article is by partoraking titled : celebrate me If you listen to the song and what it means, you would understand what this article is saying.

I can relate very well to this, it is sad to see people coming up the help when it is irrelevant. Nigerians are so good at this, they can't help you with 5k but they can buy lace of 100k to attend burial.

Its the new normal. The saddest part is that it would cost no more than a fraction of the burial cost to actually help the person oo

Very beautiful and inspiring you said my dear Ella. We should try to save a life, not mourn when that life is gone. How good it is for our loved ones to cherish and love them while they are alive. What is the use of cherishing and loving them after their death?

It's sad when people only try to do something for you or something for your loved ones in your name when you're dead, when I fact they have not been around to offer you any hand when you're alive.