Lately, I have been thinking about a lot of things. I am now twenty years old, and when adulting hits you, you will probably start thinking for your future. I have some drafts saved here in this platform about how I see life and my perspective towards a certain matter. But now, let me focus about marriage.
Do I have things to consider? And, am I ready for it?
One night, I had thought about marriage. As you all know, I have a boyfriend now and we will be celebrating our 1st year anniversary next month. It is not that I want him to marry me, but it just came through my mind. And I asked myself, am I ready for marriage?
The first thing I need to consider is, who to marry. Is my partner now my last love? Is he worth to marry? And my answer would be probably, YES. I prayed for this man. I prayed to God to give me someone who will taught me to forgive, love, and care as much as I did in recent relationships. I prayed for him, and I believe that God gave me the answer already. He was the answer to the question of who I want to be married with.
I know that I have to take a look in different fields of my capabilities too, which are: Emotionally, Mentally, Spiritually, and Financially. Marriage is very sacred for me. You will be bind with someone and promise to be with them through worst and best. That is the reason why you need to be ready for it. And then, I asked myself questions:
Am I emotionally ready to get married?
I can say, yes. Just like what I have mentioned above, I prayed for this man I am committed with. Everything about him, I prayed for that. I fixed myself before, changed my behaviors, and even prepared myself for this unexpected relationship. It was unplanned, but God gave me the answer to my prayers. He is the One I want to spend my life with.
Also, he is not just an ordinary one. He taught me to forgive and have control. He showed me respect, and taught me to be embrace everything. I think I have pointed it out. Yes, I am emotionally ready to get married.
Am I mentally ready to get married?
I am not yet mentally ready to get married. Even if I have the feeling that I found the right one that I want to marry does not mean I am mentally ready for it. It will take time, and I still have a lot of things I need to finish first.
I am thinking of a lot of responsibilities, and that do not include marrying at this age. I know to myself that I am not yet mentally okay with the idea of living away from my parents. I still cannot stand the thought of it. All in all, I am not mentally ready for marriage and I know that it will come there, but not yet today.
Am I spiritually ready to get married?
I believe that if it is God's will, why not? But I think I have not yet accomplished the "Honor Thy Parents" part. I know that my respect for my Mama and Papa shows how I honor them with all my heart, but I think it was not enough.
Thinking about getting married and promising God to stay with someone for the rest of our lives would be a very tough decision to make, especially when I am still not satisfied with how I paid back with my parents.
I have a lot of plans for them, mainly in making the rest of their lives comfortable and happy. That was the purpose why I am working hard. And I think God will understand if I say no today for marriage. I will, soon. But not now, since my focus is to make my parents proud and achieve the satisfaction of honoring them.
Am I financially ready to get married?
I do not believe in the culture where only men provide for her wife once they get married. The norm that women stays at home, while men work to provide the financial support is a total nonsense for me. It should not work that way, and it will not work that way when I get married.
Money is one of the things that we always consider, especially when you will start a family. Will your love buy the food? No. This is why couples or people must consider their financial capabilities before starting a family.
And for myself, I am not yet financially ready for marriage. I cannot provide finances if ever, and I do not want my future husband to have that burden in his shoulders alone. So no, I am still not financially ready to get married. I am still a student, and I think I should get a decent job before entering a commitment in marriage.
Author's Conclusion:
Overall, I am not yet ready for marriage. I have some responsibilities not yet fulfilled for myself and my parents. Also, I consider my capabilities financially too. I should have a decent job before committing myself into starting a family.
Even though I felt that I already found the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, I think that marriage will in a long way run. There are things to fulfill, promises to grant, and other priorities to do. We will get there. I know and I can feel it.
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Date Published: June 16, 2021
Author: charmingcherry08
Di pa talaga ako ready magpakasal. Marami pang dapat gawin and kailangan i fulfill.