Love is the greatest feeling that a human can offer to anyone. It defines everything. It is service, mysterious, compromise, sacrifice, patient, trust, hopeful and emotional.
But how do you handle failed relationships? Have you experienced it? Or not yet? I hope not.
There's nothing more devastating if the relationship is no longer working and there's no other way but to let go of each other.
Others would say, why would you give up? If you truly love the person, you will never give up on him/her. Fight for your love!
You know sometimes, making the right decision doesn't always mean taking the green light. Sometimes it's better to consider the red light and refocus. Most especially if you have exhausted all the efforts and sacrifices but you feel like you're the only one making an effort to make the relationship work.
Failed relationships? Of course, it's not fine. You made plans together for the future, you invested so much time, emotions, energy, and efforts to be together, and then all of them will be wasted? Are you kidding me?
Well, I hope you will not beat me to death if I say that "you should be thankful". Yeah, I know. That's silly. That's the craziest thing ever!
Wait, let me explain. I'm not a love guru or a love and relationship advisor but this is what I've learned from a friend of mine's past relationship. For the record, I haven't been heartbroken and so devastated about the relationships. I just had a couple of breakups but those were just puppy love and petty ones.
What I'm trying to say is that the situation solely depends on how you handle it. Meaning, the outcomes basically rely on how you get through the circumstances.
If you had a 10-year relationship and just broke up, you can't move on right away. You built memories together, you can't just erase everything overnight. It's okay to cry, it's okay to feel lonely. The negative energy that flows within you is valid and so you will need to undergo the healing process.
Mind over matter. You should reach to the point of shifting things the way it will give you a positive outlook in life. Think of it that this breakup will just lead you to the right person. That you are not meant for each other and you deserve someone better.
Back in my college days, Rosie was a classmate and good friend of mine who had a long-term relationship with our classmate too, Carl. They've been in a relationship since we were 1st year of college.
They're like glue, they always stick together. The class would know that they are in a fight or misunderstanding if they're distant from each other, if one doesn't go to the canteen with the other, or go home with the other.
Their relationship was very strong though. when we separate ways after college, we can still see them together in one photo. They both went to Cebu for work. They were absorbed from the company which they had rendered their on-the-job training.
They looked so in love with each other. Their relationship was transparent to the public and so if you're someone they're close to, you would know that they're not okay because of the posts they do on Facebook.
Until one day I opened a friend request and it's the girl's new Facebook account. I accepted her friend request and asked her about the reason for her making a new one. She then told me that she wants to avoid toxic people. I got curious and stalked her old profile and there, my hunch was correct.
Lately, (years before I discovered read.cash, I check Facebook sometimes but now, rarely) I noticed something off with her posts and she's been sharing posts about self-love and moving on. Then, the guy is nowhere to be found, and the photos together were deleted.
When I checked the guy's profile, he's now with another girl and had a baby.
I never thought this guy would cheat. I mean, we were college classmates so I know he behaved back in college. He was so kind and sincere to my friend.
So yeah, Rosie and Carl broke up. They were together for 6 years. It was very hard for Rosie to move on. But then 2 years later, it seemed that she found the one for her because she's now happily married.
You see, failed relationships do not define you as a failure. Everything happens for a reason. Take Rosie as a good example. Just be hopeful.
Thanks for reading!
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