Money talks good article

I pity that lady princess, as she missed to enjoyment of freedom as well as spending on anytime she wants from the money she earns. I was thinking what she gonna do after marriage? Will depend on his husband on financial aspect? That's quite hard.🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Happy New Year My friend! More blessings for you in 2022.

Many girls these days find it difficult to understand what marriage truly means. After the jump in and see how hard it is to get married at an early age without having any skills or hard work. When they understand, they try to jump out, but it will be late already.

I won't blame them because most of them wear brought up in the ghetto.

Your friend is being misled and it's disappointing that even her family member can't speak sense into her. She has no savings, nothing and her only contribution to this marriage would be bedmatics. She thinks that's all a man needs? He can get that for free from some willing friends or even pay to have it.

I am always annoyed when ladies think the only thing they can bring to the table is bedmatics and raising children. Such a person is underestimating her worth because women are capable of so much more. She shouldn't be surprised when the guy sees no value that she brings and starts treating her anyhow.

That your friend is something else sha, how will you get married to someone you don't even know much about? That's how most people end up regretting years later, "I didn't know he behaves this way before I married him", how will you know when you barely know him? I hope she realizes early that she's making a life changing mistake

Marriage isn't a joke at all. Money is very important in it. Person mustn't go into it with an empty pocket. Thanks for the article

Actually sis, there are two sides to a coin.. The plan might be to have her introduction and engagement on the same day(it happens) and also since you said she's 25 already, going for degreeis another 4 years, which means she'd be 29 by the time she graduates or even 30 with asuu strike. Nysc is there too.

She might have her reasons, but if she really wants to go into marriage unprepared, I pray she doesn't rush out the same way she rushed in.

Different people with Different thinking but most people think after a girl attain some certain degree the next thing is marriage and for me, it sounds annoying

I truly agree to you princess. Relationship is not a child thing. It may take seriously. You should plan for it. The most important both of you have a mutual understanding for all the things you've face.

Marriage must be plan carefully. It's not that easy. It must be given an attention and before you enter with this kind of thing you must have an active mindset. Do a realizations. It must have a good preparations. You should be ready. You should know the responsibilities.

Sister I agree with your views both partner should be independent it will make strong to their bond of relationship. But most of the people does not follow this thing and becomes burden for their partner and also face relationship problems. After reading your article in my year 2022 goals being independent and planning married has been added

Relationship is something that should be taken very seriously and shouldn't be taken as a joke or a means of passing time and having fun. As for me, relationship isn't for me, at least for now.

Lolz of people today see marriage as peanut, they don't know that there is more to life after the party.

It doesn't end with the celebration, it has to do with what life would look like after the wedding. What value will you add to the union? Am I ready for this? How do help me spouse?

All these must be considered.

You have the right idea about relationships my friend... It's for two people and they both have roles to play...

I'm telling you, it's no joke for real... We need to be careful before jumping into marriages or relationships

Wahala be pending for that friend of a friend

I cannot imagine having to introduce your partner at the wedding! I mean before you marry someone he should already be part of the family and know everyone!

Many young girls get married after their SSCE now days not even thinking what they are going to offer to the children if the man die ( GOD FORBID) but mostly some girls don’t think wisely. They just jump into relationships and get married then born children that’s what they think about.

Believe me sis,The only reason why she is rushing into marriage is because " all of friends are already married". We all know the dire consequences of such mindset in the nearest future. Just wish her good luck, shikena!

Very true that wedding and marriage are two extremes. Relationships should be valued. Respect each other for a long lasting relationship.

That's why I don't want to get married that easy, like hellooo we are talking about life time relationship and once in a life time ceremony/occasion. Better to do it on the right man and right time, the one that you really love. I've seen a video about a girl crying because of force marriage, it really broke my heart.

My dear, you have reasoned well and my advice to you all younger girls is to always open your eyes very wide well in order to know who you want to be in a relationship with

Marriage can't just be rushed into.

You need to have built your relationship with someone one, not just any body but someone you love. Even the person will still have some flaws but you would know and also know how to cope with that person.

Smiles.. I was just smiling as I was going through he article, relationship is between the guy and the lady sure, but most time ladies then to take thing too serious, the way I reason relationship might be different from yours, but I tend not to take it too serious after my best friend girlfriend left him in school for holiday just for him to see her introduction picture on Facebook, I told my girlfriend about it and she said probably the new guy was better than my friend, that reply really hurt me, we had a very long argument that night. But all well and good. Also I would never take anything I brought for bride price back to my house.. Not our family style

This makes sense. Relationship is not a joke. Yes. And Marriage is not a race. I believe love is not enough, and I guess this is the reason why I am not open for romantic relationships right now. It's like I couldn't just expect a relationship would work well by just telling my partner how much I love him. So as to marriage. I was quite baffled as knowing someone wants to marry a partner whom she barely known. On the other side, I couldn't just judge their decision though. It's their relationship, not mine. Finally, I guess we love the idea of a wedding. But do we truly understand what it means to be married? Before getting married, I think there are a lot to consider. Partners must discuss bills, financial resources, parenting style, relationship with in-laws, career, partner and sexual expectations, properties, and other topics. Love alone won't make marriage work well.

I want to marry without savings, it will lead to breakfast asap. No body should go into marriage with empty pocket. Well, I don't know much about it but I know that money is important.

Just few ladies on Earth are understanding this "getting to marry" of a thing. To some they see it as a bus stop for striving so when they acquire any fainted paper called certificate either in school or a workshop they conclud that they're ready to go.... Also, peer pressure is still pushing some, once they see others getting married they quicken their brain factory to rush into it, without considering some basics in life. May God help us

For a beautiful life we need to a beautiful Relationship. Relationship is a important thing. Relationship Is Not a Joke dear. I believe it.

You said the truth, but I think advising someone who is naive is a whole lot of work. Besides, I don’t know why adults still feel marriage is still like the ones in the olden days, why would you want to believe your life will be better in marriage. We need to create awareness for the youths. Marriage is not as rosy as what we see in the media today.

I believe that relationship gives an insight about marriage. Marriage is the product of relationship in a way. Relationship is never a joke. Thanks

Marriage is not a joking matter and something we should rush into. This is because when you rush into marriage, you will run out with immediate effect. It is not a child's play and no one has the power to joke with it except love.

Being in a relationship means studying each other which is the does and don't. This lady that wants to get married must have plans for her marriage I guess because it it not easy to venture into marriage. Although, I did traditional marriage and did spent a lot of money. I did not receive any help from anyone instead spent my money.

Since she is receiving just meagre, she may have plans for her marriage.

Marriage is all about understanding each other to the fullest.

I agree with you, Marriage is not a matter of day, so this decision should be taken carefully. Amazed to hear about that he would brought rice to the bride's price.

Of a truth, a genuine relationship is not a joke not to talk of marriage...

People often desire to experience their wedding day or ceremony, forgetting the subject called marriage... Hmm. Ok ooh... I tell some. I feel they are carried away by the fantastic, luxury of the ceremony, people compliments, items of clothing, wedding snapshots, event decorations, special numbers for the couples, entrance dance, bridal shower, bachelor night and many more...

All these above has blinded many to see the content in marriage; like commitment, affection, trust, provision, parenting, protection, shelter, patience, honesty, long-suffering, relations, finances, among many other. These are long time involvement and if one is not ready to engage these virtues such is not ready for marriage...

I advise those who want to get married next year including me such invest more in these virtues above rather than wedding plans and arrangements... However, I wish every soon to be couples congratulations in advance and Happ New Year to all...

Peace ✌️

OkanlaDavid

I feel like I just wrote similar thing to this as well 😅😅 and we both just have the same feeling… relationships should be taken seriously, those words are true, you can’t say because you finished a certain journey in life requires you to get married just like that… it takes the right thinking and a matured mind to fully understand what it takes to be in one…

Besides bedmatics boy oh boy 😅😅

When a man dates a woman, it's goal must to marry that person. It shouldn't stay in dating mode co'z we all know that being in relationship is way too hard than we imagine and marriage as well is no longer a joke.

I am perplexed as to how this friend of a friend wants to marry in February and she barely knows who she wants to marry. Maybe there is more to it than she's saying. Because I can't believe anyone would do that in this time and age

I guess that's no real relationship and i'm afraid, it may hit the rock. How could she not devote her time to knowing where her boy friend stays in lagos and yet, she could be thinking of herself as one who is in a relationship huh?

As the adage goes, it takes two to tango... So both should respect and value each other. Most especially, have a better and continuous harmonious communication.

A true relationship is both people is in love 🤗

I feel some people see marriage as a status symbol, like graduating from school early, but they're easily fooled by the glitz and glamour of social media couples that they don't take the time to understand what marriage is about.

I hope she really doesn't regret her marriage later on in life. I want to wish her well but considering all what I can deduce right now, things are bound to get Rocky and stormy, I hope she sails through unscathed.

Marriage is not that easy, Just like my two close friends that now is in marriage and have kids already. Both of them said to me that I must not hurry in marrying coz they already experienced it and they said that it is difficult to raise a child w/o enough money. Hihi