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A Mother's Story

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Written by   713
1 month ago

This article is inspired by Mom's Group that I'm part of. One of the moms shared this post from her Facebook Newsfeed.

Let me translate it for you. (I use "he" for the child's unknown gender.)

I strangle my 3-year-old child because he didn't want to sleep. My 1-year-old wake up and made me furious so I smothered my 3-year-old with a pillow on his face. If you're going to tell me, I'm insane, YES!! Yes, I'm insane! My life is crazy. Being a mother making me crazy! I almost killed my child! WHY? Because I'm a full-time Mom, 24/7, no day-off, then this short time at night before we sleep I was hoping that my husband will be here to give me a hand, BUT NO! He will prioritize hanging out and will be home as he wishes when he's sleepy! I told him to give me a break-even just one rest day to help me look after our children but he didn't bother! No mother will get tired, yes! But I'm overtired! In our three years of marriage, The only time he told me he loves me is when I was just his girlfriend and to our first baby. He used to hug me before he go. Everything doesn't work for me now! You can be mad at me, this would be my last post while I still have a part of my sanity. I will soon delete my Facebook because I no longer want to live in this world!!!


That is very sad. I'm heartbroken.

Did you feel the pain? Can you blame her for her action and feeling that way? I'm not saying that strangling and suffocating your child is okay when you're getting tired as a Mom. But what she's going through, I feel her. I am exhausted just by hearing her out. She's helpless. She must be experiencing Postpartum Depression and she needs help. But the help that is supposedly in the form of a responsible husband is neglecting. She felt alone. It's different if you're a single Mom and you know that you don't have anyone to lean on but yourself. But she got a husband. So the pain of her husband letting her down making her feel alone in this responsibility is too much for her to bear.

When Tia was born after few months she was constantly crying all night. At that time I was working full-time and my husband is the one left in the house looking after her. When I come back home from work, my husband already cooks our food so we just have to eat together. At night, if Tia starts crying even after breastfeeding, my husband will tell me to get some sleep and he will look after her. But during weekends, I gave him a break, we go out, I take him to bars or I let him out with friends. I have a husband and he got a wife, we do it as a couple.

Lucky? I'm taking that as I'm blessed for having a responsible man. I have another story but this time I get lucky. And I'm thankful.

And that's what we need! That's what you have to look for. If you have a partner now and you are not sure if he will treat you the same when you get married, ask yourself again. Because you might lose your sanity. Being a mother, breastfeeding, cleaning, cooking, washing clothes, dealing with the children when they are crying. And if you have more than one just like her? A 1-year-old and a 3-year-old? And you are doing everything alone? And you have a non-existent, useless husband, are you not going to lose your mind?

But women, mothers, you and I we are strong. We make the impossible possible. For our children, we can do anything. We can live without a man but not without our children. Whoever she is, if I were her I will reclaim my crown. If he doesn't want to be the father of my child then I will stand alone. You cannot underestimate the power of a mother. I wish that she can put herself together for the sake of her children. If the husband doesn't want to act like a husband, she has the choice to leave and change her life with her kids. She will make it. Coz she's a woman and a mother.

If you are a man and you are reading this. Please have some balls. And if you don't have one, please leave the girls alone! If you are not ready to be a father and you will not be a responsible one, then put a condom on! And please treat your wife with the same treatment, with the same sweetness, with the same love you showered to her when you were courting her. Don't you change if not for the better. She fell in love and trust your love because of how you make her feel when you're just boyfriend and girlfriend. And don't forget the vow you made. Don't abandon your wife and make her feel alone.

If you are a single woman and childless and reading this, PLEASE know your man well. And please be prepared and be it known to you that when you get pregnant, it is a big responsibility. What you were able to do when you were single, most of it, you will not be able to do when you have kids. If you are not prepared for family life, protect yourself. Being a mother and having kids is wonderful. But it is a big responsibility. And it's not easy. But if you found a man that will be your other half and he is responsible, being a mother is the best thing in the world. Be wise.

TO ALL THE MOTHERS, YOU ARE AWESOME. YOU ARE WONDERFUL. YOU ARE AMAZING. YOU ARE BRAVE. YOU WORK HARD! YOU ARE A SUPERWOMAN. THANK YOU FOR BEING GREAT! THANK YOU FOR NOT GIVING UP. THANK YOURSELF AND APPRECIATE YOURSELF FOR EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO!

TO ALL THE FATHERS, THANK YOU FOR BEING THERE WITH YOUR WIFE. THANK YOU FOR BEING RESPONSIBLE. THANK YOU FOR NOT LETTING HER DO EVERYTHING ALONE. THANK YOU FOR THE LOVE THAT NEVER CHANGE. THANK YOU FOR THE HELP WHEN SHE NEEDED IT. THANK YOU FOR YOUR PRESENCE. YOU ARE APPRECIATED. YOU ARE THE MAN! YOU ARE AWESOME!

To that mother, let's pray for her. I pray that someone helps her. I pray that she seek help and she will receive help. I pray that the husband will see his wife's suffering and changed and be the husband he should be. I pray for those innocent children. I pray for them to be a great family again. I pray that it's not too late for that.

Please share your thoughts and your experiences.

Thank you for reading.

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