They are watching.
You'll agree with me that parenting is a really vast topic that has so many broad meanings to it.
Different children, with different behaviors.
Different parents with different techniques on proper upbringing of their wards.
There was a short video clip I saw today, I'm sure some of you might have seen it, oh!, I'd have loved to post the video here, but just too bad there's no link to it and that's because I viewed it from a WhatsApp status.
Four Indian people were seated. From the looks of it and the happy expression they wore on their faces, one could tell that they were having an amusing conversation.
Two; from this four were couples, and the other two were also couples. The little child of one of the couples', came over to them with a girl. (She should be the other couple's daughter).
Here was the short discussion they had.
Little boy's name: Adithya.
Little girl's name: Manya.
Adithya: Papa, I'm getting married.
All, except Adithya and Manya: (laughs hysterically).
Manya's mum: (exclaims) oh my God!
Adithya's mum: What's all these?
Adithya: Me and Manya are getting married.
Adithya's mum: Adithya go inside and play.
Manya's Dad: And what would you do after getting married?
Adithya: I will wake up in the morning and be ready like my father
All, but Adithya and Manya: (sighs in content)
Manya's Dad: And then?
Adithya: Manya will give me my bag and I'll go to the office.
All, but Adithya and Manya: (laughs)
Adithya continues: And I'll sign so many papers and will get lots of money.
Manya's Dad: What will you do when you come home?
Adithya: Then I'll beat her.
The atmosphere suddenly changes; with both parents wearing a surprised look, their humorous faces suddenly becomes gloomy.
Adithya continues: And I will close the door fastly and sleep.
The little girl Adithya said he would marry, suddenly interrupts trying to correct him for omitting something.
Manya: No... No... Before you go to sleep, I will serve you food and you'll throw the plate angrily.
Adithya: (receives correction and says) Okay.
These kids grow up and believe it's okay to violate women.
Adithya and Manya would have observed how their parents treat eachother. Adithya must have seen how his father gets ready for work in the morning, takes his bag from his mother, goes to work and comes back home; only to beat his mother.
Adithya felt it was very much okay to beat a woman, and Manya also agreed to this because she would have seen her parents doing such to eachother.
Though the video was staged, there was a message those Indians were trying to pass across and it very plain:
Yes, our children are watching us, the way we treat our wives, the way we treat our husbands. Except being told otherwise or if they learn otherwise as they age, they'll definitely grow up to believing that it's right to be violent to a woman.
One of the reasons why some men find pleasure in beating up their wives at the slightest provocation is basically because they grew up having to see their father doing such to their mother.
There was something I heard sometime back, a man was claiming that the best way to discipline a wife is by beating her. That for nagging wives or wives that complains alot, the only way to keep them quiet is by beating them. Really!!.
Children of nowadays are way too smart, the way they read meanings to things, the way they understand the things we do, is just so overwhelming.
This would be all for today, till we see again in my next article and in your next article.