Bypassing in communication
**Hello, my readcash families.**
Today is another day to wake up and appreciate our existence on the surface. Life is so cool. When we are reminded of some things in life than we actually feel like there is nothing left in this world of ours. That's just life for us.
Another Friday again. Just like the blink of the eyes when we started another beautiful week. Monday came around like yesterday and tomorrow will be the weekend again.
One thing I am always grateful for is being among those who are privileged to witness another day on earth.
While I was thinking about a topic to write on. I remembered a topic we were taught in our general studies when I was in my first year at university. The topic was about BYPASSING.
At first, merely looking at the topic I thought I could actually get the meaning once. Since it's just a simple combination of "By" and "Pass". So my silly thoughts or childish definition 🤣 was that when someone passes you by means bypass.
Then I proceeded to the topic content and it was just an amazing read because I got to know the true meaning to bypass in communication was that I already bypassed the meaning for another thing. 😆
Bypassing: Different words have different meanings to different people. Bypassing happens when two people attach different meanings to the same word.
So that was the actual meaning of bypassing communication. I gave it a different meaning compared to the actual meaning. Bypassing occurs at almost all levels of communication, be it formal or informal.
Bypassing could also be termed miscommunication or word conflict. So in this case while communicating it's always best to make sure we try passing our message across to the receiver in a way that they would understand the nuances of the message in context.
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Effective communication is just at its best when we try using concrete words and we are also vocal enough. Be it orally or in text, we should also make sure we are giving away the correct spelling and pronunciation. We can also express ourselves through signs just to give effective communication. https://pixabay.com/es/photos/las-manos-equipo-unido-juntos-1917895/
Bypassing could cause conflict. There are many cases whereby one of the communicators receives the word in a wrong way then they would give it a different meaning compared to the actual meaning the sender meant.
There was a day when I was in a conversation with one of my friends and everything was going fine not until I mentioned a word then everything changed. He didn't hear what I said so I asked him maybe his sore throat was the reason why he couldn't hear me. "Is your sore throat affecting your hearing?" That was what I asked him with the expectation of hearing a yes or no from him.
He never replied to me, so I noticed he was acting strange towards me. I approached him to ask what happened. Then he said what I told him earlier was totally wrong. He felt like how would I use the word "affect" assuming I never said that word it would have been better.
I tried explaining to him that what I meant was that while he keeps cracking his throat I am not sure If it would temper his hearing. I never meant to abuse him.
He already bypassed my words for abuse. So when I got to explain myself was when he realized he bypassed my words.
Bypassing happens at all levels. In the textbook I read, bypassing could also happen through material things. If it is said that when you give an average Nigerian a wristwatch for their birthday, it means nothing and they would cherish it. But when this same wristwatch is gifted to a Chinese person they would see you as a bad person because they termed gifting of wristwatches as giving them a timer to the end of their life.
`Article No 4`
Friday, 4th March 2022
What would the world be like if the sky was a different color?.
**Good day everyone here on readcash**
Today is the third day of the month which directly means this would be my third article for the month. With God so good I continue to hope for more strength to remain active and keep up the good work till the end of the month.
`As usual, all praises and thanks be to the almighty God that created life and all in it. For he is the one that gives and takes life. Out of his grace, he decided to spare our lives to see today. Those who are gone never have their wish to be gone, but their time is up. We pray he continues to spare our lives upon goodness.`
Today was somehow for me. I have been trying to sleep even if it's just an hour's rest. But I am finding it difficult. I don't know the reason why but I am sure having nothing to eat would be the major reason for the sleep not showing up.
Some other factors are the high level of heat, I just don't know why these days are so hot. Even during the day or at night there is no difference. It's somehow tiring, especially in our part of the world where we never got a stable power supply. When there is a stable power supply you enjoy your time but once of goes off then your room becomes a living hell.
After trying to sleep forcefully. I woke and touched my pillow and the cloth I wore, they were all soaked in sweats. Then I thought of myself just trying to have some rest. How about those working under the hot sun every day? How would they feel?. Then when they still get home they won't have the fresh air they even deserve to rest well.
This would take me over to the prompt word for today by @shadowspub.
***What would the world be like if the sky was a different color?.***
The prompt looks funny but it's just something we can ponder on. There is a question we need to answer too before trying to look into the topic itself.
**What color is the sky?.**
Right now while taking a look at the sky above me in my area I could see the presence of blue color on the sky. With some white color from the clouds.
I remembered back in the days when we do sing a short popular poem that goes thus, ***twinkle twinkle little star 🌟, how I wonder what you are, up above the world so high, Like a diamond in the sky.***
The diamond in the sky made me think it's the reflection from the stars at night that made the sky have a different color making everywhere so dark and then when they disappear during the day then we have brightness everywhere.
But later on, when I grew older I realized the fact that days and nights are just meant to be through the earth revolving around the sun.
**So what would the world be like with the sky having a different color?.**
I can't say much about this because I know it's just an illusion. It is not something that can happen. Because the world has been this way for a very long time and we never read or heard any history book record a change in the color of the sky before.
***But what if?***. At times I think it's the oceans that take reflection from the sky or it's the sky that takes reflection from the ocean?. I know both of them are blue.
***What if the sky were red? 😆***. Then I think we are living in hell. The world would have just been something else. I can't even imagine what it would look like. ***What if the sky is green?*** Then would take a match to the green pastures around us. ***What if the sky were black!*** Hahaha 🤣. I can't say more of this again. My imagination is just going wild. So there won't be days and nights?. Or would it just be a scary world for all of us?.
If we met it black there is nothing we can do about it. Because we also met it blue which gave it the name "Sky blue".
**From your perspective, what do you think the world would look like if the sky has a different color?.**
`Article No 3`
Thursday, 3rd March 2022
Questions dairy: Some random questions to answer...
`Every day is another day to relax and be happy. Taking the best of our time to rejoice and appreciate every little gift of life that comes our way. Our existence today is nothing but the glory of God and that's never by our power but the grace of God. Many had the wish to see today but we're never opportune to.`
Yesterday was just the beginning of another new month and here we are today counting down to the last days of the month. 29 more days to go. Hehehe.
After a royal rumble match with February, there comes the month of March. I made a write-up yesterday to express my gratitude and also keeping myself on track about my proposed accomplishments for the new month.
I would be answering some interesting questions from the questions diary application. You can also get the app from your Google play store and answer the pop questions as much as you can.
**Quote lyrics from any song you like.**
Any lyrics you say? Then that should come from the old music I found myself listening to again and again. I think I just love the way. It touches my mind and soul. The lyrics from the song Cups by Anna Kendrick
***You're gonna miss me when I'm gone***
***You're gonna miss me by my walk***
***You're gonna miss me by my talk, oh***
***You're gonna miss me when I'm gone***
***… I got my ticket for the long way 'round***
***The one with the prettiest of views***
***It's got mountains, it's got rivers***
***It's got sights that give you shivers***
***But it sure would be prettier with you***
***… When I'm gone***
***When I'm gone***
We are going to miss each other for sure when we later end up not seeing each other again. When we got to leave ourselves permanently and never see each other again. Leaving ourselves temporarily is most times painful but at times we just have to leave each other with the hope of seeing each other someday again in the future, then we might end up never seeing ourselves again then we realize what missing someone could mean...
When it brings about memories of the past, the happy ones, and the sad ones. Then you would never think of anything other than missing them again and again.
**Close your eyes and go to your happy place. Where is that?.**
My happy place should be paradise but since I am here on earth I can't just wish to be gone lol 🤣. Life is just so sweet and interesting to think of leaving anytime soon. Let me just pick some places here on earth. I would love to go so high into the sky and be among the creatures in the sky and also get deep down the oceans and be among the aquatics I would love to be in a hole beneath the soils and be with the terrestrials.
**What are the words that you desire to hear?**
I would always love to hear my parents pray for me. Their prayers, whenever I am always with them, are something I would always want to hear time without numbers. It cools and softens my heart. I pray God continues to spare their lives upon goodness.
**Would you want to live forever...if you could?.**
Who wouldn't have wished for that, but only if our lives wouldn't age then living forever would have been worth it.
Coming to a certain age where one won't be able to do anything anymore than to wait and welcome death. Is that the kind of life one would wish to live forever?. No.
So if we would never age, then I would love to live forever, but if we are going to age then I would never wish to live forever.
**Do you like hugs??.**
Ooh. Who can say a No to this? Though I am not married yet I would always want to give my dearest wife a warm hug every morning and my children some hugs every time we meet. It's always lovely to have someone love you the way you are and want your hearts to be together, that's what I view hugs to look like.
I would love to have warm hugs from some people on the platform but I won't mention names today. 🤣. Maybe some other time when we meet again.
This are the few questions I would answe from the questions diary for today. And I hope you had a nice time reading.
`Article No 2`
**Wednesday 2nd March 2022**
What a February! 😪 Looking forward to March.
`Good morning to another new day of the new month.`
Gradually and gradually we are taking that step towards another new month of the year and it is just another additional day of the year and also another subtraction from our days in life. It is so promising for us to keep aiming for another new day on the earth thereby we are not promised tomorrow. But all the way, we should appreciate our survival this day and also witness another wonderful day of the month. So I wish everyone a happy new month.
It's been a rough ride through February and we all have our ups and downs. That's just life for us all. Everything won't have to come so easy as expected, but just in some kind of way, we would always have to accept our fate about some things in life because they are already bound to happen and there is nothing we can do about it.
I made some promises to accomplish or get to some targets for February but I won't say I never did accomplish anything because every little achievement is worth it except we just want to be an ungrateful fellow.
Your achievement today is someone else's dream. And that's life for every one of us. So we just have to make sure we are happy about our little. No matter how small.
**How my February went.**
My February was quite okay but disappointing because I could only accomplish a minority out of the target I set. I could only make the total of 100+ subscribers which is just one of my aims for the month, My income was pretty low, I don't know why but that is just how I decided to come for the month. Maybe it's due to my low engagement on the platform and just what the randomrewarder thinks I deserved. This is going to be a summary of my achievements. But a lazy man should never give up so easily. I am not giving up, instead, I am making another target for March and I pray God to help me.
**My goals for March.**
**Make a post every day**
This might be quite challenging as a writer but I know with determination I would make it. I also made the same promise for last month but I couldn't meet up with it. I got lazy and procrastination took me a best friend so I became a victim. But this time around I would make sure I fight over any form of friendship it might bring. Get my thoughts together towards my dreams and targets. **30 articles to be accomplished for March and I pray God to help me.**
**Get to a subscriber of 130+**
This is one thing I was able to accomplish last month. I was able to make it up to 100+ and this time around I am promising myself to make it up to 130+ subscribers and I know with you guys' support and encouragement I would be able to do better.
**Make a saving of at least $50**
Yeah, I never wanted to track down my earnings for last month because it was quite discouraging. All the way I still hope for better days to come so I am hoping if I could get something good this month then I should be able to save up some more. I also pray God to help me…
**Get additional sponsors**
This was a total failure for me last month maybe it was actually due to my inactivity on the platform. I did try sponsoring more members but I didn't get an additional one. I hope I would be able to make more sponsors this month.
**These are my plans and target for this month and I pray for the strength to be able to give it my best and accomplish them all.**
`Article No 1 of 30`
Tuesday, 1st March 2020
Grace over everything...
I have been off for some time now. And that's just because at least our body needs rest and there are times we just can't fight over nature when it comes around. That's life for us.
I don't know if I am to call it weakness of the brain or just some kind of writer's block. I just don't know what I am passing through but I know I am going to get over myself in the coming days. Things won't come so easily as expected. But we just have to fight through hard times and make sure we get over it.
Today is the last day of the month. It is so much amazing how fast time flies and with the look of things just in the blink of the eye, we realize that we already counted our days up to 365 and still counting.
I was in a conversation with a friend of mine when he told me about the fact that there is a difference between grace and hard work. Then we discussed deeply the facts, citing some examples about life and how we can overcome hardworking without grace in life.
It is so easy to differentiate between someone working with grace and someone working with effort. At times effort pays off but grace matters most.
When an individual is graced then he finds whatever he does so easy and simple. He does things out of nowhere and it matches his way. For example, when two people applied for a job interview and there is someone who is fully eligible to qualify for the interview, he had every right to be the selected one, but he just wasn't appointed. And the other one with lower qualifications and even never expected to be picked was appointed for the interview.
Another example we cited was the fact that there are times individuals are awarded contracts to be done. There are a lot of people who are worthy and willing to be granted the contracted but out of the population, just one person would be selected and awarded the contract. Does he think it by his hard work or Grace?.
At competitions when the different representative from different places, different training ground, different coaches, and strength meets together to compete for just a winner which is the first position. At the beginning of the competition, no one or team could assure themselves that they would be the to carry the trophy. They would all work hard but it takes only the grace of God in conjunction with individual efforts and attempts to become the winner.
Someone might be blessed with a lot of talents to do different things at the same time but to make a living out of it would become a problem to him. He hardly makes income from them even though he had the knowledge and ideas. And sometimes some other people would just have to do this same thing without stress and they would make a lot out of it.
Same way some members of the platform would find it so easy to write multiple articles per day on different platforms and some one couldn't even set a balance making one post per day on just one platform. And many more examples to be cited.
**In conclusion**
It is good to be hardworking, but the grace of God over everything matters most. When you are graced you would find things easy going and most times things fall in place at perfect times.
Put efforts in whatever you do but never forget to pray to the almighty for grace 🙏.
The black pajamas
This is rated 18+ and readers discretion is advised.
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I felt suspicious, but I actually can't say what exactly is going on. I tiptoed in suspiciously looking at my right and left then I gradually began to drop my feet on the floor walking quietly. I was safe till I got to the sitting room, then I went to the dining to get myself some chilled drinks I sat on the cushioned chair and crossed my legs over the table watching the latest Monday night raw wrestling match. After a few minutes, I felt so sleepy then I decided to get in my room to rest.
I took a little sip out of the juice I have left on the table and dropped the glass cup. On my way to the room I felt something strange because I am the type that keeps my door locked, but all of a sudden I saw it opened. Maybe I forgot to lock it before leaving the house.
I enter the room and relaxed on the bed. Then I heard the door slam in front of me. And got locked with the keys. I sat upright immediately and jumped on my feet. Then I saw a woman in front of me.
She walked majestically towards the window side and sat at the edges of the bed adjacent to where I stood in shock. I couldn't utter a word nor scream out for help. She showed me the keys and then threw them outside through the window. My heart started to beat abnormally high.
She wore black pajamas and kept her hair loosen, having them rest on her shoulders covering the gap between her neck and shoulders. Ooh. Seem she had already taken her time to shower and change her wears. But what amazed me is the fact that she entered through the front door without the key.
She was no different from her old type just that she must have added more flesh and also her skin glows the more. It's been a while I saw her now, she was my crush since our days as a teacher in the school we taught.
She gave me a signal to come closer to her, but I took my steps backward and towards to door till I got my back on the door I tried opening the door so I could find my way out of the room. But it seems all my struggle was just in vain. I moved toward the bed and knelt at one angle of the bed to beg for my life. She smiled 😆.
The next thing she did was to pull off the pajamas in my presence and then I went off to drop my head on the bed immediately. My eyes couldn't take what I had just seen. It had only been an imaginary view for me but now I think I got to see the real picture. Haha. Having gone deep in thoughts thinking for a way out of the mess I found myself. One part of my mind told me to move on and the part told me to prevent it by all means. But seems the **"do"** part is weighing me more than the **"don't."**
I could feel something coming towards my head, so I had to confirm what was there. I touched her lips 😳, I pushed her away, but she still keep smiling, and then this time around it was the return of the warrior. She started crawling towards me like a tiger trying to catch it's prey, but this time around I already got mad at myself for pushing her away.
I fell for my predator having my hands going straight to her cleavages, I never thought I could be the one doing this. I could feel the warmth 😜 and the smile on her face. My body started vibrating. Then she brought her head towards mine and our lips interlocked. I couldn't believe I am into this for the first time. Oooh 😳. It kept on going for minutes.
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Everything was going on fine not until I heard a bang on the door. Knock!! Knock!!! Please can I borrow your phone I want to take some pictures? It was that girl from our next room that called me to borrow my phone. I was a little furious but I couldn't express it to her. She just destroyed the best moments of my dreams.
Just my rambles for yesterday
Yesterday was another beautiful day on the earth's surface. Not so special but the count makes it look so special which was counted to be the **22.02.2022**. and just another amazing day of the year. It is called the ambigram as it occurs rarely in the calendar and it is the last we have to experience so far. There is no month with the count of 33day so even if the calendar should count the **3rd month of 3033**. The last one was dated to have occurred on **11.01.1011**. It's a pleasure to be among those who witnessed yesterday.
**Good day to another sad news.**
On Monday while I was having a chat with a friend of mine, she updated her status to be in a bad mood and she was heartbroken about it. I asked her about the sudden change in her mood then she broke the news to me that her uncle just kicked the bucket. I sent her my condolences and prayers. It was so sad to hear. But everyone in life would just have to visit the grave someday no matter how slow we trek or how fast we run.
Death is inevitable. While some of my friends were also celebrating their birthday yesterday and I was happy wishing them well as they count to another additional year on the earth's surface. Then I decided to take some rest and sleep for a few minutes before it was time to get up and prepare for my workplace.
I was deep asleep before I got the call from my boss at work who is also a member of the army. He called me to gather some people around me so we can go dig the grave for one of the dead soldiers who was known to be the guard commander to the state governor.
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He was announced dead yesterday morning so we got to dig his grave by noon and he got buried in the evening time. He left his wife, children, families, friends, co-workers, and his boss behind and dropped at his bustop when his time was over.
*****He left a message to all of us while he found his way to the outer world.*****
The number 1 message was that ***Death is not new to humankind anymore.*** We are bound to be present at his grave today, so would people be there at our grave too. We are all breathing in and out but someday it will all end like he did yesterday.
***We all have our different times in life*** so don't compare yourself to others, even your dearest wife or husband would not follow you into the grave. They might cry and cry but one day they would stop crying and move on. Your child would play and smile but once in a while, they might remember you and whatever you do. You are left all alone with your deeds.
***Life is vanity,*** no matter how rich you are, your money, or your cars, your houses, your power, your title, and every otherworldly thing you have acquired so far, you would leave them behind, people would inherit them and probably fight over it while you are gone.
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***Prepare for the unknown day.*** It might be tomorrow or years to come, but you just have to experience it someday. Assuming our death day is visible to us we would have prepared a lot by doing good deeds and making sure we remain humble till the final day. But the sudden occurrence makes it remain a mystery to us. Someone who might be sound and healthy in the morning might be no more in the evening, while someone close to leaving the earth's surface would survive and keep living. Which means their time is not up yet.
That's life for us and nothing more.
The past few days have been so busy for me. As I continue to get some additional workload to attend to. I know this month of February seems somehow even on readcash and noisecash but we still keep pushing and hoping for better days to come.
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Letter to my dad
`Dear Dad`
`Today the 12/12/1997`
*I was born on the earth's surface, I am sad but everyone is happy. I could see everyone smile and their faces brightened up. They cared for me but I still don't know why they would have to do so. I just hope you were there to read my emotions and make it clear to them that I enjoyed my life over there more than the one I am present. This world is stained with sins. I can feel it in my body but when they bathe me I feel like I am already like them in this sinful world.*
`Dear dad`
`It is already a year 12/12/1998`
*I am going to be celebrated, I don't know what they are saying but I could hear the noise and see some crowds and faces I am not used to. Mum smiled again today and I am happy to see her smile. I never knew what she could be thinking but the thoughts of having you hold my other hand while I try to walk are somehow coming over my mind.*
`Dear Dad`
`I am going to clock 5 years today 12/12/2002`
*It has never been easy so far. I am already waving goodbye to my infantry and childhood stages. I can now do things on my own, run minor errands for mum, and also I am presently in the third class of my academic year. Mum gave me a present 🎁 for my fifth birthday, it was me and her compared to my first birthday. I am happy with mum and I would always continue to make her smile every day. She promised me something for my first ever promotion ceremony which is yet to come.*
`Dear dad`
`Today is my class promotion 15/05/2004`
*Mum told me something, she said you were born this month. I became happy and excited but how I wished I could see you and mum together on this day. I am sorry for not wishing you a happy birthday all these years but now that I know about your birth date I would make sure to celebrate it every year with mum. Today I am promoted from the lower basic to the upper basic classes. Dad, I am so happy putting on this academic gown. I promised mum to become someone great in life.*
`Dear dad`
`Today is mum birthday 17/09/2004`
*It's so sad to see her alone crying. Dad, why? Where are you?. This is one of the saddest days of my life to see tears fall from mum's face. I told her it was her birthday but the more I say so, the more the tears keep dropping off her face. What can I do to stop her from crying 😭. Please help me wish her a happy birthday 🎉 from your heart I am sure she would receive it.*
`Dear dad`
`Today is my final day in high school 02/06/2010`
*I feel like I am the happiest man on earth. I can't believe it. I promised mum I would become a medical doctor. We were so happy but she told me something I want you to hear. She said "this is just the beginning" Dad! I am engraving this sentence in my heart as I would never forget it! Dad, today is another day. What words do you have for me? I need your fatherly advice.*
`Dear dad,`
`Finally, I am admitted into the medical school on 12/01/2013`
*It has not been easy so far! After enduring and scaling through the lower and upper basic classes I thought the ride would be an easy one but I was wrong. Dad, the ride became rough and tough for me. I spent three years at home writing for exams just to get admitted. I would never give up. Dad! Next month will be our matriculation. I hope you can see your child gradually following that pace. Be at the front so I won't get scared and have a turnaround.*
`Dear dad`
`Mum is here today 08/08/2015`
*She came to visit me at our college and I am so happy to see her after two years. The happiness on my face made me ask her about you. I told her I am writing to you and she told me to deliver her message to you. She said "I miss you"*
`Dear dad`
`The struggle is real 13/02/2019`
*Just a year left to be out of medical school. Yaaay! Dad, I will be a doctor soon! I would make sure mum received the best treatment ever. But I am stuck dad! I am stuck! 😪😭. I don't know why it's so hard to move on at this stage. Only if I could feel your hands tapping my back to keep it going.*
`Dear dad`
`I am a doctor!!!!! 🙂🎉👩⚕️👩⚕️🧑⚕️👨⚕️. 20/02/2022`
*Today I am officially a doctor!! But I don't know why tears keep rolling down my face. Mum is here crying out. Only if I could taste her tears would I know it was nothing but tears of joy 😭. Dad, I am so happy today. Only if you were here would I be the one to work on your operation. I would have been the one to save your life, you might not have to leave the world so soon, leaving us behind with the struggles of life. Dad, I just hope I could see you for once then I promise to give you all my best.*
*Dad, I am a doctor today but you died at the hands of a doctor!. I promise to use my hands and tools to save lives, especially that of the less privileged and make them happy not to lose people so dear to them.*
*Dad! I hope you have been receiving my letters. Because I never got any feedback from you!.*
***Dad, continue to rest! 😭.***
**NB: THIS WRITE-UP IS COMPLETELY FICTIONAL. BUT DEDICATED TO EVERYONE OUT THERE WHO HAD LOST THEIR DEAR ONES IN ONE WAY OR THE OTHER**.
A marriage ceremony I attended
I was on a phone conversation with a friend of mine yesterday while we were discussing life and what it takes to succeed in life. We talk about life and its challenges, how far we would have to hustle before we will put things to order in this country and even abroad. Things have been so hard but yet those who are making it are surely making it.
Then gradually the conversation diverted to the marriage aspect where we had the conversation about getting married or not. He said wouldn't get married unless things get better for him and probably hold a grand marriage ceremony. That was a good idea and a wonderful one. Then I challenged him with a question, what if you didn't meet your expectations? How would you take it and what will you do
He never gave me a response, then I smiled and gave him a reminder of the wedding ceremony we attended together.
There is a variety and cultural common custom traditions and also religious ethics about marriage. This will make it different from each other, the way do Muslims celebrate their marriage is quite different from that of the Christian religion which is also different from the traditional religion, the ideology I wish the Yoruba people have for married is quite different from that of the Hausa and Igbo.
**About wedding ceremony**
The marriage ceremony was scheduled to be held sometime around the Corona era. But due to the outbreak of Coronavirus the marriage was postponed to sometime in 2021. The groom was a close friend of mine so we got our invitation card specially invited to the ceremony. I don't even like going to ceremonies where I am not invited or recognized.
The D-Day was here, so my friend heard about the wedding ceremony from me then through my relationship with the groom they were also invited. When we got to the event place we sat down before we realized we were just quite early. That should be ok since the amount of seats is minimal. We already sat down for almost 2 hours after the actual time they promised to start the program. The program should start at 10 a.m. as written on the invitation card but it's already noon and nothing has happened yet. We got tired and furious about not keeping to time without knowing there was still a lot to happen.
The wedding proper started around past noon and the afternoon so we continued with the flow.
It was an interesting one as different programs started to take place one after another: introduction of the groom, the groom, bridal and matrimonial speech, dancing, and merriment continued.
The time was already 3:00 p.m. and my stomach could tell I am hungry. We were there as early as possible then when it was time to serve the guests food they started from the front and everyone was ordering for all the kinds of food they would like to take but when the attendant got to our table she skipped our table and just went on to the other people behind us. We were surprised and a little pissed off.
I thought she forgot or maybe it skipped her mind before one of us called her to attention, she promised to come around but we never saw her again. It was almost 4:00 and the program was about to end. So we are going to attend a wedding ceremony without eating. Who would experience this without having negative thoughts about the marriage, we started to regret our coming over.
Then I took an opportunity to meet with the groom on stage. Immediately he saw me and asked if we had taken any food. I told him, no, then he ordered someone to take me to the food store and give me the amount of food that would be enough for me and my friends. After that, I thought to myself that if I never came up to meet with the groom I wouldn't have gotten any attention and we would have to go home in hunger thinking we would have something to eat.
Ours was later settled but how about those that I never knew anyone or just came to the ceremony may be through friends of friends invitation.
After we had gisted about the ceremony, we laughed and laughed a lot about our experience on that very day. Then he also added that there was a ceremony he attended whereby he had to go out of the ceremony avenue and by himself food from a canteen. It was so poor of them to have organized a program in such a manner.
**Conclusion**
Though getting money is not that easy and organizing a ceremony is not something easy but at times you just have to prepare for the maximum and not the minimum. It is better to be sufficient than to be insufficient. If everyone got something to eat and feel happy on that very day it is worth more than anything
The ceremony doesn't need to be a big one whereby there would be a lot of crowd at a ceremony but at the end of the day they end up unhappy. To celebrate with a few people in attendance and they are all happy is quite better compared to the former.
I am also using this medium to wish and pray for a virtual friend of mine who had their wedding ceremony today I will also pray the Lord of the universe to continue to make their home a blessed one and conjugal bliss, I pray God to bless their homes with merciful children, provide for them and make them have a happy home forever.
Thanks for reading 💞☺️
A nothing to you means everything to another...
****Everything was gone****
Just in the blink of an eye, everything disappeared into the thin air. I got amazed and wondered how it just happened. I don't know what to do anymore.
I made a draft recently on a love story titled Am I ugly or what? And I got nice and encouraging responses from readers. It made me write the concluding part so quickly so I spared my time to write it. While writing I realized I am getting carried away by the cool breeze outside but if I should go inside then I would have to suffer the heat indoors. It's either I wait outside and enjoy the breeze and doze off while writing or I go inside with the heat and write uncomfortably.
I managed to write all while staying outside, took my time to edit it, and also made spelling corrections. The last thing was to copy the whole article from my Google document and paste it online so I can publish it. I tried pasting and pasting but it was just pasting something else. I check my clipboard and I never found anything in there. I rushed down to my documents app to copy it again, but all I could find was a blank page 😁. What just happened?.
I can't say exactly what happened, I thought I just copied it, but why can't I find it in my clipboard, even if I were to cut it should have just appeared in my clipboard. But now everything is gone. I couldn't cry! My struggle to write something vanished into the thin air. I tried using the redo and undo option but no response.
I was forced to believe I clicked on the delete option instead of the copy option. I got tired and weak immediately that I had to take my shower and went to bed immediately.
That was how I lost the concluding part of my story. I can't write it again immediately because it's fictional. It would have to take me some time again to gather ideas. So I would make it up some other day.
**Nothing to you is everything to another.**
Life is not a straight line, it has its bends and curves, so we just have to ride along. Just like the quote has it, what you didn't value is just something another person values the most. The position you feel is not worth it is what someone else prays to get to, the wealth you have is surely someone's dream, the house you have built, the car you ride, and even the life you live is what someone has been wishing for. So what you count as valueless is surely the most valuable asset to someone else.
*One man's food is another man's poison*
*-Lucretius*
We breathe in oxygen and breathe out carbon dioxide, the oxygen we breathe in is useful to us while the carbon dioxide is a waste. Plants breathe in carbon dioxide and breathe out oxygen, carbon dioxide to them is useful and oxygen is a waste.
Cow dungs are wastes to the cows but an essential element to the plants for their growth, while dried or fallen leaves, plants fruits remain a waste to the plant but an essential element for cow's survival.
That's just life for us, at times we just have to appreciate every little thing that comes our way and give them the value they deserve.
I am happily writing this today because of the support I am receiving from you guys. What more would I wish for?.
My profile hit a total ****100subscribers**** and it's just another accomplishment for the month. A century count might just mean nothing to you. But it means a lot to me. Lol 🤣.
I am using this medium to appreciate my readers, subscribers, sponsors, tippers, and commenters for the support and encouragement so far. My appreciation to rusty the great for the encouragement to do more. Thank you all.
Am I ugly or what?.
***Please, my answer remains No!***
My heart melted after reading the message. She even added an exclamation mark to show how aggressive she is. It's not so long since I had feelings for her, she is just the perfect woman of my dreams. Her speech, posture, facial appearance, especially when she smiles.
I find confidence in myself whenever we are together. Though our moments together never lasted that much, I could feel it.
I just hope I can reap my heart open so she can see how much her love has filled my heart. She remained adamant about her response to my proposal and I just hope she would consider it done after the third time.
We became friends just recently. Though we are not in the same faculty. If I could remember how we met, it was in the school bus when her phone dropped off her hands while she was about to doze off due to the fresh air gushing through the bus window. I picked it up for her then I took that opportunity to have a glance at her while she was awake.
I think she looks even more beautiful with her eyeballs open. My heartfelt some strange feeling upon hearing her say "thanks". I nod my head in response. Then she rested her head against the bus window again.
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When would I get the perfect opportunity to talk to her again if not now? I asked myself. I took the courage and asked her to check the screen of her phone if it was still in perfect condition. She checked it immediately and said thank you again. My heart was about to melt away.
I never thought I liked someone at first sight like this before she would be the first. Then I showed her my cracked Samsung mobile, narrating how it got damaged. Out of pity she sympathized with me and asked why I never had it repaired. I told her the reason and we ended the conversation there.
I still haven't gotten to the point. While I stared at her again, I am sure she could sense something as she looked at me again and returned her head against the bus window.
`THANKS FOR THE ENCOURAGEMENT 😘`
Time is not by my side anymore because the school bus would be parked in a few minutes when we almost arrived at my destination.
Hmmm. Seems I am becoming an idiot already. How would I not be able to express myself?. I took the courage again to tap her gently and said
***What department are you in?***
***She responded: I am from the med and surgery***
***Wow!! What an amazing course of study.***
***She smiled again.***
***Me: You look like a medical doctor and you are just so pretty.***
***She: Thanks so much.***
***Me: I would love to know you more, probably if I can have your number?.***
*She gave me her contact details then I dropped her off at the nearest bus stop. She still had to continue with the bus*.
When I got home I tried calling her but her number never went through. It was switched off. I thought her phone went off. I kept trying it but never yielded positive feedback. How would I ever get to meet her again? Maybe she had given me the wrong contact and how am I to trust her words of being in the medical department?.
I don't know how I find myself at the medical department, I kept on looking at all the notice boards like she would have her picture posted there. Lol 🤣. All of a sudden I could sight her from afar. I quickly hid at the back of the door while I kept my eyes on her monitoring her movements. I got her class then I went to sit somewhere till she finished. I have to create a coincidence scene by myself.
Immediately I noticed she was out of class then I took my leave and got prepared to appear in her front. It worked out and she was surprised to see me. She greeted me and walked on. I called her attention to her number not going through since that very day. Then she added that her phone later became faulty that very day. She told me it would be very much available soon.
After some days her number was active again and I was so happy, only if she could see the happiness on my face. I called her then we had some conversation, where I told her I would like to tell her something bothering me.
I sent her a message and we continued chatting till I threw it to her that I would love to be in a relationship with her.
Image source https://pixabay.com/photos/i-beg-your-pardon-marriage-proposal-927746/
**"Would you marry me?." 🥰**
**TO BE CONTINUED 😁😂😂😁…**
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NB: This is completely FICTIONAL. https://pixabay.com/photos/i-beg-your-pardon-marriage-proposal-927746/
At times love fades away like the sunrise
Love is one of the most important things in human existence. Love occurs at all levels and at all points of our life. Love happens among family members, friends, spouses, relatives, humans to animals, and many other forms of love.
To love is great but to be loved in return by the one we love is everything. At times we express our love towards people but we actually might not get the same love in return and that is normal. Not everyone would love you for who you are. It might just be that the person admires and likes you which may be due to one of two personalities ascribed to you.
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I have agreed to the fact that love should be mutual among everyone, but we still experience one-sided love at times. What could be the cause of all these?. Is it that love isn't real anymore? Or just that those experiencing true love got it somewhere special where others couldn't reach?.
To some people, it always remains a mystery when they see couples that are of old age still love themselves and are having a nice time together. What could have been the secret to a long-lasting relationship like that?
After doing some research online I came to realize that love comes in two forms. Passionate love and companionate love.
It depends on whichever one you wish to go for, that would surely determine if it would fade off so quickly or would last longer. Come to think of the word passionate which means driven toward a strong feeling or belief. Having passion towards someone or something and the more the passion increases, it builds some kind of love like reflection among each other. Passionate love is known to fade over time.
**Reasons why passionate love fades**
Passionate love would always drive towards a particular reason or purpose of loving something. Be it emotionally driven, sexually, or socially driven. And when all these attributes are not present in the life of the person we love, the actual reason to love begins to reduce and fade off gradually.
But as for companionate love, it is a love built upon a strong pillar of companionship. Companionate love never fades off but continues to grow stronger as time passes by. When we love someone for who they are then we would always have to build a relationship that continues to grow without any particular reason.
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**Passionate love is different from Companionate love.**
There is a lot to be done in companionate love and partnership. Apart from other attributes of love, one thing that builds around companionate love is the fact that a partner would not only rely on the reason to come together or what they were passionate about. They would make sure to create new things as a partner, something they have never done before, they would involve themselves in some activities and experiences that are new to them, like Horse riding, skydiving, cart racing or having a tour to the museum and things other things they haven't done before together like date nights, vacations or even in the bedroom, putting yourselves in positions that you are experiencing surprise or felt surprised from the reactions of your partner.
**Conclusion**
It doesn't matter whether you are experiencing a passionate type of love or companionate love. What matters most is building the relationship, making it stronger and more importantly realizing the worth of being in love.
Passionate love can be bridged over to companionate love when you give it your all but do things you haven't done before. This would always continue to stand as a support to love and never make it fade away.
Let's try building companionship love among ourselves regardless of who and where we are. Be it our friends, family, siblings, partner, workers, bosses, or just anyone around us.
Question diary: Day 1 interview .
**Good day to you all.**
`Today is Monday again. Another day to keep up the hard work. 😛`
Going through the platform today I came across an **article** by @OfficialGamboaLikeUs where she answered some questions provided to her by the Question diary app. It was an interesting one so I felt like having my first version for today. https://read.cash/@OfficialGamboaLikeUs/question-diary-a-day-one-of-answering-questions-5b3fb4af
**Are you happy now?**
Do I have no reason to be happy or why should I be sad? I am happy as always even when I am sad I would always try to look happy and create one for myself. Happiness is free but you would have to seek it for yourself. No one can make you happy, only if you want to see yourself happy then they might trigger it for you.
**Write a letter to your future self**
*Dear Me,*
This is a piece of advice to myself,
**Beware of people.**
People that you see are good and bad, they are good when they feel the presence of happiness and they realize you are having the best of time, they would always want to share those moments with you. But when things seem odd and clumsy for you only then you realize they were just there with you partially and not fully. Such is life.
**Know your worth.**
When you realize your limit, you know your boundaries, then you would never have to feel bored around people or get disappointed by people’s actions. You would also learn to remain dependent on your self regardless of what other people think or say about you. Self respect would also be yours only if you could know your worth and never go beyond your limit.
**Trust yourself**
After realizing your self worth then the next thing for you is to trust yourself and believe in what you can do. Limit your trust on others, but make sure to build your trust with others. Make sure you gain their trust because that is what would build your relationship with them and make your circle stronger.
**Yourself first**
After God, then yourself should come first. Make sure you take good care of yourself first then everyone else follows. We all have our individual lives to live and that is just our primary assignment in life. Once we end our breath then everything is gone. People would surely continue to live after your demise just as life goes on after some other people were gone.
**Do you feel loved?**
Yeah. Just the way I feel happy I also feel loved. Even if I never got true love from anyone or I never trusted their love for me. I also made sure I gave myself what I call self love. I love myself for being myself and I appreciate who I am. Self love matters a lot and can never be compared to every other form of love.
**Is there a hidden self in you unknown to other even your friends and families**
Hummn. I would say this question seems diverse. Hidden self of me might have meant a lot, it might be educationally, mentally, socially, morally, physically, emotionally, or other aspects of my life in general.
But all in all, I don’t think I have a hidden self that is unknown to others. I am free to everyone around me, no cockroach in my cupboard. To my family I am still the same person they knew even if they get interviewed differently and my friends are also the same.
**Do you think that you are beautiful**
Beauty what? I am the ugliest person I have ever known. Still that doesn’t stop me from appreciating myself. I am proud of my personality and that would make me think I am beautiful at times. There are times I would have to show myself to the mirror 🪞, look at the real me in reflection and smile at myself for being myself 😆. So in conclusion I am just beginning to realize that I am beautiful but I also wish to be among the beautiful ones in the eyes of people.
A little about myself
**Tell me about yourself**
I am no one other than the only @McYusuf on readcash. I am also McAdeleye. You can call me any of the two here on readcash. But on some other platforms, I am known as **Abdulqudus Adeleye.** I am easygoing. I also love to explore nature and the beauty of the universe, this is just what I wish for.
*Yeah, I am a graduate of agriculture, a blogger, content creator, and crypto lover.*
I also love watching interesting movies, playing games, and browsing the Internet.
**What made you smile today?**
I think it is best to smile all day. And we make sure to put a smile on someone’s face every day, it might have just saved their life. Every day is a day to smile, every day is a day to rejoice, every day is a day to give thanks to the creator and source of life. Today I smiled a lot. Today is almost gone. But what made me smile is the fact that I am among those who witness another beautiful day.
**What song do you wish you could put on right now**?
It’s been a while since I made my sub on my Apple Music. So I have been deprived of listening to music that I love. But this is giving me another opportunity to mention the music I would love to listen to right now which is **“good life by Harris j”**
***Good life! Good life***
***Allah I wanna thank you for the good life.***
***I leave it all in your hands o***
***Good life!***
**Do you think you’re an introvert or an extrovert?**
I am an ambivert, I am not so quiet and not too lousy. I don’t make friends easily, but when you become my friend you would never regret becoming one. I play a lot and joke a lot. I am as friendly as you are so I am not counting myself as an introvert or an extrovert.
**What’s your strangest hidden talent?**
Hidden talent? Oooh. That would come in two ways. My first hidden talent is to take meat from the pot which is one reason why I love cooking. 😂 but since I already passed the stage. I discovered another talent: that I am nothing but a joker or a comedian.
**How did you spend your last birthday?**
My last birthday was fantastic. I cherished it so much because I had a lot of fun with my friends. Though I made it hidden on social media, so no wishes from online friends, and I also didn’t announce it to anyone. But my friend later discovered and made my day.
**Are you having a good time?**
Yeah. I am having a good time here except for the fact that I am always dreaming of rusty giving huge tips but when I check I realize it remains a dream.
**What’s one interesting thing about yourself no one knows?**
The interesting thing about myself that no one knows is the fact that I want to become the richest man in the world that would be named in the Guinness book of record. I don’t know how it would happen but I know it would happen. Nobody knows. So if you’re opportune to read this, let’s just keep it a secret 🤫 between us.
**If you could move anywhere, where would you go?**
I would love to keep moving all around the world throughout my life. Having a tour to all continents in the world. Diving into the sea and oceans, spending some days with the fishes and the aquatic animals. Then flying to the sky to have nice times with the birds during the day and the bats during the night.
**What has been your biggest accomplishment so far?**
Oooh. Accomplishments? I don’t think I have accomplished something great. But I appreciate every little accomplishment so far and I pray for more. I want to accomplish something no one has ever accomplished before 😂.
**When are you the happiest?**
Because I am myself. And I am happy with whoever I am.
I fulfilled my promise to @Itsfarah that I would make a post about the topic “What made you smile today” where she answered some questions from @Ruffa and @Usagi . It was fun 🤩 writing this and I hope you had fun reading it too. https://read.cash/@Itsfarah/what-made-you-smile-today-e93aa5ef#comment-fd845815
Have a nice day from me to you.
See you again…
Lessons from a movie I watched
Hi everyone.
`Today is another beautiful day on the earth’s surface. Another day to appreciate the Almighty for his blessings, mercy, and grace upon us`.
I have been quite inactive for a few days. Not my fault. There are times we just feel like relaxing our mind and keeping off some things to while away time thinking and reflecting on our individual lives.
I felt like watching some movies and keeping my hands off my phone typing and typing always. My fingers ache a lot but I am left with no option but to keep writing.
So my days off were for watching movies. After I watched the movie titled ***“All of us are dead”*** it was an interesting one. Though kinda scary because of the zombies, the suspense in it got me watching it till the finale episode.
I also watched another Korean historical movie titled ***“King of tears Lee bang won”.*** I have been following the history of the Goguryeo dynasty, the Baekje, Balhae, the Kithan, and the Mongol empire. The collaboration and the war among them and how they united to fight against each other.
Goguryeo had been in existence since the old Joseon era. It lasted for years before the emergence of the newly founded Goryeo. During the Goryeo era laws were established, the culture and Buddhism flourished. After the 34th king and duration of years, General Yi Seong-gye attempted for the throne intending to create a new country for the people.
He fought numerous battles with his four sons while one of his sons Yi bang won who was a Confucian scholar and his most loved son was always reading and studying. He was a backbone to his father when it comes to the political affairs of the state. His father, being a general, was accustomed to being at the war front with his four sons. Yi bang won’s mother and stepmother were also supportive of his plans.
To some of the court officials, Yi Seong-gye was a traitor who planned to rebel against the king but taking into consideration the backup he has, no one could dare challenge his authority even the king. At some point in time, everything failed for Yi Seong-gye and he nearly gave up their great plan. He wasn’t himself anymore when an antagonist rose against him and was one of his dearest friends.
Jeong Moon-Jon being a friend and a supporter of General Yi turned his back on him because he decided to remain a loyal citizen of Goryeo. Everything had turned upside down for the General Yi family. Their plan was nothing but failure.
Yi bang won who had saved their family countless times was called upon again for the help. Everyone. Puked relied on his decision to kill Jeong. No one wanted to go against General Yi Seong gye but they had to take the final decision for the cause of the great plan to come to reality and keep their family safe.
Yi bang won was backed to kill Jeong by his stepmother since their mother was gone. He planned with his brothers and they went against their father’s word, they disobeyed him for the first time to help him realize his dream and what the heavens have for him.
After the General got the news of his friend's death. He was so sad and furious, out of anger he told his sons never to show up in his presence ever again including Yi bang won his favorite. His wife persuaded him to show more love to her children and got them closer to the general while she made sure he got much hatred for his other sons.
General Yi Seong gye became the king, after dethroning the present king. It was the happiest moment of their lives and for their family in particular. But the General seemed to have forgotten the great job of his sons and still couldn’t find a room to forgive them in his heart.
He made their stepmother the queen and crowned her last child as the crown prince instead of his first son or Yi Bang won. She must have poisoned his mind and turned him against his children. The queen was kinda good in politics and had her special plan all along while hiding her true intentions.
At the coronation ceremony, his sons thought he would forgive them so they tried attending the ceremony but they were sent out because of the order their father had given. Other brothers gave up so easily and admitted the fact that their father disowned them but Yi bang won didn’t. He lost three of his sons already and no one cared, for all the sacrifices he had made he never deserved that from his father.
Yi bang won grew heartless, cruel, and cold-hearted. He was responsible for the death of his father, the first king of the Joseon dynasty. Then the crown prince was appointed as the new king and Yi bang won was responsible for his death too. He became the third king of Joseon.
**Lesson learned**
****We should learn to forgive and forget****
Yeah, let's try learning how to forgive and also forget. Assuming the General had forgiven his sons their family would have gotten peace of mind and been happy altogether.
****Let’s try placing ourselves in other's shoes****
Yi Seong gye and his sons never misunderstood each other. They should have realized that the General loves his friend so much. So they should have sourced another way out instead of taking the judgment into their hands
****Never give up easily****
When one is at the top and everyone seems to look cowards to you achieving a goal. Then you have no option but to keep it going and never think of giving up or getting an obstacle in your way. Obstacles are meant to be cleared to make the path a smooth and straight one.
****Respecting others decisions and being considerate of others feelings****
Had it been the General respected his son's decision, he wouldn’t have made him so cruel and cold-hearted.
****Obedience to parents****
At times we have to respect our parents and accept that they have more experience than we do. We should also have the mindset that they would never wish us anything bad that would harm us. Obedience to them is one thing they would cherish throughout their lifetime.
****Never trust too much****
Too much trust caused betrayal between Yi bang won and his stepmother. At times we just have to trust less and respect our own decisions. Being too dependent on others is also another drawback to human existence.
Feel free to cut ties with them…
At times it’s best to let go of the people we feel are of no use to us. When we check our contact list and we find names that are just there without any benefit to our lives, there is no harm fishing them out and leaving the ones we can rely on.
We don’t have to force ourselves to make friends with people, when we know the kind of people we move with and we feel they are not the type we can relate to, there is no query for distancing ourselves from them.
**Show me your friends and I tell you who you are**
**This** is a quote I cherish so much. It tells a lot about our individual lives only if we can reflect on it. Most times we move with people that we actually know are not meant for us. At times we force ourselves to make friends. And these friends are the ones that would define us. When we move with decent friends then there is no need to ask if such a person is decent or not. Even if not decent, he/she might later end up recognized as a decent fellow through the influence of their friends. But when a decent person moves with bad people, no matter how hard they try they would always remain bad in the eyes of people even though they have a decent heart which would one day get influenced by his friends.
**Move with people who value you**
When you are asked a question about yourself from what your so-called friends had done in your life? then you look at them and reflect back on your life. You noticed you never had a change in your life, any progress, but they still call themselves friends. What a pity, if you can make a way to ignore them you should before it’s too late.
**Know the type of friends your make**
When you call on your friends to help you out during times of difficulty, would they be there? There was a video I watched some weeks ago where three guys who called themselves to be friends had to use one of them for ritual.
Who would have expected that from a friend? He trusted them but they never needed him in their lives, maybe he was not worthy. Had he known he would have cut ties with them. But it seems he thought they were the best option for him.
We just need to know the type of people we choose to be our friends in life. We can’t know them fully but at least when we move with people worthwhile then we still have some hope.
**Creating a circle you can trust**
I watched a video on @Princessbusayo WhatsApp status yesterday and it was about her sister and some of her friends. They went on an outing and stopped by a restaurant. Everyone ordered what they wanted to eat then after eating they called the waitress to give them a cumulative bill for all they had ordered. Everyone dropped their credit cards for the waitress to pick any of them. The person whose card gets picked would be responsible for all the payments.
This type of game would be interesting to play only if all of you in the circle are capable. If there is someone amongst them that isn’t financially okay, then it would be a hard time for such a person. So it is okay to move with people you realize that your standards match each other, those you are compatible with.
If you have friends that are making money and never wish to show you how to make it, don’t blame them. Remember that they are just your friends and not your God. Feel free to find your way out of their clique and get something better to do. If you have to force yourself into their ways then you might end up regretting your actions.
**Conclusion**
It's good to have friends, but it’s best to know whom we make friends with. And there is always room to exit any friendship that doesn’t yield positively. There is no harm in cutting ties with people we realize are not our type and creating a bond with those we feel are the best to be with.
TUESDAY 8th February 2022.
A night I can never forget.
Most times we just have to look back and remember the old times, remember the memories we had while we were younger, and smile at ourselves. Sometimes I ask myself “ Am I the one that did this?” 😆. Anyway, it’s okay to think we are now mature to have done such a thing in the past.
We were in the sitting room together with mum and my siblings while having some gist about our childhood days and it was total fun. We talked about how Mum prepares sumptuous meals and the aromatic smell that makes us happy to eat even before the food is ready. We also talked about her discipline and moral lessons. 😂. She was just smiling at all we say.
Not until I broke the silence again. I asked my brother and sister if they could remember the night we got scared to death. 😂 and they also burst into laughter while I narrated what happened that very day to Mum.
It was on a weekend, so mum and dad had to travel somewhere. They never planned to spend the night over there so we were sure they would be back that very day but it would be in the evening or late in the night.
We played in the room throughout the day. We scattered all the clothes and the room was disorganized. We forgot to arrange them because there was a power supply again. We went to the living room to watch cartoons till it was nightfall then the power supply went off.
Everywhere was dark and mum and dad were yet to arrive. We couldn’t see anything so we got scared 😱. Three of us held each other and quietly walked into the bedroom like blind men. We were touching the walls with our hands to avoid an accident. 😂
Finally, we got into the bedroom waiting for the knock on the door. After some hours together none of us could sleep. The silence went on in expectation of their arrival. Then my younger sister sighted something in one corner of the room. It was just like a moving object. When we focused more it somehow changed to a lion head. My sis was about to cry. Then I told my brother to go and check what is there since he is the firstborn. He said that the thing could not be a lion, it looked like a cat. When we heard him call it a cat again we were more scared that it could jump at us.
We kept on staring and monitoring its movements. If it shakes to the right we shift closer to the wall till we get to the wall and feel like entering the wall. We got stuck as no one could go face the scary cat right in front of us.
After a few hours, we decided to close our eyes at once and never open them again till the next day. Then I remembered we haven’t locked the entrance door. Which brought more fear upon us, more cats could just find their way in. All our prayers then were to hear Mum call our names so we can answer.
Mum and dad didn’t arrive that night. So we had to sleep alone without closing the door in a room with the strange cat. When it was the morning we woke up but we never found any cat inside. My sister said it might have licked our faces and run away. Then my brother said it was the laundry basket and clothes we scattered that brought the view of the cat and lion to our faces.
I went to the laundry basket and kicked it so hard in annoyance. Then we all laughed at our silly and crazy night. My brother told us to arrange the home before Mum and Dad arrived. We did so and a few moments after they arrived home. They apologized for not coming back as promised because they were stuck in traffic.
It was a night we could never forget.
**Thanks so much for reading. See you again. Bye** ✌️
6th February 2022.
Did you pray for them?
**Your parents**
When was the last time you prayed for your parents? Do you just abandon them in your prayers and always expect them to pray for you? When was the last time you wished them good health and happiness? Most times we forget about our parents. If possible we should always pray for them every second of our lives. They are rare gems that can never be gotten elsewhere. The sacrifice they made for us, the care they had given us, the love they showed us, the guidance they gave us, and the time and attention they have given us.
I don’t think we have anything to pay back completely for what they have done other than to keep praying for them always. They are our first bed, our first kitchen and our first toilet, our first school, they are everything to us when we were just nothing. So why forget them now we feel we become something. I pray God continues to bless our parents.
**Your siblings**
Who else would you cherish to be by your side always if not your siblings, no matter how worse they might be, we still have the same blood flowing in our veins? We can’t replace the brotherhood and sisterhood love. When last did we remember our siblings? We should always pray for them because when they excel, we excel. When they are in pain, we are actually in pain too. At some point in time, you might not have anyone to fall back to than your siblings.
**Your teachers**
God bless our teachers. They have been like a guide to us all during that time we knew nothing. They expanded our knowledge and took their time to put us through the unknown. If we become a doctor, a lawyer, or any other profession in life, we all pass through a teacher to get to wherever we are and we owe them a lot. Why forget them in our prayers? They deserve the best from us. Even if we can’t pay back the knowledge they impacted us, then let’s pray for them.
**Your future spouse**
To those of us who aren’t married yet. When was the last time we prayed for our future spouse? Or do we just pray to meet them and get married? Have we ever thought of praying for a better future together?. We really need to be very prayerful even when we have never met with them.
Then to the married, prayer is the best gift we can give to our partner. The money would finish someday, love might fade someday, even we would grow old and leave each other someday. But the prayer would never leave us.
**Your unborn kids**
Another important aspect is to always be prayerful before giving birth. Our kids are just a typical representative of who we are, our family background. So when we pray to have a happy home let us not forget our children in our prayers. They are our future and leaders of tomorrow.
**Your country**
I pledge to Nigeria, my country, to be faithful, loyal, and honest. Are you truly the loyal self you promised to your country?.
Our country is our home. We should protect it and guide it with prayers. Nothing changes faster compared to the prayers we make to our dear country. We should always remember to pray for peace and progress, unity and happiness, and also pray for good leaders to rule our country.
**Yourself**
Making time for oneself is not selfish. When you pray for those we are to pray for. Then we are left with no option but to pray for ourselves. Prayer is what keeps us going. Just like a quote has that “prayers is the sword of a true believer”. Let's be prayerful and not only to ourselves always but we should try remembering those who are entitled to our prayers all day and night.
I am also guilty of this as no one is born a saint. But after writing this I would also make sure I work towards becoming a better person who keeps to prayer. This was just my thoughts for today as I penned it down without hesitation.
**Prayer is the key…**
Have a nice day from me to you. And I pray God continues to spare our lives to see many more days on the earth's surface.
10 things I love about myself
**Hi everyone**
***How was the day over there?***
**It's another end of the day here as we plan to see another beautiful day on the surface.**
I watched the trending movie titled **“We are all dead”.** It's okay for me to watch it, but it isn’t for others. Though I have been seeing some members talk about it on the platform.
It’s kinda a scary zombie movie but I love the acting and suspense the most. Every episode remains unique. Maybe by tomorrow, I should finish it up so I can have some time to concentrate on my write-ups.
Not wasting much time on movies, I would get straight to the topic for the day. Which is a prompt from Shadowspublishing.
*What are 10 things you love about your life?*
`Thanks so much for the encouragement ❤️`
**10 things I love about my life.**
**I love myself (my personality)**
The first thing I love about myself is the fact that I am always ready to remain who I am. I make room for improvement and always remain my unique self and I am so much proud of myself for that.
**I love my family (parents and siblings)**
I am happy to have a good family background, my parents, and my siblings. They are among the best that has happened in my life. The love and smile, the unity and affection cannot be underestimated. Though I am far away from home for years now, I still love myself being among a blessed family.
**My attitude/character**
I am not that I’m good and I am not that bad either. At least I know I am of average behavior. No one is perfect. I love my character and I hope to change for the better and not for the worse.
**My stature**
Another thing I am always proud of is the fact that I am who I am. My stature remains average. I am not too short and not too tall, not too fat and not too thin. I just love my average height and body size.
**I treat others the way I want to be treated**
One thing about life is Karma. If we remember that everything we do at a time would surely come back to us then I don’t think anyone would have to keep a bad habit ever again. I am not good enough to say I do good. But I still have the mindset of treating others the way I would love to be treated. I love to put myself in other people's shoes.
**I trust my intuition**
I have come to rely more on my inner voice than my thinking mind.
**I never regret my past**
My past comes with a lot of bad and unforgettable memories and so do the good times also. But when the past is gone I would always think back to the good times and give myself a reason to keep working hard. Then I look at the bad times and see it as a reason to keep moving.
**My open-mindedness**
I love myself for being able to welcome other people's ideas and also be free to rub minds with them. That’s just the best one could give to himself and humanity. An open-minded person would not see fault in others but would always ignore their lapses and make sure to work towards improving themselves.
**My determination and self-confidence**
It’s always good to be determined and also work towards one's goals. I know I am not there yet. But I am grateful for the self-confidence in me to keep it going and never mind what the outcome might be.
**My education**
I am grateful for what I have learned up till this point. I am still aiming for greater height and taking this point of my life as a stepping stone to another.
`To my Sponsors, readers, commenters, tippers, and upvotes maker. I am using this medium to say a big "THANK YOU" to you all. Without you my page is nothing. I appreciate you all.`
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©`Adeleye`
11:05 pm Thursday, 3rd February 2022.
January was okay. February should be better.
First of all, I wish you all a happy new month. Ooh. The month of January finally said goodbye till another year again. *****How have we made use of the month so far? How much have we achieved? Did we get to our targets? What goals are we having for February?***** This should be a driving force moving us towards our goals.
Yeah, for me January was cool and better than December. I remembered myself setting up some targets on the first day of January which look impossible to accomplish and here I am again setting another goal which I pray God will make easy and possible for me. I hope and pray for a February better than the January we just completed.
`Thanks so much for the encouragement ❤️`
**So what are my achievements for January?**
**30/31 articles for January**
I am so grateful for this, it’s been a rough ride throughout the month. There are times I would always feel like giving up and miss a few days, times when I would not have anything to write on, no inspiration, but I still have to write something. It wasn’t easy but I am happy I could accomplish something better compared to last month, in which I missed 5 articles for the month. I think I am beginning to get better at writing and I hope to continue doing better.
**$80+ from my articles**
Yeah, this couldn’t be decided by myself but still, I am grateful it never fell below December’s income. It was quite high or equal. So I felt some improvement. There are times when you get favored by the random rewarder and there are times when you just have to be patient and keep to your hard work and consistency.
**Made it from 79 to 90 subscribers**
This is surely another great accomplishment for me. I am happy to have moved higher from 79 to 90, that’s a whole 11 subscribers in addition. The reason why I appreciate my subscribers is the fact that without their activities on one’s profile then it would just have to remain dormant.
**My targets for February**
**Complete 28/28 articles**
Yeah. This month I promise myself to make sure I make it up. My target is to make an article a day for the month. And I am sure with all your support I would be able to accomplish that. It’s a battle I have to fight, and I am coming up with success. Till then we would have to meet again.
**Get to a 100+ subscribers**
Yeah now at 90 on dot. I also promise myself to make it up to a hundred plus. I am sure it won’t come easy again but I know with dedication, contribution, and encouragement I would make it.
**Make it to above 12 sponsors**
Just got two additional sponsors for January. From last month it moved from 10 to 11, so this month I am aiming for something far beyond 12. This won’t come easy as I typed, but I know I will try my best to meet them.
**Sponsor up to 20 users**
I think I am still lagging in my sponsorship program. But for this month I would try looking forward to seeing more active users who are doing great so I can stretch forward my hands of sponsorship to them.
Conclusion
Everything good in life most times doesn't come so easy. You would have to make a lot of sacrifices to get them for yourself, but once you achieve it then it’s yours forever. Another thing I believe is the fact that we have to believe in ourselves and keep striving to do better.
`To my Sponsors, readers, commenters, tippers, and upvotes maker. I am using this medium to say a big "THANK YOU" to you all. Without you my page is nothing. I appreciate you all.`
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©`Adeleye`
11:10 pm Tuesday, 1st February 2022.
The power of the tongue 👅
**Good day everyone.**
`Today is another amazing day of the year marking the last day of the first month. And we are grateful to the almighty God who has preserved our lives till today. We pray he spares it beyond to see many more years in good health and wealth.`
Today wasn’t so boring for me as I had a fun time from the beginning of the day till evening. I don’t know where to go yesterday but waking up today, I just feel like making a quick tour around the community and see if I could get some medicine to treat my body pains.
I got dressed and prepared some spaghetti for breakfast. Haha, my bad I just have to add the boiled egg. It doesn’t look so spicy right? 😂. I am a bad cook but I would always satisfy myself making sure I try being a good chef in the kitchen.
After all, I got to a place called Spirando, not sure of the name yet. But after dropping off the tricycle I spotted a beautiful environment. I got my phone and took a few captures
**The power of the tongue**
The tongue is part of the most essential part of our body because it plays a vital role in our body system. Apart from aiding food digestion, the tongue is also responsible for speaking.
This is where I am driving. The power of speaking is one gift we humans have that differentiates us from most animals. Yet this gift is surely one of the most dangerous if care is not taken. The tongue can make peace and also make disasters, depending on how we make use of it.
It’s said that silence at times pays off. That’s true, it’s not everything that comes by our side we must give a response to. At times we practice the act of silence and let peace reign. Words that come out of our tongue should be inclined towards creating peace and having a purpose to achieve.
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The tongue has no bones but is strong enough to break a heart. This is nothing but the truth and pure fact about our tongues. You might feel the words you uttered are nothing but the one who is on the receiving end might have given a lot of meaning to them. Your words then are sharper than a sword. It might have pierced into such a person's heart and damaged a lot. https://pixabay.com/es/photos/lengua-humano-ni%c3%b1o-persona-rostro-822441/
Most times we find our tongues as the ones in charge of life and death. Especially in scenarios where you are to testify against someone or you are being investigated. Whatever your tongue uttered then would determine a fate to live or die. Our tongue is a very powerful tool that we have to be careful of.
The words we utter are like eggs. They are so fragile. When broken (i.e after speaking), they can never be gathered together again.
We might recover from a slip of the foot, but a slip of tongue might just be something we might never get over. At times we just have to tame our tongues and train them to stay halt most times when we feel like we must say something.
**Conclusion**
It is better to beware of one’s tongue and what we utter, keeping silent when we feel like busting is also a good tonic to hold the tongue and safeguard oneself from the harm that comes from the tongue. This tongue is what made some people rot in jail, similarly, this same tongue is what brought some people to the peak of their dreams. It’s our choice to make, whatsoever we feel is right for us. It is your decision as no one would make them for you.
Have a nice day.
`To my Sponsors, readers, commenters, tippers, and upvotes maker. I am using this medium to say a big "THANK YOU" to you all. Without you my page is nothing. I appreciate you all.`
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©`Adeleye`
11:35 pm Monday, 31st January 2022.
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This cold weather is not for me 🥶
**Good day to you all my read stars**
Today’s another day of the week and also another Sunday to all my Christian friends on the platform. I hope you have a nice Sunday service today?. But let’s not forget tomorrow is Monday again 😂.
This cold 🥶 is not for me as it always makes me shiver. Yesterday while I was about to go out around 4:00 pm, I decided to take some rest. It was already 3:50 when my friend woke me up to remind me of where I was going. I jumped up immediately and rushed into the bathroom to take my bath. Time was against me so I just had to make use of the water without making it warm. I summoned the courage to pour it on my head but when it got to pouring it on my chest I couldn’t withstand it.
It took me more than five minutes before I could pour it on my body. Finally, I poured it. After bathing I began to shake as my teeth continued to bite each other creating some kind of noise that could tackle the cold a little bit. At the end of it all, I was out of the room by 4:30 pm which was 30 minutes late. Had I known I should have taken my time to warn the water and had my proper bath.
This same cold was what made me miss out on activities on the platform yesterday. I have been on my bed since morning and after a few activities on my device I would have to cover up myself with my blanket and sleep 😴.
Anyways the weather that seems unfavorable to me is surely the most favorable to some. One man's food is another man's poison. If I am asked to. Goose between the harmattan season, or the rainy season. I would prefer rainy days but one thing I don’t like about rainy days is that it comes so suddenly, especially when you have things to do. Then you would be forced to sit back and relax or when it rained while you were outside of your home then it’s either you get home wet or you hang somewhere. 😂
I remember back in the days when we were in elementary school. If we are asked to go to school during the rainy days. We would always pray for rain early in the morning till noon so we won’t be able to make it to school and use the rainfall as an excuse. But when it happens that it rains anytime the rain would rather stop at the time favorable to move out to school and continue after, or it would rain while we are in class 😂.
Gone are the days when harmattan came around with its cold weather, and we were asked to bathe for school. I remember how my brother took his bath then. He would take a cup of water to rub his face, his hands, and his feet. Then he would dash out of the bathroom shivering like he took his bath which he didn't. Then gradually we inculcate the habit since it was a perfect bath for the weather condition. 😂
But every day for the thief, one day for the owner. Mum finally caught our idea the very day my sister said it out of jokes. Since then we have had full-time monitoring from her. 😂 so I still prefer the rainy days when we would get out in the rain, play, be wet, and still be happy.
What’s your favorite weather condition? Winter? Summer? Spring?
Nobody is perfect 👍
Don’t be annoyed at people because of what they have done to you, *why would you keep malice with them and have grudges against them just because they never did what you wanted from them?.* Nothing is perfect in this life we live in.
One of the most important things God created in life is money as most of the human creations depend on it for living. Money is so essential in our day-to-day life. Hardly can we do without money because it is the bedrock to all good things in life. Yet there are things in life money can’t buy., Just like I published it in one of my recent articles. “Money isn’t everything” and that’s just the bitter truth. https://read.cash/@McYusuf/money-isnt-everything-5c5902ac
`Thanks so much for the encouragement ❤️`
**Money could buy you drugs but couldn’t buy you a healthy lifestyle**. You might be the wealthiest person on earth but you would always accept the fact that only God gives health and cure illness. There are loads of wealthy men in the hospitals with enough money on them yet they could make it out of the sick bay. Their money became useless to them apart from buying them the drugs but couldn’t buy them health and quick recovery. If money could buy health then I am sure the rich would never be sick. But shame onto their wealth as it can’t buy them a healthy life.
**Money could buy you food but it can’t give you the appetite to eat**. You can have the money to buy all the food in the world but only God gives the appetite to eat to satisfaction. At times a rich man would never be able to finish a small cup of rice when he has the money to buy bags of rice. But the poor man could finish two bowls and still crave for more. Only if the rich could give themselves an appetite, then they would have stored a lot of food for themselves and eat them to satisfaction. But shame to their wealth that could only bring them food and not the appetite to quench their thirst for food.
**Money could only buy you a bed but it can’t make you sleep comfortably on it.** When you have the money you can surely get any bed size you desire, but the ability to sleep comfortably on the bed is beyond what money can do. Only God could make one have a comfortable sleep. In a situation where there is insecurity in the area. Even when you have your bed touching the rooftop of your house you still would have the desire to sleep peacefully. Or when someone is declared wanted, yeah he might have a comfortable bed he got with his money but shame onto his money which couldn’t get him a comfortable rest at that point in time.
**In conclusion**,
My dear friend. Don’t feel bad towards those who aren’t having a nice time with you because “nobody is perfect except for the almighty God” they might not be good to you today but tomorrow you might find them useful and realize the reason you had them in your life.
A best friend today might turn out to be a sworn enemy tomorrow, and a stranger today might turn out to be the best friend one would ever encounter in a lifetime. Don’t judge anyone according to their actions towards you. Every Time you should always remember that **NOBODY IS PERFECT, EXCEPT FOR THE GOD THAT CREATED US ALL.**
`This would be my 28th article for January. I pray God spares our lives to witness the end of the month and more of January to come and also grant us sound health and wealth.`
Do I have to put myself or others first?
`Today is another day in January. Counting from the beginning of the year 2022, today would count the 27th day of the first month and this would also be my 27th article for the year.`
Gradually the new year is surely going to end again. *“Journey of a thousand miles begins with a step”*. It is so amazing how quickly time flies. And the best we can do is to make sure we create happiness for ourselves.
`Thanks so much for the encouragement ❤️`
This would lead me to the topic of today. I was going through my mail and came across the prompt word by Shadowspublising. “Do you put yourself or others first?
This is kind of a logical question most times we find ourselves in situations whereby we would be left with no option but to choose either ourselves or others? It happens between couples, siblings, families, peer groups, and even at workplaces.
There are times when you would have to choose between yourself, your wife, or your mother. It is kind of skeptical but we just have to choose. There was a short video I watched on Instagram where a guy on a rainy day had to choose between his mother and his wife/girlfriend to give his jacket and shoes. He went further to give them to his mum and carried his wife/girlfriend.
What I want to point out is the fact that at times we always have to make critical decisions in our lives. A man earning some amount as salary would have to put some stuff on priority, he would have to provide for the families and also take care of himself. Would he have to ignore taking care of himself because he just had to care for his family or he would take care of his family and forget about himself?
I remembered a day when I was left with a little amount on me which I already budgeted to buy foodstuffs for schooling. I was about to go to the market to buy them before I got a call from my younger sister requesting help. I felt remorseful, so I told her I am not having anything on me. In the long run, I couldn’t take how her words kept on repeating in my memory, “what if” what if she couldn’t make it just because of this little amount? Can’t I spare my food for her? I got bothered 😕. I had to make a move, I needed to do something then.
The next step I took was to send her the amount she needed which was equivalent to splitting my foodstuffs allowance halfway. I had to do it for her. Immediately I told her I sent her the money then she immediately went for what she needed it for.
I got to the market to buy the little foodstuffs I could afford. It was around evening time, she gave me a call to appreciate coming to her aid and she added “Had it been I never sent her the money she won’t be able to sit for her exams because she was among the last batch to make their payments and those after them were not allowed in.
**In conclusion**
There are times we would have to put ourselves first and there are times we just have to think about others and make them a priority. Rendering that assistance and support might mean a lifetime to them.
But while trying to put them first, if it appears that the repercussions from doing so wouldn’t help our individual lives then it’s better to just put yourself first, then others should follow.
`To my Sponsors, readers, commenters, tippers, and upvotes maker. I am using this medium to say a big "THANK YOU" to you all. Without you my page is nothing. I appreciate you all.`
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©`Adeleye`
09:10 pm Thursday, 27th January 2022.
Miracles and wonders.
Most times when we take a look at life in general we realize it is nothing but full of miracles and wonders. The breath we take and how it recycles itself is a miracle itself. Having the opportunity to speak which other animals couldn’t is another wonder itself. How people die and get decayed in the earth's surface and we would never meet each other again is another miracle.
How two genders meet together and give birth to offspring, and the reason why elephants take up to 22 months to give birth to a single calf and a pig would give birth to multiple piglets in just three months. Wonders shall never end.
If we should continue counting the miracles that happen in the world then an epistle won’t be enough to account for them. When we take a look at nature, the heaven itself, and the sky which has no pillar to support it. Scientists said the earth is surrounded by water yet it rotates around its axis and then revolves around the sun to complete its revolution. Yeah, we have the oceans and all the creatures in it. How did they age when they aren’t revolving with the earth?
There is a lot to be discussed when it comes to the topic of miracles. Many have miracles happening in their lives. Some miracles happen out of our imaginations l, some just happen, and some happen that we aren’t even aware of. But the God of miracles and wonder would always remain on his throne making them happen.
There are times when we experience wonders like brutal accidents or fire outbreaks in which no one would ever think there would be a survivor but at the end of the incident, we see them survive.
This happened in my neighborhood some years back around 2015 or so. When one of our classmates was outside her house washing clothes while she was having some conversation with her mum. Then all of a sudden a car jumped over her and hit her against the wall of their house. It crushed her through the wall down to the sitting room. Her mum fainted immediately. And everyone was trying to look for her body under the car. Or maybe the bricks already cover her up.
It was such a sudden attack and an unexpected one. The driver who was trying to learn was still sound and safe apart from some minor injuries. But to everyone’s surprise, they saw her coming out of the room close to the sitting room. She was badly injured but they could see her walking. She was grabbed with support immediately and rushed down to the hospital. It was a miracle to everyone. No one would have expected to even see her walk, but with God so good he preserved her life, and today she is sound and healthy.
There was a day when I was about to come home from school. The journey was a little distant from our school premises down-home. So we journey by bus.
On getting to the bus stop where I was to drop, it started raining so heavily that the driver had to slow down his speed. But when we got to the bus stop I dropped by and there was no presence of rain again. I was surprised.
I took a few steps backward and the floor was flooded with water while it was still raining. I got to the intermediate point where it was raining and the other side wasn’t raining. Then I looked up to the sky to appreciate the almighty for his wonders and miraculous ways of doing things.
God is wonderful. When we feel like we need to see more about miracles and wonders all we need to do is to go out there and explore.
Have a nice day from me to you.
Money isn’t everything 😢
**Hi all**.
Today is another beautiful day to appreciate our existence on the surface. Many slept like we all did but couldn’t make it to the next day. But we are here today in sound health. Let's appreciate our existence and give thanks to the source that created life.
Everything is not about having **“MONEY”** just like **Harris J** has it in his song that goes thus ***“There are things in life that money just can’t buy”.***
At times it’s always best to be satisfied with the little we have and give thanks to God that provided it for us. No matter how worse our condition might be, when we look down below us we would surely see some people striving to climb up to our position.
Our generations today are just too eager to become rich if possible in the blink of an eye. Much breaking news here and there about how our youths and teenagers sort for this money as they are ready to go the extra mile to get it. But only if they could be patient and work hard would they have all they want.
`Thanks so much for the encouragement ❤️`
The funniest part is the fact that we don’t want to work for the so-called money anymore but we would always have big dreams in big rides and big houses. So where would the money come from? That’s where the problem lies. We don’t want to start small anymore but we want to be where our mates are. This is what has led most youths nowadays astray.
Unnecessary competitions, forgetting the fact that we all came to this life at different times and we would also leave one after the other. We all have our different fates in life, For those that are born to be poor would remain poor, but if they never had a fate to die poor they would surely become wealthy before death. Some of us are born to a rich background while some are born to a home of struggle. We just have to work towards our path and pray to God to help us crown our efforts.
This morning while I was going through my WhatsApp status. I came across a strange and horrible update from a friend of mine on her status. It was all about a big boy from some part of my country who wants to use his mum for money rituals. This is just so sad to watch.
What is happening in this crazy world we live in today? What thought would have come through him to use his mum? As the video had it, the mum was bleeding but still grateful to God for her survival and the son was arrested. This is money for us, just how many days into the new year he already had a plan for his mum. Of all people in the world, why his mum?
What a heartless soul filled with wickedness, selfishness, and a devilish one.
There was also another case recently, not up to a week or two weeks ago where a young boy had to make use of his girlfriend for money rituals. And at the end of the investigations after killing her and being caught for this treacherous act, his parents had to disguise him and take him to a mental hospital as he is not mentally okay. He was later caught by the police and hoped they would make him pay for his crime.
This has become the recent trend this new year and the more the news the more heartless people grow. Only if we could reduce our urge for quick money without working, then we can all live a peaceful life. Everyone is scared to move around freely, friends don’t trust each other anymore, and the lovely bond between everyone begins to fade.
**Conclusion**
**Money is necessary, but money isn’t everything. There are things money can’t buy, money can’t buy the life of the people that are gone. So let’s remember that we came to the world without a penny and so we would leave the world without a penny. Life is too short, vanity upon vanity.**
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11:30 pm Tuesday, 25th January 2022.
Let’s be considerate of others…
**Hi all**
Today is Monday again. Another day of the new week, and another day to do more. We hope and pray for better days to come in joy, peace and happiness.
This would be my 24th article and gradually the month is going to end as we welcome the new month of February again till next year. Every day would surely come and go . What would be left of us is what we make out of those days. Are they really worth it or not?
In a few minutes time would be my dearest dad's birthday. And I am so happy to see him age in joy and happiness. Though I am still yet to do anything for him to appreciate his care and sacrifice for us since our days as a child till we became grown ups. But I hope and pray that someday I will be able to make him the happiest man on earth. Apart from celebrating his birthday, I also have a lot of things in mind to do for him because he is just the best father ever.
I wish him a happy birthday in advance. And I hope I will be able to write an article about his celebration tomorrow, probably if there is any because I am not home right now. I pray for many years to come in sound health and abundant grace. May he continue to reap the fruit of his labor.
`Thanks so much for the encouragement ❤️`
**Back to today’s article.**
At times we just have to keep doing what we love to do. One thing I know for certain is people are always watching us. If you wish to keep doing good, you can just keep it up and if you also wish to go the other way round, no one is stopping you.
If you think what you have done today wouldn’t have an effect on you, have you thought about your children? Your upcoming generations to come. Life is just so fragile and little did we know about what it entails.
Most times I see people going beyond their boundaries just to feel themselves or too egocentric about things. The fact is that we have to put other people into consideration, putting them in our own shoes, and make sure we see what they have passed through before making conclusions.
Some days ago I made a post on my WhatsApp status on how it is just so unfortunate we don’t even listen to other people’s stories before we make conclusions about life matters.
This morning we were asked to be present for the morning physical training l, only if you could know how the weather would be so cold around 6am to keep jogging all around. We are just humans but far different and stronger than each other. Some of us were present while some were absent. Then while the morning exercise was ongoing a lady decided to fall out for some rest.
Had she known she wouldn’t have fallen out but she was tired already . One of the officers in charge came out to address us and called the lady who called out just to body shame her because of her fat stature. I knew it wasn’t something bad to the officer. But the lady herself panicked and became sad for what she heard from the officer.
People said he made the wrong decision to body shame her because of her the stature God gave her which is not her fault. Everyone felt sorry for her and made her realize that she is just herself and surely someone who would love her for who she is would equally appear and appreciate her.
I am sure she would never forget the shame and disgrace the officer gave to her this morning which he considered meaningless. Sometimes we just have to take things easy and fear God in all we do.
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11:58 pm Monday, 23rd January 2022.
Things I never want to involve in throughout my life
`Today the 23rd of the first month of the year 2022, we continue to pray for unending joy and happiness. We pray for a prosperous year ahead filled with joy and blessings.`
This should mark my ***23rd article*** for the month. It’s not easy keeping up to promise or just making changes all of a sudden. I promised myself to achieve 31 articles for the month. And to God be the glory I am grateful for the journey so far.
Today’s weather was a kind of tricky one. It was cold in the morning and then became a bit sunny in the afternoon. But we expect the evening time should be fair. Instead, it came out cold 🥶 again. So everyone got themselves indoors. Maybe this is just the perfect weather for couples and a perfect match for hot tea and bread for the singles.
In society, we find ourselves today. There are a lot of things happening around us. A lot of bad vices and also some good ones. But it’s a choice for us to make whichever way we want to go and whatever choice we feel like it’s the right one for us.
Many get involved in bad vices through comparison and unnecessary competitions. At least we all have our lives to live and our destiny to fulfill in life, so why compare ourselves to others. I am grateful to the almighty God that I never indulged in most of these vices and I pray never to. I used the word “most” because there are some of these vices we can’t swim out of, we’re all drowning in them.
`God bless you al.`
**Lying**
Why would I place lying at the top of this list? I don’t think there is someone that can say he /she is free from lying. If we never lied during our childhood days then we can’t escape it at an older age. Gone are the days when there was nothing much in technological advancement. But with technology innovation, gave us the privilege to become a perfect liar. We might be at home and receive a call telling them we are on our way, at times even our chats remain a medium to lie. But all in all. We have to make sure we are not always that way.
**Stealing**
I never pray to get myself in this and to those who found themselves guilty of this act, I pray god clear it of their eyes and minds.
***Cheating***
This is one selfish act we see as something good. Cheating comes in different forms and escalates till it gets to the level of embezzlement and corruption. Cheating starts when we have the mindset of making it all ours and not for others. With our siblings, we would always want the biggest share, then when we get in a relationship, we would never be satisfied, and at our workplace, we would always want the lion share for ourselves. This is something bad but when seen as normal in our society today. I pray never to involve myself in this type of selfish act.
**Gambling**
This is also bad but it has become a world-famous way of having fun. Almost all of the things we do there are betting and gambling. There is no joy from gambling because all the money from gambling would never be spentwisely. But still over gambling again and again till it all vanished.
**Smoking/drinking alcohol/hard drugs**
I wonder why people continue smoking. I laugh at times when I see smokers after smoking packs of cigarettes and thinking they already had the best of time. They could read on the packet that smokers are liable to die young, but they still can’t see meaning to that. The same thing goes for alcohol and hard drugs. It’s obvious that they see themselves become worse health-wise but they still can't do away with them. I pray not to find myself among this category of people
Internet Fraud
One of the notorious acts among the bad vices. But we see it as a job and a way to work without sweating 😓. But we forget that we are making some other people cry because their sweat is gone and there you are happy because you already outsmart the one who worked with his sweats. I never find this more of a meaningful thing to involve myself in and I pray It never happens to be my portion, and for those involved I pray God to make them realize the problem they are causing upon themselves and desist from it.
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11:26 pm Sunday, 23rd January 2022.
What’s happening with the cryptoverse 🙆♂️🤔
Waking each day for the past three days has been like waking up to keep drowning in the Red Sea. But today was another complete drowning for most crypto marketers and users. It is not easy. Though we have been experiencing different times of serious dip and pumps too. So this shouldn’t be new to us as we just have to make sure we fight over and try as much as possible to do the needful.
Opening my wallet this morning was like a thief got my private keys and sent some amount of BCH out. But when I checked the value, it remained the same. 😂. My WhatsApp status was filled with different emotions from crypto users on my contacts list. It ain’t easy, I think we should pay utmost respect to guys out there making a living out of cryptocurrency, and my hats off to all Bitcoin Cash holders there. I know I am not a whale or even some kind of huge BCH holder but I could even feel it with the petty amount on me. Come to talk of the BCH whales and long-term holders.
I don’t know what to say when I saw someone’s message to his vendor requesting his money back because he wants to back out on cryptocurrency 😂. He said his $600 had already turned $150. So he needs his money back. He doesn’t even care for the meaning of Hodl or FOMO(Fear of missing out). The. I thought to myself, just if he could have some additional knowledge about cryptocurrency then he would realize cryptocurrency is so volatile and flexible.
**I would say a few things I think should be the best option for us to opt for when it comes to time like this.**
**Hodl**
Most times we tend to forget that we promised to hold when we keep seeing our portfolio drain drastically. We think it’s all going to be over. I think it’s much easier to hold when one keeps experiencing the market pump than experiencing the market’s dip. But one of the best advice to crypto users is to hold tight to their coins at times like this. A question might come to mind. How about short-term holders?
Most times I would always say it’s advisable to invest your money into cryptocurrency ONLY if you know that it’s an amount you can afford to lose. I remember some days back last year when the crypto market was fully pumped. A friend of mine wished to join in to get some money in his pocket and I told him about the crypto market. He opted in with a little amount from his pocket because he couldn’t earn from blogging or other sources.
After a few weeks, we thought we had already bought the dip. Then the token never pumped to that exact price we bought it then till today. The dip continued and now my friend was left with no option other than a long-term Hodl. That’s just the basics, at least one would have peace of mind and not rush to sell hastily.
**Buy more**
Another Important factor when times the cryptocurrency market bleeds is if you can’t hold them make sure you buy!. Buying more would put one at a higher percentage of making profits when the pump market returns. Predictions are not always right at times but when we buy at a lower price the Hodl. I am sure there will come a day when you will have to smile again. The best option is to buy low and sell high. For those who couldn’t buy then we should try to accumulate more and Hodl.
**Have patience, after every dip comes to the pump**
Most times people make the mistake of buying high and selling low just because of the fear of missing out. One thing about the crypto market is to have the patience and know-how to control emotions. Taking quick decisions may be fatal at times. When you already bought it bought and the dip began to get dipper. You also told them to sell them, having patience till it comes over your buy price before selling is just the best.
The funniest thing I saw today
CoinMarketCap said today is the day that many people learned that crypto ain’t for the feint of heart. Cryptocurrency is highly volatile and too risky. So it’s always best to make sure we trade with caution ⚠️ .
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What type of parent are you?
**Good day to you all.**
`It’s surely another beautiful day on the earth's surface as another weekend approaches us. Like I always advise us to make sure we spend the best of our time with our families and friends and make sure we create good memories together. Today is all we know, no one knows tomorrow.`
Today I would love to talk about parenting.
Yeah, we came from different homes and we surely received different home training which is why you can never compare yourself to others even your best friend. We have our different disciplines giving us that unique experience and character.
I grew up in a beautiful family and received a lot of love from my parents and siblings. I love my mum and so does my father. But I would rather want to be with my mum than to be with my dad because she is way cool and permissive compared to my dad who is well disciplined and never tolerates nonsense.
Both of them are very caring but as children, they have to swing their parenting style to make sure we get the best of home training and discipline. I appreciate them so much for that and I continue to pray to the Almighty to continue keeping them safe in good health, joy, and happiness. Their happiness is our priority.
Taking a good look at the types of parenting I realized that my parents were more of an authoritative type of parent and permissive also.
**We have four common types of parenting which are**
Authoritative
Permissive
Authoritarian
Neglectful
****The Authoritative parents****
These types of parents are highly responsive to the needs of their children and also highly demanding. They set clear rules for their children to follow and make sure they communicate with them frequently. Parents in these categories would always try their best to cater to their children's needs and also nurture them with care but they are known to be well disciplined. Children who undergo this type of parenting system would be self-disciplined.
****The Permissive parents****
These are free-minded parents, they are always highly responsive and communicate with their children granting them the freedom to make decisions on their own instead of giving directions. Permissive parents would go to any extent to make sure they see their kids happy. They hardly set rules for their children to follow, instead, they prefer to play a friendly role rather than parenting. Children under this parenting category would never want to stay far away from their parents because of the intimacy and how simple-minded their parents are.
****The Authoritarian parents****
These are the strict type of parents, they would always set rules for their children without considering their feelings or emotions. They impose commands and barely listen to feedback from their children. This type of parent is always too disciplined and could be referred to as “tough love”.
****The neglectful parents****
These are the absent-minded ones. They are always uninvolved with their kids and even careless or provide no care for them. They don’t mind providing any needs for the children and the children lack social and emotional support from their parents. Children under this category always struggle with their issues and also find it difficult to relate with people. They are at times lacking basic needs and have limited engagement with their parents.
These are the four common types of parenting and the type of parent we decide to be to our kids would go a long way in their lifetime. Because parents are the first school of a child and their first love.
Like I said earlier I came from an authoritative parenting home. It did a lot in our lives as it imposed discipline and morals in our lives. But at times parents are bound to change their way of parenting. For example, when a kid is not feeling well, we can be the permissive type of parent and when they require safety, then we can switch to the authoritarian type to keep them safe.
The type of parent we decide to be is not meant to be restricted to just one type but any pattern we see fit for the children then or stage of their life is preferable.
***What type of parent brought you up? And which type of parenting would you love to give your children?***
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