@McYusuf 8 February 2022

Feel free to cut ties with them… At times it’s best to let go of the people we feel are of no use to us. When we check our contact list and we find names that are just there without any benefit to our lives, there is no harm fishing them out and leaving the ones we can rely on. We don’t have to force ourselves to make friends with people, when we know the kind of people we move with and we feel they are not the type we can relate to, there is no query for distancing ourselves from them. **Show me your friends and I tell you who you are** **This** is a quote I cherish so much. It tells a lot about our individual lives only if we can reflect on it. Most times we move with people that we actually know are not meant for us. At times we force ourselves to make friends. And these friends are the ones that would define us. When we move with decent friends then there is no need to ask if such a person is decent or not. Even if not decent, he/she might later end up recognized as a decent fellow through the influence of their friends. But when a decent person moves with bad people, no matter how hard they try they would always remain bad in the eyes of people even though they have a decent heart which would one day get influenced by his friends. **Move with people who value you** When you are asked a question about yourself from what your so-called friends had done in your life? then you look at them and reflect back on your life. You noticed you never had a change in your life, any progress, but they still call themselves friends. What a pity, if you can make a way to ignore them you should before it’s too late. **Know the type of friends your make** When you call on your friends to help you out during times of difficulty, would they be there? There was a video I watched some weeks ago where three guys who called themselves to be friends had to use one of them for ritual. Who would have expected that from a friend? He trusted them but they never needed him in their lives, maybe he was not worthy. Had he known he would have cut ties with them. But it seems he thought they were the best option for him. We just need to know the type of people we choose to be our friends in life. We can’t know them fully but at least when we move with people worthwhile then we still have some hope. **Creating a circle you can trust** I watched a video on @Princessbusayo WhatsApp status yesterday and it was about her sister and some of her friends. They went on an outing and stopped by a restaurant. Everyone ordered what they wanted to eat then after eating they called the waitress to give them a cumulative bill for all they had ordered. Everyone dropped their credit cards for the waitress to pick any of them. The person whose card gets picked would be responsible for all the payments. This type of game would be interesting to play only if all of you in the circle are capable. If there is someone amongst them that isn’t financially okay, then it would be a hard time for such a person. So it is okay to move with people you realize that your standards match each other, those you are compatible with. If you have friends that are making money and never wish to show you how to make it, don’t blame them. Remember that they are just your friends and not your God. Feel free to find your way out of their clique and get something better to do. If you have to force yourself into their ways then you might end up regretting your actions. **Conclusion** It's good to have friends, but it’s best to know whom we make friends with. And there is always room to exit any friendship that doesn’t yield positively. There is no harm in cutting ties with people we realize are not our type and creating a bond with those we feel are the best to be with.

TUESDAY 8th February 2022.