When children lie Lying is the intentionally supplying of false information. On the other hand, when a person says something that is untrue, that he actually believes to be true, he has made a mistake. In this case, he may be misguided or uninformed, but not lying. A lot of what a child says begins in his imagination. He may imagine an action and tell others about it as though it has actually taken place. This is not considered lying in a deliberate sense. A child will…
The mind-set of a good child The Missing Dimension in Educational Methods: The Sentimental Education The sentimental education pertains to the person's feelings, which form all sides of the integrated human personality. Sentiment is a word given to any sense of pleasure or pain, as well as to certain psychological states within the sphere of pleasure and pain, vis-à-vis other states within the sphere of mental perception and knowledge. Based on this, all feelings in the…
Milestones on the path of dutifulness to parents There is no doubt that parents play an effective role in preventing their children from being undutiful. As it is known that prevention is better than cure, we advise noble parents who play the greatest role in this important process, to prepare youth and prevent them from being undutiful. The family is the first incubator where the adolescent grows up and receives an upbringing. Hence, it has a far-reaching effect on the…
Utilizing the children's talent for learning and memorization The child has a clean and pure memory that is not overloaded with problems or troubles like adults. At the same time, it is like an efficient and versatile sharp machine. The child rapidly memorizes and hardly forgets things he commits to memory at an early age. Thus, learning in childhood is faster and better preserved than at any other stage of the child's life. **When can the child Memorize?** Specialists say…
It’s All in a Hug Kids aren't mind readers, but they are capable of reading our body language, our children really need us to be there for them, not just to give them lunch – money or pay their allowances.... but to be their rock in the shakable and unsteady world they live in. Most importantly, we need to show them by words and actions, that we love them – at every opportunity we get. **A single action can say, and mean, a lot** We all have clear and concise memories of our…
Moral power and building the child's morals To develop the proper conduct of the child, you should teach him the duties that he has to do, and this takes place by being a role model and by sound upbringing and guidance. The child will not learn to be truthful except from a truthful educator. The child will not learn honesty except from an honest educator, and so on. The father who picks up the phone and does not want to talk to the caller, then gives his child the phone and…
Nourish your Child's Body and Mind As parents, we try to protect our children from anything and everything that we feel may harm them. We warn them of the dangers of strangers; we teach them the importance of safety on the playground and during other outdoor activities; we caution them about crossing the street. ***But how much care and concern do we have about their nutrition and the food that goes into their bodies***? Of course, we are worried about them getting enough to…
THE INTELLIGENT EDUCATOR Parents should admonish their children when they act improperly. But the problem lies in the fact that during the process of admonishment, we ignore the child's identity, and think that because of the relation of kinship and his being under our care (as parents), he should listen and comply with all that we say to him. This is wrong. A child has overflowing emotions and an immature mentality. Therefore, we have to reduce the direct instruction and…
Kindness to children and My child's mistakes Kindness to children Many of those who are busy with worldly affairs are thereby deprived of other matters; they are busy teaching or leading others, or attaining wealth, and are thereby deprived from kissing their children, playing with them, and cultivating them properly. The father’s love for his children should not be buried under his load of work, or his numerous tasks; on the contrary, he should express his love and kindness…
Practical methods of solving marital problems Both spouses should have a realistic view of marital troubles, because, if tackled correctly, they may be a factor in enhancing dialogue and understanding. Marital discord can either be solved or made further complicated, according to the way the couple chooses to deal with it. **Necessary Rules:** It is important to remember that uttering bad words and using abusive language in the course of an argument, has an undoubtedly…
Developing the child's sentiments **Teach values to your children:** It becomes incumbent upon us, as parents, to implant noble manners within our children, and bring them up in accordance with these manners. We should instruct them all the time and be good examples for them to follow. But even then, there is no way to implant those virtues to be a part of our children's conduct unless they are put into practice. **Honesty** A parent should be fully truthful with his…
Resolving marital conflicts: strategies and solutions What is the best solution when a married couple faces marital problems and conflicts? Contrary to popular practice, divorce or threatening a spouse with divorce is not the right solution. The best solution is patience, endurance and realizing that it is natural for differences to arise between married people. It is also necessary for each spouse to bear with his/ her partner and to overlook some of the words and acts that…
Fight laziness to maintain a happy marriage Sometimes, after a period of being married, women become lazy as they lose the desire to do anything. In medicine, laziness is defined as, “A state of drowsiness and disinclination to activity or exertion arising from stress and nervousness, with the accumulation of responsibilities and diverse concerns.” Field studies have proven that women are more likely to suffer from laziness than men. In order to treat this condition you…
Beware of what causes behavioral problems in children There are several causes of behavioral problems and psychological disorders that befall our children, some of which afflict them throughout their lives -- such as introversion, aggression and lying. Some of the following causes are fundamental to most of the problems: **Bad role models** A child could fall into the habit of telling lies if he finds one of the adults telling him a lie or telling a lie to anyone else. A…
Push your husband towards success It is said that behind every great man there is a great woman. Have you ever thought of being that great woman who makes a great man of her husband? Many women wish to do so, but only a few of them endeavor to fulfill that precious wish in a practical way. In the following lines, we shall try to help you and your husband on to the way of success. We shall offer you the secrets of success and tell you what you are expected to do to make these…
How to inculcate effective leadership skills in your child While growing up, leaders are greatly influenced by the sayings and actions of their families. Undoubtedly, everything we say and do impacts our children; they copy our behaviors because we are their role models when it comes to human relationships and interactions. We provide guidance to our children by showing them how to live in this world, despite the challenges that come their way, and how to shoulder their…
Negligence of adornment after marriage and its effects At the beginning of marital life, the wife cares about adorning herself for her husband. However, as time passes, she might think that there is no formality between them so she ignores this. Painfully, her negligence of adornment is limited to her husband, as the wife does care about it when she visits her female friends or relatives. The wife is not required to spend most of her day in front of the mirror to adorn…
Smile to make your children happy **Protagonists of the frowning approach:** Some parents and educators adopt the frowning method in dealing with their children. Hence, they avoid speaking with them cordially or smiling at them. They believe that there should be strict limits between parents and their children so that they can succeed in their upbringing. They think that smiling and cheerfulness with children will spoil them, while frowning and sullenness represent the…
Revealing secrets, the primary adversary in marital life Marital bliss is the dream of every engaged girl and the goal of every wife. It is a dream and goal which is worthy of us exerting our utmost effort to attain. To reap the fruits of these efforts, we should be aware of the mistakes and enemies which threaten them. The wise person is the one who learns from the experience of others. There are many homes that do not enjoy this marital happiness, even though the spouses…
Be what you want your child to be These are words that should be addressed to parents and mentors in order to achieve a general benefit: Whoever likes his child to be something, should first be that something. **Be a positive role model:** Dear parent, your child is attached to you. You are his role model and leader and the basic moral benchmark on which he depends in all that he does. So, be a positive role model for him to follow. **Be fair:** If you are not fair, in no…
The rights of the wife upon her husband **Financial rights:** The wife is naturally entitled to food, clothing, housing and other related items. **Spending:** It is obligatory for husbands to spend on their wives, on the condition that the wife makes herself available to her husband. If she refuses him or rebels, then she is not entitled to that spending. **Accommodation:** This is also one of the wife’s rights, which means that her husband should prepare for her…
Easy tips to a sound upbringing Dear parent, how do you imagine the successful way of upbringing to be? In other words, what is your view of the proper way to discipline the behavior of your child? I think that discipline in your point of view is the way which obliges our children to submit to what we say without having the right to express any objection. Dear parent, I may agree with you on the definition of discipline, but I differ with you in the way it is applied. The…
Magnifying trivial problems demolishes marital life Magnifying the trivial problems of martial life wears it away and acts like a hammer that demolishes family life within seconds. Magnifying the trivial problems of matrimonial life and widening the range of problems between the spouses because of the slips of one or both of them enlarges the gap between them. Similarly, excessively blaming the other party for his/her minor slips and frequently speaking about faults in a…
How to Achieve marital bliss Marital bliss is the precious pursuit of every family and an easily attainable goal for everyone who is keen on it and pursues it. A happy family is the source of giving, security, peace of mind, and the way to success. Here we will present a useful recipe for marital bliss: **First**, it is the custom that a man feels jealous over his wife. Sometimes, we hear about a woman who feels extremely jealous over her husband from his mother, sisters and…
Common mistakes in raising children Having difficulty dealing with children has become a widespread phenomenon. Many parents seem to be quite at loss when it comes to enforcing good morals in their children. Research has shown that some parents use fruitless styles to achieve this goal. There are certain common mistakes parents make in bringing up their children -- both boys and girls. Parents may commit these mistakes out of either ignorance or negligence, despite meaning…
You' and 'I': the art of communication in marital life He said he was coming in ten minutes’ time. Ten minutes pass, half an hour, an hour, and then he shows up. The wife: "You said ten minutes, and I have been waiting here for an hour." The husband: "Forgive me, there was too much traffic." The wife: "This is not the first time. That’s the way you are; always late. You should have called me." The husband: "My phone is out of credit, and I have no credit to call." The wife:…
Controlling anger: an essential skill for educators **Keep your energy for construction not destruction:** If a person does not control himself in critical situations and surrenders to the dictates of anger and strong agitation, he will find himself consuming an enormous quantity of his inner energy, which is supposed to be exploited in the process of construction, education, teaching, constructive dialogue, developing the skills of the children and enjoying a quiet everyday…
Tips for a happy marriage **Make your wife happy and you will be happy:** You must give to take. This is one of the laws of life, and if you give happiness to your wife, you will receive happiness. You should know that the first one to benefit from your wife’s happiness is you. That is because if you succeed in making her happy, she will spare no effort to make you happy and return the favor. The woman is a delicate and sensitive creature who refuses to take without giving…
Be a positive parent Have you ever seen your father advising his younger brother to stop smoking and drinking alcohol? Have you ever seen your father speaking with the seller about the incorrect scales? Have you ever seen him preparing a thesis in his area of specialization? Have you ever seen your father helping your mother arrange the house? Have you ever seen him helping his neighbor carry the furniture? Have you ever seen him participating in a game and winning the first…
A strategy to support the marital relationship **Strategy of kind treatment:** You have to adopt this magical strategy in your dealing with your life partner. It is the strategy of kind treatment. Put its daily application at the top of your priorities. Start at home where your relationship with your partner is nurtured. Good treatment is a major component of developing warm feelings between two people. In fact, good treatment may be the centre of the marital relationship.…
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