Life Will Give You What You Require From It, You Gotta Be Okay Walking Away

This is the hardest thing in the world because we get desperate, and what I see is desperation coz when you are much younger and you have to learn these lessons in business, learning this from walking away from the table to opportunities and deals and things that’s peached to you and of that nature where we can say Yes to and also make something out from it. It really gets better but does it really fit me or rather am I happy, so I have to be willing to walk away from that.

when it comes to this, no doubts it’s really hard and I have these things I call the four impacts..

The first impact is Attraction... it’s just physical coz you get attracted to them and that’s it, you go through each and every step and you derive your plan on how to get them or how to get that job or that girl or whatsoever that’s related but before you know it, it sweeps you off position and you fall back... you know why that happens, it tells you that not everything you dream of in life comes into manifestation so you’ve got to look for alternatives. But likewise, when you finally hit the fame spot it becomes too unbearable to the point of giving up, what you have to do is walk away..

The second impact is Like, so you see somebody or something you like and you get to know their personality, their likes, their dislikes, what and who they are or aren’t, and you fall in or step in to Like and you do like what you see.. It’s normal for you to go through with this, as everyone who comes in contact with what is good immediately Likes it and shows interest. So most times it is beneficial because of the monetary reasons and satisfaction he or she would get from it.

The those impact is Love, and with love it is a space where you start to give of yourself, you’ll give to them, you‘ll work for them, you’ll be there for them and it goes a little deeper as the commitments wouldn’t let you see that the particular place you are is the wrong place. But because you’ve given it your all and when someone tells you “You’re never going to be there anymore and basically no explanation for it” you hurt yourself badly and this could witnessed in occupations, relationships and any significant order...

The fourth impact is Self, and to me this is highest level of love. In the sense that when you’re at this level you, you’d love the person you’re with and you’d sacrifice for them and you’d as well give everything, but you are willing to do that for a short period of time and you also know your time presently is limited... So when it’s time to walk away, it wouldn’t weigh you down because you would love your self more and when you feel cheated or completely not okay with the way things are you can easily call it a quit. If anyone wants to keep holding you down, you tell them it’s over for good..

In this life, seriously speaking if the love you give isn’t reciprocated or you all ain’t communicating on the same language or from the same point of view, if they don’t treat you with love then you have to walk away. Don’t move round in cycles because you still feel relevant, My dear you don’t anymore... ‘You’ve lost the shine shine bobo love’ In no time you will be humiliated publicly if you don’t pull out on time... So please shine you eyes and do that as quickly as possible..

Have you had this lust after somebody and you both go on a few dates and then you get into the bed.. When you get into the bed, your lost has now driven you to the bedroom so now you have effectuated your relationship by being physical within the first meet. So after that when you may be living together or hanging out and all the time you’re only giving to them and neglecting yourself and you see yourself doing all of that but deep down you don’t like the person.. the arrousement and sexual drive you had initially was all there is to the relationship. And when you keep doing that constantly you become weak and for you not to keep deceiving the person you’re with about how long lasting this would become, you’ve got to give that person a chance to walk away.

I would stop here for now and I do hope you have given a thought to it, because to every life you live now that makes you upset every time and you constantly hate yourself for being there and there isn’t any alternative, trust me you really can’t dwell on what causes you pain.. It’s unhealthy to you and you may go into depression. So please take your time to outweigh the good and the bad and see which way that fractions out the other.

Thank you for reading...

November 2021