I Didn't Know That!
Christmas Countdown: 2
This has nothing to do with Christmas, but the most recent couple of days, the site been acting kind of weird and thus, I needed to augment my time disconnected enjoying more with my daughter. Since it's Christmas vacation, I needed to ensure I spend it meaningfully.
So beside being with my daughter, I additionally have been chilling watching series like 90-Day Fiance. I had to watch the series from Season 1 all over again to present. I just find it very interesting. It's exceptionally intriguing to find out about different cultures and traditions from all over the world particularly about relationships and marriage. Wondering for no specific reason. Just curious. So have of it just stunned me.
Let's take some examples of traditions that shocked me in the reality show:
In Nigeria, if the wife cannot bear a child due to infertility or some medical issues, the husband is allowed to find another woman whom he could have a child and that's legal to them. Whew! Shocking!
One couple in the show had this problem (Angela Deem from the US and Michael Elisanmi from Nigeria). Angela at that time was 54 years old if I am not mistaken and Michael was only 31. In one of the episodes, Angela was searching out the assistance of a gynecologist prior to getting hitched. The specialist had cautioned her that she could be confronting the danger of having malignant pregnancy. On hearing the news Michael felt distressed yet in addition re-considered their future together. Michael's desire to be a dad, coupled up with his family's tensions might have driven him to require a subsequent spouse, yet this was positively not what Angela would need.
In Kenya, the groom-to-be is obliged to pay the "Bride Price". A bride price is a way of saying "Thank You" to the-bride-to be's parents you for raising her to a certain point. This should not be lesser than $800-1000 as of my understanding based on the show.
Also one couple had this issue. (Benjamin Taylor from the US and Akinyi Obala from Kenya). Benjamin was 33 and Akinyi was 26. The couple met online and Benjamin at first feared Akinyi was a catfish. Benjamin is a very conservative kind of guy especially with reagards to his Christian values. Benjamin met Akinyi's family interestingly when he got to visit Kenya for the first time. At the very least, there were major social contrasts. Akinyi's family felt he wasn't a lot of an "alpha" male. Akinyi's big brother explicitly was extremely uncertain with Benjamin.
Benjamin couldn't pay the "bride price" he initially suggested (worth of 80,000 shillings or roughly around $800 US dollars). As for Akinyi's family, that amount is already "very low" compared to her schooling which costs around $3,000 US dollars. Akinyi's father had the option to work out an installment plan for Benjamin thus might end him up paying portions for a long while since he never mentioned the exact amount to pay.
In Syria and other Muslin countries, the parents of the bride need to pay the "dowry money". To me is is very similar to the "Bride Price" in Kenya.
Maybe one of my favorites couple in 90-Day Fiance (Avery Mills from The US and Omar Albakkur of Syria) They are very young, but they seemed to be the most mature couples I've seen yet. Avery was only 19 at that time and Omar was only 25.
The night prior to Omar and Avery's wedding, Omar welcomes Teri Mills (Avery's mom) to dinner. They discussed about the dowry money for Avery. Omar disclosed to his prospective relative that paying cash to Avery's family is compulsory in their culture. He takes note of that the cash should monetarily help the spouse in the event separation or divorce happens. Although Teri agreed, she appeared to be awkward with putting a dowry money on Avery as though she's selling her daughter. Omar guarantees her that paying the share is possibly intended to help Avery monetarily when the need emerges.
There were many other cultures I've seen that truly shocked me, like tattoos are prohibited in Muslim countries etc., but who am I to judge? That's their tradition and I fully respect that.
I myself is also married to a foreigner for almost 10 years now. During our first years of being a couple, there were some culture shocks happened. Like a lot. We also have different religious views. I am Catholic and my husband was baptized as Presbyterian. As the years go by, we started embracing our differences and that's a good thing.
Almost all relationships are somewhat culturally diverse. Culture isn't just with regards to the things we can see. It's not just with regards to the food, the clothing, the things they love, or even the places they live. Culture is generally imperceptible. A lot of what we do, say, think, accept, and somewhat, feel is formed by the way of life we come from.
I wish you all a good day, my friends.
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December 23, 2021
3:00 pm
Philippines
(The last photo is my own and taken by me unless stated otherwise)
in my culture, the groom is should present six boxes of assorted dresses to before the wedding would hold. This would show whether the man is really capable.... Morning ma'am ,my regards to your address your daughter โบ