I’m Getting Married
What is the age recommended for marriage, and I'm so curios to know your answer?"
This was a dilemma with a friend.. here's what she said "I don't know about marriage and I don't know about kids either, seems like an egotistical pursuit masquerading as something so noble. I do like the idea of doing amazing things with awesome people, maybe I'm just tripping but family just seems average and I don't really see any thing in marriage and commitment"
I understand why some people don't agree with the idea of marriage and having a family and all of that coz I think everyone is entitled to their own desires.. but to me being a firm believer in marriage, was because I was fortunate enough to have both parent for some time although my dad's late now. My mom got married when she was 21 and my dad was 27 and so they got married at a young age. When you see that happen and grow up in that situation seeing them overcome any obstacles together of course you're going to believe in the idea of marriage..
But then she says she has a good family and don't believe in that idea of marriage, here's my opinion... she must have had curiosities about those other things and for her to say nothing can ever lead her into having a long term connection but yet she talked about so much on personal desires.. There's nothing deep and meaningful about those things that was listed, there's nothing deep and meaningful about life itself.. then at the time I was thinking I about it, I actually felt like being in one to have the experience so quickly..
We kinda do what's beneficial to us, you want to see your legacy live on through your kids.. at the same time would anyone say a marriage is a bad thing based on this points. We kept on arguing all day and I was like for every step to be amongst a family we are trying to build some thing that will out live us regardless of how we feel about it at that very moment..
Here's my philosophy, I think that love does exist and it's worth the wait.. of I had gotten love at this age, I wouldn't been ready for it and I wouldn't be able to process it correctly and it currently would have broken me because I am not ready for, we must be in tune with ourselves first before we find a match outside ourselves.. then someone out there sees you and gets attracted to you and you're also going to be aware of the people in tune with you.
So you're getting more opportunities and becoming more observant of those opportunities to be loved and love some one else.. we must keep working on ourselves and this is to everyone out there feeling lonely or having a negative feeling about marriage, keep doing what you do and dont stop working on yourself. This message still speaks for you to take all those love you want to give to somebody else that don't deserve you and give that to yourself instead..
When you do find a partner that is in tune with you and also with themselves, you can enjoy having the best moment together... I ended it all with finding someone who makes you pause for a while, in that process you feel something then I agreed within me that she's never felt something like this before and really don't know what love is yet..
So I'm asking a general question, "Should love be a scam or a joke?"
What would you say about her opinion towards having a commitment and connection between two people… she wasn’t accepting all the facts thrown on this argument. It’s personal and if anyone decides something it should be generally tagged to everyone.. when I ask her why exactly did she say something like that, there was no reason from her..
I know I sort of changed the idea of me getting married, so sorry I’m not doing that yet and you may just be the one I’m searching for..
Thank you for reading… I love you all. Two days left for 2021 to be over, I’m more excited for the new year..
December 29th 2021