Healing Is A Process.
Badly broken beyond words and repairs it seems
Left at the mercy of others and ridiculed too
You've found love with the wrong set of people
You questioned yourself because your heart can't be relied upon
Why would your heart always lead you to those who'd break it, you asked?
Why won't your heart know those who are real and those who aren't, you questioned?
You've been badly beaten to a pulp with your emotions unable to rise
You are not willing to give in to love again, no matter the price
What's more? Your heart failed you even since it's your greatest prize
You've come to accept heartbreak like Nigerians have no choice with Rice
You don't want to think far ahead because there is nothing inspiring
Everything looks bright but with burnt dreams and heartbreaks
This wasn't the life you dreamed of while growing up
You wished you'd get rich and be in love but you are not even close
Fake it till you make it? You are not even close with your striking pose
You lost hope in love, even if they splash you with it like a water hose
Oh! You wish you can detect those heartbreakers from afar with your nose
At least your heart failed, you hoped your nose wouldn't
There is still that faint hope that love can reignite in your heart
But how do you know who is who, with all the people here on earth?
Love didn't hurt you, insensitive humans did
It's hard to look far ahead when uncertainty looms in the air
It's not easy to find love, not as easy as finding your slipper's pair
You always mutter this underneath your breath
Love will find you again just when you are not looking
Maybe we meet a few bad people in life
So when we meet the good ones we can appreciate them
All you've gone through are experiences that led you here
You will heal, so don't force the process
Only this way can you attain that success
Take time to work on yourself, see it as a recess
But never forget that the best and sweetest of things attracts
A lot of people will come along the way to confuse you
Still, watch their content before feeding your soul with it
It's just a phase, don't make a permanent decision over a temporary situation
Love will find you yet again and it would feel like summertime
Take your time as you go through your healing process
I understand we handle hurts differently but one thing I know we all have in common is that we all need to heal. We heal differently and as shocking as it might sound, some take a shorter time to heal which would make you doubt if they were ever in love in the first place and for others, it might take longer and this can make them doubt if love ever existed.
A lot of people had their hearts broken by those they least expected it from. They have invested too much of their time and energy, resources even and loyalty only to have it shoved right back in their face. It's a terrible feeling because it makes you doubt yourself - your choices and your sense of worth. You lose value for most things because you have this laid back attitude that things might not work quite as you had hoped. This has made a lot of people shy back from giving their heart to things, even mere friendship because they see it as a waste of time since their efforts won't be appreciated, they'd say.
Love is a powerful thing and many people have used it as a weapon too but it doesn't mean that love is cruel. Anything we do in the name of another thing is our responsibility. A man who is in love, shows affection to his partner, that's who he is but someone who acts the opposite, that's who he is as well.
We seem to take the focus off the person who hurt us and generally assumes that love is at fault. Everything in life goes through a process and the hurt you are feeling as well would have to go through a process. It might take others years and others months, but one thing should be true, we should never close the door to our heart and throw the key away. You can close it temporarily until you are sure of who you want to let in but don't ever close your heart to true love because it would still find you but you have to heal first.
Most people try to force relationships when they haven't healed. They want to use another human as a body shield so they can get over their hurts but it's only going to be temporary because they would soon see that the hurt goes deeper than they thought. It's more obvious because who you are with would see your lack of effort and commitment to the relationship and that's because you haven't healed.
Not healing yet means you would hold back, judge everything, assume everything and you might even invent scenarios that never existed in your head because the events of your last heartbreak are still playing in your mind. Stop forcing things and allow your heart to heal first. You will know you haven't healed fully when you can't talk about your ex without resentment.
You will know you haven't moved on when you are holding back and walking on eggshells over something another person hasn't even done. It doesn't mean you don't have to evaluate situations but you have to judge every person based on what they have done and not based on what you think they might do. You can address situations ahead of time but you don't use past situations to judge those who knew nothing about it.
Healing is a process...take your time. There is no attendance to be marked, stop yielding to pressure. Allow time to naturally heal you...for as long as it takes.
Thank you for your time.
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Thank you so much for this. I believe it will help me greatly because right now I think I'm one of those people who isn't believing a thing about love anymore. Trust isn't even an option for me. Everyday I wake up thankful for the people in my life but then again I'm prepared to see them change and leave like every other person. I'm quite used to disappointments and I've concluded that life is more like a personal thing, that you're kind to people doesn't mean they'll be kind to you, that you're sincere doesn't mean you'll not be deceived, that you love whole heartedly doesn't mean you won't be manipulated... But personally I've chosen to stay true and I honestly have no expectations anymore, have no beliefs either. I live everyday as it comes and I hope I heal.