Revealing secrets, the primary adversary in marital life

Marital bliss is the dream of every engaged girl and the goal of every wife. It is a dream and goal which is worthy of us exerting our utmost effort to attain. To reap the fruits of these efforts, we should be aware of the mistakes and enemies which threaten them. The wise person is the one who learns from the experience of others. There are many homes that do not enjoy this marital happiness, even though the spouses have done their best to achieve it. This has happened because they made mistakes which rendered their efforts futile. To protect your happiness, beware of these mistakes and avoid the adversaries.

One of the gravest blunders is 'revealing secrets'. Family secrets are a trust which should be preserved. Being negligent in preserving this trust makes one lose her husband’s trust. Therefore, beware of making the secrets of your home the topic of your chat or a heart-to-heart talk as you might imagine. Do not think that your friend will keep your secret which you could not keep yourself. Keeping the secrets of your home in general, and especially your intimate relations with your husband is the key to family happiness.

   Its Harm is Greater than its Benefit:

Psychologists stress the fact that the wife’s heart-to-heart talk with her (female) friends and disclosing her home secrets mostly result in worry more than comfort. It is true that she may feel temporarily and immediately comfortable, but worry will dominate her when these secrets are spread and she reaps regret and loss. No man is ever pleased with having his marital life’s secrets disclosed.

   Secrets are of Different Kinds and Degrees:

The secrets of the home are not of the same degree of importance. There are secrets about the private relations between the spouses, which they should keep only to themselves. There are secrets that are relevant to the differences between the spouses. Revealing such secrets should be according to their gravity. The wise wife is the one who keeps these secrets and only reveals those which would help in solving the problem. However, she should not reveal them to her friends or relatives; rather, she should reveal them to those whom she believes to be wise and able to achieve the solution to her problems.