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I read a story yesterday and it got me thinking about humans generally and about children that I wrote about for a few days now. It was the story of a young man with 2 wonderful children and a loving wife. The husband lost his job during the covid season as an Engineer. Thankfully, the wife still got her job as a Nurse. The husband thought to himself one morning since being a Nurse is a hot cake out there abroad, he pitched the idea to his wife so she can go abroad to work while he would come and join her later with their two daughters.

He had enough in his savings, so that wouldn't be a problem for him to pay for all she needed to travel with. He helped her draft her resume and applied on her behalf. As fate would have it, she got the job but they didn't allow her family members to come yet. The condition was it would be under a year or two...nothing was certain. The husband asked her to take the job and be good at it so it can facilitate their coming. She left Nigeria for Canada and he was saddled with the responsibility of taking care of their children.

He was doing some jobs on the sideline just to keep things moving at least, for the sake of his children. The mother was scheduled to visit after 6 months when the children are on holiday so they can spend quality time together. She came into the country and noticed that her daughters have become rude to her husband. She rebuked them but asked the husband what the matter was. He told her she always restricted them from going out so that must be their way of revolting. It didn't sit down well with the wife.

She was due to leave and she asked the children what the problem was and they said every night, their dad used to come around to sleep with the two of them. She couldn't believe her ears and she called her pastor right away. He came around and the children repeated the same thing they told their mother and even the same thing when the mother confronted their dad. The father just stood there, shocked, buried his hands on his face and still pleaded he didn't do anything.

Eventually, the mother took the children away after 3 months because she allowed them to live with her pastor before she finally came to pick them up. The man got called back to his job and was given a hefty compensation package. He got married after a year to a friend who stood by him during those dark days even though they were not romantically involved. The mother saw the pop up on Facebook and was cursing the father right where the children were when the youngest confessed that their father didn't touch them nor rape them. She said they lied about it so they can quickly leave the country with their mother since they are not sure of how long it would take for them to finally relocate.

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It's a very crazy story that should have been settled with common sense. We need to understand that children can be so tricky and the era of children being innocent had gone especially with the era we are in. The world is messed up and a lot of things influence these children. Who would have thought the children would cook up such a lie against their father who they used to be fond of. The wife claimed she believed the story at first because there is an adage in my language that says, "The dog that sees you today and wagged his tail and if that same dog sees you the next day and greeted you by barking, then there is something wrong."

She decided to allow common sense to be kicked to the curb because she lacked basic trust. I am not saying it's easy for her but what I am saying is, even if she wanted to doubt her husband, she could have at least taken the children to the hospital to ascertain this claim by the children. She went with her feelings which makes me understand one thing about humans; we always want to believe what we have been thinking about most of the time. It was easy for her to believe that because, who knows, maybe she has gotten comfortable over there and there is someone around the corner showing interest in her because you don't just go from full trust to zero without at least weighing both sides of things.

She didn't just get children who are capable of doing the worst thing in a foreign land, she lost her husband and her peace of mind too. If those children can do that to their father, she should understand that they would turn on her in a foreign country if they don't have their way and she is trying to restrict them. It's shocking to see the depth of darkness that the human mind can conceive, not to even talk of children.

Where would she go from here? Ask the ex-husband to leave his new bride that was there to pick up the pieces when he was accused of what he didn't do without a benefit of the doubt? She would plead for mercy and become the second wife all over again? What then happens to the new wife? How will she view her children going forward and how would the husband feel about those children too? There are a lot of questions than answers.

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At first i wanted to blame the husband, but when I read the full story, i then saw she allowed her emotion to controlled her to take such irreparable step. Hmm! At least she should have done research to ascertain if what her daughters were saying was true or false. She really made a mistake! Now she has lost such a good husband. This is a life lesson to all us to confirm something before we that any step.

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2 years ago

She allowed her emotions get the better of her. Just like I told someone too, she was a good mother because that's what a mother would do; leap into your defence first above all else but she wasn't a good wife...she was supposed to have a heart to heart discussion with her husband first.

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2 years ago

This is very much complicated. Yes, we know children might be very deceitful but at times, they talk true. Let's forget the fact that we know that the children lied in this story. What if it was true? You know different things happen in the world. Let's assume it was true and the mother took them to the pastor to live with him. Infact, that's a crazy idea. What if the pastor does the same thing to them? And we should teach kids to love their parents. It shows that those two girls do not love their father because if they do, they'd want to stay with him

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2 years ago

The era where children always speak the truth has gone because they have been corrupted with the ways of the world. The heart of humans can be wicked. In this case, these children didn't do so well.

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2 years ago

I also read about this news on Twitter, the woman has gone too far. Although I understand her feelings as a mother but some things in life that need more patience before taking action, cause children of today are so tricky just to get what they want. At this point, it is really difficult to believe. But it could have been better if she was patient enough to make a proper investigation and later take the children to the hospital for a test before jumping to conclusions.

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2 years ago

Yes, she acted like a mother but not like a wife. She should have given him the benefit of the doubt and then find the root of the matter.

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2 years ago

is there a part two ? I can't believe the children did that, as mother I can also believe what the kids said but I should know the point of view in both sides, and it's true she should came to a doctor first to.check their children..

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2 years ago

She surely didn't view both sides. She just acted as a mother should and not as a wife would.

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2 years ago

The wife and kids are selfish, I really felt sorry for the husband,I hope he can get another wife who he can rely on through ups and down..

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2 years ago

He got one already. He got married to another lady who was there for him during the issues.

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2 years ago

Yes, I hope that wife does not have the same personality with the ex wife..

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2 years ago

Nothing is certain in life. If for anything, this should even make her trust him more.

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2 years ago

Just imagining the act of those kids, what will they do when they finally grow up? , definitely they'll will be worse. But their mother is too quick to take action, this where understand and trust comes in a relationship, had it been there's trust, the wife could have carried out more investigation before trusting her children.

This is to teach individual a moral lesson, gone are the days when children are innocent, but now, some of them are dangerous than adults.

According to the question you ask, how on earth will the man accept the woman back ? With all the embarrassment? I'm just trying to put the man in my shoe. If at all he will accept the woman, not under the same roof with those children , because they might do the worse, but will try to perform my responsibility over them.... Just saying it the way i feel.

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2 years ago

Exactly. There is no telling the evil they would do again. He can't even have them under the same roof anymore because they would frustrate the new wife. They better stay apart and still perform his duties over them from afar.

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2 years ago

It's really hard to where to put yourself in certain situation. It is much more so when we let emotions rule us instead of reason. I kids have their reasons but they should have thought about the consequences of their actions. I feel sad for all of them.

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2 years ago

It's a sad situation, I have to agree.

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2 years ago

Children never give absurd information even though they are being teach by someone to lie but it can't hide the reality cause children speak the truth. That's is why children are indispensable witness in a court.

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2 years ago

Children are not as innocent as we used to think... especially in this case.

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2 years ago

Their mother will have to take all the blame in this case. It was obvious that she had no trust in the husband. She just believed straight up without putting the emotions of the husband into consideration. I actually pity her and the children cause if they exert the same energy over there, that lady is gonna be deported.

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2 years ago

Straight deportation with no one to come back to πŸ˜‚πŸ€£. It looked as if she has been waiting for the man to slip because she showed a total lack of faith in him.

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2 years ago

Such good for nothing children. Those children are evil hearted.

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2 years ago

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚ I said the same thing under my breath too. Evil kids.

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2 years ago

I saw the post on Facebook today, if the story is true, those children are posses by a demonic spirit to make such a fabricated lie against their father. As for the woman, she has nowhere to go, the only logical thing left for her and the children to do is to come down to Nigeria and ask for the man's forgiveness to avoid karma.

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2 years ago

Hahaha they are absolutely possessed because they did that against a man who is not just their father but someone who has been taking good care of them. They surely need to come back, ask for forgiveness and at least set the record straight so people would know the truth too.

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2 years ago

Where is this world going? I really don’t know. My friend almost lost her foster child after the girl made some unreal accusations without understanding what she said. All very messy and left my friend in a bit of trauma.

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2 years ago

It can be very traumatizing. When you least expected that turn of event. It's scary and crazy, Mo.

How is she doing now?

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2 years ago

You're right, she could have just taken them to do a proper checkup before her assumptions. Some children are something else, all because they wanted to travel out of the country. They had to lie to their father, God knows what they would be capable of doing to their mother. I feel she deserves the treatment she's getting though, and I'm actually happy the man found happiness again. Some girls are really taking advantage of the word "rape."

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2 years ago

That's what scares me the most. Most people are throwing the word "rape" any how and this makes genuine cases to be swept under the rug.

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2 years ago

This is absurd! Mehn...this is something else oo. How could the children do such? The first thing is for her to have taken them to the hospital and should have taken the matter sensibly. She already lost all and it would take divine intervention for the children not to act weirdly later in future because for them to do such to their own father, means there is no extent to their dangerous acts in the future.

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2 years ago

That mother should watch her back because the moment something isn't going their way, they would turn on their mother too.

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2 years ago

She could have just taken them to the hospital for a check-up, she didn't have a pinch of doubt to have even called a third party first.

I read a story as well and it seems females are beginning to take advantage of the law against rape, they accuse males just to get them punished. Have you heard Greenwood was released on bail, it is looking like he didn't commit the crime.

The mother of those girls messed up, she should watch her back henceforth.

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2 years ago

Yes, they know that rape story will always gather sympathy and they played a fast one on the dad.

Yes, Greenwood was granted bail since pending investigation since he isn't a flight risk and it's not a murder case. The case has quietened down now sef. I don't even know what to think again.

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2 years ago

What a story! Not only the woman, I don't think anyone would ever believe the man didn't do it. Ofcourse little children never lies. That's the general belief, so that really don't blame the woman. How little children could concoct they lie against a beloved father that never maltreated or abused them is really amazing.

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2 years ago

Yes, she pitched one or two together when she saw the distance. She made a decision too quick without verification too.

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2 years ago

One guy on twitter said he was accused of rape by a 10 year old girl when he was just 12. He had to be expelled from the school, and in fact the teachers were trying to coerce him into accepting that he did it while promising him that he won't be punished.

Long story short- he was expelled, and the girl confessed later that she lied.

Long story short- We shouldn't believe the girl-child blindly without proper investigation!

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2 years ago

That's very harsh. Just imagine. It's scary what this world is turning into.

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2 years ago

I can't believe she trusted what her kids told her without checking to see if it was true or not, but she went with her mind to judge rather than taking the time to learn the whole story. The newly married husband won't be able to leave his new wife who stood by him through those dark times, so she should have taken the kids to the hospital so they could run some tests to see if it was true or not,She'd have to start over from the beginning as the husband can't leave his newly wedded wife.

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2 years ago

Exactly... She just need to live with the consequences of her actions. This is why we don't have to always make a decision in the heat of the matter.

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2 years ago