I was about writing on a topic I saved in my draft today, but suddenly changed my mind and decided to postpone writing on it till tomorrow.
I've always wanted to jump on this prompt since last week, but lol, there was no writer's block, so I kept postponing the day I'll answer the questions.
I came across this lovely prompt on one of @Oyinwrites articles, feel free to check her interesting version of these questions via this link.
First and foremost, I don't have a bestfriend, if I had one...it'll have prolly been a boy. But then, if I actually had a girl bestie and she slept with my boyfriend, there's no way I'll continue with such relationship. (chuckles) I mean, I don't really have to say it, the answer is glaring. It's rare to find someone that'll continue in such deceitful and baseless relationship.
There's no reason why I'll do this, nobody in his/her sane mind would get married to a person they're not medically compatible with. I've heard of some cases whereby some lovers broke up all because towards courtship; they realized they were not medically compatible. While some still took chances and their children suffered the consequences of their actions.
I believe, knowing eachother's genotype should be the first thing to tackle before entering or entering deeper into a relationship.
I don't see myself dating an abusive partner let alone "getting married to such species of monsters" some parent's negligence towards issues like this has actually increased the rate of monsters in human form that we have till date. A man who is abusive should not bother standing up when men are called, but should stand up when animals are called. I want a sweet marriage, my eyes have seen alot of things during my growing up years. I'd be a fool to repeat the same sequence of mistakes.
You don't have a source of income and you have the mind to come and propose? Lol, nothing at all, no job, nada, nothing!!. Ahan, that's too bad... Are we meant to feed on "i love you, I love you too." No nau, how are we even going to plan the wedding? By borrowing abi?. Even the Nigerian singer "Davido" said: When money enter, love is sweeter."
As far as I'm concerned, it's Purpose before Partner. Yeah you can read that again. (So if you've not found your purpose and you've not sorted out your life, don't come and look for me. And if I've also not found mine, don't also come and look for me). I definitely can't marry someone who doesn't have a source of income, and I'll have mine too.
Just like Oyin said in her article, I also don't believe in "love at first sight" I can crush on you at first sight. Infact it's so natural for me to crush on any TDH guy at first sight. But it ends there. It can't be more than that, infact I might suddenly get irritated the next time I see you, or when I start noticing some dangerous traits in you.
I don't love easily, but I crush on people easily, especially when you're the TDH with pink lips version. 🙈
My answer is quite obvious, I can't imagine myself being in such kinds of relationships.
I really don't know though, maybe, maybe not. It depends on the situation of things. My friend might actually be cool with it especially if she's prolly married at that time and oh well, love happens... let's split my uncertain answers in percentages.
Me marrying my friend's ex, I'll say 15%
Me not getting married to my friend's ex, I'll give this 85%.
Being single is actually so much fun (no commitments, no breakfast, no quarrels that might lead to tears, freedom is 💯 guaranteed)...I'm definitely not planning to leave this fun stage anytime soon.
And it's a wrap, we've successfully come to the end of my relationship prompt version, feel free to jump on it if you haven't.
Lol, omo 😂 Vince, I just mute like this. I don't even know what to say again. Lol, but love is a feeling of affection towards a person or something. Crush is just plain admiration towards a person, either because of his looks, dressing, height and the likes...
Yeah, the good kind of weird 🥰 Ahan Vince, why the apologies? I wouldn't have noticed if you hadn't spilled.
I'm glad you didn't think the comment too long. :D
Of course it (Love) is a feeling of affection towards somebody. I was only bringing to your attention something that many people often fail to see.
I would not continue such a relationship. 2 i marry 3I will never marry I can think 4 5 hahahaha I instantly fall in love. all of a sudden it looks beautiful and i fall in love 6 no 7 never 8 singles. looking for lucky girl
Awwwwwn, all the single men in the house 😂
unfortunately ahahahha I'm waiting for a single and sexy beautiful girl
No be love I go chop, when there's love without money, the love no go sweet, like there will always be problem? Love comes with a lot of things , the surprise, the gift and others, there's no way to do that without money... This questions are really interesting, I would have love to participate in the prompt, but I'm not ready to shake the table🤣🤣🤣
Lol 😂 Abi ooh my sister, love is not enough to sustain s relationship.
Lol, aaah don't shake tables oh😂
Marrying someone that we are not medically compatible? It can never be possible, love is never blind🌚
So this lady is single? Everybody just dey lie for this planet🧘🧘
Exactly ooh! It's not possible at all.
Lol, I'm not lying ooh, I'm single and not even planning to mingle anytime soon
I believe that love at first sight exist, but I haven’t experienced it though, but there’s a possibility to it, people do also change that’s why love at first sight seems like it doesn’t exist. Your friend ex isn’t your enemy, what if he’s the one for you and your friend was treating him bad when they were dating and you knew it, as long as you don’t snatch him from her and know that is your friend that break up with him, you won’t need to feel guilty.
Exactly Coga, I love this explanation so much... This is just it, my friend's ex isn't my enemy at all, we might be destined to be together so I should definitely not refuse such offer all because he dated my Friend
Hmmm. I don’t believe love at first sight exist either.
Awwn, it means we are on the same page.🥰
There is certain level of trust must be established before any relationship because trust could be broken in such situations.
Well.. all your answers are exactly mine .. it's as though you were in my mind when answering these questions.. well said Ella!
Awwwwwn, thanks Honey.
I really have a big respect to those who had a homosexual relationship, but I can't imagine myself to be in that situation or kind of relationship. And what I hate the most is to get marry an abusive partner coz I know how it feels, base on the story of some of my friends, I can consider my self a lucky one to have a good partner.
Exactly ooh, I can't also imagine getting married to an abusive partner.
Being single is really a relaxed life. There is no tension to keep relationship balance. To take care, gave someone your time blaaa blaaa. Enjoy the life don't spent it in impressing someone
Exactly ooh my dear. Being single is like being free.
falling in love at first sight is something I've ever felt and done because it was the first feeling of having a lover.
I don't think that I will love a someone that is abusive. Come on I was not born to be your under, I was born to become worthy at all cost. Boys out there pls be kind to your woman.
Exactly dear, women should be treated properly, it just isn't right and fair to be abusive to a woman.
Honesty, I've married a man without a job at first, both of us when we get married we don't have work. BUT God, is gracious that He blessed us along the way, although we are not rich, but I can say that we just had enough for the family.
Love can't feed us, I agree with that, but it makes us to strive and do something for the ones we love.
Nice answers from you, I enjoyed reading it.
Uhhhm 🤔 you're right Winx, that's true though...but that must have been really tough for you both at first.
It can't really be happened , I think the majority of us don't like to marry a guy which is abusive. It s not good to have that. Lovely piece we could try this prompt
Exactly, it's not good to be with an abusive partner. Oh dear, yes dear.
Opoor, pink lips lover 😅😅😅
No nau 🙄😂
Well said👍If I talk about myself so I wouldn't get married the boy who has no job and no income.The reason is if you marry with your love and he has no job so how you both would spend your life?Would you take money from your parents? No, not all.
Exactly ooh, this isn't possible my dear friend so it's always better to marry someone who has a stable income.
I am with you Ellawrites. You have answered so well. I wouldn't be in abusive relationship, nor marry a partner without source of income. Nice answers dear
Thanks dear Gianna
Abi oo, will I eat love? I don't like suffering and I don't want someone's son to suffer too
Exactly ooh my dear. No one likes to suffer.
Love blinds some people's eyes and they get married to who they aren't medically compatible with. We have heard the case of AS marrying AS , and at the end they ended up spending all their life savings on child's medications, most of them lose such children. It's of sense and wisdom for someone deter marrying such incompatible fiance/fiancee.
You've really spoken well ooh, it's just the best to deter getting married to someone you're not compatible with.
These questions were very interesting, and your answer to them was very reasonable and clever, my dear Ella. If I fall in love with someone who does not have a source of income at the moment, but I know he is so responsible that he will surely think of a source of income because of our love, I will marry him. And my husband and I fell in love at first sight and got married... 😍
Really, you both fell in love at first sight?? Wow! My goodness!!
Aww, your idea isn't bad though, you're right dear Ellen
So you like boys with pink lips ? 😂😂
Lol 😂☺️
Apparently, she does. Sorry for butting in. 🤭
You know her personally ??
I actually don't. It was totally based on what she said. 🤭
Oya shoot your shot😂😂
Noo ella is my sister Abeg oh 😂😂
Sister bawo? Is it by blood ni?
😂😂I don’t know oh dee leave me abeg 😂😂
Love wouldn't pay the bills. As a lady I wouldn't go for that kind of man. Being a man, I wouldn't go for a lady that has nothing either.
Perfect ooh, exactly, both parties have to be independent
Of course. Hehehe.
Yup it's unbearable to have this kind of relationship i don't think so someone in the world have such big heart to bear her best friend and boyfriend together.i think if he is working or trying to get a job but he didn't find it yet i will marry him cos he is putting his effort but he didn't find it yet. Worst person is who doesn't even try to get job.
Oh! This is true dear Tanian, atleast he's putting an effort to get a job...so uhhhm, yeah, I should consider him too
Ooh I can't marry a man who slept at my bestfriend, and real bestfriend can't back stab you haha, especially I don't want to marry a abusive man and no income..
Exactly ooh dear Dawn, a bestfriend shouldn't backstab his/her bestfriend.
(This will be a long comment. I apologise). 😊
Once - and, when I say this I am only presenting my most humble opinion, I believed not in the idea of "Love at first sight". However, a belief started to creep in after realising something. Love actually does happen at first sight. Sometimes, I wonder why it is so easy to replace the "Love" for "Crush". Perhaps, we as a people haven't fully grasped what it is. (It could be that, or maybe I'm wrong. You decide...). At that juncture, we de-emphasize it's true meaning, or it's purpose in and for us.
But, why has it been disbelieved in? Because the human mind cannot fathom what it has been alien to for so long. (In this case, the subject of "Love at first glance".)
Don't you think this is the only way love actually begins...? At first glance! It always starts that way. But, we've psyched ourselves to believe such a thing doesn't exist. Which eventually becomes our mistake. Right?
Sorry, this took you awhile. Don't think I'm a weird guy by saying this. (Spoiler! I actually am. But, a good kind of weird). Haha.
P.S I'm completely open to whatever you have to say after reading this. I also apologise I for not tipping, something came up at home which made me withdraw all my earnings today.