Friends and Unfriendly Friends.
This blog was initially titled: "family and friends," but along the line, there was a change of plans.
I was initially writing about how family is very important and how friends shouldn't be given as much importance as family, but then I decided not to use my experience and feelings to write. I had to research on the topic. After the research, I realized that not all friends are foes, neither are all friends fake. Real friends are just rare to find and it leaves us with more of the unfriendly ones.
Friends and unfriendly friends.
It's better to be alone than to have a million friends who are unreliable.
Real friends are rare to find, and that's why most people urge that once you find a real friend, value and cherish such friendships.
Who is a friend?
A friend; to me is a soul in two bodies, a friend is someone you can rely one, someone you share your burdens with, someone that would always be Keen to lift you up.
Someone who's always genuinely happy about your wins and achievements. A person who doesn't go behind you to spread rumours, someone who doesn't laugh at your insecurities.
A friend is someone who sees you as a family.
An unfriendly friend.
Just as the name implies, these kinds are pretty much your friend, some of us still keep them around prolly because we haven't noticed their envy or ill wishes towards us.
They pretend to be your friends, but it's quite far from it. They are the complete opposite of who a true and real friend is.
Funny enough, these people can even congratulate you with smiles, jumping and jubilating at your wins, oh!, You'll definitely feel their fake love is genuine.
But...
They are green snakes under the green grasses. These types are the ones that you don't see when you need them the most.
They always talk about themselves only, they are never interested in hearing about what's going on in your life.
They tease you about your insecurities.
They want you for themselves and themselves alone, making your other friends feel inadequate.
They are never appreciative of your wins.
They are not secret keepers, a little quarrel and the whistle is blown.
They are competitive, they never want to hear that you've achieved more than them. They always want to be on top. In this sense; they'll do all they can to make you feel so bad of yourself.
They are not interested in where you're headed, they're rude about things you like.
A short dialogue:
Trisha: (excited) Triana, remember that job interview I told you about?!!
Triana: (unconcerned) yeah, what about it?
Trisha: (looks at her keenly) take a wild guess?.
Triana: oh spill If you wanna, you know I'm bad at guessing.
Trisha: uhhhm, okay!! I got the job!!!.
Triana: ehya, congratulations ooh. (Changes the topic) ehn ehn, did you bring that shoe I told you about yesterday?.
They are unsupportive.
They don't make you happy anymore, you don't find it fun to be around them, you suddenly just feel moody whenever they stop by.
They make you feel insecure.
They are always good at giving bad advice.
It's an unfriendly friend that would ask you to cheat on your spouse because you caught him cheating. An unfriendly friend would ask you to go and confront your spouse in public, just because you saw your spouse with a lady. An unfriendly friend would ask you to give your husband attitude just because he refused to give you money.
An unfriendly friend would always be the first to suggest wrong and bad ideas to tackle a situation.
A short dialogue:
Trisha: (worried) My boss keeps making advances at me, I just don't know what else to do.
Triana: ahan, babe, common...you know there are no jobs out there, sleep with the man and let's close this chapter, what's there? You're not going to be the first person that would sleep with your boss, neither would you be the last.
An unfriendly friend comes with different characteristics. The worst kinds are those ones that would happily laugh with you, but deep within their hearts; They are so jealous, envious and angry at your wins or achievements.
These kind of friends are the ones that pastor in my last article had, he had them as his members, he had them all around him.
Unfriendly friends are all around us, yes they are. For some, their true character plays off when the going gets tough. For others; you'll notice it just by the way they talk or react to good or bad news.
It's better to be alone, than to have so many unreliable and untrustworthy friends.
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Thanks for reading.
Sometimes your family don't help you and friends help you. When it comes to hard situations sometimes brothers and sisters from same family says to you resolve your problems yourself. Then you find some true friends in this situations.