You get used to it
The funny thing about being a human is that you are adaptable. You need to if you want to survive in this world. And yet, by being adaptable you get used to some unpleasant situations too.
Ain't it funny how easy you can get used to something? Just a few days of a routine and then you find it hard to imagine what life looked like before. You think that this kind of day will never change. Yet change is the only thing that is constant which is why we have to be adaptable.
You know many people who had adapted to their situations as best as they could. Some left the situations, some turned to unhealthy or maybe healthy coping mechanisms, but there are some who just get used to it.
You get used to how people treat you. The ways they could make you believe in something only to be shown that it was a trick all along. You get used to getting the short end of the bargain. Smiling all the way, saying it is okay even though it is not.
You get used to being disappointed. The first time it happened, it would be unexpected, but the next few times it will be default. You might not even notice the disappointment build up until they are already too high. Until instead of disappointments, they just become your expectations.
You get used to being treated like you are just an afterthought. The way you could allot time for everyone in your life yet no one else could ever allot time for you. You get used to dealing with your own problems, and help others deal with their own too.
You get used to all these things because it is all that you have known. Sometimes, you would see a post in social media and cry yourself to sleep wishing someone could make you feel that way too. But then you would wake up and think that they probably did not feel that lucky all the time. It would be easier to deal with than facing the truth that maybe the people you have around you just do not value you in that way.
You get used to waiting for nothing. You get used to wasting time. You get used to endless silence. You get used to the feeling of emptiness in your chest. You get used to swallowing the words and just agreeing to anything. You get used to it, eventually.
And yet no matter how used you are to these type of things, a small hope will always linger. Just a tiny wish that it will be different someday.
But you know what? You will never get there is you are still in the same place with the same people. They might change but what if they don't? Or they will change but not in the way you thought they would be. Then you would have wasted your time waiting for something that will never happen.
No matter how many times you get used to not receiving the same energy you give, you have a limit too. There are just so many instances that you could take before it lefts you tired. There are just so many times you could be understanding until you run out of care to give around.
However, if you are feeling this way I want to tell you that it does get better when you finally removed yourself in such situations. It is difficult since you will lose the familiarity of what to expect but you will see the right people for you. They will stick with you through thick and thin and you might even meet more people who would accept you for you.
I am saying it based on my experience. I got used to being taken for granted, got used to being in a toxic environment. After a while, I started to become so used to it that I believed that what I received was the only thing I deserved. But then I left that situation, there was a lot of things that happened and I lost a great deal of my old friends. Yet at the end of the day, I had myself and my few true friends and I managed to find who I am again.
Now, I am surrounded with people who made me remember that I do not have to get used to disappointments. I know that when I wait, my efforts were not going to be wasted. I know that if I ever felt unappreciated, I never had to get used to that feeling because just one word and I know that I am heard.
It is so easy to get used to things less than we deserved because that is all we have ever known but I wish you would know that it does not have to be that way.
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This problem often arises in someone who is very lacking in relationships, meaning that they are less socialized with the environment as a result, due to lack of interaction, adaptation problems become a problem. Association is important because it will make you confident and know how to adapt.