Be a positive parent

Have you ever seen your father advising his younger brother to stop smoking and drinking alcohol?

Have you ever seen your father speaking with the seller about the incorrect scales?

Have you ever seen him preparing a thesis in his area of specialization?

Have you ever seen your father helping your mother arrange the house?

Have you ever seen him helping his neighbor carry the furniture?

Have you ever seen him participating in a game and winning the first position?

Have you ever seen him stopping his car after an accident to offer first aid or call an ambulance?

Dear educator, was your father positive?

Could you describe your feelings in each of these situations?

How did you regard your father in each of these moments?

Dear educator,

If you are a positive father, then your child will be positive.

If you are a negative father, then your child will be negative too Like Father like Son.

The positive person is the one who enjoys a sense of calm, prudence, self-confidence and fairness in addition to openness, acceptance of new ideas, spirit of initiative and the ability to listen and engage in dialogue. The positive person feels that he is always capable of changing his life and believes that it is never too late; so, he never surrenders to despair.

In my opinion, the child’s mentality and feelings are determined in accordance with the positive or negative tendencies of his family and its view of life. That is why we always confirm that upbringing is a serious process.

    The child’s personality is based on the parental role-model:

Indeed, dear educator, when the child sees that his father is negative, he will acquire this quality from him, because children imitate those who are around them in everything.

Children learn through imitation, since their ‎ability to ‎observe and imitate during this stage is wonderful. Scientists even describe it as a formation process in ‎accordance ‎with an example followed by the child. ‎Children learn speech ‎through imitation, listening and ‎observation.

They also acquire their ‎tendencies in life and ‎learn the values and the right to choose, as ‎well as their ‎traditions, through imitation. In other words, children ‎learn from the behavior of those around them. Therefore, ‎we (educators and parents) should be more careful about our ‎actions and words because we are role models for our ‎children.‎

    Let us give an example:

You entered with your child to a public place, and the person who was sitting next to you lit up a cigarette and its smoke started annoying you and your child.

If you are a negative father, you will keep silent and will not ask the smoker to stop. At this moment, your child will record this event and will never forget it.

In such a case, your child will learn negativity and indifference from you. So, when he grows up and sees the same wrong behavior, he will behave exactly as you behave in front of him unless someone else teaches him positive behavior.

On the other hand, if you ask the smoker to stop so as not to harm you, the child will learn this positive behavior and adopt it for the rest of his life.

This applies to all positive and negative behavior that happens in front of your child, who records everything and then plays what he recorded when he grows up. In such a case, it would be very difficult to change negative behavior into positive. Dear educator, the positive father is a successful parent.

Children recognize this world through their eyes more than they realize it through their minds. Therefore, what they see is more influential than what they hear. They observe their parents and educators and prefer to imitate their behavior over responding to their orders.

It is a universal rule in upbringing that parents must behave in accordance with what they know, so that their children will benefit from what they say. It is said, "Instruction at a young age is like engraving on a stone."