February 15, 2022
The young generation would sometimes make me feel envious of how they could go with the flow and live their lives to the fullest without worrying about the consequences of their actions and decisions. Some would not even care to lift some burdens of responsibilities in their families as they opt to only think of themselves and don't give a single d*mn about the world and the people around them.
Compared in our times when corporal punishment was still the way to reprimand disobedient and mischievous children. We were scared to go out with friends without the permission of our parents, and we were even more scared of the punishment that would greet us once we step foot in the house at night. And a long whip of either broomstick, leather belt, or wooden stick was ready to be flogged on us once we broke the house rules.
Yet, those corporal punishments and our father's iron fist molded us into what we are today, and we learned how to stand on our own feet without parents' supervision, think rationally, and act responsibly at a young age.
But nowadays, just like most of the youth, my siblings have greater leeway to do what they want to. They can go out at any time they opt to, do this and that, and even live more comfortably compared to our times. They have a concrete house to stay warm and safe, electricity to light their nights, appliances to make their living more convenient, and gadgets just to satisfy their yearnings. And our parents are not getting younger anymore to stress out themselves too much in controlling my siblings' lives. Moreover, our father's iron fist has softened as he aged.
However, some seemed to abuse the freedom they have to the point that they would allow themselves to get lost in the wild world, and indulge in things they don't seem to comprehend, as well as the consequences behind them.
The youth's curiosity and aggressiveness in this new era are also uncontrollable with the influence of social media and things they see on and off the screen. This would sometimes lead them to try pre-marital s*x without thinking about what would happen once the burning fire they feel faded and created a mess. Unfortunately, one of them who got lost in the wild world was my younger sister I referred to in my article just let me cry.
I remembered when she was younger, she would throw tantrums when her wants weren't granted. And even how many times my parents and I tried to correct her misconduct, she would still venture out into her so-called world without minding the words we threw at her that were made for her own sake. Instead of listening, she would take our words wrongly and think that we are always against her. And she did grow predictably.
Having a black sheep in the family is really common and trying to tame a wild sheep is tougher than raising an ordinary kid. And being away from my family was even tougher as I couldn't monitor my younger siblings anymore. All I could do is to constantly remind my sister to grow as a person as she isn't a kid anymore, as well as the consequences once she does things she doesn't dare to contemplate. I constantly remind her not to rush things and finish her studies first before venturing out into the wild world, as I know that she couldn't survive being lost in there.
However, accidents are truly meant to happen to teach us lessons. And the one-night mistake she has done created life in her womb that cannot be aborted but would interrupt her from getting a diploma. But what worried me more is the thought about how she could bear a child and face the consequences of her absurd action. Because even at home she doesn't act as an older sibling to the younger ones, how could she raise her child as a young mother?
Outgoing, selfish, careless, impetuous, yet, vulnerable. That's how I could describe her. But even I hated her for being irresponsible and goalless at times, as her elder sister, I can't keep myself but worry about her new life. Entering motherhood isn't just the same as playing merry-go-round, then quitting the game once she gets bored. It isn't just the same as eating hot food and just spitting it out once she gets burnt. It's a different story that should be taken seriously, not just for granted. And it's not just an ample amount of time that she needs to render to her family, but her whole life.
At first, it made me frustrated thinking about how I could carry the burdens alone now that she's out of the picture who was supposed to offer me a helping hand. But soon she would create her own family that would be her top priority. Things like pregnancy can't be taken back anymore and abortion will never be an option. So I just let bygones be bygones and rather, support and guide her because that's what she needed the most by now.
Her life changed a bit now that she's already a mother and soon would cuddle her child. After asking about her daily life, I found out from my mother that her boyfriend would take full support of her child. And both are trying their best to make a living. Gladly, the guy's parents are supporting them as well and even provided a small business for them to kickstart their new life. My sister is handling a little business while classes are still online. Meanwhile, the guy is having a part-time job at the municipal office where his mother is working.
Indeed, just like what happened to @Murakamii.7's friend, motherhood is the answer, the passion, and the purpose.
The irresponsible one is now trying her best to be a responsible person. The last time I called her and vented out my frustrations on her, I felt that she regretted the mistake she has done. But that cannot be undone anymore. Although I regretted doing so as well as I felt that I just put pressure on her. So even though I disliked the mess she has made, all I could do is still act as elder sister to her. Besides, she was a black sheep that I wanted to tame ever since. She was just a sheep who got lost in the wild woods and needed someone to shepherd her back home without compromising her well-being.
This is just the start of her new journey and many more trials would come her way. No matter what happens, both families are there to support and guide the young couple so they won't get lost in their journey. It would be an arduous journey for the young couple sooner that would test their resilience, patience, and faith as they enter parenthood.
Both are still students and I encouraged my sister to continue her studies no matter what happens and the guy would do the same. I had so many plans for her but seemed like the boat would sail in a different direction and I have no choice but to move forward and accept the fact that she isn't a girl anymore and would soon become a real mother. I'm praying and hoping that this would teach her lessons and she would change continuously for good for her child and her new family. It may be a bitter trial for her now, but soon she'll realize that it's a blessing in disguise.
So if you know someone who got lost in the youth's wild world, don't judge her/him. Because what they need is motivation and guidance, not discrimination and judgment!
If you want to see my sister, you can check this article, click here.
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binasa ko talaga sis kasi nkakarelate ako sa sister mo ,young wild at di inisip yung magiging result ng aking actions.And tama it maybe a bitter trial pero for sure its a blessings in guise. Hirap talaga maging batang ina pero at least anjan ung boyfriend and the family of his bf.I'm sure magiging responsible na siya especially if lalabas na yung baby niya.