Never Give Your All

To love someone doesn't mean you have to give your all just to prove your love, it's stupid. As loving someone should be equal to yourself. It should be 50/50 for yourself and 50% for someone you chose to love with, so it's in equal proportion. In case whatever happens, you still have 50% left for yourself for you to survive in gaining back the 50% that was lost as you give it to the wrong person.

While the election 2020 effects in PH is rampant in social media, there's this trending topic as well about cheating issues of a celebrity couples named Zeinab Harake & Skusta Clee. The girl is a famous vlogger in our country while the guy is a rapper, so they are both quite famous.

It's always true that the outside beauty of a woman cannot guarantee that her man will always be loyal and faithful to her, it's never a basis but solely depends on the man's morality.

Never give your all so you'll avoid these things..

Giving your all means you are willing to be degraded, which is not supposed to be because you entered relationship to be love and be secured not to be mistreated.

Here's the awful things you'll experience when you can't learn to control your emotions;

You will suffer emotional and mental torture

If you love a person with your all you will likely stuffer emotional and mental torture, because the person will keep mistreating you and will not care about your feelings as he/she knows how much you love him/her.

They have the thoughts that you will always accept them no matter what do they because you give all your love without loving yourself as well.

It's very emotional torture when the person knows your pain because of their doings but never cared at all, it's triple kill and it will lead to mental break down later when you can't handle your emotional distress anymore.

You'll beg, when you shouldn't

Begging is an awful acts one can commit when they're desperate. If a person truly loves you, you'll never beg for their love and attention because they'll do it with their own initiative.

Never beg for someone to love you like how you love them, but beg yourself instead to love you. When you love yourself you'll never allow anyone to degrade you and let you beg to have what you deserve.

You'll never be enough even if you did your best

In connection with those celebrity issues I've mentioned, according to Zeinab the guy started to lose interest in her and said,

“Hindi na kasi sya ang dating Zeinab ko, ang dami nang nagbago sa kanya.” which means she's not the Zebby I used to know, many things have changed to her.

While the girl narrated,

“Maraming nagbago sakin kasi pinili ko magpaka asawa at maging ina, kaya ganito na itsura ko.” which means she changed a lot because she chose to be a wife and a mother causing her to have changes on her physical attributes.

You know being a mother is the toughest job of all yet we still have to do our best to look young and fresh just so our man will never lost interest in us.

You see, the girl did her best and even forget herself to take care off because she's busy taking care of her husband and her kids.

When you don't love yourself even if you give your best, you will never be enough for someone who doesn't deserve you.

You'll lose yourself in the process of keeping someone

This is the saddest part, you'll lose yourself while keeping someone when you don't love yourself enough.

A flourishing relationship will help you grow and bring outs the best version of yourself instead of losing it.

A woman that continuesly glowing after getting married and having kids are the ones who have the right man, a man who'll look after her welfare as she also needs to be taken care of instead of just taking care for her husband and children.

Those woman also knows how to love themselves and never give them all as they equally love their partner like themselves.

I remember @alicecalope posted her article in noise.cash in titled Too Much Love Will Kill You and she leave a question on her post that are you like that too? Who loves someone too much? I replied.

“No. Because I love myself too”

Yes, I love myself that I am not willing to undergo any other emotional and mental distress just to make someone stay by my side.

In our relationship I also sacrifice a lot but not to the point that I lose myself in the process of sacrificing just to keep the relationship works out.

I am the kind of person who lose interest of men easily when I found something that turns me off, but if I know that the guy cherish me I do give love equally.

If you love yourself you should know how to raise your opinions, let your partner know what you likes as it takes two to tango. You shouldn't be someone who is very submissive without letting the other party what you really likes, your opinion and etc.

Okay lang mag effort sa relationship but always try to weigh if your efforts are being valued and you'll receive the effort equally as well.

So yeah, I'm a tough woman. I'll always raise my voice and never ever deprived myself just for the sake of keeping someone. And you know what? My partner loves me for that.. when you can stand up for yourself you'll gain respect and genuine love or admiration from your partner. I am a keeper when someone keeps me well too, just like that.

To love someone, you should also know when to surrender if it only ruins you.

So always love yourself, never ever forget that.

Wag magpaka martyr girl, kasi binabaril sa Luneta Park ang mga martyr, bang bang!

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Date Published: May 18,2022