She's 13 and Pregnant
Date: April 13, 2022 (Wednesday)
It's always been a joy in my heart to help the kids to learn the lessons that they need in this world. Amidst pandemic, I can say that it's truly hard for them to learn the nitty-gritty of the lessons especially in Mathematics during these days. With that in mind, I have tutorial session during weekends, but I only take one student because I still have things to do or things that I need to finish during the weekends.
Not to mention, I am currently tutoring Mathematics to a student in the 7th Grade. Now, let me introduce to you my tutee. I don't want to tell you her complete name but I'll just use a pseudonym for her which is "Trish". Trish is a 13 year old girl who is currently studying in a public institution. She's having a hard time in Math and with that, her mother asked me if I can help her with her Math problems. I was ecstatic to hear it as I want to help as well.
Our session went smooth for a month or two. We had a great time together as I taught her the problems that she needed to answer in Math. Needless to say, Trish is just an average student. When you tell her something about a concept in Math, she could learn it but in an average pacing. At first, she's having a hard time because the lesson is new to her, but after she learned the nitty-gritty, it becomes easy for her.
Trish is always present during the Saturday sessions. Howbeit, it all started last January when she no longer attend to our sessions. I was wondering how she was doing. With that, I chatted her in a messaging app, howbeit she just seened my chats. She's not responding to it as if there's something wrong. I was alarmed that I tried contacting her sister, but her sister was not responding to me as well. I got busy days after that and I wasn't able to update.
Then just yesterday, she went to our house. At first, I asked her what happened to her and why is she not responding to my chats. She told me that the account that I chatted was an old account. Although I have seen that she seened the message that I sent. Well, I just let it passed though. And with that, I asked her with the reason why she's not attending to the sessions anymore.
"I am pregnant", she said.
At that moment, I became speechless. I don't know what to say and I don't know how to respond. But what I did is I listened to her story first before coming up with an advice.
I listened to her full story. And I was a bit sad that a 13 year old, a young girl who's supposed to be schooling and learning some important lessons in school is now pregnant. She was not raped or what. They did it because they just feel like doing it.
She said that it all started when they were having drinking sessions with her friends including his boyfriend. Actually the boy is just 13 years old as well. They were having a great time drinking and when they got drunk, they did it. It didn't happened once or twice, but like five times in a row. And now, the result of their actions has bloomed already.
What saddens me more is the guy who got her pregnant transferred to another place, far away from our place. She informed the guy about the situation, but the guy just blocked her as if nothing happened.
Now, when did she realized that she was pregnant?
She told me that it was December last year when she noticed that she no longer got her period. Her friend, who is also a 13 years old girl, told her to try the pregnancy test because she might be pregnant. Her friend bought her one and she was shocked when she saw two lines from the PT. She told me that she really breakdown and regret everything that she has done, but it's too late.
But what's sadder is her parents are still unaware of her situation. She's already 4 months pregnant, but it's not that visible because she's more like a fat kid. If you're going to look at her, it seems like she's just getting fat and not pregnant. She even told me that she just eat a lot of food so that her parents will just come up with a conclusion that she's only getting fat because of eating too much.
I decided to go to their house next week and help her explain her situation to her parents. It may be so hard for her to tell the situation she's in, but I will be on her side because her parents need to know it.
Closing Thoughts
It's just sad to note that teenage pregnancy is so rampant to our world these days. It's even sad that the guys who got the girls pregnant would leave them like nothing happened, leaving the girls as single mothers. With that, it's indeed important for every parent to guide their children always. It's also important for the teens in this generation to be aware of the things that might happen if they will dive to things like that. As much as possible, the teens will be given guidance regarding this matter.
You see, it's alarming to see a 13 year old kid already carrying a big responsibility. But it's not the end of her journey though. She can still continue her studies and reach her dreams in life.
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Way back year 2017 when I gave birth to my daughter my husband ask to an intern nurse about what age are the youngest gave birth in the hospital. And nurses responded it's 11 years old. And much worst it wasn't a rape victim, it makes me sad for the reason that even in my legal age I felt the hardship of being a mom. What more to her. 😔