I’m Never Bringing A Girl Over; Nigerian Parents Reaction

So a while back I made the conscious decision that I need to get my own place before I put myself out, back into the dating world. Okay and that's for a variety of reasons, the first is I do value my privacy a lot and I need my privacy and this not just applicable to someone i'm seeing but I need my privacy in general. I don't want to live with people, I just need to have my own space and that's important to me. The second reason is because of this story right here.. So about a year, and now that I think about it, its the exact time as today.

Me and this girl where talking and she was the first girl I had ever talked to, so I didn't have any dating experience at all. We weren't compatible whatsoever, we had nothing in common and looking back I knew all of that.. and my mind kept telling me "How are you going to date her, she's just there coz you feel lonely" I was willing to settle for the first person I can meet in real life. I've known her since but we mostly chart online, like I said we had nothing in common and our path was really different.. But anyways, I decided to bring her to my house and you know how scary that is when you want to bring a girl to your house as a Nigerian guy, the brain work at play though.

I felt the vibe but never even saw some red flags about the whole arrangement. I've not told anybody this before, cause there was no clue to me on how we made it that far but I was stubborn which I allowed my loneliness get to me.. When I brought her over doesn't mean we be smashing or doing some other intimate stuff, only to show her my private zone. And it doesn't mean that because I have invested in getting to know you for a while and that was why we got to this place..

So that was the craziest day of my life, I called her whether she was free and wanted to hang out.. that was when she got to the city where I was.. So she "yeah" .. and we head straight home, but before I got there trust me I made plans oooh. I called like 50 times just to keep them posted about the meet up.. my lines was "i'm bringing someone to the house and please don't get too comfortable around the house".. my dad is late so my mom represents both my dad and mom as well, she means the world to me..

When I told her, I thought she would go out the way but it ended up being my fault coz I never fully communicated the meet up or date as I should have called properly.. so fast forward to roughly an hour later we stopped at the nearest bustop and walked down to my house. We walked through the front door and my mom walked towards me to greet us and she started with "Gozie How are you?" My mom really got it all twisted and said "Where is she from and who is she?" Already felt too uncomfortable with that and she went forward to say “Ohhhh I love this girl already and she will make as a fine couple”.. and my mom said to me "Go introduce her to your siblings" to be honest I didn't, I just led her somewhere that was quiet and peaceful and we had fun for a while.

It never stopped there, we started watching Netflix and it was quite late already.. My mom just stayed right there waiting for me to say something and really it was the worst experience of my life.. My mom even took her away from me and started telling her some weird things about me, I felt so ashamed. Nothing happened from that moment, we all watched through then my invite got tired and we left. That was the last day we spoke, she felt so insecure around me and my mom literally spoilt the whole thing for me. From there she kind of blocked me and till this day we just meet coincidentally anytime she travels back from school..

You all now know the main reason why I wouldn't dare try that unless it's something different and a far commitment.. You don't want to meet Nigerian parents, they will ask you questions; a million of them.. all because you brought someone over..

I hope you had fun reading through, it’s so strange how we act upon this here… I like to hear your story about your first encounter at home..

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January 6th, 2022