Motherhood is the answer, the passion and the purpose.

February 9, 2022

Recently, an old friend reached out to me to ask me few things. She was my childhood friend and my neighbor. We have shared the same experiences. We were also elementary and highschool classmates. She came from a big family. She has five siblings and she is the eldest among the girls.

During highschool, their parents went separate ways. Her mom found a new family while her dad stayed. Later on, her dad found a new family too. Her three elder brothers got married and it was only her who is left to take care of her two younger siblings.

She finished criminology even without the constant support of her parents. She wasn't perfect but she is a responsible sister. She also have a social life. Oftentimes, she would drink with her friends some of them boys. Later on, she went to the city to work in a BPO company. It was hard for her because she was a first timer back then but she got a job after three days of applying.

She told me that her life was meaningless then. She works and she can provide for her family and siblings back home, she can go on trips with friends and buy the things that she wants but still she fall onto depression. No matter how beautiful and fun city life is, she would want to come back home. She would always look forward to coming home.

Until her boyfriend moved to the same city with hers. She wasn't alone anymore. After months, they were blessed with a bundle of joy. My friend made it clear to her boyfriend that she don't want a kid. But it happened unexpectedly. It came to the point wherein she struggled because she want to abort the baby. She has thyroid problem and she was afraid that her pregnancy could trigger her existing health problem. After days of learning she got pregnant, she was called by her backer too because PMA is waiting for her.

She was stuck between choosing her dreams and her responsibility and accountability. She told me she almost lose her mind but Hod has mysterious signs for her to guide so she can keep the baby. Her neighbors adviced her and her dreams lead her to choose not to get rid of the baby.

She choose not to get rid of the baby and continue her pregnancy. She let go of the opportunity. Her pregnancy journey wasn't easy. It was only her and her partner who helped each other hand in hand so they can support their needs. She became independent. When it was time for her to give birth, she wasn't aware that she would give birth on that day. Her partner was at work at that time. She immediately called him and inform him of her situation. She then took a taxi and pick up her partner from their workplace.

But she wasn't able to make it to the hospital. She gave birth at the taxi with her partner as her ob. lol.

Her experiences made me realized that what I have been through has not reach the tip of the fingernails of hers. She is responsible in a sense that her maternity benefit in SSS was alloted to the baptism of her baby and their monthly allowance for three months while she is on maternity leave. She got back to work on the fourth month after she gave birth.

She was able to sustain the needs of her child and got back to work again. But her life after giving birth wasn't easy. She experienced post-partum depression. Her son was two months old when she started to hate everyone in the house. She even came to the point wherein she would be angry at them with no valid reasons. She would throw things inside their house and ask her partner to get out of her life many times. Good thing that her partner was patient with her.

She may not be blessed with a complete family but her partner was the best for her. Until now, her partner does the laundry even he has his work. He takes care of their kid because she says so. Now, they both work and leave their son at their neighbor's care. She hired their neighbor as their son's nanny. And now, she has recovered from the depression. I mean, she says that she feels better now and their family is doing great.

I was amazed at how my classmate transitioned to a different person. Coming from a broken family and having to tend to her youngest sisters must be God's way of preparing her for the next page of her life. She is even more responsible right now and I can say that she really is a mother. She takes care of the finances of her family and takes care of her family. She added that when she feels insecure of her body, her partner would always comfort her and appreciate her by highlighting her beauty and making sure that the things are just fine.

Now, she tells me that her son is her lucky charm. Who would have thought that a child that is supposed to be aborted became the reason for her to be inspired in life. She says that she has now a purpose. Going to work and kissing goodbye to his son would make him happy. Bonding after work with family makes her happy.

As a friend and a person that was able to witness her life journey, I felt moved by her story. You see God has really intended plot twists to unfold in our lives perfectly. Motherhood and having a her own family is her plot twist. She says that it changed her for the better. I have come to realized that some women are really for motherhood. Some were born with motherhood as their passion and purpose.

Thank you for reading. Until then.