How I handle being a mother!

August 13, 2021

"Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress, and twice the tears but also twice the hugs, twice the love, and twice the pride."

I was tagged again by my Mareng @Zhyne06 since she knew I'm a single mother of a 5-year old cute boy, and it's a really tough job but also satisfying. You know, having to change diapers from time to time or breastfeeding and for a first-time mom really did put a lot of excitement in me. One thing for sure, thinking about your child's welfare is the coolest thing ever😄

Looking back to the stages I wonder, "how did I surpass those stages just by being me, though with my parents' guidance, amazing? "

Carrying a baby for nine(9) long months

When I knew I'll be having a baby I was happy but a little bit hesitant. Happy because at the age of twenty-four(24) I already want to have a child with or without a partner( not possible though coz how can you make a baby with only you alone? surrogation? Nah). Hesitant because I don't know if my parents would be happy about it but the blessing is already in my tummy so there's no backing outright?
So I carry him with me for those months, that heavy eating and some weird combination of food I take. As I imagine eating those this time it made me want to poke. lol! I never did an ultrasound to know the gender of the baby because I want to surprise myself too. Mostly in the family, my Papz was the only male for we are all girls including the children of my older sister So when he came out, just imagine the gladness of the whole family. We have our unico ijo...😁😁😁

Sleepless nights

I know most moms would agree that when our babies are just months old, they change from being asleep in the daytime but so wide awake during the night. So we tend to get a lack sleep because we need to look for them.
When my son was just four months old, I found a job that can sustain both of us. Luckily I was assigned on-site, so I am just near home. I can come home anytime because Papz will just drive me back and forth from work to home.
It's very stressful when my son's gums started swelling because his tooth will come out soon. After working for eight long hours under the scoring sun at day, I need to be awake to mend my son. For a whole week, I'm sleeping while standing and holding my son in me. The main reason is that when his body touches the mattress of our bed he started crying, and my sister whose in rooms are on both sides of mine because my rooms in the middle, they get annoyed by the noise and they need to work for tomorrow so I need to do my best not to disturb them by carrying my child. So imagine sleeping for minutes and then wake up because you're afraid you might loosen your hold on your baby and he might fall. I actually cried on the sixth day but I never dared tell anyone because I choose to be a single mom so I stand on my words that I can be responsible in raising my child alone. I never imagine I survived that stage.
I also have this hobby before to check on my son every minute if he's still breathing normally.😅😅 Well, it's just a habit of mine to check and put my finger right on his nostrils just to be sure if he's breathing. And I will put my hand on his stomach and feel if he's normal breathing. I passed on that habit though as he grew up.

Bringing him to places I never once visited when I was a kid.

As a homebody ever since a child, I never get to visit many places even near home. So when I became a mom, I did tag him along in many places. Dare you, we go out just only the two of us. Bringing a one-year-old child is quite a handful for every mom. Carrying a bag full of stuff for him, diapers, wipes, tissue, extra clothes, pacifier, feeding bottle, milk, hot water on a little thermos. I carry all of that while also carrying him. During the ride, what I love about him is he'll just sleep for the duration of the ride. He'll eat his biscuits drink water and then stare at the outside by the window silently, not crying or being annoying, while me, his mom, wants to throw up especially if the car is airconditioned I don't want to ride Vhires but because I don't want to expose my son to the polluted air that's why we always ride air-conditioned vehicles.
W went to malls and play in the toy kingdom. We also ate in his fave Jobee with the burger steak and spaghetti.
We went to the famous church and pray and also light a candle. All the places I never once have gone when I was a kid me and my son go together.

Budget, Buying all his needs

As he grows day by day, the expenses are also increasing.
Before I only have to deal with buying diapers, milk, and all hygiene stuff. Now that he is big things such as rice, shoes, clothing, school supplies, Jobee, etc.
The expenses keep growing but my salary is still neutral, it never decreases but it also didn't increase. Lucky me, that I still have work so I can give him all his needs and also the extras.
Glad also I've known Read cash so I can add a little in my budget, I can also give my parents.

Writer's Thoughts:
Mamay and Papay said this to me the moment I shooooo the father of my son away😅😅, to take responsibility for taking care of my son. But since he is the only boy in the family aside from Papz, he is well-loved.

I get what my parents said to me. So I am doing my best to be a good mother to him. Giving all that I can give just to satisfy myself being his mother and to give him all the love he deserves.

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Keep safe & God Bless!

Fin!