Had I known
Written by Favour Ifeoluwa Olanrewaju ✍️✍️✍️
Regret is a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over an occurrence or something that one has done or failed to do. A person feeling regret expresses disappointment, anguish, grief, sorrow, and woe.
When you feel regret, you feel bad or sorry about something and wish you can make amends.
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I saw this coming. Had I known, I would have made amends earlier.
Had I known, I would have said this earlier
I worried too much about people's opinions, had I known... I would have done what my heart desired. I should have chased my passion.
Had I known, I would have taken life more seriously.
I can't believe I just spilled this, had I known.
Had I known I would have done this, I wouldn't have done that.
Had I known this... had I known that.
Shades of regrets, sighs of 'had I known'.
Unfortunately, the next set of people make same mistakes, thread the same old part. Then end up with the usual rhythm, 'had I known'.
Because they won't learn.
Regrets that could be avoided.
We make mistakes, that's life. No one is above mistake.
Infact, it's impossible not to have regrets.
We all have one regrets or the other, just that they differ.
There are people with regrets that can be forgotten in a short while, while others will wallow in it till they die.
A person who goes to school and decided to do negatively, joins bad gang and get involves in an operation that claimed someone else's life. They get caught and sentenced to death or life imprisonment.
A person who has to spend the rest of his life in jail will wallow in regrets forever.
And note that it's not only people who are in jail that have long lasting regrets. They aren't the only ones with regrets that drain.
We regret over choices and decisions we made because we feel we could have made better choices. We made some choices that landed us in places we never bargained for.
For now, one of my biggest regrets is not taking my 100l seriously, I could definitely have done better. 🤧🤧
You can't avoid making mistakes, you can't avoid having regrets. But there are somethings you can avoid. That are obviously wrong.
Mistakes are supposed to be unintentional, but then... people do somethings that are wrong, that they are aware it's wrong. Some even think they can do wrong rightly.
You're threading a part you're aware you shouldn't, but you think you can do it right.
Excuse me? Plus minus gives minus. You can't do the wrong thing rightly or expect wrong to yield anything positive.
Something you supposed to do but you didn't will lead to regret. Something you did and you're not supposed to do will lead to regret.
Failing an exam when you could have prepared better will lead to regrets.
Many things lead to regret, alot are avoidable.
But then, there are some mistakes we made that are beyond us. We just couldn't have predicted it wouldn't end bad.
Ending up with the wrong partner might not directly be your fault. Ditching your former place of work for a better work which you eventually end up loosing might not be your fault.
Somethings happened that we couldn't control, but now, I want to lay emphasis on the ones you could avoid.
Why no try plan your time wisely?
Why not read better?
Why not take that course seriously?
Why not set a goal pattern this time?
Why not listen to your mum?
Why not stop trying to please everyone?
Why not just do the right thing rightly?
Why not this... why not that?
But if you've done things you regret, instead of wallowing in regret. It really might not be the end of the world.
A study in the recent issue of the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin shows that about 90 percent of adults have deep regrets about their lives, and that the more they dwell on it the worse their quality of life tends to get.
Hey, listen.
You only failed an exam, you didn't kill someone.
He or she broke up with you, stop regretting meeting him or her.
You have been rusticated, it's okay... that's bad but it's not the worst, you weren't sentenced to jail.
You can make amends, you can make things right
It's okay to regret sometimes, it's okay to sigh 'had I know'.
But then, alot of things can be repaired. If it can, take a deep breathe and do it again.
Identify and recognize where and what you did wrong.
Revise your outcome
Let your ego go, and apologize if you're supposed to
Be honest
Know what's important.
Bring people along too.
One more important thing, forgive yourself.
Oh you're doing that first of all. You can only make amends after you've forgiving your self and let go.
Regrets can't ruin your life, regret didn't... your mistakes did. So if it's possible for you to make amends on your mistakes and forge ahead, give it a shot and stop wallowing in regrets.
Stop biting your nails and sighing"had I known"
And one more thing. Don't follow the same path you regretted. You should learn.
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It's okay
🎵I moved to California in the summer time🎶🎶
I changed my name thinking that it would change my mind
I thought that all my problems they would stay behind
I was a stick of dynamite and it was just a matter of time, yeah
All day, all night, now I can't hide
Said I knew myself but I guess I lied
It's okay, it's okay, it's okay, it's okay
If you're lost, we're all a little lost and it's alright
It's okay, it's okay, it's okay, it's okay
If you're lost, we're all a little lost and it's alright
It's alright, it's alright, it's alright, it's alright
🎵 I wrote a hundred pages but I burned them all🎶🎶
(Yeah, I burned them all)
I drove through yellow lights and don't look back at all
I don't look back at all
Yeah, you can call me reckless, I'm a cannonball (uh, I'm a cannonball)
Don't know why I take the tightrope and cry when I fall
All day, all night, now I can't hide
Said I knew what I wanted but I guess I lied
It's okay, it's okay, it's okay, it's okay
If you're lost, we're all a little lost and it's alright
It's okay, it's okay, it's okay, it's okay
If you're lost, we're all a little lost and it's alright
It's alright, it's alright, it's alright, it's alright
It's alright, it's alright, it's alright, it's alright
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If you're lost, we're all a little lost and it's alright
It's okay, it's okay, it's okay, it's okay
🎵 If you're lost, we're all a little lost and it's alright🎶🎶
Reading through the above song lyrics titled "It's okay", if you're the AGT lover (Americans Got Talent) like me, then you would have got where the familiarity of this song is coming from.
This song It's okay was sang by Nightbirde on AGT.
Jane Marczewski (born 1990), known professionally as Nightbirde, is an American singer-songwriter (hip-hop singer). After releasing two EPs and two singles, she received a Golden Buzzer at her audition on America's Got Talent in 2021, but was unable to compete in the quarterfinals because of worsening health due to cancer.
Yeah you saw that, Nightbirde is a cancer patient.
I watched her audition when she sang "It's okay" and I was moved to tears. She had sang so beautifully, I bet she had the best voice on that audition. Asides that, her smile and glow... you'll almost not believe she's not fine.
And what got me the most, "Nightbirde Said her doctor said she has just two percent chances of survival and she was still smiling". I was like wtf!
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That song earned her the golden buzzer on AGT in 2021, but she was unable to compete in the quarterfinals because of worsening health due to cancer.
She came on stage and just casually told us everything she was going through in a song, then she could still give one of the most beautiful smiles at the end.
Nightbirde said its okay to be lost, we're all a little lost and it's alright.
She made us believe as long as you're still breathing, there is hope.
And when she was asked how she's still able to smile and be this happy, she said;
"You can't wait until life isn't hard anymore before you decide to be happy".
That really touched me.
If you're going to wait till life isn't had anymore, you might end up spending over half of your life in sadness.
Nightbirde is still alive, and now she's thirty years old. She said she's not scared of death, she's not scared to die now, but that doesn't stop her from staying happy.
Living life.
I wrote an article on suicide yes, she didn't decide to commit suicide because of what she was passing through, rather, she took a bold step and came to sing on AGT. Even though she could not complete in the quarterfinals cause of her health issues.
It's challenging.
If she had killed herself, cause of too much pains, then we might never have hard of her. She wouldn't have lived life.
She didn't give up on living. Rather, she decided to enjoy every bit of her life.
And I'm very sure, one of the reasons why she's still alive is because she decided to be happy. She decided to live. And since she decided to live, her heart is happy and refreshed.
What are you going through currently?
What are you passing through?
Is it worse than this?.
You feel you're lost and life isn't worth living anymore...
No matter what it is, no matter how bad it is,no matter the pains... can you just decide to drop all your worries, and stay happy. Can you learn to smile?
Wipe your tears, it isn't the end yet, go to bed and sleep with zero worries. Don't give up on living. It really isn't the end yet!
Don't even think of dieing or commiting suicide, I already said that yesterday.
Don't give up on living just yet.
It's okay, it's going to be fine soon.
You're just a little lost and it's alright.
It's okay to be lost, trust me... you'll be fine, SOON.
Guess what? We are all lost, in one way or thing... or the other.
Just that situations are worse than each other. But still, you've got to keep living.
As long as you still breathe in Oxygen and breathe out carbon dioxide, then you've to stay alive. Decide to be happy.
It's okay.
I hope this is helpful to someone out there who really needs this.
Now put a smile on your face and look at the mirror.
It's okay really.
Thanks for reading.
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Suicide should never be an option
Ever been faced with real life challenges and then you thought of just ending it all?
Ever felt that living is not just worth, after passing through hell on Earth.
Or right now you've given up on life and you think you can put an end to all the struggles, pains, disappointments and you want to put a big full stop to it all.
Your partner just put a drastic end to an over four years relationship or your spouse called off your wedding and you think the only next option is to end your life.
I've heard it a lot of times, people do say life is sweet.
It is.
Life is full of challenges, ups and downs, betrayal disappointment, wickedness... but then, life is sweet.
I'm sorry if you find it offensive... put I'll say it again, life is sweet.
keep saying it till you admit it.
There are alot and different definitions of suicide, everyone knows what it means to commit suicide, so I don't need to define it.
To be candid, a lot of factors cause suicidal thoughts which might eventually lead to suicide.
• bullying and discrimination
• different types of abuse, including domestic, sexual or physical abuse.
• bereavement; loosing a loved one.
• heart break caused by end of a relationship
• long-term physical pain or illness.
• abject poverty
• mental illness
Life challenges come in different areas, and there are a lot of problems in life. But then, I believe every problems has a solution or a way it can be handled.
Suicide?? Because of temporary problems??oh no no no ❌❌❌
Being abused physically or sexually or facing any form of discrimination doesn't guarantee any form of suicide. Abuse of any form subjects the victims to low self esteem, extreme sadness but you don't have to wallow in silence and then commit suicide. You just made the bad people the villians. Speak out and get help.
Call for help and see a counselor.
That you lost a loved one isn't the end of the world. It isn't the end of things for you. It can be so sad, heart breaking, traumatizing and all that, but you've got to cheer up. Why will you even think of death?
That he or she ended things with you doesn't mean you should go and die. They lost!
It simply means they aren't the right one for you. It simply means you deserve better.
We all should learn to be optimistic no matter how dark the situation may be.
Abject poverty I believe is mostly caused by laziness, you should not just go and take rat poison. Why don't you try work hard a bit, and enjoy life better. Pray and see things change for the better.
And if you know the cause of your poverty is spiritual or ordinary, why don't you cry to God?
You might be so sick and it feels like life is coming to an end, you might be going through severe pains and you suddenly feel you the only thing is to put everything to an end. But I want you to know that, if you commit suicide... God will not forgive you.
God gave us life and no one has the right to take it.
People around too have their roles to play. You might not know, but that bad thing that came out of your mouth might be the reason why that person committed suicide.
You say bad things about people and bring down their self esteem. Make others believe they aren't worth anything.
You discriminate.
The rate at which people commit suicide nowadays is becoming alarming.
Learn to check up on people, alot of people are dieing in silence. Some already have suicidal thoughts.
Give them words of encouragements, words that will uplift their spirit.
You don't jokingly tell someone to drink snipper. Please don't!
You try to solve your problems and at the same time, make yourself happy. You don't deserve to die so don't kill yourself.
It should never ever be an option really...
I know there are alot of real life problems I'm actually ignorant of, but then... my word for you, never think of commiting suicide.
****IF YOU'RE FEELING SUICIDAL;****
Please talk about how you are feeling with someone you trust or an emotional support helpline.
Contact a health professional such as your GP or Community Mental Health Team (CMHT).
Try to do activities you enjoy which take your mind off what you are thinking.
If you are in real danger of taking your own life call emergency services on 999 or go to Accident and Emergency (A&E).
Go through the day and take your mind off the future.
When someone comes to ask you to for help, that he or she is being suicidal, please don't joke with it. Suicide isn't something to catch cruise with. If you won't be able to really be of help, make sure that person meets with someone that will help.
Please suicide is not funny.
Stop taking your own life!
That problem you're going through is temporary, why suicide?
When you're being suicidal, the bravest step to take is to continue leaving. Suicide should never be an option, I repeat.
SAY NO TO SUICIDE!
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