There are several situations in which the good and bad of each individual is put to the test. Most people tend to have lifelong friends, who sometimes continue to surprise us for the better and others disappoint us. We even meet new people during this time that we like and want to continue to get to know and share pleasant moments with. But there are certain circumstances in which we really get to know the heart of those people to whom we must pay a lot of attention.
We must keep in mind that getting to know a person in depth, with all their positive and negative things, is something that implies more intimacy, hours, different situations and sharing more than just a lunch and a nice company at a party. However, it is not enough to have shared time and good and bad experiences. But also more concrete situations in which you really get to know a person. The first of these circumstances are moments of stress. The way they face the situation helps us to know many things about them; getting nervous, unable to think clearly and even blaming others for what happens.
We can see an attitude of avoiding what happened, this is not very relevant but it allows us to know the attitude of that person in stressful moments. Another would be when they think they need you and when they don't need you they walk away. It is not that they only talk to you when they want a favor from you. Knowing when a friend needs you and when they don't will give you an understanding of what this person is like. There are also the situations of coexistence; there you know what is the behavior of that person. The way he/she respects your space, your things, not to argue because you do not share an idea, that will let you know if he/she is capable of sharing or just doing his/her life at home, which often seems to be anything but something to share. That is, you will know if he/she is someone with a healthy independence or if he/she is a clear example of selfishness.
Another important point is how he/she talks to you about others, because this is something normal and even more so when both people share the same group of friends or live in the same environment, but talking about someone else does not imply lack of respect. But continually judging what they do, saying if their life is better or worse than yours or telling private things about others, can describe the type of personality of who you have next to you. I believe that a friend should be there for the joys and sorrows.
It is said that when a friend leaves you only when you are going through a bad time and appears only in funny moments, it is not a friend you can really count on. But it is not denied that the opposite can happen. We human beings live different moments of anguish in our lives and it is very important to have a support that seems valid to us; but sometimes when we expect attention we receive indifference, bad words. That is why we must surround ourselves with the best people and you also be one of them and do not forget, treat others as you would like to be treated.
Now, there is another aspect that we cannot leave aside. Sometimes we never really get to know someone because we limit ourselves to stay within the profile we have drawn, eliminating from our field of attention what we do not want to see. Some people create an image of absolute perfection and unreality in others. They are people who take too many hypotheses for granted, who idealize and also subjugate, who are incapable of seeing beyond what they wish to intuit what those beings close to them are really like.
Do you really get to know people?
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True friend is there especially when ups and downs comes. They'll help you deliberately with any exchange. I'm so grateful that I have friend like them.