Make them feel Your Love.
02/19/2022
How's your day?
Have you been asked this question multiple times already? Can you still remember the people who asked you this question?
I wonder, how did you answer them, too.
I would love it if you could tell me about your day in the comments below. I would love to hear from you.
In these times when the world has gotten really busy, where everyone's priority is to hustle and make money, it's rare to hear people asking this question to us, unless they are some sort of a customer representative, or a sales clerk. LOL.
However, while reading something from Twitter today, I realized how important it is to check on the people around us, most especially to those we love.
There are people like me who find it hard to express themselves, how they feel, how hard their days have been, and even the ugly things they had to experience. They prefer to keep it to themselves, and try to find some kind of an outlet, or anything to let them breathe out their frustrations. A person can really be happy, too, but for some reason, can't express it properly. You know, happiness is good to be shared, as it is contagious, and attracts good vibes only. But, I, for one, could not sometimes find a way to express myself whenever I am happy.
The twitter post/thread I recently saw is something like a short conversation that goes along the lines of this:
Friend: How's your day been?
Me: Fine. It's good.
Friend: Are you okay?
Me: Yeah. Yeah, I am okay.
Friend: Are you okay?
Me: Yes, of course. I think so.
Friend: Are you sure?
Me: *cries like a baby to my friend*
Friend: Okay, tell me how your day went. I will listen.
Asking someone about their day is like opening up a conversation that encourages people to be closer.
Sometimes, we all just want someone to listen to our rants, to our stories, and to let us feel like we're heard. Like we are worth someone's attention. It takes a good listener to make someone feel loved, belonged, and cared for.
I have discovered that one of the most common reasons of depression of a person is when he/she keeps the problems to him/herself, and whenever that person feels so alone and hopeless. It's like the world is too dark, and that there's no way out.
Every beautiful and truthful conversation starts with being curious about each others' day, about how each one of them feel, and just letting time flow. To be honest, I haven't had this kind of conversation for quite a long while now. The only heart to heart talk I had is with God, and I always feel wonderful after. There are nights when I feel just absolutely empty, and I try my best to feel something, just a little something to make me still motivated to wake up in the morning to go one. I try to watch funny movies, even tragic series, just to try and fill the blank spot in my system. And all those attempts did not work.
It was a relief I discovered it soon, and that's by sharing this burden with someone who knows me more than I do, and loves me more than I love myself. That's God, my Father, my Creator.
I remember some specific times that I just start with the words "Father God, I want to give up already..."and I could already feel my heart throbbing. It's like the raging flow of emotions that I yearned for suddenly goes back, and lets me know that it's the right time to release. Release the bottled up emotions, the hidden thoughts and cries, the anger kept within, the frustrations covered up by time.
Even I may not hear it actually, I feel that there's a presence asking me how my day went. What made me feel this and that way. Why am I broken? Why do I keep hurting? Am I okay?
And like a child that has finally found light in a dark tunnel, I start crying like a baby, mouthing every possible complain I could remember, from the littlest to biggest details, not even missing a thing. I could go on as far as telling Him something that hurt me even years ago, and cry out for help for the worries I have about the things that did not even happen yet.
Does not that feel nice, though? To know someone out there that genuinely takes care of you, checks on you, wants to know more about you, and is always willing to listen? At least we don't feel so alone anymore.
Sometimes, we ourselves could not even understand how we feel anymore. Sounds impossible, right? But it happens. There are people who have become really good at pretending that they could not recognize their own selves anymore. They could not tell the difference between their real selves, and the version of them that's wearing a mask.
I experienced that before, and it was extremely hard back then. After a day of being my supposedly "jolly" self with other people, I could not help but stare at the ceiling when night comes. I am all by myself, asking how I feel at that quiet time. Was I happy? Am I really happy? Will tomorrow be a good day? How should I act again tomorrow?
Without me noticing, the clock strikes 3. And that's another day again. A few hours later, I would stare at the mirror again, take a few deep breaths, practice my smile and start the day again feeling.. something unexplainable.. unknown.
Every relationship surely benefits from a good communication, and that's what everyone should practice. I saw old couples who still have a strong foundation of love, because they always engage in meaningful conversations. They never run out of things to talk about, and through that, have established a kind of connection that is definitely impossible to break.
If you have a special someone, do you just let a day pass by not asking him/her about his/her day? I doubt so. I strongly believe that even a simple text of concern is still there. It may come in different forms such as:
What did you do today?
How's the business going?
How are you?
It's okay, you can tell me.
Feel free to tell me if you want someone to talk to.
These are the random thoughts I had for tonight. I hope I was able to impart something worth pondering.
Until next time!
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To GOD be the glory.
se dice fácil que con comunicación se puede resolver cualquier conflicto, pero en la practica saber comunicar y expresarse con total honestidad es difícil, siempre hay que tratar de ser mas amoroso y comunicativo.