Are they truly happy?

This wasn't the article I intended writing, but I had to skip to write this; especially after listening to the agony of a friend of mine.

I was chatting on Instagram this morning, with a very good friend of mine.

We were chatting on Instagram because his phone was stolen and he didn't have my number anymore.

The full story:

This Friend of mine, is a saxophonist who has made so much from it.

• He was always getting jobs to play for different ministers in church.

• He got jobs to play also for people who were serenaders.

This same guy could get over five jobs from different clients in a week.

You might want to ask me how I got to know this?.

Well yes, this brings me down to what I'm driving at.

He was fond of doing all these:

• He kept posting his jobs.

• He kept posting money, and screenshots of the amount of money he received.

• He kept doing giveaway.

• He kept posting screenshots of the money he sent to the people who won the giveaway.

• He kept posting what he buys with his money; the silver sax he got, the expensive meal he bought...and so much more.

In a nutshell, he was a very public kind of person.

This was the reason why the person who stole his phone, did what he did.

This same sax guy kept bragging about the amount of money he makes from playing in a show;

• He'll send $120 to his girlfriend and post the screenshot of the receipt.

• He'll send $60 to his best friend and post it also, on his status.

Before he was able to go and block his bank account from the bank, on that fateful day, the person who stole his phone had wiped out all the money that was in his bank account.

He lost his iPhone.

And he lost all his money.

Here's a screenshot of our chat today.

He said and I quote: "I almost committed suicide, I cried but it's fine, I've left it to God."

There's one thing my mum and life has taught me.

Most people have a:

• It should be me kind of spirit

• Why am I not also rich kind of mindset,

• It's the same saxophone job we are doing, so why is he getting clients more than me?.

• Am I not better than this person, why is it always him.

Some people are going through the tides and passing through rough edges.

Showing these kinds of people your regular achievements, telling them continuously about how you're excelling in your career, can put you into an excruciating danger or risk.

Not all smiles are genuinely formed.

Take it or leave it.

Eighty percentage of the humans we have on Earth don't truly wish you well.

Forget the congratulatory messages with smiley faces.

Forget the picture posts with Epistles.

Most of them don't truly wish you well.

It's hard for a person to love you more than they love themselves.

Now, judging from that;

What do you think the person would feel when he sees you doing better than him?

If there's one hard fact I've learnt; it's that I don't really have a genuine friend or genuine friends.

I can count the genuine friends with my right fingers.

But if I'm to count the wolves, my fingers and toes won't be enough.

Be subtle as a dove but be wise as a serpent.

It's not about moving far away from them. It's about knowing how well to relate with them.

• What are the things you say to them?

• How do you act or behave when you're around them?

My mum would say; Use Wisdom.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

Those bad friends might still be useful to you someday, so it's not by moving away from them. Still stick with them, but set those boundaries.

There's a reason why God shielded us from having access to the mind of an human.

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?"

Jeremiah 17:9

Let's just be guided. Don't flaunt your achievements to people, especially not to those who are far behind you.

But before I wrap up today's blog.

Apart from the fact that his phone and money was stolen, he lost all his contacts too.

Both the important ones and unimportant ones.

He has lost access to most of his contacts and that's because he didn't keep records.

Always keep record of things.

Apart from having numbers on your phone, ensure to write them down in a book.

So that should incase of any unforseen circumstance, you'll have a backup plan to fall back to.

Till we meet again in my next article and in yours.

Thanks for reading.