Let's Help One Another - Depression.

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I've never joked with depression nor would I mock anyone going through what's beyond their ability. Depression is real and a lot of people are fighting battles we don't even know yet.

I used to think it's exclusive to those who need money, those who feel they have failed in life or those who have been failed by a particular system but I've come to realize that it's a general plague that should be eradicated because it is capable of cutting lives short and ending dreams even before it began.

It's not exclusive for the poor neither is it for the rich alone but it's all about the individual. Life deals with us differently and sometimes we see it coming and oftentimes we don't even know. We are dealt harsh realities and we just want to cave in. For the umpteenth time, I would say that we can be seated next to a broken person and we wouldn't even know. We can't see the traces nor can they be written on their forehead as obvious signs but the only trace we can see is that they tend to withdraw.

Being friends with people, we have to notice their patterns and also show ourselves worthy of being friends. Most people don't understand what the word "Friendship" means. They just think it's about being there for the good and fun times. The true test of friendship and a huge determinant is when they are tested, tried and need your shoulder to fall back on.

We have so many fairweather individuals who just want to be there for you as long as you are good. I don't have to be good for you to be there for me. I would be good, yes, I have been good, yes, but we all have our dark moments and we all go through a tough patch. A true friend isn't the person who would only come and bail you in jail (why not prevent it instead?) but someone who will sit down there with you and say "Yes, we messed up."

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Most people are quick to point fingers even at their friends when things go wrong and this explains that their heart was never with you in the first place. Your friend messed up, you both messed up because where were you when he or she was going through that patch? There are some things we don't have to hear from outsiders...because they are the exclusive privilege of being friends with each other.

It's easier for people to slip into depression when they have no shoulder to lean on. The rich also cry and this is the truth, so don't be surprised when you see a rich man commit suicide. It's hard to wrap your head around how someone who sometimes looked like he or she has it all decides to end it. It leaves more questions than answers and there is more of a tricky path because it's hard to know who truly is their friend because success and wealth attract all kinds of people.

I read many years ago from a friend of mine that I met on Steemit. His name is Eric Vance Walton and he spoke about this talented man called Anthony Bourdain. He spoke of how the man committed suicide which can be traced to depression.

This is why I would always advocate for people to be tender, subtle and nice. It costs us nothing and if we don't have anything nice to say it's better to keep quiet. Most people enjoy seeing others in pain especially when we have scores to settle with them. They prefer to kick others when they are down. You don't understand the pain most people are dealing with so be sympathetic with other people's plight.

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My heart goes to those who feel hard done by, those who struggle to muster the strength to move on and those who are dealing with things they can't even discuss with others. I just want to assure you that you are not alone. In case you don't have people around you who cares as much as you want, I need you to know that life is an endless journey, so if you can't find them now, surely you will. Don't allow anyone to break you, stop you or be in control of how you feel...not even situations too.

Everything will be fine and you have held on for this long, keep holding on, keep fighting because that is where your success story lies. What would you tell those who depend on you? Would you let them know that you gave up easily? How would they believe in the message of strength which they have gotten through your life? There is more to life and you are a huge part of it. Those who think you are too small to affect a change hasn't been in bed with a mosquito.

This isn't the end of the road for you and it shouldn't be. The world needs you more than mother earth does. Keep hanging in there and find someone you can talk to...find someone you can trust at least...because no one can make it in this world all alone and by themselves. We all need one another - you need someone and someone needs you.

Emotions would always weigh us down and there would always be situations beyond our control and that's what life is about. No one is beyond seeking help and seeking help doesn't mean you are weak, it only means you are smart enough to recognize your limits and know when not to push further. Asking for help is even the first step in your journey to recovery.

In as much as we are looking for friends to be with, we should try and be friends with others too because we don't know what they are going through. Let's be kind...kindness speaks.

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Unfortunately, right now in the current situation with world events, judging is extremely rampant partly because of mainstream media and lack of alternative rational thinking and opinions and a lot of it has to do with social websites censoring anything against the narrative that is pushed out. A vast majority of people are getting frustrated with the lack of freedom of expression, that their opinions do not count and so they bottle these feelings up with no one to express them to. That is where that really true friend comes in to just be there. Also, the wealthier one gets, the stronger the pressure against them to hold their position, until one gets to a much higher level.

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2 years ago

This is the truth... You nailed it right there. Absolutely spot on. Thanks for this.

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2 years ago

Writing it with literally teary eyes not much to say but I really felt like someone actually understand what depression is and how it could ruin your life lead you to endless misery or suicide and at this point I don't even blame my friends anymore they've made me feel like it's not good to talk about depression so now I just stay away pretend to be happy and don't trouble them with my depression because for some reason it's even for the good I'm suffering but at least they won't and being someone dealing with depression I would never want someone friend or just random person to ever deal with depression it's hard to handle it all alone but we must keep trying that's what I'm doing and it's not even about having enough blessings in your life because I'm thankful for every little thing in my life but it's just something one can't share or express. Have a good day you deserve love 💜

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2 years ago

I am so sorry you had to deal with that and that you have so much people around you that aren't sensitive. I am miles away and I guess that should make it easier and you can talk to me. Everything will be fine... Life can be tricky but we have to keep going... 🤗🤗🤗

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2 years ago

Means a lot 💜 thank you ✨

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2 years ago

Anytime.

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2 years ago

I agree with you with what you said. Most people just quickly judge and that’s not how to lift someone who just had a bad moment.

Why I don’t like people’s attitude is this, something that if anyone do it to you, you would not like it why do it to others?

Those people that easily judge people, when the are judged by others, you see them fly up. It’s so sad man

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2 years ago

That's sadly true...they can't take half of what they dish out. We need to be more kind because many people are going through a lot.

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2 years ago

Discouragement is something awful, we should attempt to be caring to other people, there are individuals who simply need our consideration, individuals who are pitiful on an every day, you never can see what its identity is nevertheless we really want to consistently wear an amicable face and we ought to be congenial .

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2 years ago

That's right.

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2 years ago

"A true friend isn't the person who would only come and bail you in jail, why not prevent it instead?", this line hit me and it's the sad reality in our society today. Some of the so called friends are the ones that will encourage you to do something bad and after you have done it and it backfires, they will come like a charity foundation to help you out from the same situation they could have prevented in the first place

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2 years ago

Hahaha that is so true... They are not even friends in the first place...just talk buddies hahaha.

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2 years ago

There are friends who will pull you out of depression, and there are those who will help you earn it. Good friends are those who try to pull you out of this "swamp" or those who help you find a good doctor (if you are in trouble).

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2 years ago

Always with an insightful comment...always. I feel blessed hearing from you.

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2 years ago

Depression is a bad thing, we should try and be kind to others, there are people who just need our attention, people who are sad on a daily, you never can tell who it is but we need to always wear a friendly face and we should be approachable .

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2 years ago

That's right...we should be approachable and be ready to help. Being sensitive is key.

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2 years ago

I started dealing with this when I was 16 idk but my parents started to worry. I lose interest on things I like the most. I became blunt and I started avoiding everyone. I isolate myself and just over think again and again but somehow from the help of others and also my family. I bring back my old self agaim but one thing I hope there's no more who can trigger again that scary situation. Depression should be taken seriously.

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2 years ago

I am so sorry you had to deal with that and for you to overcome it with the help and support of friends and family, I hope others can draw strength from you story and keep fighting too. Thank you so much for sharing this.

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2 years ago

Depression is a monster that will eat one up, it's a predator that devour its prey if care is not taken. Depression is state where the mind think of nothing, rather than suicidal acts, because they think that's the only way to end their pain, their sorrow and their anxiety. We shouldn't blame them, because we might actually do the worse if we are in their shoe. Depression leads to mental disorderliness . It's only takes the grace of God to come over come it.

Just like you say, we too have a vital role to play , we should know how to study people to Know when they are not their normal self, because those that are depressed they will tend to be alone , hence, different thoughts will be running through their minds, and most times , it always a bad thought , the thought of putting an end to everything.

We have to move closer to them, tell them you you love them, show them care, they must not be Left to stay alone for too long, if possible, keep calling them every time ,by so doing, they will know that someone still care for them, and gradually their wound will be healed.

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2 years ago

That's right. It is never about the blame game but about ways we can help them.

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2 years ago

A lot of comments in here are about the definition and effects of depression, I thinking everyone knows it. Everyone knows it exists it's just that it's hard to identify who is who. Which of the people sorround us is facing depression. Just as a phrase says the one who always laugh is the one who cry the most. It's true that it's hard to identify them. One reason is because they're scared to open up and to be judged. That's why one thing we can do is spread positivity to everyone. A simple smile and greetings to people we encounter in street will make them feel they're notice by people. And that's what they need

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2 years ago

That's so true... It is hard to identify because most people dealing with it won't open up because they don't know who to trust and they don't want to be judged.

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2 years ago

Depression, I have this one but still dealing on it. Actually I am so sensitive especially with the hurtful words. But I know I can cope this one.

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2 years ago

I believe you can fight this...please keep fighting... Everything will be fine.

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2 years ago

Put my name first. I want to help those people who are dealing with this. I had it & I know how it kills.

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2 years ago

I am sorry you had to deal with that too...and yours is a success story because you beat it. I hope others can draw strength too.

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2 years ago

And I have been there yesterday. It nevee been easy no matter how brave nor strong once depression attack it will makes perso weaker in especially in mentality.

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2 years ago

It weakens even the best of mind...so true.

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2 years ago

Amigo la depresión es mala para el ser humano y lo más lindo es que uno no se da cuenta cuando la tiene. Sólo se da cuenta las personas que están a su alrededor, por eso al que uno pueda ayudar cuando está en esa situación hay que hacerlo, es muy triste ver a una persona en esas condiciones.

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2 years ago

Yes, the rich also get depressed and it's never written on the forehead. People actually go through a lot, when you hear people stories, you'll be shocked as to whatever such an individual went through or is going through

Depression is real, it will be nice if start checking up on our friends and loved ones, because real friends are known in that kind of times

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2 years ago

That's right...we know our real friends in moments of struggles. We all need to do better.

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2 years ago

You have very informative article. Yup depression is a common problem that people are facing right now but we must be strong and not losing our hope, everything will be fine. 🤗

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2 years ago

We just have to be hopeful and never give up...that's right.

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2 years ago

Depression is a common diseases we people facing, I used the word we because I don't think that people can't over like that without exercise the depression. But is best to give fast solution in other to achieve our success

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2 years ago

Yes, it's a general problem which should be tackled.

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2 years ago

Yes, some need to tackle it as soon as possible, but my friend asked this question in which I will ask you, i don't know the right I can him then,. He said "what are the easy way to over come depression".

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2 years ago

I would leave this for experts and I don't think there is an easy way because depression isn't easy. Therapists should be a huge help and that's why I recommend being sensitive to people so we can know those who need help and how to help them.

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2 years ago

Yes, depression is more hard to just stop, even sometimes I could think self decision can the solution steps easy. Thank am glad

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2 years ago

Yes, the individual has to make the decision to get out of it...hard but not impossible. We have a lot of people who have beaten depression.

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2 years ago

Depression is a silent killer. If one cannot see it, it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. Some people can put on a big smile in front of others but deep inside they are unhappy.

I wish they can seek help and find the support they need. I hope we can be a little nicer and kinder. We meet different people every day and we don't know what kind of demons they are dealing with.

This is a timely article dear. Thank you for sharing your wise words.

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2 years ago

You hit the nail on the head, momma... Absolutely. They can be all smiles but hurting deep inside. If we can be a little more kind and nice... I really hope they find someone worth opening up to as well...it helps.

How are you feeling now, momma? Especially with the cold?

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2 years ago

Depression kills faster than we can ever imagine am telling you have been there and I know how it feels So if I see anyone there I always wants to help such person out

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2 years ago

Absolutely...help is needed and we should readily give it.

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2 years ago

Yeah

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2 years ago

Depression is terrible and it has made people make wrong choices in life, it doesn't solve problems, it only complicates problems.

I don't joke with it because I have experienced it at a point in life, it makes one lose hope and you won't see any good forthcoming. It is important that we are quick to respond to people when we notice that they are going through a depressing state.

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2 years ago

Yes, we have to be quick to respond when we see those signs of withdrawal and unhappiness. Being sensitive to those around us is important and it can help save their lives.

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2 years ago

You're right we need to help one another to achieve our goals,we should have someone to trust and to lean onto during the weakest hour

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2 years ago

That's right...we need one another.

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2 years ago

Thank you for this eye opener. Friendship is really overrated by most people. If everyone is aware of the role to play as friends, the world would be a better place.

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2 years ago

That's true...if we understand what friendship means then we would do better.

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2 years ago

Depression as in clinical depression requires mostly the right treatment... Petite around can't do much as it is as a result of chemical malfunctions in the body system... God help us all...

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2 years ago

It requires more attention...I agree with that.

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2 years ago

Seeking help does not stop you from being who you are or stop you from retaining your personality. So , helping one another should be our choice in life.

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2 years ago

Absolutely...seeking help doesn't make anyone weaker but it helps.

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