Waive The Red Flags And Wave Your Flag!
Love is the most beautiful thing in the world yet it is also the worst. A golden time is a witness and it is only through time that heals all the pains and wounds of yesterday.
Admit it that you always long for a good person who perfectly fits you but every so often, what is meant for you is perfectly imperfect. Every beginning may seem to be love at first sight but as time passes by things gradually change as not you desire and all of a sudden you become broke and lost. Love is the most beautiful yet it is also the worst. A golden time is a witness and it is only through time that heals all the pains and wounds of yesterday. When things go wrong, waive the red flags and wave your flag!
Never ever ignore the red flags and raise your flag!
You may often hear about the old man saying that love is blind. It is blind in a sense that lovers do not see the problems and imperfections. Whether it is a fact or a fallacy, it would always depend on how loving someone makes oneself not capable of seeing faults. A person may have so many issues but there are really those times that one do not listen to oneself, and that one often see it as a love that is developing and growing not based on physical attributes but mainly based on personality and compatibility like love at first sight.
However, as time flies so fast, things go wrong most especially when lovers are already involved in a long term relationship or may have been with each other for a longer time wherein compatibility and personality seem to be an issue leading to relationship red flags. Never ever ignore the red flags and raise your flag! Go forth freely and dare to save yourself. Just waive the red flags and wave your flag. After all, the decision greatly lies in your hands. Based on personal learning experiences, the red flags of love may include:
Having trust issues with each other;
Blaming you always;
You cannot be true to yourself;
Hurting you physically and emotionally; and
Saying sorry but not changing for the better.
The Red Flags Of Love
Trust Issues
Trust is a very essential key for any relationship to sustain and last long. Having trust issues with you and having no trust with each other may lead to relationship red flags. When you have no trust with your partner and when you have no trust with each other, frequent quarrels would usually happen that is commonly brought about by third party issues. Never ignore this and think several times on how you would be able to save yourself or save your relationship. The decision lies in you of whether to still stay or let go. Perhaps trust is the most difficult thing to get yet so easy to lose. And that, a broken trust is broken forever.
Blaming
Blaming you always is a negative behavior that could affect your feelings and emotions. When someone blames you for something you have not done, your day seems to be very bad for the whole day for putting a fault or wrong on a certain circumstance. Putting the blame on you all the time when things go wrong could truly ruin a relationship and usually leads to exhaustion and regrets. When things go wrong, think wisely and act rightly based on the situation. Try to weigh the situation and save yourself first when things get worst every single day.
Untrue Self
When you cannot be true to yourself, things tend to be very uneasy and uncomfortable. Never ever dare to enter into a relationship when you are unreal. Dare to be true to yourself and be real to your partner no matter what happens. If your partner really loves you, then he or she would accept all your flaws and imperfections. Being untrue to yourself could make your life to be in misery for you cannot display yourself freely as what and who you are. Love freely and always be true to yourself. Never ever allow yourself to cry behind closed doors yet just allow yourself to show and display your real colors with big smiles.
Physical and Emotional Hurt
The worst thing that could happen is when your partner is hurting you physically and emotionally. Physical hurt could be a form of violence while emotional hurt could be a form of harassment and all ways possible. It is very hard to stay in a relationship when your partner is hurting you physically and emotionally. No matter how deep is your love for your lover, when he or she just hurts you badly in all sorts, the best thing to do is to save yourself. Have pity on yourself and love yourself more. If your partner does it today, how much more when you both tie the knot and the saddest part is that it is so hard to escape anymore when you are building a family of your own. Make a move earlier before it becomes too late and before you run out of time.
Sorry But Not Sorry
Saying sorry but not changing for the better is so alarming. Sorry but this is not sorry. When you partner is always having trust issues with you, hurting you physically and emotionally, blaming you as responsible for the faults always, and all other unhealthy behaviors in a relationship that cause so much pain and wound in your heart, allow yourself to breathe and be heard. You may cry a river of tears or an ocean of sorrows but never ever stay in a relationship when things go wrong most especially when it is very hard to fix anymore. Bear in mind that the two things which greatly bind you with your lover is love and trust, but when these things get broken, it is so hard to bring back the good memories of yesterday that have been replaced by despairing memories of today. Pause for a while, reflect, and meditate. And if you cannot take all of these anymore, sorry but not sorry. Just waive the red flag and wave your flag!
Love is both a best and worst feeling where everything seems to be driven by emotions. Whether you like it or not, time would really come that things would go wrong in all of a sudden. Watch out for the red flags of love and never ever ignore them. After all, the decision greatly lies in your hands. Just so you know, waive the red flags and wave your flag!
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