A strategy to support the marital relationship

   Strategy of kind treatment:

You have to adopt this magical strategy in your dealing with your life partner. It is the strategy of kind treatment. Put its daily application at the top of your priorities. Start at home where your relationship with your partner is nurtured.

Good treatment is a major component of developing warm feelings between two people. In fact, good treatment may be the centre of the marital relationship. Good treatment has many benefits, where each partner is keen on maintaining intimate relations with, and care for the other when things are good, and keeping discussions from turning into quarrels.

But being nice does not mean that you smile when you do not feel any inclination to smile, or that you behave cheerfully while you feel depressed. Rather, good treatment is to deal with your partner in the same way that you like him/her to deal with you.

The best way to teach others the art of good treatment is to begin by being nice to them. That is because good treatment is transmitted swiftly, like an infection, from one person to another.

We are very astonished at the wife who deals with all people nicely and gently, but when she deals with her husband, she is as hard and cruel as a stone. She is a creative artful person but only in her dealing with others, whereas with her husband, she is sharp-tongued and a trouble-maker.

Similarly, we are astonished at the husband who is the nicest and the kindest with everyone except his family and wife, where he frowns and his soul is filled with annoyance.

   All you have to do is start with the small things:

It is very important to treat your partner in the same way as you treat your dearest friend. All you have to do is to start with the small things. How?

1- Listen to the other from the bottom of your heart, and show respect and care for his or her feelings.

2- Nice treatment requires seeking permission when it is necessary for you to do so.

3- To apologize when you make a mistake.

4- To be polite.

5- To do your best to understand your partner well and then ask yourself about the best way to make him/her happy. In fact, nice treatment is mainly based on the small things.

   How can you be nice when you are busy?

The husband's duty is not only to provide his wife with a noble material living, nor is marriage to fulfill the marital rights awkwardly without feelings: but marriage is about harmony, mutual support, love, affection, mercy, living together in kindness, behaving nicely and joking. Just as the woman needs food, drink, a residence, and so on, she also needs a pleasant word, an affectionate look, a loving kiss, coddling and good company.

The ideal husband is he who always coddles his wife, treats her nicely and provides her with her right of innocent entertainment and joy, by several ways which are within his ability: this may be done through night talk, a trip, a visit, attending an occasion, and so on.

You should know, dear husband that the one who cultivates affection gathers but flowers.

People act as mirrors to each other. We often harvest the produce of what we cultivate. When you notice some change in your beloved, try different things. Look into her eyes and send a smile to her carrying the message: 'Do not worry, for I always love you even when you are depressed'. Once you do so, your partner will often respond with a smile. We think that you agree with us that when good treatment is daily conduct, it becomes a basic element to support your relationship with your spouse throughout your life together.

So, let the man and woman be creative in finding ways to spread the strategy of nice treatment. Each of you should take the initiative of working with that strategy to support your marital relationship.