An Absolute Perfect Day

“Don’t wait for a perfect day. To make it a perfect day, dance the whole day, sing every hour, and love every moment”

― Debasish Mridha

Happy Monday Sweeties! It´s a bright new day for me and I am hoping it brings a lot of blessings for us all. Yesterday, I spent all day indoors until later in the evening when the light went off and the heat was another thing for me. I quickly picked up my phone, took a chair and went to sit under the big cashew tree in the compound. My mind went straight there so as to focus while reading articles on readcash.

I don´t like noise or disturbances around me, and my siblings were ready to give me that but I quickly took to my heels and found solace under the tree while listening to the birds, the breeze was flowing through my body, even though the insects weren´t allowing me to enjoy my space but I never mind them. I only spent an hour there before taking a shift to another habitation which helped me a lot to concentrate and did some things online. 

For today, I would be doing my own version of the article I read from Ate Jane which she posted two days ago titled “there is no perfect anyway”. I already read from @ARTicLEE some days ago too. 

What would be the absolute perfect day?

Absolute means “Complete”. So if I am trying to describe a completely perfect day for me, it goes in different ways and directions. A perfect day can mean different things to everyone. 

A perfect day can be that moment I have achieved my targets and all I have left is to take a full rest and enjoy things around me since my goals have been achieved for that day. 

A perfect day can be a fun day for me. A day I just want to have fun because I have nothing other than enjoying the moment being myself, taking myself out and just smiling to myself. 

A perfect day can mean taking time for a walk when I know I have nothing to do. Walking around nature and smiled at people passing by, listening to the birds singing and the ocean rumbling very close to me. 

A completely perfect day can be the moment I heard good news from someone and all I would just do is sing and dance to God appreciating life and the opportunities granted to me. 

What did you learn a little late?

What did I learn? There are so many things I have learned a little late that I wished I had done them in the past but as it is, one shouldn´t think about the past mistakes but focus on learning from the mistakes and trying not to make any errors for the future. I learned a little late that “10% of what I have earned is mine to keep”.

This actually was a result of reading the book “The richest man in Babylon”. I said something when I made a post about this book that if I had read this book before now, I would have made some changes coming across such phrase and would definitely let it keep ringing in my head till today because as of now, I am always remembering it each day I wake up. Now, imagine if I had been saving before now and not spending all, it would have been a different thing. Well, instead of the ten percent, I am covering up for those times by increasing the percentage to 20. This is what I learned a little too late. 

What do people overestimate or underestimate about you?

I am kind of a gentle girl who doesn´t love troubles. I love to give and once I have pity on a person, I can do anything to help such person out in such condition. I am a free person and always love to tell you about me, and what to know about me and I believe that for you to be close to and around me, I expect you to keep my secret and never use it against me. But it´s another way around. People take my act of giving for granted and would always demand and they get angry if I open up to them about not having. They think I am being selfish or proud of myself. 

Let me make an example so you can understand. My friends knew I work online and make money because I have introduced them times without numbers and even revealed what I earn to them and because of this, they think I don´t have responsibilities. They think I don´t have a family to support and they think I am not planning my life for the future, but all they were after is to keep spending on them since they know what I do. Was it a crime to reveal what I do to them? Was that a reason to ask and get angry if I don´t give them? That is human for you. Once they know something about you, they overestimate you and expect more and when you fail them, they change towards you. 

Because I look gentle in the eyes, they thought I am weak and wouldn´t be able to express myself but many times I prove to them that what they think of me isn´t about me. Not speaking out sometimes doesn´t mean I am a fool or cannot fight for myself, what they don´t understand is that I love peace to reign and if I don´t fight back, it means I want it to end there without having to offend anyone. So, they thought I am a weak person in that aspect.

 What do you most look forward to about getting old?

I don´t want to look back on my life when I am old and feel despair about not achieving my goals. There is a stage which is the last stage of the Erik Erikson psychosocial development which talks about Integrity vs Despair. 

This stage begins at age 65 where when one looks back to remember his or her past achievement and when he or she knows all goals have been fulfilled, they feel a sense of integrity for achieving and living a good life, but when one cannot pinpoint what they lived their lives for, they feel sad and develop despair. 

I don´t want to feel such but a sense of integrity for accomplishing my aims in life. I look forward to having a wonderful family where I have led a good example for my children to live by and are already living well and independently without depending on me for survival especially when I have nothing left to leave behind. 

I want to contemplate my life and see how great I have done many things, fulfilled all targets and just relaxed without doing any stressful jobs to earn a living for myself. I don´t want to see my life as unproductive, I don´t want to feel guilty for the rest of my life but to live a fulfilled and glorious life which is worth emulating. 

Thanks for reading. 

Images by Jeffery and Christina on Unsplash

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