Leave before it's too late

Introduction

Staying in a toxic relationship be it friendship or marriage is an open letter to death. Most times the man is the abuser. It's only in a few cases we see men being abused in the relationship they are in.

Logically when someone is subjected to abuse, it's expected that they quit such a relationship but such isn't the case in most relationships and marriages. Even in the dating stage, most ladies are subjected to severe beating at the hands of their boyfriend but "Love is blind" so they choose to remain In the relationship. There are so many meaningless reasons why people remain in toxic unions and there are also some reasons which seem to be right but aren't. Here are a few.

1. What will society say?

So many ladies are in a relationship with a beast that uses them as a sparring bag from time to time but they are scared of ending it because of what the public will say. It's common to hear them say things like-

" We've been dating for over 4 years, ending it now will lead to so many people asking questions "

They are afraid of being mocked by the public since they post lovely pictures online and people envy them. Simply because of this, they will most likely remain in the relationship.

Remember a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage, and a broken marriage is better than being buried after a severe beating.

For some already in a marriage, their status in the society is their reason. Maybe they are popular figures with influence in the society, they wish to portray themselves as a perfect human being with a perfect marriage, so they endure the beating and cover up the bruises with makeup or make-up stories about how they had an accident that caused the numerous scars and wounds.

2. Because of the time and money invested and the kids.

This is similar to the first, people choose to remain in toxic relationships simply Because of the time they've invested in such relationships. For some people, it's the money they've spent on their partner. They don't want this to be in vain, therefore they endure the pain and cover-up for the monster they are dating.

While some women remain married to a man because of the kids. They know how tough life will be for the kids if they go their separate ways. The court ruling or traditional rule might have the man take charge of taking care of some of the kids and the mother takes the rest. As a mother, they don't want their kids to suffer in the hands of the monster of a father they have, so they choose to be the victim just to protect their kids.

What these women fail to realise is that what they are preventing might end up happening. The man can beat them to death one day and the kids will be left to cater for themselves.

3. Love is blind

This is a common saying in all parts of the world. "Love is blind" is most times used as a joke but with things I've seen recently, I'm afraid - some love is truly blind.

I know a lady whose boyfriend beats with no mercy at will. Hardly will a week go by without the neighbours rushing to save her from her boyfriend. This is a lady from a well to do family, her parents are rich, yet she chooses to date a guy that has nothing, that smokes and womanizes. Whenever anyone asks her to leave the guy for good she cries and starts explaining how she loves him regardless.

This is a lady that is tall and beautiful, I'm sure she has so many suitors but her heart bleeds for the Tyson Fury of a boyfriend and as her heart bleeds, he make sure her body bleeds at interval.

Conclusion

As I said in the introduction, both men and women are victims in so many toxic relationships. Gender doesn't matter, it's just a fact that the Female is the most dominant victim.

Staying with a man or woman that beats you at the slightest provocation is not love but madness. If you are not careful, he/she will send you to an early grave. You should leave the relationship now that you're still alive. If you worry about the kids, talk to someone, get a lawyer, get some evidence that can help your case and pray.

I know marriage isn't a bed of roses, each union has its ups and downs but a guy that beat you while still dating shouldn't be considered for marriage at all. Even if it’s once it's a "No" for me. And if it happens after marriage, enduring the beating doesn't make you a superwoman but the next in line at the mortuary.

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