Cold Feet It Is.

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Most people have cold feet when they want to make a major decision about their future. They question a lot of things and then project themselves into the future in their mind to be sure this is the life they have chosen rather than the life they have been forced to accept.

We are a reflection of the accumulation of things we have been exposed to. They play in our minds and this is the story of Hannah. She has been influenced by the life she got used to while growing up. A wise man once said that your exposure is your reality.

The things you see frequently would always have a way of playing in your head. We can either break away from it or allow ourselves to be broken by it but we can't dismiss the fact that they would always play at the back of our minds. They said that "Courage is not the absence of fear but the presence of fear, yet the will goes on." Not everyone is as courageous as they look and not everyone is as strong as we hoped.

Hannah always opens up her heart to love because that's her kind of person. She is loyal to a fault and would always give her heart to anything she can but it hasn't worked out for her the way she hoped, especially in the area of relationships. In her career, she is doing great and she is self-made too. She started her business from ground zero and she hoped to take it overseas.

She has only ever dated 4 guys in her life and they all broke her heart into pieces. The first one was not good because he cheated on her with her best friend back then. The second guy did the same thing as he found her cousin more attractive than she is and cheated on her with her cousin. The third is worse because he lied about his marital status. He always parades himself as a single guy until she caught him one day when he walked in on him making a video call to his family overseas. He is married with 4 kids and he is only around for contract jobs before he will go back. He only spends 4 months in the country and then spends the rest outside the country with his family. The truth came out a month before he was scheduled to travel back.

The fourth one looked promising and she felt she has found her soul mate. It was going well for them until one day, he told her that he needed to travel so he can discuss it with his family as it's the custom to seek permission from his parents before bringing her to them. Alas, he travelled to get married to another lady and as fate would have it, one of her old-time friends who has seen him on her status a few times sent the pictures to Hannah and that was how she got broken yet again.

She has been trying to be different from her parent's marriage. That's another one that constantly plays on her mind. Being the only girl, she didn't want to go through all the things her mother went through before they finally got divorced. The divorce was so messy and the children even took sides. All the three guys (her siblings) chose their dad ( and now live with him and their stepmother) and she, being the eldest, chose to stay with their mother.

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Her experience with marriage isn't something she looks forward to and she dreads having the same thing happen to her but she is trying her best to find a responsible guy that would change her orientation about it. She has been trying which is why she opened up her heart to love with those guys before she got her heart broken in the end.

Emmanuel came into her life and they hit it off. It looked too good to be true because it looked like they have known each other for a long time. He is a perfect gentleman, to her definition. He doesn't drink, or smoke and he is the indoor kind of person. This is the kind of person Hannah prefers and that's why they hit it off since they are the same. They started as friends and months down the line, he asked her to be his girlfriend which she agreed to. It took another three months before he proposed to her and she finally said yes after hesitating.

Everyone was happy for her because they knew her struggles. A lot of things kept going through her mind from the guys she has dated to the crashed marriage of her parents. The shocking one for her was how messy the marriage turned out to be, unprovoked. They cited irreconcilable differences but they didn't start that way.

Her parents loved each other that no one ever saw a day that they would go their separate ways. They were always together and even discussed the future when their children would finally leave the house. Both the father and the mother can't pinpoint where it all went wrong.

Her mother later told her that the same thing happened to her mother and also Hannah's father's parents too. It's now looked like both parents have a history of divorce without tangible reasons in their generation and this is what is a major source of concern for Hannah.

Wedding plans were already in place and everyone was excited for Hannah but not Hannah herself. The groom got to the venue ahead of the bride but Hannah never showed up for her wedding. She didn't discuss it with anyone until her maid of honour checked on her at the hotel she booked separately and found a note she left behind saying, "I am sorry, I can't do this." She also dropped a text for her husband to be but he was too excited to even check his phone but when he didn't see her on time, he tried to call her and that's when he saw the text. He held his emotions as he walked out of the hall without saying a word.

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I really thought that she will end up marrying the guy. That was a good read though it hurts me somehow. I can't blame her. Maybe she really is concern about the divorce issue and the experiences she went through. As for me, like the song lyrics says, "All I want is a good guy." A guy that will love me more than I love him.

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1 year ago

You can also try to love him more too. Marriage isn't about who loves more but about who is willing to give more... We can all learn to sacrifice more when we don't for us only on ourselves but our partner.

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1 year ago

Well let me just say, that if that happens in the future, he will be the luckiest guy on earth sir Ola.. Hehe

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1 year ago

Hahahaha. I love your angle to it.

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1 year ago

Na was for Hannah o... Who knows she could have been the one that would have broken the jinx. The fact that this one didn't run away like the others should have told her something. Village people succeed Las Las 😞

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1 year ago

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ village people at last hahahaha. Bilqees you won't kill me.

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1 year ago

Ooh! Kaiii!!!! Hannah disappointed me, why would she make such decision that she was no longer doing, I'm the day of her wedding for that matter! Emmanuel might have been the best person for her life, but now she has terminated the wedding. E be like say curse dey follow her ooooo😒

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πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£ your last statement got me laughing hard hahaha. I wouldn't blame her because fear is no respecter of persons but I blame both of them for not discussing her past. Maybe Emmanuel wouldn't have rushed the wedding and would have decided if he wanted to wait for her to heal.

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1 year ago

It's very hard for a lady to see a trusted, true full, and a faithful guy, who has the fear of GOD inside himself, someone needs to be very careful, humans been are verpers,procastination can lead to failure,desapoinment, telling your friends and your loved ones your secret will end up spoiling your future, it's better you hide your secret and be an independent and secure your family and your future.

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1 year ago

She got dealt with by those guys which made her fears grow. It's a terrible experience for her...and the guy now too.

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1 year ago

So sad, she was thinking about her parents' marriage and still had it in her thoughts before the wedding day, believing that history was about to repeat itself without her knowing if that was the perfect person for her.

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1 year ago

Yes, fear of the unknown and her history playing a huge part on that.

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1 year ago

I felt sad for Hannah, I think she's suffering from trauma because of what happen to her parents marriage and also with the experience that she has with the relationship that she had before. Those things brings some fears to her and that cause some trust issues. I can say that she even lose her trust to her own value, she was afraid that sooner or later her marriage will failes too. However she's unfair for her future husband, she shouldn't just run away and left the guy without any proper explanation.

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1 year ago

You got it. They should have spoken about her fears before now which is why I think the marriage came a bit too early.

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1 year ago

Am going to confess, that I have projected myself and will continue to project myself into the future to see that love is not made for people like us and it's because am very much quite sure that I will be terrible in love that will I will be very miserable I have gone to the future and seen that it will never just work, that makes me happy and sad at the same time- Happy-- that I will never have to deal with drama and all the stuff people in a relationship go through and the sad part--because I know I will never be loved by anyone the way I think I want to be loved, that is my everyday project and am loving it

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1 year ago

I think you can be loved but you are right, the world is selfish, so maybe not as much as you would have liked. I love how honest you are, so you really want to avoid the drama rather than put yourself or anyone else through that. I respect that.

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1 year ago

Is actually way better that way because for one I don't think can also live after a break up because if am getting into it IF!!! Then am going to give everything I have in that relationship.

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1 year ago

That's it. It's always better to give everything rather than hold back. I feel you.

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1 year ago

Hannah has really gone through a lot. In reality it has happened to people i know. It's always a generational thing, and until someone stands up to stop it, it will continue like that even to the unborn generations.

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1 year ago

I agree. It takes the brave to break it. She got cold feet and felt she couldn't.

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1 year ago

Na Wa for Hannah ooo ...well I can understand her sha. People who have had their hearts broken alot of times tend to have cold feet.

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1 year ago

Yes, and her family history too played a part which made her think something would go wrong years down the line.

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1 year ago

So disheartening when we allow our fear of the future overshadow us, Hannah should have given the marriage a shot, who knows it would have turned out well.

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1 year ago

Exactly, she should have tried and I blame both of them too because they should have spoken about her past and history.

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1 year ago

What we see growing up, witnessed and experienced can have a huge impact in our lives making us make decisions based on those. Unless we have to let go of those fear, then we will always repeat history.

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1 year ago

Yes, we have to learn to let go. Most people allow fear to incapacitate them which would prevent them from giving their best to make things work.

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1 year ago

Maybe Hannah isn't just prepare for the next step of her life. The fear of leaving behind and the feeling of trauma.

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1 year ago

She's absolutely not ready. That's true.

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1 year ago

Such a sad and unexpected ending. She obviously developed cold feet and saw that the life she's about to embark on was not one that she choose but one she has been forced to accept. Previously bad experiences can really affect the thought process of men. So sad

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1 year ago

Her experiences really messed her up real bad. It's a pity.

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1 year ago

Ouch! By the time she decided to say yes, she should have shooed away all her what-ifs and given it a try.

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1 year ago

I guess it was too much for her to handle and they should have spoken about their past together before taking that giant leap.

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1 year ago

As you have mentioned dreads is always there to cease our actions.

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1 year ago

I don't follow...

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1 year ago

Scary! I imagine myself in that scene and wonder if I'll be able to process all of it, the pain. Could lead to a psychotic break down

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1 year ago

A massive psychotic breakdown. No doubt.

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1 year ago

Ouch, such a sad, sad ending. Oh! Dear Hannah... The trauma really changed her thinking faculty, plus her family's generational pact with divorce... Sighs, can I really blame Hannah? I doubt, I guess she did what she had to

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1 year ago

I can't blame her either but I will blame the two of them for not getting to know each other more before walking down the aisle. The guy would have known not to force things and allow her to heal properly first.

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1 year ago

She was in trauma on what happened to her parents plus all the 4 guys who broke her heart.. I felt sorry for Hannah..

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1 year ago

Exactly. It's too much to deal for her and I guess she and her partner rushed things too.

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1 year ago

yes but if he really loves her, why wait for long, theres a lot of couple who are in a long relationship but end things up still..

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1 year ago

I totally understand that part. It's never about the duration but it's about getting to know the person. I guess they never spoke about her fears and that hurt both of them in the end.

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1 year ago

true.. there no relationship stays longer if they were not both open to its other..

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1 year ago

True that.

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1 year ago

I can actually understand her but is too months not too early to propose? I feel they barely know each other

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1 year ago

I think so too. If they had spent more time with each other, he would have known her fears and get to know her more. It's too early for her, especially with her background.

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1 year ago

Hmmmm.....i will assume that you will continue the story. Her major concern is fear. Fear of what has not happened at all. This happens to most of us, especially ladies.

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1 year ago

I agree with you. It happens to most of us. Some deal with it internally while others act it out like she did. Hahaha...no. That's the end of the story πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚

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1 year ago

I don't like stories ending on a sad note😭😭😭

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1 year ago

I'm sorry πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚but I don't like happy endings either πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£for stories but I love it in real life hahaha.

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1 year ago

Why😭😭😭I hope you don't write much stories

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1 year ago

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£ I'm sorry.

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