Crab Mentality: If I can't have it, neither can you!
Date: 22nd February, 2022
Tuesday
May I help you dear? I think you are upset or just want to explore something by yourself. Never mind. I'm Lucifer, you host. You just clicked on the red icon and it take you here in my world. So, hello from the Devil. I'm so glad to welcome you to a very important matter which will somehow connect you to the situation. What situation? Oh, dear. It’s something like jealousy, anger and hate mixture. It seems like you are confused. Yeah, but don't worry. I am here to help you. Let me explain about it. Have a seat, please.
It's about a person who rises faster, succeeds in life, reaches the goal of his life and about to touch the golden line when some of his close ones like friends, society people or colleagues grab him from behind and destroy the reasons of his happiness. Common to you? It is called the ❝ Crab Mentality ❞. Ever heard about it? It’s about a metaphor which the old people used to explain the situation.
Just go to some place where you can catch many crabs. Maybe beach will be the perfect place. Anyway, now put those crabs in a bucket. Cool? Just don't cover it. Now, you will be asking that they will be out at any moment! Wait and watch it. No crabs are going to make it. The question is now 'Why'? Go and check it from the distance. Whenever a crab is about to make it happen, another crab grabs one of it’s leg and pulls it downwards. This happens with each and every crab which tries to escape. This mentality never helps any of them to get out of the bucket. This is the crab mentality.
Deep breathe from inside. Now, back to the point. This is a symbolic incident which we can see in our society. Just be honest with me. Tell me dear, have you ever met such kind of people? Yes, you have. Even some of you had already encountered those ugly experiences. These types of people will never be happy with your success. They feel uncomfortable with your winning streak. You are working hard, sweating a lot to make this happen but some people will never be impressed with your hard work. They will always find fault in your works. Not only that, they will be shouting & spreading the faults to everyone. Why? Because they want others to hate you like they do.
Maybe you are thinking why a person who has Kabourophobia (Phobia of Crabs) is telling this story! Well dear, it’s a metaphor and people really need to know about it. This is important because we are human being and we live in such societies. We let them know about our success. We show them that we can change our fate. But what they do to us? They start humiliating us. Their jealousy picks a new stage. They cannot bear the happiness of us. They cannot rise like us. That's why they want us to be down like them. They wishes for our failures. Finding similarity with that crab mentality? Oh yes my dear, it is also known as ❝ Tall Poppy Syndrome ❞.
If I can't have it, neither can you
Their mentality is just this line. They at first try to do something and somehow fail. In their vision, they had tried to the end point so no one would reach that. But whenever someone crosses their end line and creates history by achieving a new feat, they start feeling annoyed. Now they start to make that achievement in dust. They don't want you to be successful as they had never had that performance to feel proud.
Well, my friend if I start to elaborate it more you will feel bored but the truth is this is all around us. Each of us are in the web of this jealousy. We don’t want others to be a greater one. Ugly face of socially connected so called humans. Is this how we can succeed? No, never. End this mentality or we will never be able to upgrade ourselves.
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Crab mentality. Nah that's very common here in our country. Just like my father sides family. They can't be happy if someone in the family is happy and successful in their life. glad I don't have that kind of mentality. It always makes me happy to see other people happy or succeed in their life.